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victorian:
Ha! I gained more than alot from my past experiences. Whenever I see guys who are playboys, fowora oja kind of guys coming and smiling those deceptive smiles, trying to woo me, I simply cut them short! I don't waste time on rubbish anymore. I know exactly what I want in a husband.

If the Op is wise, she will learn to love this man coming for marriage and appreciate him. She can fall in love with him, if only she allows herself to. And listen to what some of us are saying. Instead of experiencing series of heartbreaks till age 30 or even above 30 ,and still single.
Some single men out there are not worth the stress, that's the truth. They are time wasters .

Op, use your tongue count your teeth. Opportunity in marriage from a good man comes once after many many years. Think!

Have you come accross a Playboy that promise ladies marriage, act responsible, play along with the kind of character you want as a man?

Hope you know what a "player" is?

Now the question is, how do you know a playboy and a genuine responsible guy?

victorian:
My dear, marry him. As long as he is presentable and he loves you. He will treat u like egg and with time u will get to develop deep feelings that will keep the marriage together.
Cause if u ask me? What's love? You may think love is that butterflies kind of feelings, u feel at the pit of your tummy when u sight a guy. My sister that's not love but lust mixed with infatuation. And most times, such feelings don't end well.
Getting the perfect husband, does not exist nowadays. But getting a presentable and responsible man who loves and care for u, is the key to a lasting marriage, as long as you open your heart, accept him wholeheartedly and with time u will be happy u went ahead with the marriage. Also communication, goes a long way. Always communicate before and in marriage.
Guys these days are not ready to settle down, they will just use and dump, all in the name of I love you. Pls, don't miss this opportunity.

What if he's a player?

cruchenutii:
No. they just felt they deserve more [ It's just how they feel ].
Have someone ever tried to get through to you, even though you like him, you feel you deserve better. It may be looks/attraction/attitude/spiritual etc.

You can always find someone who is available. This part is very easy. Well a lot of ladies do not find that person, they end up settling for someone more lesser in terms of their expected qualities.

You said that people regret not having settled for less and I said that this is not reason enough to have regrets because you can ALWAYS settle for less.

Not only a lot of ladies settle for less but also a lot of men. One of my very best friends has done it thinking that if he can't have the woman of his dreams, he can at least get a very nice one to start a family. Guess what! She is not so nice after all. She was at the beginning though.

Mindfulness:
You said that people regret not having settled for less and I said that this is not reason enough to have regrets because you can ALWAYS settle for less.

Not only a lot of ladies settle for less but also a lot of men. One of my very best friends has done it thinking that if he can't have the woman of his dreams, he can at least get a very nice one to start a family. Guess what! She is not so nice after all. She was at the beginning though.

Yes, I also said that "Truth is they never made a Wrong choice by not settling for less, It's just that Life is a pot of beans." Maybe you just jumped this part. The issue with "Regrets" is, even the ones you wanted to settle for less aren't even there anymore. You are now left the lowest of men/women.

Please I don't understand this part - Guess what! She is not so nice after all. She was at the beginning though.

tintingz:
Have you come accross a Playboy that promise ladies marriage, act responsible, play along with the kind of character you want as a man?

Hope you know what a "player" is?

Now the question is, how do you know a playboy and a genuine responsible guy?

If you read Op's story. She said the guy wants them to settle down, and and thereafter become intimate in marriage
They've not been having sex, cos they are both SU. He wants to do things properly, get married, move in together and start having sex after wards.

Does such actions shows he is a player? Uncle ?

cruchenutii:
Yes, I also said that "Truth is they never made a Wrong choice by not settling for less, It's just that Life is a pot of beans.[/i]" Maybe you just jumped this part. The issue with "Regrets" is, even the ones you wanted to settle for less aren't even there anymore. You are now left the lowest of men/women.

Says who?

Please I don't understand this part - [i]Guess what! She is not so nice after all. She was at the beginning though.

He married a nice woman who changed after marriage and child birth. She is not as nice as she was in the beginning.

Mindfulness:
Says who?

I'm not generalising, it seems you don't get my point.

Mindfulness:
He married a nice woman who changed after marriage and child birth. She is not as nice as she was in the beginning.

Okay.

cruchenutii:
I'm not generalising, it seems you don't get my point.

Okay.

I think you were and I think I did. And this is the kind of nonsense that makes people settle for less.

victorian:
If you read Op's story. She said the guy wants them to settle down, and and thereafter become intimate in marriage
They've not been having sex, cos they are both SU. He wants to do things properly, get married, move in together and start having sex after wards.

