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Daboomb:
No Sir!
Reality is NOT relative.
It is what is 'on ground' as can be percieved with all th five senses of everybody.
For example, if a Kettle is black in color and my eyes are not defective, l will certainly see is as a black kettle and so will you, with a good eye.
That is reality. What is REAL.

But due to EXpECTATION, you can decide to call the Black kettle a Blue kettle simply because you want it to look blue or you have a Blue one or it suits you if it is blue in color.

Like l said in one of my post, What all WOMEN cant do without is COMFORT and it is MONEY that provides that COMFORT.
Any Man with POTENTIAL will eventually have MONEY and will eventually be able to provide that COMFORT that 'holds a woman down'.

The DNA of Women has been defective from creation (I say "defective" because their REALITY is MATERIALISTIC and it is NOT SUPPOSED (EXPECTATION) to be so! We all know it is wrong for someone we love, to abandon us when we are low or without Money but that is exactly the REALITY OF WOMEN.

99% of Women will abandon a husband, once he loses his job, goes broke or they see that he has lost the POTENTIAL to provide that comfort..
The 1% are the rare breed of women, noone can find in Nigeria

Much of what u have written is just u reiterating what I said earlier but with more grammar.

there is d natural world and there is d social world. d social world is constructed&with it, people interpret their natural world & happenings in their social world. What u talked about in ur first paragraph is how sensory information is acquired but u didn't talk about how it is interpreted & understood. Understanding & interpreting sensory information is PERCEPTION which is determined by ones orientation & experiences. Do we all have d same orientation & experiences? Would a child who grew up in dangotes home c life same way a child who grew up in d home of a security man? What u call reality is constructed. Meaning things are what they are because it is what we want them 2b. Black is black because we choose to call it black. If i like something say smoking, i will look 4a million reasons y i will justify it and vice versa. We label things around us based on how we choose to interpret social reality so we can make sense of those things. So reality isn't universal. It is subject to perception.

All d expectation u talk about, is d woman's expectation of her man in terms of comfort. What is d mans expectation of his woman? U can't analyse a r/ship in a one sided manner. U talked about d DNA of a woman. What is d DNA of a man and how does it influence what he expects from his wife. But let's use ur EXPECTATION/REALITY concepts. A woman expects that her husband to always provide comfort. What is d REALITY of this EXPECTATION?

I don't no how u came about ur 99% and 1% ratio 4 Nigerian women. I am very much interested in how u came about it. If u are basing ur analysis on that statistic and d statistic is flawed, then ur analysis will equally b flawed.

If we are to go with ur theory that its comfort&money that keeps a woman with a man, then tom cruise wouldn't have divorced 3ice. Donald trump wouldn't haven't married 3ice, same with Nicolas sarkozy. Angelina jolie&brad Pitt will still b togeda. Chris oyakhilome will still b with wife, Princesses Diana wouldn't have divorced prince Charles.

abiodunalasa:

So it is because of money she remain in love with Pastor Adeboye

Nigerian women and money sha !!! Even this highly placed and respected woman is not left out of the parasitic mentality

When your ship is taking in water, you dont jump. You just simply grab a bucket.

Money should never ever be precursor to love. Period. Full stop.

Bros am sorry,but I think I'll have to agree with her on this time,it's not just African thing even over here many marriage breaks down due to financial stress/burden,I can authoritatively say even my wife would have gone if not for my money even though she is white too.

Guys go and make as much money as your wife can't finish before talking of marriage if not you are on your own o.

Daboomb:
Give three Gbossas to that Woman, for being able to call a spade, a spade! Everything she said is bang-on, though it might not be palatable to our ears

Look, we need to face REALITY.

Not just Nigerian women (other women to varying degrees though the Nigerian woman has taken it to unprecedented heights due to their greed) but ALL WOMEN are controlled by MONEY and the Material things Money can buy.

There is a reason, God did not create Woman, immediately he created man because he could have created both of them at once.
HE knew that the Man has to "acquire wealth" so to say, otherwise the Woman will just stray-away if he has nothing to show her as his wealth.
When Eve was finally created, EVERYTHING WAS SET, garden was like today's Mansion, Food was plenty, all animals were named and all WORK was ALREADY DONE, the Woman just "packed-in" to enjoy everything, just like the Women of today insist on a "made-man".

Let us stop blaming women, let us just recognise them for who they are: Materialistic, Opportunistic and Unreliable Sex Partner.
End of story!

And just look at what Eve did immediately Adam was out of sight: She made friend with "another Man", obeyed the starnger even more than her Husband and God.... and brought desolation ot his household and generation.

Somebody should tell me or show me how the "average woman" of today is DIFFERENT from the above discription.
No difference, only 'times' has just evolved and become more sophisticated.

