ObaKlaz:
But if a man slides into your dm and you ignore, you're not being full of yourself, huh?

You dey mind dem?

skyoboy:
so you are telling us that it is your wife that toast you? Am I the only person that don't like this statement?

she did and it's not unusual .... so get over it

oluwatosink:
a lady will send me message and i will ignore it...
when they are not following me..
and that thing they pain them die..
make them send message make you reply

Guy u no well ooo walahiii

WritePal:


As much as a man must have self-respect, yes, the wooing must be the done by the man - even if the woman initiates it or gives the green light (as people say). To answer your question directly.

THAT'S THE NATURAL ORDER AND BIBLE EXHORTATION.

Despite all the talk about man and woman being equal. Yes, that's true. But we're different and each has their roles. Not just biologically different in a few places, but psychologically, culturally and socially as well.

"He that findeth a wife..."

Not "she that findeth a husband..."

It's the man that finds, seeks, woos etc (whichever choice of words).

"Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife..."

The man takes the lead...

"Men, love your wife as Christ loves the church. And the wife should submit to the husband."

A perfect union is one in which the man focusses on loving and nurturing the woman (again, taking the lead), and the woman being submissive (looking up to the man to take the lead).

Besides from the husband/wife and Christ/the church analogy above, was it the church that wooed Christ or vice versa? Remember, Christ is the husband and the church is the wife.

Do you understand?

Gibberish as usual... Please don't use the bible to suit your view. According to the bible: 'seek and ye shall find'. 'Seek' applies to both man and woman, seek for anything that you want, which includes finding a husband and finding a wife. What you are seeking for could find you and you could also find what you are looking.

WritePal:
This message here is confusing. What is the Dami guy's point? That the bride was being done a favour by being allowed to be a part of the family? He couldn't even mention anywhere he made an effort or wooed the lady.

Even if that wasn't his goal and he's actually a humble guy, this message is poorly communicated, in a way made the girl the seeker and begger and you the sought after, giver and favour doer. SMH

And it's really bad this habit of supposed men of God ignoring honest messages of spiritual assistance by supposed followers. They may think they're too busy, but would Jesus do same? Did he send home the 5000 cos they're bothering him?

only you can see through!! You really really Gerrit.

Ladies do same all the time so what’s the problem?? Nice1 bruh

skyoboy:
so you are telling us that it is your wife that toast you? Am I the only person that don't like this statement?

POC... *Toasted*

Shame to all the asslicking guys commenting on this thread. Na your type their wife dey use their head.

noturbusiness:

But if a woman ignore dm it is ok abi? If a woman talks about how she was ignoring a man dm and he later end up as his husband it is ok abi? Look as the kind of useless asslicking guys we have this days

Dude i wouldnt even fancy that in women. And if u've been licking your ass or the ass of women all these years, it's your fuckin bizness and not mine

SukolaBaraki:
He ignored. But she persisted and got her man. To all women; this is a lesson for you to be bold. If you see a dude you like, don't wait for him to chase you. Walk up to him and start a conversation! We live in unconventional times and these days, its quite normal for bushmeat to pursue the hunter

to me the girl is an 0l0sh0 for persistently following the g0lddigger

SukolaBaraki:
He ignored. But she persisted and got her man. To all women; this is a lesson for you to be bold. If you see a dude you like, don't wait for him to chase you. Walk up to him and start a conversation! We live in unconventional times and these days, its quite normal for bushmeat to pursue the hunter

#word...this is really killing girls sha, u wait until the person u have interest in doesn't make a move and boom u are 32

skyoboy:
so you are telling us that it is your wife that toast you? Am I the only person that don't like this statement?

U are nt alone o

SukolaBaraki:
He ignored. But she persisted and got her man. To all women; this is a lesson for you to be bold. If you see a dude you like, don't wait for him to chase you. Walk up to him and start a conversation! We live in unconventional times and these days, its quite normal for bushmeat to pursue the hunter

They will say no he has to make the move. The reason most women don't ask men out in this part of the world. Isn't because a man has to make the move, they fear 2 things; rejection and being taken advantage of and is because they do it a lot to guys.

enemyofprogress:
Ugliest couple ever liveth




I wish I had money instead of this huge big prick

Your big prick fit fetch you money na, try porn industry.