Does such actions shows he is a player? Uncle ?

Players don't rush into having sex, they play along.

The trick can be, let's get engaged and then have some sex and the drama begins.

Now this is not the OP's concern, her concern is there's no strong connection between them, the chemistry is not flowing.

This can be because they are having distance relationship, they need to spend more time together to know what actually works for them.

Rushing into marriage hoping things will change is not certain and not a good advice.

Mindfulness:
I think you were and I think I did. And this is the kind of nonsense that makes people settle for less.

Ok, let me say it as ABC.

Woman A, Woman B & Woman C are close friends, Woman A meets Man A who is interested in her & is the man of her dreams, she marries him.

Woman B on there hand meets Man B, who isn't upto par with Woman A [ upto par can be anything ranging from physical/financial/spiritual ] etc

Woman B is confused because she doesn't want to settle for less. She continues her life.
Coincidentally same occurrence happens to Woman C. They both continued their life.

Woman C later meets the Guy of her dreams at 35, she marries & she is happy. Woman B seeing that all her friends are married just eventually settles for any man that is willing to get married to move on.


My point is: Some people are favoured in life, some are not. Those who aren't lucky will always regret of not taking their options earlier in life. Life is a pot of beans. Nothing is promised. Woman B has done nothing wrong really. She is unlucky.

EOD.

cruchenutii:
Ok, let me say it as ABC.

Woman A, Woman B & Woman C are close friends, Woman A meets Man A who is interested in her & is the man of her dreams, she marries him.

Woman B on there hand meets Man B, who isn't upto par with Woman A [ upto par can be anything ranging from physical/financial/spiritual ] etc

Woman B is confused because she doesn't want to settle for less. She continues her life.
Coincidentally same occurrence happens to Woman C. They both continued their life.

Woman C later meets the Guy of her dreams at 35, she marries & she is happy. Woman B seeing that all her friends are married just eventually settles for any man that is willing to get married to move on.


My point is: Some people are favoured in life, some are not. Those who aren't lucky will always regret of not taking their options earlier in life. Life is a pot of beans. Nothing is promised. Woman B has done nothing wrong really. She is unlucky.

EOD.

Let's play some more.

What if woman A's husband leaves her for a younger one after 30 years of marriage and woman C's husband dies in an accident?

That's life ...

Mindfulness:
I will always say it. If it is not a "HELL,YES!" it is a "HELL, NO!".

Marriage is supposed to be a long term commitment so you should be eager to embark on this journey with someone you love and who loves you too. If you are simply looking for some sort of security then it is enough for him to love you and treat you nice.

You may learn to love him in time but you may also grow increasingly intolerant of him because, no, love is not a decision. It is a feeling. It is deep, intense and it is strong. When you love a man, only looking at him gives you pleasure and even years into the marriage, he can easily take your breath away. You smile when you think of him and being together is fun and easy. You feel at home with him and at your best.

Isn't it what we ALL are looking for? This supreme feeling of love? We only settle for less because we give up on the belief that it is possible or for some reason feel unworthy of this kind of love. You have given up on this dream rather early.

Mindfulness:
I think you were and I think I did. And this is the kind of nonsense that makes people settle for less.

Thank you, some of the advice given here was quite scary,
Making it seems as though, he is the last good man on earth and if she doesn't marry him she may(won't) get another guy on earth that is good to her and that she will actually love, so she better hurry up, do the needful and settle for him, It was quite bothersome.
Or acting as though just because she said she doesn't feel love for this guy then she wants one dangerous bad boy that will shatter her heart.

tintingz:
Rushing into marriage hoping things will change is not certain and not a good advice.

Thank you

sisisioge:
Sweetheart, your tale is one of those that got me completely short of words.

On one hand, I think you should marry him and worry about falling in love with him later. Here, my hope is that since you two are fair and nice people, you would be kind to each other. Awesome sex and good ambiance may breed love. Kids and comfort may endear him to your heart. After all, many sensible people are sodding love and marrying reasonable people these day, reasonable people that turned out to be bae. Hmmmm.

On the other hand, I'm thinking life is too short to manage anyone with the thought of forever. Life starts at forty these days, you are almost two decades away girl. What will it be like before then? After then? Dang, there are several decades after forty to contend with too , if God pleases...whew, I'm lost jare. Do you want to manage your marriage? Do you want to live on tiptoes? Hmmm...it is well.