Women are who they are, love them for who they are but be aware of what you are getting into, when you encounter one.
Me, l will always love women but l make "allowance" for their treacherous nature because l know it must come to play, sooner or later.

so you believe this fable
No wonder

euromilion:
Bros am sorry,but I think I'll have to agree with her on this time,it's not just African thing even over here many marriage breaks down due to financial stress/burden,I can authoritatively say even my wife would have gone if not for my money even though she is white too.

Guys go and make as much money as your wife can't finish before talking of marriage if not you are on your own o.

trust me my guy, don't let society deceive you into any form of slavery, women are not as important as the society made them seem except she is your mom

ednut1:
a man can lose his job after marriage so what then happens ma Those who found their wives when they had nothing are very lucky, because nowadays if u lose ur breadwinner spot ur own don be, u go be like is this the same woman i married 10 years ago

The message said you must have a job before planning to marry......Nobody prays to lose job and she does not say the woman must leave....try listen to the full message and not quote out of context.

Naughtytboy:
am a redemer a vocalist and a keyboardist, can you pls explain what she meant to me?

Do u listen to messages during sermon @ all.....or all you do is to play keyboard cos actually she is been quoted out of context....get the message and listen to it

Daboomb:
Sir, l am not saying it is RIGHT. Infact, l think itis IMMORAL and l have said so in some of my post.
It really saddens me to think about it because l also have a wife!

But l am reminding you and that is the honest truth, that:

- It will always happen like that

- The reason is that "That is how women are wired". It is in their DNA, right from the first woman (and l have given many examples on this)

- That they should not be blamed because even they cant help it
- That Men should recognise this "factory default setting" of women

- That men should see it as the REALITY and PREPARE for it. Dont get too upset, if your wife runs away, one month after you lose your job, expect her to run away
- Plan well well when the money is still flowing (that is why l pity men who buy expensive gifts for their wife thinking that would cement their love and make her stay fOREVER! the day the Confort dries up, that is the day your Visa expires with her. Instead, put such money in deposits or investments that would support the COMFORT, when your current source of money suddenly stops. That is what will make her stay because the COMFORT will still be flowing till you get another source of income.

- That what Mrs Adeboye is saying is the cold, truth though because she is the wife of Daddy G.O, we EXPECT that she should not be the one saying such unpallatable truth. She is not encouraging it but she is WARNING MEN to be aware of what will hapen.

Just look around you and see how marriages are crashing like cards.
Are they mostly crashing because of "Lack of Love" or "lack of COMFORT (Money) in the family", for the woman?

A honest answer to the above, will reinforce what l am saying.

What is RIGHT/ WRONG, .....deals with Morals and Value system
What is OBTAINABLE,..... deals with REALITY.

Mrs adeboye was talking from the point of REALITY while those abusing her are thinking from the point of MORALITY.
we might not like it but we face it everyday, from the high rate of divorce that we are seeing

OK. Thanks. So it won't be out of place for a man to cheat on his wife when her beauty fades off as she ages.

Fair enough.

docsam007:
The message said you must have a job before planning to marry......Nobody prays to lose job and she does not say the woman must leave....try listen to the full message and not quote out of context.

keep defending insanity u hear. Life has no manual some married jobless and today are fine eg mike bamiloye and some married rich and the marriage no last one year. See another of her false teachings with no biblical backing below

euromilion:
Bros am sorry,but I think I'll have to agree with her on this time,it's not just African thing even over here many marriage breaks down due to financial stress/burden,I can authoritatively say even my wife would have gone if not for my money even though she is white too.

Guys go and make as much money as your wife can't finish before talking of marriage if not you are on your own o.

bros, Donald trump and Nicolas sarkozy made money but they divorced 2ice married 3ice. Tom cruise made money but is a 3 time divorcee. Brad Pitt made money but Angelina jolie couldn't stay with him. Princess Diana married into a wealthy&famous family but divorced prince Charles. Chris oyakhilome made money but his beautiful wife Anita left. So did Chris okotie who is a multiple divorcee

docsam007:
Do u listen to messages during sermon @ all.....or all you do is to play keyboard cos actually she is been quoted out of context....get the message and listen to it

Pls quote her in context

Daboomb:
Give three Gbossas to that Woman, for being able to call a spade, a spade! Everything she said is bang-on, though it might not be palatable to our ears

Look, we need to face REALITY.

Not just Nigerian women (other women to varying degrees though the Nigerian woman has taken it to unprecedented heights due to their greed) but ALL WOMEN are controlled by MONEY and the Material things Money can buy.

There is a reason, God did not create Woman, immediately he created man because he could have created both of them at once.
HE knew that the Man has to "acquire wealth" so to say, otherwise the Woman will just stray-away if he has nothing to show her as his wealth.
When Eve was finally created, EVERYTHING WAS SET, garden was like today's Mansion, Food was plenty, all animals were named and all WORK was ALREADY DONE, the Woman just "packed-in" to enjoy everything, just like the Women of today insist on a "made-man".

