Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

Unmhnm!! You are not unfortunate, you are just blessed! Give God praise for making you a mother and being able to feed yourself even without any man's input. Try and speak with someone you know that is older and closer to your husband who can give him an elderly advice... And don't forget to keep praying for your husband. How you got married and what led to one thing or the other that makes two of you come together as one is not known in your story.. But I pray for you that the Almighty God will touch your husband and make him a new person and you will enjoy your home to the fullest, Amen.

I don't want to blame you madam but am sure you see this while courting with him because you can't tell us he changed suddenly.

I will suggest you report him to his family or friend.

This is serious. If you haven't talked (I mean real communication) to him about how you feel, please do and do it with wisdom but if you've tried that already, make use of an elderly person you're sure he'll listen to.
That been said, whatever you know you're doing wrong that may have warrant his actions, stop and promise him you'll in ur discussions with him.

communicate with him not talk with him.

you chose to marry him for a reason and he chose you for a reason ,dig deep and remember.

You were buying him expensive cloths, my dear money can't buy love.

Madam focus on yourself and your unborn child, forget about how he's treating you and be strong.

Before now, I use to blame men without thinking. It dawn on me that some men only offer what they can afford but their wives feel they are not giving them enough.
Madam be specific, write list of things you need for you and the new born. Give him the hospital list. I wish you safe delivery

You have already left the marriage mentally, this man is creating a very toxic environment for you, knowing that you’re pregnant. This man is mentally abusing you, and it’s evident that he’s not going to change, as I’m sure you’ve addressed this issue to him many times before, otherwise NL wouldn’t be an option for you. If you don’t know, stress kills people, don’t allow this man to kill you before your time. Give yourself time, right now may not be the best time to leave, especially with two young kids. Get the help of some family and friends, save money, watch his actions, wait until your children are a little older (6 months to a year) and find your way out. Don’t let him know your plans for now just focus on yourself and your kids and tolerate him for peace. You deserve better.

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

op I always say there is a reason behind every action. marriage is not a child's play..the part he victimize you (rape) is a very bad one. he choose you and you choose him at first, why the sudden changes? what I would advice is to sit him down and talk to him..dont start broadcasting the issues between you both to party yet, that's fuel on its own.
Every man have tendencies of cheating but trust me along the line they get tired and go back home..
there are some things you might not be doing right as well. fine you are pregnant and you need his love and affection..spice things up too this is 2018..dont wait for him to always come towards you, shoot your shot too towards him.. do you know what his fantasy are? #men love to explore..

Was it a race against time for you? You didn't love him but you married him, you then proceeded to buy his love?

You need to travel somewhere else to have your baby as that home is toxic for you. Take a vacation during this period to an emotionally safe place. Visit a hospital while there, have them induce the labour since you have reached your EDD already so that Oga will not cry foul of you intentionally abandoning ship. Use the period to evaluate your options and heal your emotions. Pregnancy hormones are not jokes, they can heightened your emotions and feed your paranoia.

One other thing is that puerperal psychosis or postnatal blues are real cos after birth in this your immediate environment...... a push here and a shove there....you may see yourself sticking a knife down someone's back or snuffing the life out of your babies or even yourself.

Spend Christmas somewhere else and cool off. He is cheating already so what's next?

Buying shoes and wears for a man

Using your money to feed a man

Borrowing/ giving your hard earned money to a man


Greatest mistake a wife/ girlfriend can make

It is well

tabithababy:
Buying shoes and wears for a man

Using your money to feed a man

Borrowing/ giving your hard earned money to a man


Greatest mistake a wife/ girlfriend can make

It is well

I just want him to show little appreciate, I don't mind giving him everything I earn

You were buying shoes and wears for him to look good for you... Really? Seriously and he still cheats on your ass. I know you would also fill his empty pocket with cash to be in his good book....

The kind eye I give this so called 'Miss independent' using their hard earned money to buy orgasm...

Anyway, the die is already cast. Baby number2 is on its way... Endure, continue to endure, may the good lord comfort you.

Justwantafriend:

I just want him to show little appreciate, I don't mind giving him everything I earn

.

Stop it biko

And wait, did you say commit suicide because of a man

Is like you haven't seen a man before in your life or what

Justwantafriend:

I just want him to show little appreciate, I don't mind giving him everything I earn

I hope it's not too late before e clear for your eyes sha. Peace!

What I find strange is you allowing yourself to be raped by a promiscuous man. If he's as promiscuous as you claim and he has established himself as your rapist, what are you doing in that house? Are you waiting for a terminal STD before your survival instinct is triggered? Even ordinary mosquitos run when they are threatened. If you catch HIV or syphillis or whatever else is out there, who will take care of your kids?

You already made a major mistake, how many more do you want to make? Do not allow yourself to become completely mentally incapacitated. THINK! USE YOUR HEAD!

You married a man you dont love, meaning you were pressured into getting married, was it cos of age?? i have no ish with you buying things for him but why stay when you're not happy, hope you know depression kills?? or better still, why not concentrate on your business, first child and pregnancy, and pretend as if he doesnt exist, find joy in other things madam, dont let another human being be the source of your happiness, dont give him that upper hand and satisfaction, you will be fine.

Biglittlelois:
You married a man you dont love, meaning you were pressured into getting married, was it cos of age?? i have no ish with you buying things for him but why stay when you're not happy, hope you know depression kills?? or better still, why not concentrate on your business, first child and pregnancy, and pretend as if he doesnt exist, find joy in other things madam, dont let another human being be the source of your happiness, dont give him that upper hand and satisfaction, you will be fine.

She said she’s married to a man that doesn’t love her.

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

What do you want?

It is either:

1. He changes for the better
2. He changes for the worse
3. He remains the same.

Think long and hard about what you want and be prepared to face the consequences of your decisions.

