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BrainnewsRadio:
I feel like CRYING..

Somebody come and pet me.. Please

sorry baby

WetSmoke:
It's so disturbing that the neighbours watched this happen. So no one could stop the man.

They might have done their best .Besides , you should understand that everybody have his / her own challenges .

He should be given an exact treatment

Vtrd:
Why will you use bad examples to justify your single state?

who told u I'm single?

But when they pleaded to him to stop beating his wife, he didn't listen, so he has come to his senses, it's too late for him, the law will definitely take its course.

victorian:
That's it.

May we not end up married to our killers in Jesus name amen.

Any body sent to kill us in the name of marriage, may the fire of the holy ghost expose that demon before any dowry is paid or any introduction is carried out in our names in Jesus name. Amen.
None of us will be destroyed because of marriage. We will enjoy the fruits of our labors in every step we take in Jesus name. Amen.

God be with us, amen.

Big Ameeeeen to that. I love you for this my pretty sister.
You are such a Darling.
God will see us through.
A Nairalander had been pushing. He has even been to my place a couple of times but each time my mom asks I just tell her I am not sure of this guy. His jealousy levels are something else.

thornapple:
Big Ameeeeen to that. I love you for this my pretty sister.
You are such a Darling.
God will see us through.
A Nairalander had been pushing. He has even been to my place a couple of times but each time my mom asks I just tell her I am not sure of this guy. His jealousy levels are something else.

Wow! You are very pretty too

Biko share those colour of eyes gimme , I need am like kilode!

Seriously u can't blame him from being jealous. You are too fineeee!

But humour aside, guys who truly want to settle down with very pretty ladies are always jealous. That's how they are. He's simply insecure. There was one I got engaged to in the past. E remain small, he for handcuff me with his hands joins, as he goes to work or anywhere out side the house. It was that bad. Real bad. Even his business partners were like, pls this meeting is only for the four of them, so why am I here? He will stroke his beard , smile and say OK don't worry, she will stay at the reception. She won't disturb, I promise.
And if I like myself, I better stay at the reception and not move an inch! Or else sorry will be my name, on our way home or to anywherelse. It's was really that bad.


Can u give me an example? Make I read your gist biko

Omudia11:
All you idiots who always blame domestic violence on the woman saying she must've run her mouth, I'm sure y'all can see now that you're all fools.

How can you use that case to judge this one? Can’t yoh see the man is under the influence of alcohol?

Hi Victorian, i got furious earlier on when i spent so much time typing one long epistle this evening in response to you but it got lost due to internet issues. I guess i have to make this one brief.
I enjoyed reading about your guy and seeing that he acted almost exactly like mine makes one believe you the more on the behavior of guys,
I met this guy sometime in January last year and after observing him for a while decided to accept his offer of friendship. He seemed not like any guy i've met before. Very honest, nice, and sincere to a fault,
No sooner had i accepted his offer of friendship, he became possessive.Should he call and here a masculine voice at the background he must ask questions. Should i miss his call he would want to know what i was doing at the time or who i was with.He wouldn't have me associate with any guy anymore specially if he's single. Though he has said he do give me breathing space after he had married me but how can i be sure?
At a point i was beginning to withdraw from him when suddenly he called to announce he was going to visit my parents(how he got my family address i couldn't tell though he had spoken to my mom a few times before but that was with my phone when i called home the few times i hanged out with him). Didn't take his threat for granted as he is someone that doesn't say what he wouldn't do so i left everything i was doing in the city i was to rush back home to my parents. By 12 noon the next day the bell rang and there was him at the door with one big travelling bag. He really came prepared though earlier on i felt he was only coming for a few hours visit.
He spent a whole 10 days with my parents who soon took to him. He was always with my phone. Within the few days of his stay he blocked virtually all my male contacts on Whatsapp and most of those on messenger on the grounds they were sending amorous messages. Should any strange number call he do check it up on truecaller to know who it was. My family so loved him that anytime i picked a quarrel over his attitude they will support him. Few months after his departure i was persuaded to reciprocate his visit which i did in the company of my sister. I don't visit males and that was my second time ever of doing such the first being my Ex.
You may wonder why he became my Ex. The stupid boy graced a thanksgiving service my parents had in 2016. Later that year he lost his mom and i was persuaded to attend his mom's funeral. The boy had visited my home so many times and even passed a night at our place. Though he had invited me to pay him a visit so many times but i declined till the occasion of his mom's funeral service. Little did i know what the vagabond was planning. It beat my imagination however when he attempted RAPING me on the very day of his mom's funeral.
That wasn't the last time i was asked to reciprocate a visit. There was one Reverend father that met me on Facebook that came visiting one day unannounced, bringing so many expensive gifts and even pants. I was asked to reciprocate but i dared not because i knew him for what he truly was. No one knew of the kind of messages he had been sending to me on messenger so they all took him to be one Holier than thou man of God but i knew better yet kept it to myself.
If i hadn't trusted my present guy i would never have contemplated reciprocating his visit and he behaved himself except when i wandered into his bedroom and he seized me to confirm my virginity. I wasn't going to take it as i flared up in rage. If he needed to confirm anything there are hospitals we could go for medical examination rather than his room.
My guy loves me for real but i am yet to accept his proposal. Need time to think things through before settling for matrimony at my age. He talks about me a lot and everywhere he went. Will copy and paste what he wrote on Facebook to his friend few hours ago.