Let us stop blaming women, let us just recognise them for who they are: Materialistic, Opportunistic and Unreliable Sex Partner.
End of story!

And just look at what Eve did immediately Adam was out of sight: She made friend with "another Man", obeyed the starnger even more than her Husband and God.... and brought desolation ot his household and generation.

Somebody should tell me or show me how the "average woman" of today is DIFFERENT from the above discription.
No difference, only 'times' has just evolved and become more sophisticated.

Women are who they are, love them for who they are but be aware of what you are getting into, when you encounter one.
Me, l will always love women but l make "allowance" for their treacherous nature because l know it must come to play, sooner or later.

Interesting post. Nice analysis.

Daboomb:
Please dont insult the woman, you guys of today are just too myopic to accept reality!
You dont have to DO ANYTHING ILLEGAL OR CRIMINAL, to make your wife comfortable.

It is simple:
- Get a GOOD Education and come out with a good grade
- Train and Develop yurself with SKILLS that are in Demand, marketable Skills
- Dont be lazy, dont do drugs, dont indulge in things that would reduce your worth and market value and dont do anything ILLEGAL or UNLAWFUL
- Leave time in you rlife to communicate with God or whatever you belive in.
-Develop Standard morals and values about life

I swear, if you do these five simple things during your Youthful years are you are not comfortable by 30yrs, confront me and l would set you up in business, with enough capital that would make you rich enough to throw back my Capital in my face, in less than seven years from the day l gave it to you.

Comfortable Life is not Magic, it is a painstaking process of step-by-step, coupled with dilligence, which most young people dont have.
Anyone who can HONESTLY say, with their hands on their heart, that they have done all the five things above and are still uncomfortable in life, need deliverance.
I will offer it.

Well said.

Daboomb:
"SUPOOSED TO" is very distant from "REALITY".

A lot of things "supposed to" or "isn't suposed to be".

We must separate "EXPECTATIONS" from "REALITY".
Nigeria and Nigerians are not supposed to be poor - EXPECTATION
Nigerians and Nigeria are Poor - REALITY.

Nigeria, a country of nearly 200Million people is NOT SUPPOSED to be governed by a School Cert Holder - EXPECTATION
The President of Nigeria is a School Cert Holder - REALITY

Electiosn are NOT SUPPOSED to be Rigged - EXPECTATION
Electiosn in Nigeria are Rigged - REALITYT

A Judge is NOT SUPPOSED to collect Bribe to dispense Justice - EXPECTATION
Many Jusges have been caught collecting Bribe, Two were just sacked by the NJC today! - REALITY.

So, we must separate 'expectations' (Wife must love their husbands, rich or poor) from the reality (Wives nor send any husband that allows comfort to disappear from his home)

Mummy G.O. don face reality, even before she marry Adeboye
Younger generation better face reality as well otherwise..... wailing go follow.

Interesting...but too many typos.

Daboomb:
You sabi flirter person sha. And l an not Sir too, just your regular guy.
No one likes their party to be spoilt. I dont like what l an saying too but l just have to accept it now .....or later when it could shock me to death.

Seriously, it is all about PRiORITIES.
Set them right. Do the right things, at the right time.
I dont know what you do for a living, your current age-range, your educational background, your family circumstances (commitments to siblings, parents, e.t.c) and your level of determination to not be poor again.

