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Any property she acquires before marriage is technically hers and such can remain in her name. In marriage, whatever anybody buys, remains in our collective names. If we don't buy in our collective name (Mr & Mrs.), then we buy in our children's name(s).
If you want to acquire properties in your own name and surname, please do before marriage.

I'm not preparing for a doom. If 19 out of 20 homes break on a per second basis, my views still won't change. No room for selfishness, self-centeredness, arrogance and evil plots from either side.

Nothing wrong at all. In fact, I encourage women to have properties in their names.

I wonder if some people really have brain matter.

What is wrong with women owning some shett around this bxtch?? Heh? Heh
Don't men buy shett without telling no one?

Its called insurance.

Women need their own shett too just in case the bxtch in men come out.

Its 2019.

Can y'all stop thinking like uncivilized coons

Gaddamnit.

I like this type of topic, because it exposes the hypocrisy in many women. It's okay to buy and own properties and other investments in your name as a lady and a free human (married or not). But why do that without your husbands knowledge.
Someone talked about writing a will and putting documents in banks vault. As if it's not a human that will write the Will or serve as the banker to help you safeguard the documents.
Have you ever wondered why there are so many abandoned monies in the banks? So many unclaimed real estates (especially landed properties) ?
If you are married, why all the secrets that you are keeping from your spouse? But, clearly you will wish the man to tell you about his properties and other investments? You will even want to lay claim on those when the man dies.
Men stay woke. Because many women (not all) are naturally selfish beings. I know of man answering husband to such selfish woman even as I am typing.

PearlStreet:
That woman has the fear of God.

For some, you'll go urinate in the toilet after fighting her only to come back and meet your load outside.

Crazy

Acidosis:
Any property she acquires before marriage is technically hers and such can remain in her name. In marriage, whatever anybody buys, remains in our collective names. If we don't buy in our collective name (Mr & Mrs.), then we buy in our children's name(s).
If you want to acquire properties in your own name and surname, please do before marriage.

I'm not preparing for a doom. If 19 out of 20 homes break on a per second basis, my views still won't change. No room for selfishness, self-centeredness, arrogance and evil plots from either side.

Most Naija women are just a definition of your last sentence; selfish, self-centeredness, arrogant etc.

Let him be aware and approved of it

It will be wicked of you to be buying properties while your husband is struggling to pay house rent and children school fees

onyibor84:
I pay the bride price and pay for the wedding with my money, feed you with my money, take care of your other needs with my money but your own money is for "private " property...
I have no problem if you're using your own money to buy whatever you want, but that must be after spending equally with me in the house and balancing me all I spent on marrying you.
...We should focus on enjoying life and being happy than all these skewed type of feminism where the girls want equality rather than equity.

Welcome to the selfish world of women thought processes.

The question should be rephrased as such: "As a woman, would you be happy if your husband bought some properties in his name and his name only with or without informing you?". Apart from the man being the head of the family and being responsible for the overall direction of the family, it is an absolute insult to even think of such whether you are a man or woman. I'm of the firm believe that no one should have properties solely in their name. If you don't love your spouse enough to have his or her name on it, then put it in the names of the children. If no children, no need for properties....Case closed!

Silly topic

abbey621:
The question should be rephrased as such: "As a woman, would you be happy if your husband bought some properties in his name and his name only with or without informing you?". Apart from the man being the head of the family and being responsible for the overall direction of the family, it is an absolute insult to even think of such whether you are a man or woman. I'm of the firm believe that no one should have properties solely in their name. If you don't love your spouse enough to have his or her name on it, then put it in the names of the children. If no children, no need for properties....Case closed!

Some people own properties for business purpose. You see estates owned and named after certain individuals even for posterity, so children are not the only reason why people invest in property acquisition

Philpham:
You are nothing but a greedy thief, I pity your wife. She don enter one chance.

I won't join issue with you , I only made my opinion which am entitled to ,you don't have to like it. you have your opinion which I will not question. but calling me a greedy thief is the hight of it, you have never meet me ,I only wrote my view.

Mizwisdom:
Some people own properties for business purpose. You see estates owned and named after certain individuals even for posterity, so children are not the only reason why people invest in property acquisition

The topic is about married couples not individuals without attachments.