Only few will see this as pride from the man, but all I see is a lesson to the ladies to sometimes take the initiative and be bold, rather than die is silence to the same ego and pride.

Ladies learn, u have got nothing to lose.

Genovia:
The lady sent him a DM regarding opportunity in the gospel movie industry. It was not belittling in any way. Doesn't show the guy as haughty neither. So how come all of you on the page are talking about what's not?

They lack the ability to comprehend.

Na wa oooo. Is it the various social happenings of the world that have turned the mind of people to something else like this where they misinterpret simple messages?

First of all, according to the message sent by the lady, there is no iota of any wooing related message there.
How does a request to be part of Mount Zion Film Ministries equal wooing?

Secondly there are many of such messages I believe the guy would be receiving everyday. And he ignoring it does not mean arrogance or pride. Do we all respond to all DMs?

Thirdly these are Christians and the message is that you can never know what God is planning for you in the future even when you dont care about a particular happening at present.
The mesaage also means God orders the footsteps of His Children even when we dont get or catch His move at the present. God moves in a mysterious way, what you think does not matter now or important may become important and matters in the future. What you think is small today may become big tomorrow. Its all about God. We are very limited as humans, we dont know the future and God is not offended by that, but the testimony will always be that I never knew this was what God was getting at. Oh! I never knew this was why this happened then some years ago. There are testimonies of people who were not looking the direction of the person who ended up as their spouse. Its always a testimony because it means you did not influence it. Infact you discarded it but because God is in it everything worked out as planned by God at the end.

Thanks

SenorFax:
Anyone wanna slide into my DM too??

You go wait tire, no be only slide, na run into your DM.

skyoboy:
so you are telling us that it is your wife that toast you? Am I the only person that don't like this statement?

And why don't you like it? What's wrong there?

WritePal:


As much as a man must have self-respect, yes, the wooing must be the done by the man - even if the woman initiates it or gives the green light (as people say). To answer your question directly.

THAT'S THE NATURAL ORDER AND BIBLE EXHORTATION.

Despite all the talk about man and woman being equal. Yes, that's true. But we're different and each has their roles. Not just biologically different in a few places, but psychologically, culturally and socially as well.

"He that findeth a wife..."

Not "she that findeth a husband..."

It's the man that finds, seeks, woos etc (whichever choice of words).

"Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife..."

The man takes the lead...

"Men, love your wife as Christ loves the church. And the wife should submit to the husband."

A perfect union is one in which the man focusses on loving and nurturing the woman (again, taking the lead), and the woman being submissive (looking up to the man to take the lead).

Besides from the husband/wife and Christ/the church analogy above, was it the church that wooed Christ or vice versa? Remember, Christ is the husband and the church is the wife.

Do you understand?

not everyone is a Christian

He made it look like the lady was asking him out but the chat was quite different, her interest was in acting and writing


He's really so dumb to bring his private life to social media very immature

Hmmm, to those who think Dami is proud, or Ella weak...or those wondering the aim of his post...well we are all entitled to our opinion. But let me share his full post on instagram here so that we understand why he shared the fb screenshots.

There is always a theme in any post...for me, I see the central theme in the second paragraph...

Timil:
Anyone who knows Dami when he was a student of OBMS will know he's a friendly and humble dude.

Which set are you , 2007??

WritePal:


As much as a man must have self-respect, yes, the wooing must be the done by the man - even if the woman initiates it or gives the green light (as people say). To answer your question directly.

THAT'S THE NATURAL ORDER AND BIBLE EXHORTATION.

Despite all the talk about man and woman being equal. Yes, that's true. But we're different and each has their roles. Not just biologically different in a few places, but psychologically, culturally and socially as well.

"He that findeth a wife..."

Not "she that findeth a husband..."

It's the man that finds, seeks, woos etc (whichever choice of words).

"Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife..."

The man takes the lead...

"Men, love your wife as Christ loves the church. And the wife should submit to the husband."

A perfect union is one in which the man focusses on loving and nurturing the woman (again, taking the lead), and the woman being submissive (looking up to the man to take the lead).

Besides from the husband/wife and Christ/the church analogy above, was it the church that wooed Christ or vice versa? Remember, Christ is the husband and the church is the wife.

Do you understand?

Why did you reverse the submit/love order

That messed up the whole post.

Sadly, many pastors nowadays are doing the same.