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

The point of the marriage for you was

I can only say ndo and hope it eases your pain .Thr solution dey your hand. Ndo

Why did you marry him in the first place? Your marriage looks like you knew the type of man he was before marriage but wanted the marriage all the same.
You can't say you got pregnant again because he raped you.Don't you know about family planning?You could have gotten on injections or implant.

As it is now,you either choose to stay and endure or dust yourself up and move on.

It’s impossible to have “Abord0” as husband and you expecting him to act like a real man.

You’re the one forcing the relationship and it’s never gonna work.

If you use the same sense you used to post on Nairaland u go don walk out from that your marriage.

You scared right? Cuz u don’t wanna be a baby mama right?

Las las that your husband go born outside. It’s not too late to act normal

Naturally “Abordo” men are sweet talkers and irresponsible

Too him you’re his girl friend and not WIFE so his mind is still on the street hunting for babes.

It’s even possible that your husband go don give another person belle as we speak sef.

See you gonna need a dedicated ANGELI to change that your husband

Not that you don’t kuku have sense to walk away since but you’re covering rubbish and acting like everything is fine to your friends/family

You can’t package husband that’s not responsible

Maybe you should gist us how u guys met!

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.
Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money. The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.
The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth. This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.
I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage. I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not. I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.
Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

Hmmm ... I'd rather have you look at things from another perspective.

Consider some couples who have been having sex for over 20 years and none has become a baby. God has blessed you with what your money might not be able to buy, so choose to see things from that perspective.

As regards your husband, you chose to marry him for some reasons best know to you and i'll advise u to just stick in there. He seems to have the wrong value system and its not only him. So many people do believe you just must have sex with anyone anywhere anytime without considering the psychological effect it would have on their partner if they get to know.

The fact that he does it with anyone no matter how ugly or old, should tell you he is possibly battling with something on the inside of him. Might be low self esteem or something else.

Anyway, I'm super sure you knew him to have the tendency to cheat but as a lady, you guys love "bad boyz" who are bad enough to do anything so, just enjoy the ride but i can assure you, in the next couple of years, his senses that travelled to Antarctica will travel home and he's gonna talk to himself and most likely, come running to you.

So, be patient and do stuffs that you enjoy doing: reading, singing, listening to music or watching movies.

Also, you should have someone you can talk to; kind of a mature counsellor/confidant who you can pour your heart to.

I wish u safe delivery and please, call us to come chop o when u don deliver your set of octoplets (.

This is a joke abeg

Walk away from a toxic relationship. Heaven will not fall

No matter how good of an actor he was before your marriage, u must've seen signs that he doesn't love you, that he's a chronic cheat, that he won't provide, etc. These warning signs always show themselves beforehand. Were u in a rush to get married? If he was like these before the marriage, it's going to take a mega miracle for him to change at this point.

I'm so angry, is marriage compulsory? Does it bring happiness? I hate weak women and you are weak. You have money, you just chose to remain there, did he tie you there? I believe you know what to do, why are you still seeking advice? if you choose to remain a rag to him, keep it up. My advice to you, never allow anyone to use you, stand up for yourself.

This is what happens when society uses marriage as a yardstick for measuring a woman's worth

Ishilove:
This is what happens when society uses marriage as a yardstick for measuring a woman's worth

Society na person name?

Justwantafriend:
Please this is only for mature minds and that's why am putting it in this section because I believe there are lots of married people here.


Though am married but not to a man who love me. I married a man who only see me as baby production machine and the only time he shows little care is when am pregnant. This is my second pregnancy anyway and he has suddenly changed. He only gave me 25,000 to buy baby things and so far so good I have spent more than 100k of my money buying what I think my baby need. I don't bother him for money for upkeep or any other thing because i have business fetching me money.

The only money he drop is feeding money which is like 1000 in a day and I don't complain instead I add my own money and cook any meal we need to eat.



The painful part of these is hes a chronic cheat, he woo any girl (ugly,beautiful,married,young and women older than him) I saw this on his Facebook inbox without him knowing. And despite not giving me anything, he's promising them heaven and earth.

This is a man I do buy expensive shoe and wears for so I can be admiring him instead of admiring other men outside. He has never buy anything for me and since the beginning of this year, I have been the one clothing myself and my first child. He never appreciate that.


I have been given 14th as my EDD (expected day of delivery) and this man don't even ask of my health any more. I do cry myself to sleep every night asking God why he allowed me to marry my enemy, he should have just allow me die as single girl than putting me in bondage.

I swore never to have abotger baby for him after my first child but he always rape me. he doesn't know how to make love at all. He will just open my cloth from behind and shook his dick anytime he's Hot not minding if am enjoying it or not.

I am fed up of life, if not for my first child, I would commit suicide because am just so unfortunate in life.

Am sorry for all the grammatical error. God bless you

Now, I can read this.

You are not ready for marriage.
When you are, you will know.

thorpido:
Why did you marry him in the first place? Your marriage looks like you knew the type of man he was before marriage but wanted the marriage all the same.
You can't say you got pregnant again because he raped you.Don't you know about family planning?You could have gotten on injections or implant.

As it is now,you either choose to stay and endure or dust yourself up and move on.

gbam.this has ended everything I wanted to say.this sums everything I wanted to say up

Ishilove:
This is what happens when society uses marriage as a yardstick for measuring a woman's worth

shebi some clowns were shaming a 30year old lady for being successful and unmarried in one thread here like that

KanwuliaExtra:


Now, I can read this.

You are not ready for marriage.
When you are, you will know.

o girl,I miss you and your posts o.where the hell have you been?

Your daughters nko? Anyway please ooooo pleaseee for your peace no gree them marry naija man o.every time on nl na soso sad sad stories.