Shut up. You seeing her as irresponsible is inconsequential and won't remove a strand of hair from her head.

She is very wise and you are the exact opposite.

Chivasex:
You're the most irresponsible women I've ever known. Your like will want your husband to add your name on his properties but you are advocating buying only in your name and hiding documents. Tufiakwa

Your husband married you. He owns you and everything thereof.

Things bought before marriage remains the sole property of the wife unless she decides to involve her husband. However, after marriage, if the couple are sincere, transparent and honest to each other, then it is wrong for her or even the husband to buy such things as property exclusively in their own name. But because there is no honesty in the world today everyone is being extra careful not to be a fool. That’s why people have pre-nuptials.

as long as she informed me first and buys or build it in our family name no wahala, but if she does without my acknowledgement she is selling it n keeping the money to her self... allowing that without u acknowledgment means a lot of things, it means u guys are not a unit and it also means u have no control over ur family don't be surprised when she wakes up one morning pick a fight with u over what is not healthy for the family and any slight threat she tells u she is breaking up and leaving, women funny creature

You egoistic maniacs won't make good husbands.

Jiang:
You will not make a good wife, You seem like the kind that really rub it in especially if you are richer than ur hubby

It may be sending wrong signals like she's expecting to have a problem with the husband and looking for alternatives but as a learned entity, I think I would be cool with it if she pre informs me.

Who knows tomorrow?

the woman should not buy a land or house in her name. it should be in both their names if there is love in the home. we are talking about a home. in case the man dies, for example, the woman still have her property and the othr way around. i think that one of the main reason a married woman may want to buy a priperty in her name will be to avoid the husband family wahala in case the man is no more.
A marriage will most likely experience serious turmoil if a woman acquires property on her own. for me thats not a marriage except the man okays it for their reasons.

that said, some marriages are in perculiar situations. as long as the man is put in the know and plan from conception, both of them can agree to use only the womans name.
the normal thing to do is for both man and woman to use their names afterall they have sworn to live together for better or for worse.

keepingmum:
Women please buy as many properties as you canin your SOLE name. , buy in your full names please. MRS titi Abubakar not Mr and Mrs Abubakar.....they may be a second Mrs Abubakar in the future, like Jennifer is also Mrs Abubakar.

Whether the man you are married to supports, agrees or is even aware is irrelevant. Buy it ohhhhh.
I have been married for almost 15years to a truly wonderful man who is also VERY imperfect in many ways!!!

Dont buy in your brothers name cos you areonly enriching your brother and his own immediate family.

I have seen and will see more to validate my views. I have assets in my name alone and infact, only tell hubby after purchasing. But i also have a will that indicates all my estate to my children.


Dont listen to any inlaw, pastor or Imam that says otherwise rather speak with wives who have atleast a decade of marriage lessons in them.

If you are married to an egoistic dream killer that believes you acquiring properties will make his blokos shrink, please buy without his knowledge, take your documents and keep in the bank for storage!! Keep buying and preserving the docs in the banks vault.
Dont allow him pressure you to add his name to your property, if he so desperately wants a propertt he should buy

I never knew you re this senseless. Who forced you to be married? Why not divorce him stay single & own your properties? Only fools listen to your advice because I know you re a bitter person living a bitter life

Annwrites:
If a husband can buy a property in his name so can a wife.

She doesn't even need his consent or support except she feels like it.

A woman will misbehave because she has the tendency to not because of some properties she acquired.

If a husband would not let his wife know of any step he wishes to take he doesn't even deserve to know about his wife business.

Did you say she doesnt need his consent? Im afraid some ladies are better single than married because they dont need the man.

King44:
as long as she informed me first and buys or build it in our family name no wahala, but if she does without my acknowledgement she is selling it n keeping the money to her self... allowing that without u acknowledgment means a lot of things, it means u guys are not a unit and it also means u have no control over ur family don't be surprised when she wakes up one morning pick a fight with u over what is not healthy for the family and any slight threat she tells u she is breaking up and leaving, women funny creature

we should be making such decisions together. in she wnats to build them the decision to move have to be for us both to make. also , if i want to build she will be in the know. we both own the house. anything less than that is a skewed marriage

kevyngbash:
i should be making such decisions. in he wnats to build them the decision to move have to be forbis both to make. also , if i want to build she will be in the know. we both own the house. anything less than that is a skewed marriage

gbam!!!

