I am 36F, husband is 37M

My husband and I have been together for about 14 years. For the most part our marriage has been absolutely wonderful. That changed about 2 years ago.

After trying for baby for years we decided to seek out a fertility clinic. After many tests it was concluded that I was the problem. I don't want to get into it but I'm unable to carry a child. It sent me into a pretty deep depression. My husband was wonderful throughout the entire thing, he gave me the space I needed to grieve and be sad. After about 3 months he brought up getting a surrogate or adoption. I lost it, and during the argument I accused him of blaming me. A couple of days later he suggested I go to therapy. Which I did.

I was diagnosed with depression and put in medication. This severally impacted my libido. It's basically non existent. He eventually sat me down and explained his needs, I told him I understood but I can't give him sex or intimacy right now. It blew up into a huge fight, I accused him of caring more about sex, he said he cares about me but I cannot expect him to go without either. In anger he said "I might as well just find it somewhere else" and in anger I told him to go ahead.

That's where the distance between us got bad. He basically stopped trying and we pretty much stopped talking. I eventually found out that he was having an affair. When I confronted him he didn't deny it but didn't seem remorseful about it either. I told him I wanted him out and he left. A couple of days later I was served with divorce papers.

Well now I'm finding out the woman he left me for, the same one he had the affair with us pregnant. I'm not handling this well. I plan on talking to my therapist about it but I'm in a bad place right now.

I just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Mille:
I came across this post on Reddit and it's triggering.

Mille:
I came across this post on Reddit and it's triggering.

Mille:
I came across this post on Reddit and it's triggering.