I will assume you are doing okay for now.
1.) Eat less, Save more
2.) Defer your enjoyment/gratification to later, when you can do so without risking poverty
3.) You need Capital to do a successful business/investment. Save it if no bank will borrow you.
4.) Whatever/wherever you chose to put your money, dont tak too much risk when starting out, Stability is more important at that stage.
5.) Note that nothing last forever! Prepare for that day when your current "good living", money-flow will take a dip or even dry-out. it happens to everybody, at some stage in life, especially at the initial stages
6.) Save a certain percentage of your income, for investment in low risk, probably low returns ventures.
7.) Dont live an ostentatious life, once you have a little money in your account. leave the best part, for the later stage.
8.) Build a House, a commercial one first, if you can. Buy your land in a dry area, ( swamp not for poor people)
9.) Work hard and work smart, be strong, be focused, avoid all extremities in life but dont be a hermit. Avoid most vices (drugs, drink, gambling, excessive eating, womanising about, e.t.c
10.) Dont enrich, equip or add value to your wife, AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE (love her but never do anything at your own detriment/self sacrifice)
11.) Dont carry too much 'family' responsibility at the same time, it will draw you down or slow you down. largesse provided later, will still eb appreciated by the recipients but then you will not feel the impact too much
12.) DIY where you can, little savings here and there, add up to something and also prepare you mentally for the future
13.) Take care of whatever money you have, so MONEY will also take care of you! Money has a tendency to runaway from whoever does not take care of it..... just like women!
14.) Make good Judgements all the time, especially in purchases.
15.) Perform your bedroom duties properly! Women are not COMFORTABLE with men that cant fire on all Cylinders, when need be. That is rule #1. But dont kill yourself, if you are not that healthy to scatter the sheets, Work on your fitness, if you need to.
16.) Dont do anything illegal, be confident, think about what/where you want to be in ten years time, work towards it as a PRIORITY
17.) READ! READ!! READ!!!. There is wealth in knowledge hidden in written materials of any kind, knowledge is sourced from what you "ingest" (read). Everybody is a product of what is INSIDE their Head (Knowledge). Seek it at all times.
18.) Pray to what you beleive-in. Have a PERSONAL relationship with God, do good to others so that your prayers will not be hindered, train your kids properly and let them have respect and a sense of value for all things, especially living things (buy them a Dog to rear!), respect and love your wife to as much as she does not become a burden to your progress (banish 'buy-buy spirit' from her ). Try your best and leave the rest to your destiny.
19.) Take time out to exercise regularly, your health is the most important asset you have, dont sacrifice it for anything, not even more money. Walk instead of driving, jog, swim, play Sunday football with other pot-bellied 'Ronaldo' like us You need to prepare for old age and its baggages, right from now. The older you get, the more difficult it gets.
20.) Finally, Dont follow my advice, l was probably too drunk when writing all these.


But be assured that as long as your wife feels comfortable being with you, she wont leave you.
And if she does, you just smile and marry an even younger, more beautiful woman to replace her. You have what it takes.

Enough, let me go and do other things.

You this guy! You are damn too much! How old are you?
I know all these stuff and it always amaze me that over 95% of men do not see or understand these realities.
We need to hook up, I am in London at the moment and should be in gidi next month.
We need to become a life coach to educate men on relationship with women. There is so much ignorance going on.

This is how they continue to brainwash Nigerians.

Daboomb:
No Sir!
Reality is NOT relative.
It is what is 'on ground' as can be percieved with all th five senses of everybody.
For example, if a Kettle is black in color and my eyes are not defective, l will certainly see is as a black kettle and so will you, with a good eye.
That is reality. What is REAL.

But due to EXpECTATION, you can decide to call the Black kettle a Blue kettle simply because you want it to look blue or you have a Blue one or it suits you if it is blue in color.

Like l said in one of my post, What all WOMEN cant do without is COMFORT and it is MONEY that provides that COMFORT.
Any Man with POTENTIAL will eventually have MONEY and will eventually be able to provide that COMFORT that 'holds a woman down'.

The DNA of Women has been defective from creation (I say "defective" because their REALITY is MATERIALISTIC and it is NOT SUPPOSED (EXPECTATION) to be so! We all know it is wrong for someone we love, to abandon us when we are low or without Money but that is exactly the REALITY OF WOMEN.

99% of Women will abandon a husband, once he loses his job, goes broke or they see that he has lost the POTENTIAL to provide that comfort..
The 1% are the rare breed of women, noone can find in Nigeria

Nice post.

Daboomb:
You sabi flirter person sha. And l an not Sir too, just your regular guy.
No one likes their party to be spoilt. I dont like what l an saying too but l just have to accept it now .....or later when it could shock me to death.

Seriously, it is all about PRiORITIES.
Set them right. Do the right things, at the right time.
I dont know what you do for a living, your current age-range, your educational background, your family circumstances (commitments to siblings, parents, e.t.c) and your level of determination to not be poor again.

