alBHAGDADI:
In today's world, many women find it trendy and classy including their father's name to their husband's name when they get married. Most of them don't even know why it's done, they just do it because they saw others doing it. Many of such women profess to be Christians without knowing that doing such is an open rebellion against their father, their husband and God who instituted marriage from the beginning.

This evil rebellious trend was made popular by Hollywood where you see a Jada Pinkett married to Will Smith now choosing to call herself Jada Pinkett-Smith. The trend quickly got copied by African actresses like Omotola Jalade who got married to Mr. Ekeinde now choosing to call herself Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde. These popular people whom many have chosen as role models have led many into emulating the same idea. That's why many Nigerian ladies on Facebook now have hyphenated names.

This new trend which seems like what has come to stay is a total disregard for God and tradition. Please read the below Bible passages.

Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Ephesians 6:1-3
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise;
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.

The first excuse women who have hyphenated names give is that they are honoring their father who raised them by giving them the best which made them who they are today. That's why they have to retain his name when married just to ensure his name lives on. This is stupidity at it's highest order. Such a woman is only satisfying her ego and not her father.

Did the poor man ever asked to be honored let alone in that way? Did he tell you that when he got married to his own wife, he allowed her to do such to him? Why do you now think he will be happy to know you are causing pain to a young man who is your husband all in the name of an honor he never asked for?

The above passage says you should honor your father and mother, but before that it says OBEY your parents. Failing to do the first part is the reason why you are honoring your father in the wrong manner. If you truly love your father, then why did you disobey what he did on the day you got married?

On the day you got married, he did something symbolic which is very traditional. He walked you down to the altar and handed you over to the man whom you got married to on your wedding day. What he simply did was handover authority over you to your husband and new daddy. It is him you are to obey henceforth. Not saying you are to now start disregarding your parents, but they now have a little authority over your life.

You obeyed your father while under his roof. He gave you the best due to your obedience. Now that he has given you to a man as wife, it is that man you are to obey just as you did your father. Bringing in your father or his name into the man's house is the same as having two captains in a ship. Your father won't even want that because such was never done to him. Hyphenating your name is the same as saying that when your father walked you down the alter, he never handed you over to your husband, instead he also got married to him just as you did.

Some women will say they hyphenate just to preserve their father"s name. Won't that same name die when you die? Can you see how stupid that reasoning is?

Another quarter will say their father's name open doors for them, so they have to keep it because the name of the man whom they married can not even ring a bell but not to talk of opening doors.

Proverbs 3:5-6
Trust in the L ORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Such women are trusting in man instead of God. They believe God who said they should submit to their husband cannot direct their path, so they rely on their rich and famous earthly father who can drop dead at any minute. What is wrong with such women is pride and greed. They don't want to seem to know that they are no longer under their father's roof. They want to eat their cake and have it.

If you don't love a man well enough to submit to him and bear his name alone, then marriage is not for you. Stay in your father's house and keep enjoying the benefits of his name. Getting married and disregarding all of these will mean you have disobeyed many persons.

First you have disobeyed God who told you to submit to your husband just as you submit to Him.

Ephesians 5:22
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

Secondly, you have disobeyed your father who symbolically handed you over to your husband as the new authority over you. You have done the wrong thing.

Ephesians 6:1-3
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.

Thirdly, you have failed to submit to your husband. No wonder many married women are not having happiness in their homes. They do everything right without knowing that this one single thing that looks harmless is what is causing God to prevent happiness from reigning in their household.

As for sissy men who allow their wives to keep their father's name, your kind is the reason why society is messed up today. If you look at your marriage carefully, you will see that you lack authority there all because you allowed one foolishness to come into it. You are disobeying God by changing traditions.

Proverbs 22:28 King James Version (KJV)
Remove not the ancient landmark, which thy fathers have set.

alBHAGDADI:


Why can't she travel without your permission? Did she also hyphenated her name without your permission? Which Bible verse says she has to seek your permission before traveling?

