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Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by TadM: 8:34am On Sep 28, 2018 |
ok women mentality overwriting general human psychology. *Husban psychology: When you rule your children above your husband, you do it obliviously at the peril of your husband sensitivity, you do it with(your words and your overall behavioural attitudinal pattern) #unknowly to women. but men are sensitive and it begin's to affect their overall confidence and stress level, the women on the other hand thinks its work for the family thats making the men stressfilled, it would shock if i tell you its not work but your carelessness for him. if you see a man who's happily working just know the woman at home is not depriving of affection. if you have 4 kids just know you have 5 to take care of thats the mindset of woman who has a happy home. a man is just coming home from work and you starts talking all about the kids, you are both in the bed trying to sleep , the same kids need this, want that, pay this even when his on the couch. even when he tells you 'i love you', you will reply with something consining thekid 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by dapsycool(m): 8:36am On Sep 28, 2018 |
Place the children as number 1.. I'll add 3 side chics to my life and you become number 7 on my list. 1. Children 2. My mom & dad 3. my job or business 4-6 side chics 7. wife P.S You can f off my life if you want. Everybody will be alright. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by biterkola: 8:59am On Sep 28, 2018 |
It's always obvious when unmarried Vs married make comments. Some claiming Rambo yet outside computer, wet limp noodles. Experience is the best teacher 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by winj3: 9:09am On Sep 28, 2018 |
The two original people who were there before anyone else showed up, husband and wife - they have priority. |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by freshvine(f): 10:04am On Sep 28, 2018 |
when i took convenant to love my husband against all odds, there was no children present. children are proceeds of convenant. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by JennyVox: 10:18am On Sep 28, 2018 |
Husband |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by TonyeBarcanista(m): 10:43am On Sep 28, 2018 |
rame18:You are a gem |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Ugosample(m): 10:48am On Sep 28, 2018 |
bukatyne: I have to say.... you have a point 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Ugosample(m): 10:59am On Sep 28, 2018 |
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Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by ImaIma1(f): 11:18am On Sep 28, 2018 |
This must be the hardest question ever. I love my husband so so much. He is my numero uno. But i also love my child and feel that sense of responsibility for a defenseless child. I will just kill myself and let them both be fine |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Macgabe(m): 12:10pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Wilfredpat22: Lol.... do you really mean women are lazy |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 12:56pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
frozen70:Is English hard for you... I said pray your children doesn't marry a bad wife, sometimes when a man marries a bad wife, there is high tendency for the man not to remember his parents. How old are you? 2 Likes |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by rexx07(m): 1:19pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
All things being equal, your wife will choose the children over you. All things being equal, a child will choose the mother over the father. A man is always alone, don't allow yourself to be in a situation where your child or wife will have to make that kind of Choice, the odds are not in a mans favour. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 2:07pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
QuickStandard: Your point is? |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 2:36pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Mindfulness: You're emotionally and psychologically skewed. Why do you have the belief that the man would be the one to die first? Does it appear to you that you might be the one to die before him?. I feel uncannily disturbed when I see posts on certain issues on this site, y'all have a perception that the man would die earlier, a subtle way of indirectly wishing death on husbands. You should know that the reason why women used to live longer than men is because they weren't working and weren't facing the hardness that life brings but now that the burden on men have been greatly and drastically reduced, men are living longer than wicked fellows ever expected. 2 Likes |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Elder0001: I said it is unlikely he will be around in my hour of death unless something unexpected happens because men die earlier. Do you understand the meaning of unlikely? @red Nonsense Even in developed nations with good healthcare systems, no wars, high security, workers' rights, high female employment, life expectancy is lower for males. As for the rest of the post, you sound like you suffer from paranoia. Wishing death on my husband? Do you know us and how old we are? It's not by force to type rubbish. 3 Likes |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 6:26pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Mindfulness: You not only lost your husband when he divorced you 3years ago but also lost your senses. You lack wisdom . |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 6:54pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Elder0001: Says the dumbo who claimed that women do not live longer. Mumu. 3 Likes |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 8:20pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Mindfulness: Shut up! This was why your marriage didn't last. Women living longer than men in this era is an 80/100 something. |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by CAPSLOCKED: 8:49pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Elder0001: GOD!! |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by eyinjuege: 8:54pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Elder0001: There are many reasons why