She charms every eyes that beholds her. Young and old, males and females, even kids stare in amazement.
Have never in my life seen so many men chasing one Lady. Bringing gifts and cash like they were under a spell. Even so called holy men of God are not left out.
I thought it was because of her extremely light complexion though very beautiful.
What left me bewildered however was when I soon found out that even whites themselves, Asians and Westerns, stare as well.
To top it all, she has never yielded to any sexual inducement or allowed her many chasers get what they wanted from her (the more reason i'm proud of her). The downside is she may reject the man but accepts his gifts and cash. Well I don't know of any Lady who doesn't love those things.
Hanging out with her earns one more than one's share of respect in celebrity fashion though I am not a celebrity but the attention she draws creates the impression.
That's the much I can say bro.

victorian:
Wow! You are very pretty too

Biko share those colour of eyes gimme , I need am like kilode!

Seriously u can't blame him from being jealous. You are too fineeee!

But humour aside, guys who truly want to settle down with very pretty ladies are always jealous. That's how they are. He's simply insecure. There was one I got engaged to in the past. E remain small, he for handcuff me with his hands joins, as he goes to work or anywhere out side the house. It was that bad. Real bad. Even his business partners were like, pls this meeting is only for the four of them, so why am I here? He will stroke his beard , smile and say OK don't worry, she will stay at the reception. She won't disturb, I promise.
And if I like myself, I better stay at the reception and not move an inch! Or else sorry will be my name, on our way home or to anywherelse. It's was really that bad.


Can u give me an example? Make I read your gist biko

thornapple:
Hi Victorian, i got furious earlier on when i spent so much time typing one long epistle this evening in response to you but it got lost due to internet issues. I guess i have to make this one brief.
I enjoyed reading about your guy and seeing that he acted almost exactly like mine makes one believe you the more on the behavior of guys,
I met this guy sometime in January last year and after observing him for a while decided to accept his offer of friendship. He seemed not like any guy i've met before. Very honest, nice, and sincere to a fault,
No sooner had i accepted his offer of friendship, he became possessive.Should he call and here a masculine voice at the background he must ask questions. Should i miss his call he would want to know what i was doing at the time or who i was with.He wouldn't have me associate with any guy anymore specially if he's single. Though he has said he do give me breathing space after he had married me but how can i be sure?
At a point i was beginning to withdraw from him when suddenly he called to announce he was going to visit my parents(how he got my family address i couldn't tell though he had spoken to my mom a few times before but that was with my phone when i called home the few times i hanged out with him). Didn't take his threat for granted as he is someone that doesn't say what he wouldn't do so i left everything i was doing in the city i was to rush back home to my parents. By 12 noon the next day the bell rang and there was him at the door with one big travelling bag. He really came prepared though earlier on i felt he was only coming for a few hours visit.
He spent a whole 10 days with my parents who soon took to him. He was always with my phone. Within the few days of his stay he blocked virtually all my male contacts on Whatsapp and most of those on messenger on the grounds they were sending amorous messages. Should any strange number call he do check it up on truecaller to know who it was. My family so loved him that anytime i picked a quarrel over his attitude they will support him. Few months after his departure i was persuaded to reciprocate his visit which i did in the company of my sister. I don't visit males and that was my second time ever of doing such the first being my Ex.
You may wonder why he became my Ex. The stupid boy graced a thanksgiving service my parents had in 2016. Later that year he lost his mom and i was persuaded to attend his mom's funeral. The boy had visited my home so many times and even passed a night at our place. Though he had invited me to pay him a visit so many times but i declined till the occasion of his mom's funeral service. Little did i know what the vagabond was planning. It beat my imagination however when he attempted RAPING me on the very day of his mom's funeral.
That wasn't the last time i was asked to reciprocate a visit. There was one Reverend father that met me on Facebook that came visiting one day unannounced, bringing so many expensive gifts and even pants. I was asked to reciprocate but i dared not because i knew him for what he truly was. No one knew of the kind of messages he had been sending to me on messenger so they all took him to be one Holier than thou man of God but i knew better yet kept it to myself.
If i hadn't trusted my present guy i would never have contemplated reciprocating his visit and he behaved himself except when i wandered into his bedroom and he seized me to confirm my virginity. I wasn't going to take it as i flared up in rage. If he needed to confirm anything there are hospitals we could go for medical examination rather than his room.
My guy loves me for real but i am yet to accept his proposal. Need time to think things through before settling for matrimony at my age. He talks about me a lot and everywhere he went. Will copy and paste what he wrote on Facebook to his friend few hours ago.