If you can't see submission as a reason why a wife should not hyphenate her name when her husband kicks against it, then I don't see how you were able to use those verse to show that pornography is a sin when the Bible doesn't expressly state such.

abbeyfel:
This is the most stupid and baseless topic I've read on nairaland! What rubbish. Just mention where d bible said this specifically...

noturbusiness:

man made tradition, supported by God?
were they not identify by their husbands name?
Sarah wife of Abraham and Sarah Abraham are they not the same thing? Aisha buhari and Aisha wife of buhari is it not same thing?
what is the use of using your husband name? is it not to identify as his wife?
if you see Aisha wife of buhari or Aisha buhari , did both not tell you that Aisha is married to buhari?
or you want us to do it in biblical format?
using Aisha wife of buhari or Aisha buhari in her documents, which of them relegate women the more according to your useless feminist ideas?
why did she not use Sarah daughter of-------------- or why did he not use Abraham husband of Sarah?

AZeD1:

Buhari is the name of the great grandfather of the president.
Mohammed is the name of the president.

When you try to use the Bible to justify stupidity, you'll run into trouble.
If submission was about bearing your husband's name, it would be Aisha Mohammed not Aisha Buhari.

Jesus warned the disciples about people like you and the OP who pretend to be Holy on the outside but rotten on the inside.

ivanalimi:
good luck finding such a Nigerian man that will allow that.of course by the time u are 37 and still single, maybe u will have a rethink of ur girlish fantancies.

asuustrike1:

You even contradict yourself more. You mentioned Sarah the wife of Abraham right? Is Abraham is surname name?. Aisha the wife of Buhari but fail to note that Buhari is his surname. This has nothing to do with feminism but what the bible says OK mr

Chiefjosy:


I know you’re pained. Don’t cry. Smelling LovePeddler. Despite all your olosho business your account still Dey read negative.

BlaqCoffee109:
you have yourself to live with that's enough trauma on it's own...growing up to know the body count of your mother's as she slaves to feed you and your father should make any boy in a man's skin to call any random woman a prostitute...after all what role model had you... your mother smelled while she breast fed you after sleeping with one of her numerous customers, she smelled as she made a once in a day meal for you and your deadbeat father, she still smells to this day...even the memory of it brings that strong repugnant smell to you it's just so strong you are of the impression every woman smells... your situation is pathetic...you need rehab but for now cry me a river su.cker

Chiefjosy:


Olofo whose borehole pussy is as wide as River Niger. Fk to Allen so you go chop today ok

noturbusiness:

Still doesn't change the fact that they identify with their husband name. My aunty bear her own husband name.
The man name, his father name, his grandfather's name are all part of same genealogical records. Part of same family tree.
Now tell me, what reason did this feminist use in getting rid of their husbands name? Is it not to prove their equality with men? Weak men like you who asslick women in the public are the once that end up beating and maltreating their wife in private.
Does the man's name bite? Why refuse to bear with it?

chincuss:


I believe u celebrate christmas? Show me in d bible where it said u should do it to please God

Chiefjosy:

So that’s why you wanna cry?

alBHAGDADI:




Are you both expecting the Bible to expressly spell it out for you? It's the same thing as asking me to show you where the Bible says we shouldn't kill with a gun. You won't find such, but the Bible says "thou shall not murder".

Including your father's name to your husband's name shows lack of submission to the authority your husband has over you. Submit to your husband doesn't mean you can do whatever you like. It simply means submit in all things, name included. Failure to observe submission when it comes to name is the same as disobedience.

noturbusiness:

did you see anywhere in the Bible where women names were use in the genealogical history of the Israelite? the rules about respecting ones husbands name was so strict in the Bible that a certain Naomi and her late son wife had to keep her late husband name so they can raise children from another man to keep the family name and our Lord Jesus came out of that lineage. respecting ones husbands name was so important in the Bible where that if a man was to die childless, his brother is to meet with his wife to help raise children and the children will not be his but must belong to his late brother and they must bear his late brothers name.

asuustrike1:

You even contradict yourself more. You mentioned Sarah the wife of Abraham right? Is Abraham is surname name?. Aisha the wife of Buhari but fail to note that Buhari is his surname. This has nothing to do with feminism but what the bible says OK mr

Colourich:
What about Ngozi Chimamanda Adichie that didn't add that her edo husband's name at all?

