Hi everyone, I have been a Nairalander for over 9 Years now and I have gained immensely from this forum,thank you so much for making nairaland fun.

I am a man in my early 20's, I am into cinematography and video editing, I all also a staff of a global Christian missionary University with over a thousand locations around the world, God has been good to me this year,even though there are times of lows, but God redeemed me,now here is my the challenge I am facing right now.

I am a diploma holder in mass communication,I offer my cinematography services to a church as a part time staff in Lagos, the job requires me to be present during the 2 church service times in a week and 1 extra day for not more than 2 hours, translating to me being present 3 times in a week, the pay,which is 40k,to me, is averagely okay for the job as #500 takes me to the church and back,from where I live,additionally,I also freelance and work for various other media houses, I have been offered employment by some but I am not into this everyday Job thing where I will be insulted, so I prefer to be my own boss,I stay alone on the Island in a relatively good area, I also work with a big missionary organization with over 1000 locations, which affords me to staff in any of their locations of my choice around the world, last year,I felt it in my spirit to go to the German location of the organization and work there,by the way,the work is completely voluntary,no pay is offered,you just have to give 5 hours of your time to the work and can take as much day off as you want, I applied and did every process required of me and I have been sent an invite,fastfoward to late 2018,I began to feel like staying back in Nigeria and starting up a business of my own,I am thinking about poultry business for now,then I met this cacausian lady I really do love,and she does love me too,we see a future together and most tines,share jokes about how we will live after marriage, she was offered an admission in another state after waiting for years for it but she is reluctant to take it as it will take her far away from me even tho I have promised to visit her often,she is bent on staying back in Lagos.

Now,meeting this lady has also influenced the urge to stay back and start up something in Nigeria, but I also really feel like the grass will be greener over there as I have been told by friends over there, that IT and any technical experience pays well there as there are opportunities.

Please help me,should I stay back or should I leave?

I am scheduled to leave in June 2019,please ignore any typo or errors.

stay back and Open a church

first fruit

sowed seed


offerings...


tithes

choir mistress


Omo plenty Awoof dey that biz aswear
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OP omo this your monicker can send bubu back to Daura in 2019 o!

Anyway back to topic, you need to provide more information before you could get better advise.

Firstly, are you going to get a work visa based on your job with this company where you volunteer? If so, does that limit you to working for them and not another organization? If so, will they provide accommodation for you and sponsor you to continue your education? Will the work permit eventually give you a path to permanent residence? You need to answer these to understand your future out there

Secondly, let’s say you stay back here, do you have money saved to start your business? Do you have business management training? Do you know why over 80% of businesses fail within the first 5 years? Have you done poultry business with any organization before to get basic knowledge of the industry? And if you haven’t saved money, how are you going to raise money to start, realistically?

Thirdly, I’ll advise you not to base your plans on a woman you’re planning to marry probably after 5 years when she graduates. If you were planning to get married soon, that’s a different story, but plan your future to become successful by the time she graduates so that if you guys don’t end up together, you won’t feel cheated. You can still do either A or B above while being in love, just keep the communication consistent, but don’t put your whole life in it while you figure out what you want to do with your lives. Also, advise her to go to school and not wait for you, you both need each other to achieve life’s goals while planning to be together in the future.

Lastly, you need to further your education as well, get a bachelors degree and possibly a masters too. Consider the option between A (traveling abroad) and B (staying back) which would help you achieve this goal. You may also need to expand your skill set beyond graphics design and video editing, maybe into computer science, IT or engineering.

In summary, think critically about your options. Staying or leaving depends on which option fulfills your future goals, provide more answers to the questions I asked about your options, and use them to make a more informed decision

Best of luck

Leave, Caucasian dog is loyal than blabla bla.

The thing people don't understand is that you need a good education and a reasonable certificate to get a job abroad.
You can't just enter and make millions in minutes.
I will make it here in Nigeria before moving out.
Hopefully around 2028.

Lol

Oga leave naija oo

Either

Please what's the dilemma here now


Staying back to do freelance and get meager pay or going where the system works and your progress can be projected and measured?

I am not even factoring the Caucasian into my analysis. Sorry about that


Anyways, it's too early into the new year to let your village people have the first laugh

You are not in any dilemma instead you are in lust

Something you have been dreaming and processing for quite some time, one tolo tolo leg Caucasian wan con scatter everything.. Oya
Kneel down, raise your hand and also close your eyes.

Travelling alone gives you an exposure to life, add more to your cv, allow you to have a normal plan and better future ( Nigeria plans are abnormal)

Travel biko. If the lady is meant for you, she will wait

Real talk. Only you can advise yourself bro.
It's not always greener over there. If what you make here is ok for you, continue and keep searching for better opportunities.
The best place to make it is in Nigeria.
I made same decision last year and I'm living fine

lol


anyone got office space in Lag




got a deal for you

Early 20, member of nairaland for over 9 years.

Did you join nairaland at 11?

Moreover it is very difficult to understand what your problem really is. Please write with more clarity.

If you have the opportunity to leave the shitt hole do so and leave.

Nigeria/Africa has nothing good to offer you.

Apart from the poor standard of living, the lifestyle of the people, the mentality of the people, the religious beliefs of the people, everything about African countries especially Nigeria is zero.

Leave now if you have the chance so you can make a better life for yourself and your kids, no matter what give it your best shot and LEAVE.

NAIJIRIA TI BAJE KODE LE DA MO, IWO NI KO JI MASUN KO YA DANU KURO NI NAIJIRIA.

na woman wan influence your decision? a Nigerian woman? year one student? good luck....

JoseVanMoyes:
stay back and Open a church

With a Bible and current Advance Oxford Dictionary.

My brother

Thats whats up ooo! Leave or try something !! Orr u die here having nothing!

Oga, leave this country!

That spirit telling you to stay back doesn't like you, carry the lady and leave, if she refuses, leave her and leave.

Guy, if you see better country, go abeg.

the cacausian lady is at work

Whichever way you choose I wish you all the best

JoseVanMoyes:
stay back and Open a church

Satan66:
The thing people don't understand is that you need a good education and a reasonable certificate to get a job abroad.
You can't just enter and make millions in minutes.
I will make it here in Nigeria before moving out.
Hopefully around 2028.

what people don't really understand is 'Your education don't REALLY matter abroad, what matter is what you have to offer mainly'

Plz bro leave this shit country. You can come for the lady anytime