I will assume you are doing okay for now.
1.) Eat less, Save more
2.) Defer your enjoyment/gratification to later, when you can do so without risking poverty
3.) You need Capital to do a successful business/investment. Save it if no bank will borrow you.
4.) Whatever/wherever you chose to put your money, dont tak too much risk when starting out, Stability is more important at that stage.
5.) Note that nothing last forever! Prepare for that day when your current "good living", money-flow will take a dip or even dry-out. it happens to everybody, at some stage in life, especially at the initial stages
6.) Save a certain percentage of your income, for investment in low risk, probably low returns ventures.
7.) Dont live an ostentatious life, once you have a little money in your account. leave the best part, for the later stage.
8.) Build a House, a commercial one first, if you can. Buy your land in a dry area, ( swamp not for poor people)
9.) Work hard and work smart, be strong, be focused, avoid all extremities in life but dont be a hermit. Avoid most vices (drugs, drink, gambling, excessive eating, womanising about, e.t.c
10.) Dont enrich, equip or add value to your wife, AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE (love her but never do anything at your own detriment/self sacrifice)
11.) Dont carry too much 'family' responsibility at the same time, it will draw you down or slow you down. largesse provided later, will still eb appreciated by the recipients but then you will not feel the impact too much
12.) DIY where you can, little savings here and there, add up to something and also prepare you mentally for the future
13.) Take care of whatever money you have, so MONEY will also take care of you! Money has a tendency to runaway from whoever does not take care of it..... just like women!
14.) Make good Judgements all the time, especially in purchases.
15.) Perform your bedroom duties properly! Women are not COMFORTABLE with men that cant fire on all Cylinders, when need be. That is rule #1. But dont kill yourself, if you are not that healthy to scatter the sheets, Work on your fitness, if you need to.
16.) Dont do anything illegal, be confident, think about what/where you want to be in ten years time, work towards it as a PRIORITY
17.) READ! READ!! READ!!!. There is wealth in knowledge hidden in written materials of any kind, knowledge is sourced from what you "ingest" (read). Everybody is a product of what is INSIDE their Head (Knowledge). Seek it at all times.
18.) Pray to what you beleive-in. Have a PERSONAL relationship with God, do good to others so that your prayers will not be hindered, train your kids properly and let them have respect and a sense of value for all things, especially living things (buy them a Dog to rear!), respect and love your wife to as much as she does not become a burden to your progress (banish 'buy-buy spirit' from her ). Try your best and leave the rest to your destiny.
19.) Take time out to exercise regularly, your health is the most important asset you have, dont sacrifice it for anything, not even more money. Walk instead of driving, jog, swim, play Sunday football with other pot-bellied 'Ronaldo' like us You need to prepare for old age and its baggages, right from now. The older you get, the more difficult it gets.
20.) Finally, Dont follow my advice, l was probably too drunk when writing all these.


But be assured that as long as your wife feels comfortable being with you, she wont leave you.
And if she does, you just smile and marry an even younger, more beautiful woman to replace her. You have what it takes.

Enough, let me go and do other things.

hahaha LOL, everything you said is on point!thanks so much and i will put them to use

I just realized all the posts I quoted were produced by this 'Daboomb' of a person. Whoever you are, mehn, I doff my hat.

Daboomb:
MONEY is not COMFORT but it can buy COMFORT.
Dont call Women Prostitutes for being just who they are.

Women have never loved God, just for the sake of Love, from the days of Adam.
So how do you expect them to Love "man" for the sake of Love?

When God told the Man and Woman: Do not eat this one but enjoy all the other ones. That is God showing LOVE to humanbeings.
The Woman who shoudl has reciprocated with the same love, abandoned God and instead, decided she would rather go with the Satan because Satan PROMISED HER MoRE COMFORT.

So, for a WOMAN, it is always about who promised her more COMFORT and NEVER about who showed her Love.
It did not start with Mrs Adeboye, she was only stating REALITY so that there would be less expectations which lead to broken marriages.
It is in the DNA of the WOMAN that you gave me - Adam

Once 'MEN' put it into their psyche and know what is in a marriage for them, they would be better adjusted, when the inevitable happens, should it happen.

- Love does not keep a Marriage or any female relationship for that matter, it is COMFORT produced with MONEY, that keeps a marriage (that is the sure banker, take it or leave it)
- As a Man, never exhaust all your Money on your wife hoping she will stay when it is exhausted. Rather, keep building your wealth (which maintains the COMFORT that keeps the wife with you) and let building your wealth be your first priority, not your love.
- If you fail in the above, whether as a result of your fault or outside your fault, you then have to be courageous enough to accept the REALITY that the Woman you love, whose DNA is wired to COMFORT, will be soon gone.

Painful, Annoying, Sad, Agonising, Undeserved, Ungodly and even Inhuman but that is the REALITY Mrs Adeboye was warning us about.

You again? Lol

Daboomb:
I love the caveat you inserted into your Post!
it shows that you also are extremely intelligent.
A Knowledgeable Man!

How many men are knowledgeable?
How many men know that their first priority, before professing love is to get a good job or setup a good business and keep the money in-flow certain and secure?
How many men know that even a certain job or business can go kaput anytime and therefore plan for a Plan B, incase the Pot gets upset by factors/events beyond their control?

But a KNOWLEDGEABLE MAN will make plans first, before falling in love.
Most Men will profess love, spend all their time singing love songs and being around their love/woman, while not paying enough attention to the most important thing that will prolong that love.

And let me add that a Knowledgeable Man will always go for the best woman he can get!
He will never settle for an old hag.
That is why you will see a 'knowledgeable man (read: good bank balance) who is sixty years old, marry a twenty five year old woman (and we the younger ones are full of jealousy ) and would not settle for any 46yr+ old hag.

Marriage is like a Free Market: What you are offering/selling, MUST EQUATE TO to what l am willing to pay/offer for it (except in cases of foolish/unknowledgeable men and 'sharp-sharp' 419 women)

- Why would l work hard for my comfort and then waste it on an old hag, when l can splash it on something better? I dey crase?
- And why would a beautiful damsel waste herself on a broke dude who cant provide the comfort she needs? i dey crase?