Augustap:
Why do some people reason from their anus? Just listen to yourself. All the women you mentioned are celebrities, and they got into the limelight using their maiden name. If they erase the name they were known with just to answer another name, it would cause some sort of setback in their business. Have sense oh, it's very essential.

Op when i get married and add my maiden name to my new name, come to my house and break my head

AZeD1:

Feminist did not get rid of anything.

Reasonable people realized a woman changing her name doesn't stop her from cheating.
Reasonable people realized women changing their name does nothing to the marriage.

It's people like you that think going to church makes someone a Christian.

BlaqCoffee109:
hey ass-wipe...oya put your account here make I wire you N5,000 so you and your miserable mother can have a decent meal today; your mother can't keep on selling her ma.ggot infested pv.ssy to feed a grown up like you...you no dey shame? This N500 wey you dey shout upandan are you sure you are not that guy begging with an alternate moniker for we good Nairalanders to each donate as little as N500 for you? Hungry and dirty vermin

abbeyfel:
Imagine an african basing his life on ancient jewish tradition So why are you not wearing robes like them? Is there anywhere in the bible that said you should fly planes to travel? Why cant you live your life like the jews you so proclaim their laws?? A woman can never be truly happy with men like you. Na una bi- order is order..

Mtweeeeew...

noturbusiness:

reasonableness?
that is why we have many Tonto dike's who thinks a Christian woman is equal to her husband.
that is why we have many broken marriage today.
is your husband name biting you? will your husband name hurt you?
if his name will hurt you why marry him?
is there any other reason for refusing to use your husband name expect copying radical feminist ideas and equating yourself with a man?
the Bible is an anti feminist book.

AZeD1:

I'm not a woman (but common sense is far from you).
The lots of broken home are from people who changed their name to that of the husband.

The woman in Abuja who killed her husband changed her name but going by your logic, she must have been submissive.


The Bible says " a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one." How does a man leave his father when he still bears the father's name?

That verse also says the man is "joined" to his wife not the other way around. When you join something you become a part of that thing so if we want to go by literal interpretation, the man is to drop his name and take that of the woman.


Like I said earlier, when you try and use the Bible to justify stupidity, you'll run into trouble.

bennyann:




If I'm someone who lives by fantasies, I won't be standing with my head so high as at now.

NOTE: I didn't say I will impose surnames on my children. To me, that's an abomination because they are my husband's.

If you are a man, may life bless you with sons of your own so you won't go through the experience of what men without sons go through especially secretly, not to talk of men without children of theirs.


I'm glad to honour my step dad by adding his surname to my father's and everyone in the family is happy. If that is something so upsetting to you, then I can't help you.

Furthermore, I don't look for men but most look for me and all I have to do is choose from those that found me. Do you know what? Many can't resist my qualities, so they wait for me to make up my mind about them. They know I'm more important and of higher worth than the surnames of mine that scare your type.

Again, don't you worry for me, I've chosen one out of those who found me and he isn't bothered about it but it's my decision to stick to what I intended or not. It wouldn't stop me from being me, from loving him, being faithful and being submissive to him because it is the commandment from God. Everywhere I go, I would be known as his wife and he, my husband. Being a man's wife isn't determined by a name but by convenant and the willingness, determination, discipline and conscious effort made to sticking to that oath. NA WIFE NAME MAN WON CHOP ?

I'm not just created to make only one man happy but to also put smiles on the faces of as many people as I can. That's what I live for and that's what makes me fulfilled in life.

I leave with this:

8 And thou shalt speak unto the children of Israel, saying, If a man die, and have no son, then ye shall cause his inheritance to pass unto his daughter.
Numbers 27:8

alBHAGDADI:
Buhari is the name he chooses to stand with. So, his wife must bear that name. If he decides to change it to cow or cattle, then that is the name his wife must bear too.

noturbusiness:

You got this question from the guy who replied me a few minutes ago right?lol
You name, your father's name, your grandpa or great grandpa names are all part of same same genealogical history. Same family tree.
What matters is Sarah identified with her husband name. Most of my friends call me by my father's name.
The two names buhari and Mohammed are his name

asuustrike1:

There is a reason man made tradition exclude first name from surname or family name. The genealogy of names in the bible has no link with what have now.