Saff:
I agree. That’s why I live to please myself and future kids. I don’t belive in love. I believe in how someone can benfit my life.

believe me u hv been fvcked and ditched by so many yoruba demons[players/fuckboys].
but honestly, u re the cause of ur ordeals, cuz u keep getting attracted to them due to ur personality.

Saff:
No man is loyal

Use them for your own benefit, whether a child, marriage status or money and live your life happily. When will women learn. Love yourself and your children and let that man do whatever the hell he likes. I cannot give myself high blood pressure, I love myself too much.

hi sis, i bet to disagree on your first sentence that "no man is loyal"... There are several loyal men out there just like we have the disloyal ones.. Like myself, i will never stoop so low to the level of dating 2 ladies in a relationship talkless of having a side chick after marriage.. Morally its wrong, biblically its wrong too.. So, its a no-no..

If men like you truly exist, I hope to marry one. But I believe you only exist on the internet, sorry, words are cheap

iamsea:

hi sis, i bet to disagree on your first sentence that "no man is loyal"... There are several loyal men out there just like we have the disloyal ones.. Like myself, i will never stoop so low to the level of dating 2 ladies in a relationship talkless of having a side chick after marriage.. Morally its wrong, biblically its wrong too.. So, its a no-no..

Saff:
If men like you truly exist, I hope to marry one. But I believe you only exist on the internet, sorry, words are cheap

there are but i don't know in what quantity... I cant be sharing my personal experiences to buttress my point on net.. But there truly are loyal men..
But as for ur wish of marrying a good man.. May God grant u ur heart desire.. Stay blessed sis..

iamsea:

there are but i don't know in what quantity... I cant be sharing my personal experiences to buttress my point on net.. But there truly are loyal men..
But as for ur wish of marrying a good man.. May God grant u ur heart desire.. Stay blessed sis..

thank you

Saff:
No man is loyal

Use them for your own benefit, whether a child, marriage status or money and live your life happily. When will women learn. Love yourself and your children and let that man do whatever the hell he likes. I cannot give myself high blood pressure, I love myself too much.

I blame the guy calling you his gf. What you will benefit from a relationship is all you are after. I think it's safe to say that the attributes of a gold digger, who thinks of only herself...funny enough you won't even see a guy who will want to have his kids through you, judging by this your comment.

Change thy ways before subsequent Shiloh programs

Oyindidi:
Where for asaba?

I dey ibusa now sha just 10mins from Asaba if you need help with anything in Asaba I can help.

How is that our business?

Gawd
They both look like twins
Are they?? ���

Saff:
No man is loyal

Use them for your own benefit, whether a child, marriage status or money and live your life happily. When will women learn. Love yourself and your children and let that man do whatever the hell he likes. I cannot give myself high blood pressure, I love myself too much.

Use him for your purpose and he'll use you for his purpose......until you become useless to him and he moves on to another available girl.

2 can play, girl.

Saff:
Well I pray so, I wouldn’t want my son to give any woman a heart attack. So as long as both parties can gain from the relationship, I don’t give a damn.

If you plan to use men for your purpose, your sons can't escape from being used by other girls for their selfish purposes too. It's tit for tat, ma'am

olabrad:


Use him for your purpose and he'll use you for his purpose......until you become useless to him and he moves on to another available girl.

2 can play, girl.

I don’t care. It’s a win a win, because if he leaves I still leave with all the benefits I gained from him and more. A man that has spent years and years of investments on me, will leave me to start afresh, that’s his loss not mine.

like I said, I don’t care. As long as my son is a good provider to his wife, and puts his children before any woman, he will be fine.

olabrad:


If you plan to use men for your purpose, your sons can't escape from being used by other girls for their selfish purposes too. It's tit for tat, ma'am

itsmeurLady:
She writes so well... Nothing hurts more than seeing your man sliding into your friend's DM... It's so disrespectful! she took a bold step. Peace of mind is all that matters at the end of the day.

Am telling you.

Saff:
I don’t care. It’s a win a win, because if he leaves I still leave with all the benefits I gained from him and more. A man that has spent years and years of investments on me, will leave me to start afresh, that’s his loss not mine.

You aren't looking for a marriage partner; you are only looking for poverty alleviation program. Girl, marriage isn't poverty alleviation program. Expecting a man to invest on you as if you are a business is a very wrong view about marriage. And this is where most of you get it wrong and get your fingers burnt

olabrad:


You aren't looking for a marriage partner; you are only looking for poverty alleviation program. Girl, marriage isn't poverty alleviation program. Expecting a man to invest on you as if you are a business is a very wrong view about marriage. And this is where most of you get it wrong and get your fingers burnt

Where most women get their fingers burnt is going into marriage for love. Companionship and money is more realistic for entering a marriage. Building an empire for your kids and future generations is the smart thing to do. This is why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Poor people marry for love, breeding up and down, producing children they cannot take care of, suffering till they die. It’s a generational curse. Yet the rich marry for status, wealth and generational success. They use logic and not “love”, things always work out better for them. You grow to love somebody who you’ve built and empire with overtime. You better wake up and smell the coffee , you spend more years averagely with your life partner than you do with your own parents. If more women can think logically , break the generational curse from their family, the gap between the rich and poor will not be so distinctive.