That is COLD REALITY of this immoral and valueless world, my brother.
Its being like that since the days of the first Man, Adam.

Again?

Daboomb:
Sir, l am not saying it is RIGHT. Infact, l think itis IMMORAL and l have said so in some of my post.
It really saddens me to think about it because l also have a wife!

But l am reminding you and that is the honest truth, that:

- It will always happen like that

- The reason is that "That is how women are wired". It is in their DNA, right from the first woman (and l have given many examples on this)

- That they should not be blamed because even they cant help it
- That Men should recognise this "factory default setting" of women

- That men should see it as the REALITY and PREPARE for it. Dont get too upset, if your wife runs away, one month after you lose your job, expect her to run away
- Plan well well when the money is still flowing (that is why l pity men who buy expensive gifts for their wife thinking that would cement their love and make her stay fOREVER! the day the Confort dries up, that is the day your Visa expires with her. Instead, put such money in deposits or investments that would support the COMFORT, when your current source of money suddenly stops. That is what will make her stay because the COMFORT will still be flowing till you get another source of income.

- That what Mrs Adeboye is saying is the cold, truth though because she is the wife of Daddy G.O, we EXPECT that she should not be the one saying such unpallatable truth. She is not encouraging it but she is WARNING MEN to be aware of what will hapen.

Just look around you and see how marriages are crashing like cards.
Are they mostly crashing because of "Lack of Love" or "lack of COMFORT (Money) in the family", for the woman?

A honest answer to the above, will reinforce what l am saying.

What is RIGHT/ WRONG, .....deals with Morals and Value system
What is OBTAINABLE,..... deals with REALITY.

Mrs adeboye was talking from the point of REALITY while those abusing her are thinking from the point of MORALITY.
we might not like it but we face it everyday, from the high rate of divorce that we are seeing

I can't help but like and quote all your posts!

Daboomb:
You sabi flirter person sha. And l an not Sir too, just your regular guy.
No one likes their party to be spoilt. I dont like what l an saying too but l just have to accept it now .....or later when it could shock me to death.

Seriously, it is all about PRiORITIES.
Set them right. Do the right things, at the right time.
I dont know what you do for a living, your current age-range, your educational background, your family circumstances (commitments to siblings, parents, e.t.c) and your level of determination to not be poor again.

I will assume you are doing okay for now.
1.) Eat less, Save more
2.) Defer your enjoyment/gratification to later, when you can do so without risking poverty
3.) You need Capital to do a successful business/investment. Save it if no bank will borrow you.
4.) Whatever/wherever you chose to put your money, dont tak too much risk when starting out, Stability is more important at that stage.
5.) Note that nothing last forever! Prepare for that day when your current "good living", money-flow will take a dip or even dry-out. it happens to everybody, at some stage in life, especially at the initial stages
6.) Save a certain percentage of your income, for investment in low risk, probably low returns ventures.
7.) Dont live an ostentatious life, once you have a little money in your account. leave the best part, for the later stage.
8.) Build a House, a commercial one first, if you can. Buy your land in a dry area, ( swamp not for poor people)
9.) Work hard and work smart, be strong, be focused, avoid all extremities in life but dont be a hermit. Avoid most vices (drugs, drink, gambling, excessive eating, womanising about, e.t.c
10.) Dont enrich, equip or add value to your wife, AT YOUR OWN EXPENSE (love her but never do anything at your own detriment/self sacrifice)
11.) Dont carry too much 'family' responsibility at the same time, it will draw you down or slow you down. largesse provided later, will still eb appreciated by the recipients but then you will not feel the impact too much
12.) DIY where you can, little savings here and there, add up to something and also prepare you mentally for the future
13.) Take care of whatever money you have, so MONEY will also take care of you! Money has a tendency to runaway from whoever does not take care of it..... just like women!
14.) Make good Judgements all the time, especially in purchases.
15.) Perform your bedroom duties properly! Women are not COMFORTABLE with men that cant fire on all Cylinders, when need be. That is rule #1. But dont kill yourself, if you are not that healthy to scatter the sheets, Work on your fitness, if you need to.
16.) Dont do anything illegal, be confident, think about what/where you want to be in ten years time, work towards it as a PRIORITY
17.) READ! READ!! READ!!!. There is wealth in knowledge hidden in written materials of any kind, knowledge is sourced from what you "ingest" (read). Everybody is a product of what is INSIDE their Head (Knowledge). Seek it at all times.
18.) Pray to what you beleive-in. Have a PERSONAL relationship with God, do good to others so that your prayers will not be hindered, train your kids properly and let them have respect and a sense of value for all things, especially living things (buy them a Dog to rear!), respect and love your wife to as much as she does not become a burden to your progress (banish 'buy-buy spirit' from her ). Try your best and leave the rest to your destiny.
19.) Take time out to exercise regularly, your health is the most important asset you have, dont sacrifice it for anything, not even more money. Walk instead of driving, jog, swim, play Sunday football with other pot-bellied 'Ronaldo' like us You need to prepare for old age and its baggages, right from now. The older you get, the more difficult it gets.
20.) Finally, Dont follow my advice, l was probably too drunk when writing all these.