Biko...take time out with the dude. Spend plenty of time with him....I would have added fork him please but I won't, we are still brethren . The point is, live some with him to see if you could do this. I said no to a wonderful young man some 5 years ago, I'm still unmarried, I would still say no to him...no regret. Life is too shot to live on tiptoes This is all on you, your choice...your life. May God grant you wisdom.

Akika!

Daeylar:
Thank you, some of the advice given here was quite scary,
Making it seems as though, he is the last good man on earth and if she doesn't marry him she may(won't) get another guy on earth that is good to her and that she will actually love, so she better hurry up, do the needful and settle for him, It was quite bothersome.
Or acting as though just because she said she doesn't feel love for this guy then she wants one dangerous bad boy that will shatter her heart.

You have perfectly summarized the nonsense advice here. Had I listened to such nonsense, I would have ended with a man I would by now be very tired of, to say the least. Thank God I was stubborn enough to wait for my own time and on my terms.

Mindfulness:
You have perfectly summarized the nonsense advice here. Had I listened to such nonsense, I would have ended with a man I would by now be very tired of, to say the least. Thank God I was stubborn enough to wait for my own time and on my terms.

Lol thanks, like I said, quite scary,
I'm glad you followed your brain and your heart and it ended up good for you, I wish op the best no matter what she chooses.
I just didn't like the idea of her making a decision from advice given out of fear(that she won't find another good man) and desperation (for op to lock down her man since she won't get another good one).

cruchenutii:
Ok, let me say it as ABC.

Woman A, Woman B & Woman C are close friends, Woman A meets Man A who is interested in her & is the man of her dreams, she marries him.

Woman B on there hand meets Man B, who isn't upto par with Woman A [ upto par can be anything ranging from physical/financial/spiritual ] etc

Woman B is confused because she doesn't want to settle for less. She continues her life.
Coincidentally same occurrence happens to Woman C. They both continued their life.

Woman C later meets the Guy of her dreams at 35, she marries & she is happy. Woman B seeing that all her friends are married just eventually settles for any man that is willing to get married to move on.


My point is: Some people are favoured in life, some are not. Those who aren't lucky will always regret of not taking their options earlier in life. Life is a pot of beans. Nothing is promised. Woman B has done nothing wrong really. She is unlucky.

EOD.awe

I like the way you reason.

Daeylar:
Lol thanks, like I said, quite scary,
I'm glad you followed your brain and your heart and it ended up good for you, I wish op the best no matter what she chooses.
I just didn't like the idea of her making a decision from advice given out of fear (that she won't find another good man) and desperation (for op to lock down her man since she won't get another good one).

You are a wise woman.

Mindfulness:
You are a wise woman.

*blushing*
Thank ya

baldman:
Dear Poster, A lot of advice has been given to you on this matter. You are lucky to have serious people responding to your enquiries. My take is that, first, there is no need to rush into a decision at this point and if the man you are talking about really cares about you ( and not just himself) he will be willing to wait not withstanding the sexual pressure. I am happy he is being upfront about that. You mentioned that he is going for his masters, this is even good. Let him go out there and test his preferences. You do not want him to marry you only to travel out and realise that your English and dressing is not hot enough. This will also give you the opportunity to grow a bit more , review you feelings and spend more time with you Mum and older sisters and learn some vital lessons about life, marriage and home keeping.

When I was single, I use to avoid girls that are in your age range because I came to understand that they are smart ( sometimes too much for their own good), restless, highly vain and were mostly dreamers (not in touch with reality). You are smart and sensible to be asking questions.

I have few tips (questions) that I believe can help you:

Is this guy your friend (imagine if you do not end up marrying him, is he someone you consider close enough to just spend time catching up with on the phone, and discussing about your current boyfriend/husband and other interesting/ or even embarrassing stuffs you have kept bottled up)?

Are you attracted to him (During those times that you have been with him physically, have you found yourself turned on or feel like you have to restrain yourself from getting a bit intimate with him ( like just kissing him or having him hold you) ?

Do you think there is anything about you that complements or completes this guy ( Will he be a mess ( not emotionally) without you in any aspect of his life if you guys end up not being together)

His is family comfortable with you and is your family comfortable with him.. are you both comfortable with each other's family?

Rating the nature of his care and concern for you, does he look out for you like your father will or your most caring brother will?

You do respect him, will you be willing to submit your life and future to his ideals and principles?

Will you like to have a son exactly like this man ( if this thought melts your heart, you may love him more than you have admitted)?