She charms every eyes that beholds her. Young and old, males and females, even kids stare in amazement.
Have never in my life seen so many men chasing one Lady. Bringing gifts and cash like they were under a spell. Even so called holy men of God are not left out.
I thought it was because of her extremely light complexion though very beautiful.
What left me bewildered however was when I soon found out that even whites themselves, Asians and Westerns, stare as well.
To top it all, she has never yielded to any sexual inducement or allowed her many chasers get what they wanted from her (the more reason i'm proud of her). The downside is she may reject the man but accepts his gifts and cash. Well I don't know of any Lady who doesn't love those things.
Hanging out with her earns one more than one's share of respect in celebrity fashion though I am not a celebrity but the attention she draws creates the impression.
That's the much I can say bro.

Wow

Some guys are just out of this world. Can u imagine? Eeyah, abeg Biko, think about it carefully.
Why be so obsessed with someone they claim they love. I hate and I hate obbssessive guys. They can be very annoying
And most tend to rape. Have struggled tirelessly with guys who wanted to date and I was like OK, lemme give this guy a chance and get to know him. But lo and behold na rape dey their fuckkked up brains. I don't visit a guy in his house, except if we are dating and it won't be immediately sef. Cos it always leads to sex.
Please don't visit your guy yet.
He loves you no doubt, I like what he wrote on his wall, smiles but he MUST learn to trust your judgement in everything u do.

He has to learn and understand u are not a kid, who doesnt know her left from her right.
He has to understand even if people, children, pastors stare at you in admiration and want to be close to you? You have the Brains and wisdom not to be friends with everybody. U have the foresight to choose good people around u, cos u are not island and no man is an island. We all need certain loyal friends around us and u can choose wisely, even if some of your friends are guys. You know when to draw the line with these guys.

He should understand and accept he cannot cage you by monitoring your calls and messages. And if he tries such, he only ends up making u run away from him.

He has to simply relax, do his own part in creating trust between both of u. Than watching every step u take.

Ladies like you and I are tough nuts to crack, that's the truth but guys don't know . They feel with sweet words and gifts they can get down below with us, but that's not true.
I understand your fears. My dear it will get worse in marriage if your guy does not relax and trust u henceforth. He has to learn to relax.

This guy am with, saw me chatting and was like I should hand over my phone and he wants to check all my messages. I was like? What for? I don't check your messages. Have never touched your phone before. So what's the problem?
He said so am chatting with guys. I sighed and I said look be rest assured, I will never double date unless we breakup.
He looked at me, and he said then stop using makeup. I was like what? Are u crazy? I can't do without makeup when going out. Am sorry I can't. At home if u don't want makeup, no wahala. I will be as natural as u want but when am going to work I MUST make up. We argued for like 4hours on this makeup thing . Then last last he said, Vicky if I catch you with a guy, it won't be easy that day o, have said my own. I won't take it lightly with u o. I kissed his lips and said don't worry, I don't cheat. Am all yours, relax. He shrugged his shoulders and said he has warned me already. I smiled and repeat we are good, don't worry.


For me, am not worried about his threats, because I don't cheat. And since I started dating, the guys coming my way are always obsessive. So am used to it already as long as I don't cheat, shebi he will be fine abi? No wahala then. And any incriminating chats, I delete immediately.. Lol


So my dear lovely pretty thornapple, relax. But explain things to him that he's scaring you away from him with his attitude. Communicate frequently with him. Hopefully with time he will loosen up.

Sorry dear

Do you not understand that domestic violence against your wife in any way,
form and manner is bad with or without the influence of alcohol?

Resener12:
How can you use that case to judge this one? Can’t yoh see the man is under the influence of alcohol?

I'll just pretend like I didn't see this.

flamingREED:
former miss world Kenya is going to die by hanging.
She stabbed her so called boyfriend 22 times. 22 good times.
Somebody's child?
22 good times!
And the worst thing is that she enjoyed it.
22 GOOD TIMES!!

Omudia11:
Do you not understand that domestic violence against your wife in any way,
form and manner is bad with or without the influence of alcohol?

When someone is high, how would he know what he’s doing is wrong!

So should the wife then get high too and possibly poison him with the excuse that she was high. My point is that our society should frown on these things entirely.

Resener12:
When someone is high, how would he know what he’s doing is wrong!

Omudia11:
So should the wife then get high too and possibly poison him with the excuse that she was high. My point is that our society should frown on these things entirely.