But be assured that as long as your wife feels comfortable being with you, she wont leave you.
And if she does, you just smile and marry an even younger, more beautiful woman to replace her. You have what it takes.

Enough, let me go and do other things.

Wow! Daboomb- You are the most intelligent person I have met on any social media platform this year. Once again, I doff my hat!

Thanks Bro, somebody has to tell these blockheaded kids the realities.

lexy2014:
bros, Donald trump and Nicolas sarkozy made money but they divorced 2ice married 3ice. Tom cruise made money but is a 3 time divorcee. Brad Pitt made money but Angelina jolie couldn't stay with him. Princess Diana married into a wealthy&famous family but divorced prince Charles. Chris oyakhilome made money but his beautiful wife Anita left. So did Chris okotie who is a multiple divorcee

Do you know why that's?because those men made as much money as their wives can't finish and those women found an opportunity to make more money,do you know how much they get by divorcing their husband?50% and what do they do?move on to their next victim.

Those guys you mentioned should have signed prenuptial from the start but they didn't,however,you chose few selected cases as a case study, in every 10 of your examples I'll show you 1000 poor men that their wives dumped for a richer man.

Don't allow any kangaroo to deceive you my friend because in the end they'll become a problem to you.

GL.

lexy2014:
U are absolutely right in ur first statement cos u are actually referring to urself. Cos there's nothing u have said that has contributed 2 shedding light as far as d discussion is concerned. If u choose 2 call people names cos u feel they don't no, that's d lowest u can get especially when u aren't doing anything to fill d knowledge gap u say exists

You see?


"Reading is only meaningful when DONE with UNDERSTANDING".


If you really did go back and re-read her first two statements and yet need me to still "share knowledge" with you then you're the most incredible person I've met this week.

euromilion:
Do you know why that's?because those men made as much money as their wives can't finish and those women found an opportunity to make more money,do you know how much they get by divorcing their husband?50% and what do they do?move on to their next victim.

Those guys you mentioned should have signed prenuptial from the start but they didn't,however,you chose few selected cases as a case study, in every 10 of your examples I'll show you 1000 poor men that their wives dumped for a richer man.

Don't allow any kangaroo to deceive you my friend because in the end they'll become a problem to you.

GL.

did Anita oyakhilome divorce her husband because she wanted 2 make money? D women that left Chris okotie did they leave him because of 50%? Did princess Diana leave prince Charles cos of 50%? Nicolas sarkoy's wife left him just after he won presidential election. Nicole Kidman left tom cruise despite being successful in her own way. What amount of money was Angelina jolie going 2 make from brad Pitt that she didn't already have?

I have given my 10 examples. Give ur 1000. I lived in DSC many years ago when workers werent paid 4 months&survival was a struggle yet I didn't c women leaving their husbands 4 rich men. Do d things u mentioned happen? Yes they do. But d mistake u are making is that u are using ur personal experience to generalize

lexy2014:
did Anita oyakhilome divorce her husband because she wanted 2 make money? D women that left Chris okotie did they leave him because of 50%? Did princess Diana leave prince Charles cos of 50%? Nicolas sarkoy's wife left him just after he won presidential election. Nicole Kidman left tom cruise despite being successful in her own way. What amount of money was Angelina jolie going 2 make from brad Pitt that she didn't already have?

I have given my 10 examples. Give ur 1000. I lived in DSC many years ago when workers werent paid 4 months&survival was a struggle yet I didn't c women leaving their husbands 4 rich men. Do d things u mentioned happen? Yes they do. But d mistake u are making is that u are using ur personal experience to generalize

You have mentioned a couple of popular cases, there are thousands of other cases involving the not-so-popular people. E.g.

-Iya Mutiu left Baba Mutiu when his bricklaying business flopped
-Mama Chibike left Papa Chibike when his container sinked and he lost his entire capital
-Mama Aminu left Papa Aminu when his entire herd of cattles died as a result thunderstorm
-Ken's mum left his dad when he was fired as an ED in DWX oil & gas company and his finances suddenly plummeted
-Bimbo is nowhere to be found as 'maga' stopped paying Tunde. Other yahoo boys on campus have fled with her
-Mrs Stevenson is having an extra-marital affair just to keep her family going, why? Her husband is dead 'broke'

The list goes on and on and on.

Point Daboomb is trying to make is that majority of these incidences are caused by financial issues. Only very few people do have issues that are not financially related.

