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Pls I want to know some of the reasons y guys change after they have gotten down with ladies....

Onyi22:
Pls I want to know some of the reasons y guys change after they have gotten down with ladies....

1.When we thought the place would be narrow and eventually met lagos- Ibadan express way
2. When we thought the place would be honey pot but we met smelling crayfish

Pulsenaija:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2MaSTabj5Po

Lol, nice one.

Onyi22:
Pls I want to know some of the reasons y guys change after they have gotten down with ladies....

You can only know if you're willing to. I'll tell you a few...

I'll start this way... when u hear there's free food in a party or so, have u ever gone to d market to pack rice or fish for free? Something is free because someone somewhere is paying or has paid for it..my point is every fun, everything enjoyed is running at a cost (physical or emotional)and it takes understanding to know the limit of expending that cost. When a guy toast n toast and u keep forming hard-to-get, 2 things comes to his mind...

He either looses hope on seeing u as a wife material cus the extreme hard-to-get game has portrayed you as trouble or insensitive and so decides, at least all my spendings shouldnt go in vain, even if it is just once, lemme have a compensation for the stress I've gone thru. It takes courage to keep trying over and over again on things dat do not yield the desired result. Incessant toasting is fun for the girl but stress for the guy and tiring.. everything runs at a cost.. Or.. He reasons it as ..with d way this girl is building a tall wall around her sexual life, something sweeter than honey must be in there, though her hard-to-get is tiring but I won't give up till I get there. And once he reaches there, he feels like ..so is this all what d hard-to-get is about? Its not worth d stress abeg. While you're beginning to enjoy the date, he's already tired and bored.

My point is extreme actions breed the opposite extreme feelings. Only few girls know how to moderate things, having a wonderful personality matters a lot. Girls who know the limit of hard-to-get do better in keeping a man for long n forever. There are girls who have had sex in first date and do not regret it. For every action, there's a purpose. It is believed the purpose of hard-to-get is to show that youre not cheap so once the reason for ur action has been understood by the guy, then its time to stop so as to keep things at moderate flow. But many girls have a problem doing that, they wont stop in due time and extremes tires out the guy. Since you're not perfect, why go extreme?

Another way to view it is that not all guys ridicule a girl after sleeping with her, sometimes its a reverse psychic... The girl believes she's done you a favour by allowing u to sleep with her and therefore unconsciously becomes possessive of you, wants to start knowing all ur whereabouts and all ur privacy cus she's given sex. While these are happening, the guy might still be maintaining his cool as he was before the sex but the girl is too possessive to see that, then it becomes a matter of he doesn't care anymore whereas it's a matter of I'm being too possessive cus I feel my unclothedness shd not be given freely just like that.

Other reasons include the personality of the girl. Only few girls want to hear d truth abt themselves. Girls love being lied to. To tell a girl that you realize shes not neat after having sex or intimate time with her is like saying ..oh so because you've slept with me now I'm now smelling. Of course d best thing is to avoid her until she's courageous enough to admit the truth.. She might be parasitically demanding, her dishonor and disrespect, mode of dressing, public disposition, ungroomable attitude, unteachable, dirty, lies etc

And a wise guy knows you never tell a girl it's over and why its over, they'd take it paranoid and its even worse if she's not educated..those are same words they're good in saying at the slightest misunderstanding. The best is to fade out from her in silence.

Oluromantic:
You can only know if you're willing to. I'll tell you a few...

I'll start this way... when u hear there's free food in a party or so, have u ever gone to d market to pack rice or fish for free? Something is free because someone somewhere is paying or has paid for it..my point is every fun, everything enjoyed is running at a cost (physical or emotional)and it takes understanding to know the limit of expending that cost. When a guy toast n toast and u keep forming hard-to-get, 2 things comes to his mind...

He either looses hope on seeing u as a wife material cus the extreme hard-to-get game has portrayed you as trouble or insensitive and so decides, at least all my spendings shouldnt go in vain, even if it is just once, lemme have a compensation for stress I've gone thru. It takes courage to keep trying over and over again on things dat do not yield the desired result. Incessant toasting is fun for the girl but stress for the guy and tiring.. everything runs at a cost.. Or.. He reasons it as ..with d way this girl is building a tall wall around her sexual life, something sweeter than honey must be in there, though her hard-to-get is tiring but I won't give up till I get there. And once he reaches there, he feels like ..so is this all what d hard-to-get is about? Its not worth d stress abeg. While you're beginning to enjoy the date, he's already tired and bored.

My point is extreme actions breed the opposite extreme feelings. Only few girls know how to moderate things, having a wonderful personality matters a lot. Girls who know the limit of hard-to-get do better in keeping a man for long. There are girls who have had sex in first date and do not regret it. For every action, there's a purpose. Once the reason for ur action has been understood, its time to stop so as to keep things at moderate flow. Extremes tires out the recipients

Another way to view it is that not all guys ridicule a girl after sleeping with her, sometimes its a reverse psychic... The girl believes she's done you a favour by allowing u to sleep with her and therefore unconsciously becomes possessive of you, wants to start knowing all ur whereabouts and all ur privacy cus she's given sex. While these are happening, the guy might still be maintaining his cool as he was before the sex but the girl is too possessive to see that, then it becomes a matter of he doesn't care anymore whereas it's a matter of I'm being too possessive cus I feel my unclothedness shd not be given free just like that.

Other reasons include the personality of the girl. Only few girls want to hear d truth abt themselves. Girls love being lied to. To tell a girl that you realize shes not neat after having sex or intimate time with her is like saying ..oh so because you've slept with me now I'm now smelling. Of course d best thing is to avoid her quietly until she's courageous enough to admit the truth.. She might be parasitically demanding, her dishonor and disrespect, mode of dressing, public disposition, ungroomable attitude, unteachable, dirty, lies etc

And a wise guy knows you never tell a girl it's over and why its over, they'd take it paranoid and its even worse if she's not educated..those are same words they're good in saying at the slightest misunderstanding. The best is to fade out in silence.

You really gat the time to type all these just to prove few points to her

froshroy:
You really gat the time to type all these just to prove few points to her

Abi now. As I'm still awake doing nothing! They need it sometimes

una don derail topic