Saff:
Where most women get their fingers burnt is going into marriage for love. Companionship and money is more realistic for entering a marriage. Building an empire for your kids and future generations is the smart thing to do. This is why the rich get richer and the poor get poorer. Poor people marry for love, breeding up and down, producing children they cannot take care of, suffering till they die. It’s a generational curse. Yet the rich marry for status, wealth and generational success. They use logic and not “love”, things always work out better for them. You grow to love somebody who you’ve built and empire with overtime. You better wake up and smell the coffee , you spend more years averagely with your life partner than you do with your own parents. If more women can think logically , break the generational curse from their family, the gap between the rich and poor will not be so distinctive.

So, you'll marry someone you don't love and marry for money? You may think you are making sense, but you've lost it.

It's clear that any man that makes the mistake of marrying you with this your upside down mentality will live a sad life throughout his life. You don't seem like you have anything to offer in a marriage; you are only coming to to find out if there is anything for you.

What's the use of a woman that offers nothing but sex in a marriage? She is 100% useless

olabrad:


So, you'll marry someone you don't love and marry for money? You may think you are making sense, but you've lost it.

It's clear that any man that makes the mistake of marrying you with this your upside down mentality will live a sad life throughout his life. You don't seem like you have anything to offer in a marriage; you are only coming to to find out if there is anything for you.

What's the use of a woman that offers nothing but sex in a marriage? She is 100% useless

I’m not your average typical woman. People grow in and out of love all the time. Some people marry the person they love and fall out of love 5 years later due to failed expectations. Love is based on the conditions that come with someone. I don’t want to go too deep, but I’ll rather fall in love with someone who I can elevate from. Love to me is such a fragile emotion, marrying someone for love is so pointless to me, I’m so sorry.

And for the the woman only offering sex, I think this is such an immature and myopic way of thinking. Men who say this are honestly one way or the other mentally deformed. I honestly think you need to grow up, and I can vouch that you’re under 30, so I won’t be entertaining this conversation any longer. Bye.

Saff:
I’m not your average typical woman. People grow in and out of love all the time. Some people marry the person they love and fall out of love 5 years later due to failed expectations. Love is based on the conditions that come with someone. I don’t want to go too deep, but I’ll rather fall in love with someone who I can elevate from. Love to me is such a fragile emotion, marrying someone for love is so pointless to me, I’m so sorry.

And for the the woman only offering sex, I think this is such an immature and myopic way of thinking. Men who say this are honestly one way or the other mentally deformed. I honestly think you need to grow up, and I can vouch that you’re under 30, so I won’t be entertaining this conversation any longer. Bye.

Your understanding of love is wacky and fake. You fall out of love because you loved for the wrong reasons, like good sex, handsome appearance and other mundane things that can take you nowhere.

And for your information, there is no condition in love. It comes naturally, not determined by empty hollow conditions that will only make discontented slaves out of both parties.

And your last paragraph confirms my fear that you are one of those empty headed idiots that have their brains between their legs.

Please don't marry; you will only be a source of sadness to the unfortunate man that marries you.

olabrad:


Your understanding of love is wacky and fake. You fall out of love because you loved for the wrong reasons, like good sex, handsome appearance and other mundane things that can take you nowhere.

And for your information, there is no condition in love. It comes naturally, not determined by empty hollow conditions that will only make discontented slaves out of both parties.

And your last paragraph confirms my fear that you are one of those empty headed idiots that have their brains between their legs.

Please don't marry; you will only be a source of sadness to the unfortunate man that marries you.

How do you love someone for the wrong reasons ? Is that love? Listen if a woman is not benefitting your life in any way, will you love her for who she is? Are you not the same guy that just asked what else am I offering apart from sex? Can you see that subconsciously you are looking for a gain/condition to love a woman ? There’s nothing like true love, your “love” is based on benefits, so stop contradicting yourself.

It’s just bothering you that I’m being very direct and real about it. I cannot love a man who cannot benefit me in any way especially financially. You are deceiving yourself. Wake up and stop living in la la land.

Saff:
How do you love someone for the wrong reasons ? Is that love? Listen if a woman is not benefitting your life in any way, will you love her for who she is? Are you not the same guy that just asked what else am I offering apart from sex? Can you see that subconsciously you are looking for a gain/condition to love a woman ? There’s nothing like true love, your “love” is based on benefits, so stop contradicting yourself.

It’s just bothering you that I’m being very direct and real about it. I cannot love a man who cannot benefit me in any way especially financially. You are deceiving yourself. Wake up and stop living in la la land.

And what are the benefits you mean? Material benefits? No, that can only attract fake love. When you don't love someone because of personality, maturity and such reasons, but love based on beauty, handsomeness, good sex, etc, then such loves never last. And marrying based on such is synonymous with living in a fool's paradise.