Frown at which of the things ?

victorian:
Wow

Some guys are just out of this world. Can u imagine? Eeyah, abeg Biko, think about it carefully.
Why be so obsessed with someone they claim they love. I hate and I hate obbssessive guys. They can be very annoying
And most tend to rape. Have struggled tirelessly with guys who wanted to date and I was like OK, lemme give this guy a chance and get to know him. But lo and behold na rape dey their fuckkked up brains. I don't visit a guy in his house, except if we are dating and it won't be immediately sef. Cos it always leads to sex.
Please don't visit your guy yet.
He loves you no doubt, I like what he wrote on his wall, smiles but he MUST learn to trust your judgement in everything u do.

He has to learn and understand u are not a kid, who doesnt know her left from her right.
He has to understand even if people, children, pastors stare at you in admiration and want to be close to you? You have the Brains and wisdom not to be friends with everybody. U have the foresight to choose good people around u, cos u are not island and no man is an island. We all need certain loyal friends around us and u can choose wisely, even if some of your friends are guys. You know when to draw the line with these guys.

He should understand and accept he cannot cage you by monitoring your calls and messages. And if he tries such, he only ends up making u run away from him.

He has to simply relax, do his own part in creating trust between both of u. Than watching every step u take.

Ladies like you and I are tough nuts to crack, that's the truth but guys don't know . They feel with sweet words and gifts they can get down below with us, but that's not true.
I understand your fears. My dear it will get worse in marriage if your guy does not relax and trust u henceforth. He has to learn to relax.

This guy am with, saw me chatting and was like I should hand over my phone and he wants to check all my messages. I was like? What for? I don't check your messages. Have never touched your phone before. So what's the problem?
He said so am chatting with guys. I sighed and I said look be rest assured, I will never double date unless we breakup.
He looked at me, and he said then stop using makeup. I was like what? Are u crazy? I can't do without makeup when going out. Am sorry I can't. At home if u don't want makeup, no wahala. I will be as natural as u want but when am going to work I MUST make up. We argued for like 4hours on this makeup thing . Then last last he said, Vicky if I catch you with a guy, it won't be easy that day o, have said my own. I won't take it lightly with u o. I kissed his lips and said don't worry, I don't cheat. Am all yours, relax. He shrugged his shoulders and said he has warned me already. I smiled and repeat we are good, don't worry.


For me, am not worried about his threats, because I don't cheat. And since I started dating, the guys coming my way are always obsessive. So am used to it already as long as I don't cheat, shebi he will be fine abi? No wahala then. And any incriminating chats, I delete immediately.. Lol


So my dear lovely pretty thornapple, relax. But explain things to him that he's scaring you away from him with his attitude. Communicate frequently with him. Hopefully with time he will loosen up.

Sorry dear

So even your guy also tried checking up your phone too? Lol. Then the make-up thing almost made me think we may be discussing same guy. Hahahahaha.
I had exactly the same problem with my guy concerning make ups. He was in love with a Lady called Ifeoma he uses as a yardstick to judge me and tries conforming me to be like her. Ifeoma according to him doesn't make up or shave her eyebrows, she doesn't flirt, she doesn't accept gifts from guys, she is born again, she keeps a simple and modest hairstyle and doesn't waste money on hairdo. Ifeoma is everything!.
If I hadn't come to love him as I now do, I would've just pushed him back to Ifeoma. Lol.
Honestly if I had gotten your warning earlier against visiting him I probably wouldn't have. However, to be honest and fair to him, he is not like any other man I have known before. He stands out. After that initial failed move to verify my virginity he had never tried anything even close again. He felt he should because he is a licensed medical practitioner but I would hear none of that.....at least not in his room.
Have been visiting and spending quality time with him and he never attempted to take advantage of me.
Problem is that he cages me. Even if he steps out he locks me inside. He says most of the guys in his neighborhood are bachelors and womanizers so he has to protect his own(me). Apart from caging, another issue I am having with him is his monitoring of my social media activities. My phone broke earlier this year and he has since bought me two brand new smart phones I appreciated but I am still not cool with the monitoring. Some guys have money to waste so I allow them waste it on me. I have tried changing a lot of things but I can't be like Ifeoma in everything. I accept gifts and cash and it's not my fault. If I ignore a toaster he feels I am being rude so let them waste that money they feel they have.
Apart from the above mentioned issues, my guy has been such a darling and my love for him keeps growing daily.
He loves and cherishes me like there is no tomorrow. There is nothing I had desired he couldn't provide but those were used to test him. I'm from a well off family so materialism cant be my criteria to jump into marriage. Let the mutual love and respect keep growing for now perhaps till it gets to the point of greater trust as you've stated, in my sense of judgment by which time I expect him to be relaxed.
I have been handling womanizers for years before I met him and have never messed up for one day. Why would he now think his interferences would make any difference?.