Make money, provide comfort for your woman and you would live happily ever after in plenty love....try to flip the coin, then you go hear am.

"Love is sweet o, when money enter, love is sweeter" - Davido.

MallamJackson:
You see?


"Reading is only meaningful when DONE with UNDERSTANDING".


If you really did go back and re-read her first two statements and yet need me to still "share knowledge" with you then you're the most incredible person I've met this week.

once again u are correct
"Reading is only meaningful when DONE with UNDERSTANDING". D question is did u understand Mrs adeboyes statement & d reaction of people to it? If u didn't, is that d reason u aren't able to say what's right about Mrs adeboyes statement and what's wrong with peoples objection 2 it? Is that y d only thing u are able to say is that others don't understand yet u aren't able to prove that u understand any better?

Yoighaman:
You have mentioned a couple of popular cases, there are thousands of other cases involving the not-so-popular people. E.g.

-Iya Mutiu left Baba Mutiu when his bricklaying business flopped
-Mama Chibike left Papa Chibike when his container sinked and he lost his entire capital
-Mama Aminu left Papa Aminu when his entire herd of cattles died as a result thunderstorm
-Ken's mum left his dad when he was fired as an ED in DWX oil & gas company and his finances suddenly plummeted
-Bimbo is nowhere to be found as 'maga' stopped paying Tunde. Other yahoo boys on campus have fled with her
-Mrs Stevenson is having an extra-marital affair just to keep her family going, why? Her husband is dead 'broke'

The list goes on and on and on.

Point Daboomb is trying to make is that majority of these incidences are caused by financial issues. Only very few people do have issues that are not financially related.

Make money, provide comfort for your woman and you would live happily ever after in plenty love....try to flip the coin, then you go hear am.

"Love is sweet o, when money enter, love is sweeter" - Davido.

am not asking u 4 fiction but true life stories. U can't prove ur point with any experience around. Like I said earlier, I had d opportunity of living in a neighborhood(precisely in DSC ovwian aladja) were poverty was thrust upon people due to no fault of theirs& I didn't c women leaving their husbands 4 rich men. How did daboomb come 2d conclusion that "majority of these incidences are caused by financial issues." And how did u also know that "only very few people do have issues that are not financially related?" What research did u&daboomb do 2 come 2d conclusions u have arrived at? Earlier daboomb gave a statistic of 99% of women do it. So u guys are just making generalizations. Like I said earlier, Chris oyakhilome made money and provided comfort, his wife isn't with him. Chris okotie did same 4 three women yet nothing. Brad Pitt had enough money but that didnt keep Angelina jolie with him.Money is good in marriage but pls don't generalize&exaggerate that its absence is d result of broken marriages. Its not as extreme as u guys are painting it 2b

lexy2014:
did Anita oyakhilome divorce her husband because she wanted 2 make money? D women that left Chris okotie did they leave him because of 50%? Did princess Diana leave prince Charles cos of 50%? Nicolas sarkoy's wife left him just after he won presidential election. Nicole Kidman left tom cruise despite being successful in her own way. What amount of money was Angelina jolie going 2 make from brad Pitt that she didn't already have?

I have given my 10 examples. Give ur 1000. I lived in DSC many years ago when workers werent paid 4 months&survival was a struggle yet I didn't c women leaving their husbands 4 rich men. Do d things u mentioned happen? Yes they do. But d mistake u are making is that u are using ur personal experience to generalize

I've no energy for argument now,but remember the difference between being dumped on most of your case study e.g angie was dumped for Jennifer,Dianna was brushing it with another Prince son of the richest man in U.K. Then,I can go on and on,but let's leave it like that.

Let's agree to disagree.�

euromilion:
I've no energy for argument now,but remember the difference between being dumped on most of your case study e.g angie was dumped for Jennifer,Dianna was brushing it with another Prince son of the richest man in U.K. Then,I can go on and on,but let's leave it like that.

Let's agree to disagree.�

angie wasnt dumped 4 jennifer. Jennifer was dumped 4 angie. Diana didn't no dodi(who wasn't a prince) until long after her divorce. In these cases u have mentioned, money didnt determine d decision of d women in question leaving their husbands. Pls go on and on...Chris oyakhilome/Anita. Chris okotie/ his wives e.t.c. feel free

lexy2014:
once again u are correct
"Reading is only meaningful when DONE with UNDERSTANDING". D question is did u understand Mrs adeboyes statement & d reaction of people to it? If u didn't, is that d reason u aren't able to say what's right about Mrs adeboyes statement and what's wrong with peoples objection 2 it? Is that y d only thing u are able to say is that others don't understand yet u aren't able to prove that u understand any better?

Unbelievable!

OK. You're right I am the one lacking in comprehension.


Can we now let it go please?

geeez!