Did your wife force you to marry her?
What is with balancing you your money? Can you balance her for deforming her body after bearing your kids? Or for all the times she spent looking after your kids, preparing your meals, doing laundry etc?

A woman buying property is not at all. It is only bad in Nigeria where men see themselves as demigods. Before you attack feminism which is a very valid struggle), Know that some of us are from tribes where women have always owned property. Yes, in my tribe family lands are shared among all children irrespective of their gender and if a female is older than a son, it means she gets to take a larger portion of land. Did feminism cause that too.

onyibor84:
I pay the bride price and pay for the wedding with my money, feed you with my money, take care of your other needs with my money but your own money is for "private " property...
I have no problem if you're using your own money to buy whatever you want, but that must be after spending equally with me in the house and balancing me all I spent on marrying you.
...We should focus on enjoying life and being happy than all these skewed type of feminism where the girls want equality rather than equity.

Egoistic fvck.

dingbang:
All Landed properties must be Bought by me! I'll decide if I want to buy it in my name, in hers, both of ours, or whatever name that suits me.

Omudia11:
Did your wife force you to marry her?
What is with balancing you your money? Can you balance her for deforming her body after bearing your kids? Or for all the times she spent looking after your kids, preparing your meals, doing laundry etc?

A woman buying property is not at all. It is only bad in Nigeria where men see themselves as demigods. Before you attack feminism which is a very valid struggle), Know that some of us are from tribes where women have always owned property. Yes, in my tribe family lands are shared among all children irrespective of their gender and if a female is older than a son, it means she gets to take a larger portion of land. Did feminism cause that too.

point of correction our kids taink u

Annwrites:
If a husband can buy a property in his name so can a wife.

She doesn't even need his consent or support except she feels like it.

A woman will misbehave because she has the tendency to not because of some properties she acquired.

If a husband would not let his wife know of any step he wishes to take he doesn't even deserve to know about his wife business.

See as u day talk like say na u marry d man or na d man marry u ,

These are some of the reasons marriage don't last, becus ladies like u now believe man and woman was created the same day and equal right is attached to both of them

There Is Nothing Wrong.But The Husband Has To Know First.A Good Marriage Is Built On Trust & Honesty

ct2:
the first thing I told my wife when we got married was that I don't like surprise

if you buy a house to surprise me ,be ready to live inside alone

but if you inform me no problem

am in different, as long as she uses my name as her surname

the Bible said and the 2 shall become 1

Exactly, ,,some women don use their hand scatter their marriage becus they day fine equality,

So what portion of the Bible prohibits women from owning properties? Y'all ate too fragile nowadays, blaming everything on feminism. In my tribe and culture,
women have always been allowed to own properties. Whenever land is being shared, it must be shared with respect to age, not gender, and female child that is older than a male gets to have a bigger portion than a male and she is free to build anytime. Infact in my culture, it is a taboo for a woman to be buried in her husband's place. She must be buried in her own town, that's why lots of women buy land and build.

MahatmaGhandi:
Well I don't know about non Christian women but I know that Christ will not be pleased with it, it just like a church that is working for an inheritance that is outside its union with Christ. Why agree to be joined to a man and then seek to own properties on your own? Would it not have been better to stay single and own all the properties that you want in "your own name", marriage is not a must for everyone. What is the motive for wanting to own a property separate from your husband? If as a man your wife's security is not guaranteed in you then you are worse than an infidel and should not be married for you are suppose to be a cover for you wife. However, if you have provided all you can but due to her materialistic nature and her interaction with feminists decides that she wants to have her own properties then you must assume that she has motives that might not necessarily be in the intrest of your home (This is from a Christian perspective). If the couple is not a Christian couple then I have nothing to say to them because we are not operating on the same principles.

Let everybody be guided by the principles of the faith that they practice.