women live relatively longer than men. -The risk taking behaviour of men play a huge role in accidents. More men in Nigeria anyway drive when drunk and take more risks on the road leading to accidents and death compared to their women. More men take hard drugs too which make them to lose inhibition. -In terms of suicide rates, more men commit suicide successfully while more women attempt suicide. -As per husband and wife things, many men marry women who are younger than they are, so the natural order of things is that the men usually die earlier than the women - Men have a higher cardiovascular disease rate than women. They die more from hypertension and it's sequelea, heart attacks. The reason they have a higher rate of hypertension heart attack has less to do with their search for money. It was believe that the oestrogen/ hormones in women conferred a protection against cardiovascular diseases, meaning it's just nature. Smoking and drinking have further worsened these cardiovascular risks in men. -Another thing is the health seeking behaviour of both men and women. Women go to see their Drs quicker than their male counterparts if they feel ill whether mentally or physicallly. Men just leave it till it worsens. These are just a few of the documented researched reasons why women live relatively longer. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by rame18(f): 9:14pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Elder0001: haaa! Elder please take a deep breath. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Belafonte(m): 10:20pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
Lol. Men are butthurt over reality. You cannot fight nature. Marriage and romantic love are neither natural nor sustainable ideals. A woman will, nine times out of ten, choose her children over her husband. It is the way of nature. Even many who are saying they would love their husbands more are merely being facetious. When it comes down to real life, children are prioritised without a second thought. I implore men to wake up and understand the dynamics of inter-gender relationships, especially of the romantic or marital kind. Love with your head, not your heart. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Shugavee(f): 10:24pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
I will go for my husband tho, don’t get me wrong I love my kids but it took me my whole life finding my husband! 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Belafonte(m): 10:26pm On Sep 28, 2018 |
dapsycool: That's the spirit. I'm not sure I can bring myself to love a woman after knowing how they are wired. As men, our view of women is as far from reality as Canada and Calabar. We must learn to deal with women as they deserve. No unwarranted or unearned pedestalisation. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 9:35am On Sep 29, 2018 |
Belafonte: One of the few sensible comments here. I can't believe they are butthurt over a mother's love for her children. Never knew they would see their own kids as competition. And they are supposed to be the strong sex and the head of the home? Ridiculous creatures. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Nobody: 9:37am On Sep 29, 2018 |
Belafonte: And just when I thought ... |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by armyofone(m): 4:40pm On Sep 29, 2018 |
Men, they speak from both sides - just imagine! sensible and then....something else... Adult first before a little kid? Men should appreciate women who put their young children first! No question asked. Mindfulness: 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Acidosis(m): 5:12pm On Sep 29, 2018 |
rexx07: That's an abnormal situation. I will not pick my mother over my father. Both of them get the same level of respect/sacrifice from me. I don't call one and ignore the other. Heck, I can't even send money to my mom/dad without the knowledge of my dad/mom. They're like 5&6, so it's impossible to pick one over the other. I think we need to stop conceptualizing marriage with the experiences from failed marriages. It is very abnormal for a child to prefer one parent over the other. 1 Like |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Belafonte(m): 5:52pm On Sep 29, 2018 |
Mindfulness: It is also reality that men desire to be placed above all else by their so-called wives, even factoring their own offspring. The modern man places his wife, nine times out of ten, above any of their offspring. Unfortunately, there is, generally, no such reciprocation. Therefore, it stands to reason that a discerning man would not cheat himself bby placing love in the wrong person. Knowing what I know about women and their psychology, actually still learning, I consider it wise to place any future kids above any future wife. Two can play. |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by Belafonte(m): 6:07pm On Sep 29, 2018 |
DonFreshmoney:This is simply your own uninformed opinion. It is a natural phenomenon that cannot be socialised away. Women will predominantly place greater value on their children than husbands. Stop burying your head in the sand and deal with it. It will help ti on dealing with your wife/wives in the future. Same women will also complain their husband and his mother can't be separated, lol. And u chosing children o'er ur husband. It's nature.Women are a cynical species that do not understand the meaning of fairness. Everything has to be to their benefit or, at least, their desires, whether those desires are destructive to themselves or others around them or "loved ones" is besides the point, they don't care. Frozen70, so men needs is just sex from their wife. Then don't blame ur husband if he gets that outside marriage, cos u just said it our neds is only sex.Think about it. What exactly does a woman offer a man besides sex and the children that that sex produces? And, of course, stress. . Guys, the women here can speak the truth because of the anonymity this forum provides. I would advise you to listen to what they say and reflect on their comments no matter how uncomfortable they may be. Antagonising them doesn't serve much good if you don't understand why they do what they do. Cheers. |
Re: Who Comes First - Husband Or Child? by okwabayi(m): 7:38am On Oct 06, 2018 |
GrowUpBoys:You're back again, abi? My eyes are on you. |
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