rame18:
if my husband is a mommy's boy then both of us become his moms best friend. When I shower his mom with so much love then we will know who she will love most. I will not even blame him self, his mom must have made sacrifices to make his life better and I don't intend to take that love away. heheheeee! we die there.

bukatyne:


You have such strange view of MIL/ DIL relationships.

Ideally, if a MIL had a loving relationship with her husband, she would understand and encourage that her DIL comes first in her son's life because she enjoyed same.

She would be too busy with her husband / minding her businesses/church/ mosque/affilations and groups to be a pain in her DIL's neck.

Rather than men plan how they would ensure their wives take back seat in their own homes, let them imply their fathers to treat their mothers right.

biterkola:
It's always obvious when unmarried Vs married make comments.

Some claiming Rambo yet outside computer, wet limp noodles.

Experience is the best teacher

Wilfredpat22:
Once a woman gives birth her attention shifts from the husband to the children automatically.

The man can fend for himself and be bringing money for the woman so she can be Spending it on herself and the children because we are lazy lol

frozen70:


@thegentleman, I can see that you are wishing your child to marry a bad wife, well your wishes will sure come for you

As for me my children will have a happy marriage whether you like it or not

QuickStandard:



Are you wishing your husband death?

And what make you think you can't die before your husband?


You are just hammering on children taking care of you, are you implying its a must they take care of you?

Let me shock you, over 60% of children find it difficult in this country to fend adequately for themselves and immediate family, not to even talk of the ageing parents.


If I may ask, how many times does your husband send money to his parents in a year?

That's if you are even married.

Mindfulness:


@bold
If is the operative word here because I have not said much yet. Don't put words in my mouth, please.

@red
It is unlikely my husband will still be around in the hour of my death unless something unexpected like an accident happens. It's more likely my kids will and maybe even my younger sisters who have been around before he showed up in my life and probably will be after his death.

If the duration of someone's presence in one's life is proportionate to the love one should offer then the husband is definitely not to take the first place. With if being the operative word here.

@blue
Don't make it personal.

Elder0001:


You're emotionally and psychologically skewed.

Why do you have the belief that the man would be the one to die first? Does it appear to you that you might be the one to die before him?.

I feel uncannily disturbed when I see posts on certain issues on this site, y'all have a perception that the man would die earlier, a subtle way of indirectly wishing death on husbands.
You should know that the reason why women used to live longer than men is because they weren't working and weren't facing the hardness that life brings but now that the burden on men have been greatly and drastically reduced, men are living longer than wicked fellows ever expected.

Mindfulness:


[s]I said it is unlikely he will be around in my hour of death unless something unexpected happens because men die earlier. Do you understand the meaning of unlikely?

@red
Nonsense Even in developed nations with good healthcare systems, no wars, high security, workers' rights, high female employment, life expectancy is lower for males.



As for the rest of the post, you sound like you suffer from paranoia. Wishing death on my husband? Do you know us and how old we are? It's not by force to type rubbish. [/s]

Elder0001:


You not only lost your husband when he divorced you 3years ago but also lost your senses.

You lack wisdom .

Mindfulness:


Says the dumbo who claimed that women do not live longer. Mumu.

Elder0001:


You not only lost your husband when he divorced you 3years ago but also lost your senses.

Elder0001:


Shut up! This was why your marriage didn't last.

Women living longer than men in this era is an 80/100 something.

Elder0001:


Shut up! This was why your marriage didn't last.

Women living longer than men in this era is an 80/100 something.

dapsycool:
Place the children as number 1.. I'll add 3 side chics to my life and you become number 7 on my list.
1. Children
2. My mom & dad
3. my job or business
4-6 side chics
7. wife

P.S You can f off my life if you want. Everybody will be alright.

Belafonte:
Lol. Men are butthurt over reality. You cannot fight nature. Marriage and romantic love are neither natural nor sustainable ideals.

A woman will, nine times out of ten, choose her children over her husband. It is the way of nature. Even many who are saying they would love their husbands more are merely being facetious. When it comes down to real life, children are prioritised without a second thought.

I implore men to wake up and understand the dynamics of inter-gender relationships, especially of the romantic or marital kind. Love with your head, not your heart.

Belafonte:


That's the spirit.

I'm not sure I can bring myself to love a woman after knowing how they are wired. As men, our view of women is as far from reality as Canada and Calabar. We must learn to deal with women as they deserve. No unwarranted or unearned pedestalisation.

Mindfulness:


And just when I thought ...

rexx07:
All things being equal, your wife will choose the children over you.
All things being equal, a child will choose the mother over the father.
A man is always alone, don't allow yourself to be in a situation
where your child or wife will have to make that kind of Choice, the odds are not in a mans favour.

Mindfulness:


And just when I thought ...

DonFreshmoney:
Most ladies who said they will choose children over husband are dunce. Man and Woman starts a marriage together, before the introduction of children. It's like men saying they will take care and love their children ahead of the wife. Am sure u don't know it happens, lol...*

Same women will also complain their husband and his mother can't be separated, lol. And u chosing children o'er ur husband. It's nature.

Frozen70, so men needs is just sex from their wife. Then don't blame ur husband if he gets that outside marriage, cos u just said it our neds is only sex.

GrowUpBoys:
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