Do you both share the same christian values?

Do you trust this guy, can you trust him with your life, and trust him to make decisions for you?

How well do you guys communicate, do you feel like you cannot speak your mind or he does not freely express himself to you?

How have you been settling your disputes? Have you guys been managing to settle disputes without external intervention?

You are an introvert, so you may not be the easiest to deal with, how well has he been coping with your personality?

Do you guys pray together? Do you have testimonies of prayers answered when you both believe God for something?


If you have yes to most of these questions, you may have a good guy there. However, subject the relationship to a further test of waiting. Let him go for his masters and come back to marry you, that will give you ample time to process your feelings.

The way i like this comment ehn,I'm tempted to meet you in person. You'll make a good marriage/relationship counsellor. I also look forward to using those few tips too when I'm ready to walk a bae down the aisle.

A lot has been offered you already but i noticed this, you have not yet loosened yourself to the reality of a romantic life. You are still too uptight, i know the SU-ish background added to its seriousness. You are not yet nolstagic about loving and being loved in an opposite sex way. Age and loneliness may jolt you into this reality but it may be late. The last point you stopped at mills and boom taught you to feel a chemistry and so you are waiting for the chemistry sign to believe it has come.

I think in the process of waiting for the right time you shut your system to some of the the things that. are enzymatic to making you experience the chemistry even if you find the right reaction; some of these things are seeing two young people who genuinely love each other and desiring to have what they have instead of passing them of as sinners totally not worthy of emulation, not so exposed to mature and real dating information and consequently not yet seeing an urgency for marriage and thus not too bothered if it comes now or later with no define time.

Loosen yourself, then define or list your realistic desires in a spouse like a woman going to the market armed with the knowledge of things she need to buy lest you may see what you need and not know or take the wrong thing charmingly sold you.

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT CONTRIBUTED. I DIDNT EXPECT TO GET SO MUCH GREAT ADVICE. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.

Sounds like you're some Christian.


The question is, what's GOD'S PLAN FOR YOU, NOT NAIRALANDERS ADVICE, when e start dey happen, nairalanders no go dey there, and it's easy to advice than to do what you advise others by yourself.


Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD ...

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future .


Marriage is an institution, go and seek the Chancelor's (GOD) advise.

Mindfulness:
Let's play some more.

What if woman A's husband leaves her for a younger one after 30 years of marriage and woman C's husband dies in an accident?

That's life ...

cruchenutii:
Ok, let me say it as ABC.

Woman A, Woman B & Woman C are close friends, Woman A meets Man A who is interested in her & is the man of her dreams, she marries him.

Woman B on there hand meets Man B, who isn't upto par with Woman A [ upto par can be anything ranging from physical/financial/spiritual ] etc

Woman B is confused because she doesn't want to settle for less. She continues her life.
Coincidentally same occurrence happens to Woman C. They both continued their life.

Woman C later meets the Guy of her dreams at 35, she marries & she is happy. Woman B seeing that all her friends are married just eventually settles for any man that is willing to get married to move on.


My point is: Some people are favoured in life, some are not. Those who aren't lucky will always regret of not taking their options earlier in life. Life is a pot of beans. Nothing is promised. Woman B has done nothing wrong really. She is unlucky.

EOD.

I love this analogy.

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT CONTRIBUTED. I DIDNT EXPECT TO GET SO MUCH GREAT ADVICE. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.

you are.....don't talk about him....ehen let's continue reading

....."A virgin lady needs a bad, rugged guy to make her fall in love, a cool guy can hardly make a virgin lady fall in love" - Socrates 1913

...."two cool couple don't last and love won't ever be balanced cos the lady will be craving for bad guys.....and this will make the man lose out".... Aristotle 1905


"Go get yourself a bad guy to yank off your clothes and show you how sweet it feels, and watch how your body will begin to respond and reciprocate to love, and then you will realize who you love and who loves you" - Adolf Hitler 1949

....and thank me later

You don't expect to get everything that will make marriage to work out

He is an organized man as you have described him just that you are yet to develop love for him

Have you compared being with a man that you soo much loved but lack the attributes of this guy

Go and talk to yourself and develop love for him

Men with such attributes are very rear

Love doesn't just come from the sky, love develope with time and then nurtured to grow up

sleit:
Hi.
I am a lady of 22 years, will be 23 by January next year. I just
graduated and I've been with my guy since 200 level. We are in a
no-sex long distance relationship. In fact, we are both virgins. We
are kind of S.U.ish, if you understand the picture I'm trying to
paint.