Funkeshuga:
He made it look like the lady was asking him out but the chat was quite different, her interest was in acting and writing


He's really so dumb to bring his private life to social media very immature

Lol why are you all like this. There are many social media post that the girls say they messaged first. So how is his different. He was only passing a message . Don't just look at the surface and misinterpret it.

Me i know The dude is very humble with personal experience

WritePal:


As much as a man must have self-respect, yes, the wooing must be the done by the man - even if the woman initiates it or gives the green light (as people say). To answer your question directly.

THAT'S THE NATURAL ORDER AND BIBLE EXHORTATION.

Despite all the talk about man and woman being equal. Yes, that's true. But we're different and each has their roles. Not just biologically different in a few places, but psychologically, culturally and socially as well.

"He that findeth a wife..."

Not "she that findeth a husband..."

It's the man that finds, seeks, woos etc (whichever choice of words).

"Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife..."

The man takes the lead...

"Men, love your wife as Christ loves the church. And the wife should submit to the husband."

A perfect union is one in which the man focusses on loving and nurturing the woman (again, taking the lead), and the woman being submissive (looking up to the man to take the lead).

Besides from the husband/wife and Christ/the church analogy above, was it the church that wooed Christ or vice versa? Remember, Christ is the husband and the church is the wife.

Do you understand?

So if a lady does the wooing or gives the green light and the man refuses to make a proposal what will happen?

Are you saying that when a lady takes the first step by wooing or whatever marriage will just happen straight?

Sir get this right. Whatever a lady does whether she gives a green light or woo or do whatever, its just to get the attention of the guy. A lady's green light or woo is different from that of a guy. It is still the guy that goes after the lady. Though lady giving green light and co is common these days than in the past but still that has not overwritten the role of the man in making a proposal. It is when our ladies get to the point of making a proposal that we know we are finished in this world. By the time our ladies take the bull by the horn and start making proposals rather than doing their normal attention seeking thing then we men are finished. O pari niyen

Slow spoke Bowen half graduate spewing trash this early weds morning...

BizBayo:


Gibberish as usual... Please don't use the bible to suit your view. According to the bible: 'seek and ye shall find'. 'Seek' applies to both man and woman, seek for anything that you want, which includes finding a husband and finding a wife. What you are seeking for could find you and you could also find what you are looking.

Gibberish? Lol. Yet you conveniently quoted a generic "seek and find" verse while I quoted a "He that findeth a wife" that is specific to the subject. The joke is on you

karllemah44:
#word...this is really killing girls sha, u wait until the person u have interest in doesn't make a move and boom u are 32

Ha ha ha...

Is 32 now the new expiry date?

Olumyco:



So if a lady does the wooing or gives the green light and the man refuses to make a proposal what will happen?

Are you saying that when a lady takes the first step by wooing or whatever marriage will just happen straight?

Sir get this right. Whatever a lady does whether she gives a green light or woo or do whatever, its just to get the attention of the guy. A lady's green light or woo is different from that of a guy. It is still the guy that goes after the lady. Though lady giving green light and co is common these days than in the past but still that has not overwritten the role of the man in making a proposal. It is when our ladies get to the point of making a proposal that we know we are finished in this world. By the time our ladies take the bull by the horn and start making proposals rather than doing their normal attention seeking thing then we men are finished. O pari niyen

You're right, we're still saying the same thing. Maybe Dami did all the final wooing, but we still don't know cos of the part of the story he chose to highlight.

You see every story has many parts and you can't tell it all at one sitting or in one message. So which part do you decide to tell or highlight to summarize and save time? The one that is the most important to you and reflects the kind of person you are. And also depending on the message or points you want to drive across to your listeners or readers.

So of all Dami's wedding story, which part was most important to him he wanted to get across from the message above? Answer it yourself. Did he mention his own efforts too to balance the equation? He kind of bigified himself and that smacks of ego.

noturbusiness:

not everyone is a Christian

Well, everyone should be a Christian . Someday you'll find out on your own.

WritePal:


Gibberish? Lol. Yet you conveniently quoted a generic "seek and find" verse while I quoted a "He that findeth a wife" that is specific to the subject. The joke is on you

You still didn't get it, the concept of 'finding'. Let me ask, you are finding a woman, a woman eventually finds you. She turned out to be the kind of woman you would love to marry. Haven't you found a wife?