Personality, maturity etc are part of the person and rarely change. If you can't love someone for those, then you don't love the person.

If you marry someone based on money, then you only married the money and not the person. Then the person can go to blazes, die or perish so long as that won't restrict your access to his money. That's a bad reason to enter into a marriage.

Personality rarely changes, are you serious? Do you realise you’re not the same person at 20 that you are at 30 or 50?

Do you understand that environmental factors and life experiences can change the person that you are drastically. A specific personality trait that a human being has at a time will offer benefits to your life one way or the other. If you marry someone based off their humility, nurturing capabilities or generosity, that will in some way translate to the betterment of your life. People always fall out love with individuals, why? We hear phrases like ‘he/she is not the same man/woman that I married’.

So whether you marry for personality traits or materialistic gain, you are still looking for conditions that will benefit you in some way or the other. Although materialistic gain is more substantial and advantageous for not only yourself but your children and future generations, it is more ideal to opt for that as a woman. So Oga, everything you’re saying is justifying my argument, just admit that I’m right.

olabrad:


And what are the benefits you mean? Material benefits? No, that can only attract fake love. When you don't love someone because of personality, maturity and such reasons, but love based on beauty, handsomeness, good sex, etc, then such loves never last. And marrying based on such is synonymous with living in a fool's paradise.

Personality, maturity etc are part of the person and rarely change. If you can't love someone for those, then you don't love the person.

If you marry someone based on money, then you only married the money and not the person. Then the person can go to blazes, die or perish so long as that won't restrict your access to his money. That's a bad reason to enter into a marriage.

Saff:
Personality rarely changes, are you serious? Do you realise you’re not the same person at 20 that you are at 30 or 50?

Do you understand that environmental factors and life experiences can change the person that you are drastically. A specific personality trait that a human being has at a time will offer benefits to your life one way or the other. If you marry someone based off their humility, nurturing capabilities or generosity, that will in some way translate to the betterment of your life. People always fall out love with individuals, why? We hear phrases like ‘he/she is not the same man/woman that I married’.

So whether you marry for personality traits or materialistic gain, you are still looking for conditions that will benefit you in some way or the other. Although materialistic gain is more substantial and advantageous for not only yourself but your children and future generations, it is more ideal to opt for that as a woman. So Oga, everything you’re saying is justifying my argument, just admit that I’m right.

When you hear: "he or she isn't the same person I married, " then it means he/she had never been that supposed person before. Whatever the partner thought he/she found in him initially (before marriage) was just a cover up and not the real person.

olabrad:


When you hear: "he or she isn't the same person I married, " then it means he/she had never been that supposed person before. Whatever the partner thought he/she found in him initially (before marriage) was just a cover up and not the real person.

That is a lie and you know it. People change, the only constant thing in life is change. Some extroverted people grow to be introverted. Some gentle people grow to be assertive. Some generous people grow to be stingy. It’s called life.

In the end, you will not love someone’s personality trait, if it’s not benefitting yourself in anyway. If you love someone because they’re kind, it’s because their kindness is helping your life one way or the other. It’s subconscious and you don’t realise this, but this is the truth. So don’t shame me, for wanting to gain materialistic from a man. It may seem more shallow, but we all are selfish humans by default. We want to gain one way or the other from our partners, and if we’re not, we look outside.

Saff:
That is a lie and you know it. People change, the only constant thing in life is change. Some extroverted people grow to be introverted. Some gentle people grow to be assertive. Some generous people grow to be stingy. It’s called life.

In the end, you will not love someone’s personality trait, if it’s not benefitting yourself in anyway. If you love someone because they’re kind, it’s because their kindness is helping your life one way or the other. It’s subconscious and you don’t realise this, but this is the truth. So don’t shame me, for wanting to gain materialistic from a man. It may seem more shallow, but we all are selfish humans by default. We want to gain one way or the other from our partners, and if we’re not, we look outside.

No matter how you justify selfishness, it remains selfishness. Going into marriage with the sole aim of making financial gain is not just selfish, but wicked and blind.

Pray, what happens when the material things finish? You'll jump to the next available diick that can satisfy your quest for materialism, right?

How come your life is about what you can get and not what you can give? What can the man gain from you other than sex? Nothing?! What an empty way to live!

I can't but pity the unfortunate fellow that will be manipulated into marrying you. I see his sadness in full swing already.

Still did not answer my question. Your response is based off emotional and illogical thoughts. Talking to you is like talking to a brick wall, why waste my time?

goodbye.

olabrad:


No matter how you justify selfishness, it remains selfishness. Going into marriage with the sole aim of making financial gain is not just selfish, but wicked and blind.

Pray, what happens when the material things finish? You'll jump to the next available diick that can satisfy your quest for materialism, right?

How come your life is about what you can get and not what you can give? What can the man gain from you other than sex? Nothing?! What an empty way to live!

I can't but pity the unfortunate fellow that will be manipulated into marrying you. I see his sadness in full swing already.