He graduated ahead of me, and now has a job and is comfortable enough
to get married. So he's been asking for us to get married before
February next year. This guy is caring, wise, matured, faithful and
crazily in love with me (at least that is what he keeps saying).

Now, the problem?

I am not in love with him. I definitely do like and respect him, but
no matter how much I try, I can't just seem to fall in love with him.
So, you might ask why I kept the relationship for so long?
Well, I broke it off once, but he still came back and said we can put
in the effort to make it work.

He is a kind of person that doesn't condone sex out of marriage. Now,
he says the sexual pressure is quite high on him. And since he is
financially okay, he wants us to get married before he travels out for
his masters abroad.

I really have to give him an answer now as that will determine his
plans when leaving the country by February.

Would you guys advice me to accept the proposal of someone I know will
be a great husband and hope love will come along down the line later? Can a marriage start with just respect and like?
Or should I let him go and hope I will meet someone later? (I keep hearing a lot of scary stories about guys on nairaland and I'm
actually scared that if I let go, I won't get a keeper like him later.)

P.S.
I am a highly introverted person, and to make things worse, I work
remotely which means I hardly see people. I am always in my room with
my laptop.

C.C. Bukatyne, LadySarah, Shookonekilla, Ishilove, Sisisioge, Acidosis, TooNoisy, Eketem, Eyinjuege, Dominique, Eketem, KanwuliaExtra, Wilfredpat22, Tintingz, Babythug, Treasuredlove, Clarathomp, Cococandy, Nutase, Antina, Delishpot, St.surreal. (I've seen you guys give some opinion that I respect, need your say on this also. Thank you!).

THANKS TO EVERYONE THAT CONTRIBUTED. I DIDNT EXPECT TO GET SO MUCH GREAT ADVICE. THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN.

Good evening sleit.

What is love to you?

What kind of man turns you on or are you attracted to?

baby124:
She has to experience what you experienced herself otherwise she will never appreciate him and the guy will see hell in that marriage. Some girls need experience in dating to know clearly what they want. This is why I am against an under 25 marrying except she is someone that is kind and able to love and accommodate anyone.

Even the under 25 kind of love or interpretation of love can be very fleeting. Girls need to date before settling, trust me. Dating does not mean they have to have sex. Now I am sure you know the kind of husband you want. You gained a lot from that experience or you and that guy may have been divorced by now. If I married the guy who wanted to marry me at 22 I would have shown him shege and divorced him. So I quietly walked away and I don’t regret it.

she wasn't really talking about just marriage. Truth is women are genetically wired not to appreciate men who are so much in love with them... There is nothing any lady will say for me to believe otherwise.

I have accepted this fact and I control my emotions before someone calls me names like pest, weakling, desperate.

I see most as unappreciative. Loving you is a choice and it is like getting a gift you never asked for.

There are only a few who can handle such and respectably turn a guy down.

Listen to @victorian.
Don't fall for the kind of 'love' Hollywood tries to sell to the world.

And no, time/experience is not always the best way of learning!


@balman sent you a PM.

BestDude:
she wasn't really talking about just marriage. Truth is women are genetically wired not to appreciate men who are so much in love with them... There is nothing any lady will say for me to believe otherwise.

I have accepted this fact and I control my emotions before someone calls me names like pest, weakling, desperate.

I see most as unappreciative. Loving you is a choice and it is like getting a gift you never asked for.

There are only a few who can handle such and respectably turn a guy down.

You won’t need to hide your feelings from a woman that feels the same about you. Truth is people don’t feel the same about us all the time and that is ok. Maybe we were not meant to be a part of their journey in life. So just take the fact that the person is honest with you in thoughts or actions and move on.

You can’t force someone to treat you how you think you should be treated. You may think you are the worlds best guy. But you may not be the guy who she needs to walk her journey with. Same happens to girls so we should all learn to just respect other people’s decisions and move on understanding that they know best what they want.

Processor01:
Listen to @victorian.
Don't fall for the kind of 'love' Hollywood tries to sell to the world.

And no, time/experience is not always the best way of learning!


@balman sent you a PM.

Smiles thanks for the vote of confidence.

But I can't access my emails@ balman

victorian:
Smiles thanks for the vote of confidence.

But I can't access my emails@ balman

Pardon me.
I was trying to call @baldman attention to a PM I sent him.

Processor01:
Pardon me.
I was trying to call @baldman attention to a PM I sent him.

OK.