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This man can be technically saying the truth. But guys depends on the ladies maturity determine summisiveness. Before u get into marriage their re things u are supposed to know. Ladies summisiveness determines how the man present himself

SageMK:
Some people have been doomed from birth to roam the internet without sense & MTN are not helping matters.

This is utter nonsense. I completely disagree with him.

Yes, money tends to make people want to be in control, but a good wife will never disrespect her husband or her in-laws simply because she earns more cash than him!

Men should encourage their wives to earn more.
They shouldn't limit her or cage her.

And if her income becomes bigger —
You should be proud of her.

There's no individuality in marriage.
It's for the benefits of all involve.
And It doesn't make you less of a man or a husband.

You're just speaking grammar, you never jam. You never shee shontin. This is Nigeria of indomie Generation Slay Mamas and Slay Queens Age Ooo. Continue deceiving thyself.

This one brain ehhh. E get am for coca cola free drink promo

OlawaleBammie:
Am just lookin at some unmarried, too Young to knw life situation here comentin and a dey laff

All dis boys dat are saying d op is sayin trash are just sayin it to impress ladies in d house, ladies beware... these are d real egoistic fellows as experience would hav it.

Success is not limited to being in comand of money alone pls knw dat...

Pls i need someone to answer dis question(s)...

1) How many men can handle it when people dont knw where u re but ur wife is bein made d chairperson is every occasions u heard of

2) How many men can handle it wen u only reciv three calls in a day but in a moment with u ur wife recivs like 47 calls not to talk of missed calls a dey laf a swear...

3) How many men can handle it wen people knock on ur door many tyms and as d man in d house, u go out to meet dos persons and dey Hannover an invitation envelopes to giv to ur wife but u hardly reciv one in a while

Chaiiiiiiii....pls save d coment for now, wait til u marry na, dat is wen u wil feel d heat ur self

4) Can u manage it wen ur wife keep gettin appointment upon appointment to d extent dat she hadly hav tym for children not to talk of husband??

5) Can u manage it wen u feel like havin a day with ur wife and u hav both agreed and sudenly she got a mesage dat shes urgently needed in Abuja whereas u re in lagos, and dis wil b repetin itself cus u can tell me a successful women sit in front of tv at home.

it's a question of upbringing, not a question of "too young to know life'' thing; because some of us disagreeing with him are NOT kids.


It's It's matter of UPBRINGING
if one was raised the way I was raised (in a liberal home free from excessive misogynist views and all that)
you would have no problem with your wife doing very well.

it also depends on how SHE was raised as well.
if she was raised in a typical Nigerian house, then her success might be problematic to the husband, as she may act up.

but if she was raised right in a liberal home, that sees nothing special in a woman doing very well, then it will mean nothing to her too


A woman who will not respect her man would not respect him, where poorer or richer than him
she may pretend to (which I had found out that a lot of Nigerian men like) but when there is no more incentive to pretend, then the true color will show

I have seen this again and again

Bridget95:
why talking this shiiit.How many states in Nigeria have allowed a woman to be a sitting governor by chance like the person of Dame Virgi Etiaba except in Igboland,infact Igboland is the only single zone that have produced the highest number of women representatives in the national assembly in both chambers such as uche Ekwunife,Nkechi wogu and so many.Igboland have produced one of the highest number of woman in our nation's history that have made footprint in the development of Nigeria such as Ngozi okonjo,Oby Ezekwesili,Dora Akunyili,Onyeka onwenu etc.women are respected and recognized in Igboland and are allowed to hold positions.

Pls always verify facts.

We know in our heart of hearts that what the guy you quoted said is right
We are Igbos, we know what goes on, why are you pretending that you don't know?

MajorJeffery:
Bush man's mentality but again, sad experience must have made him think the way he did.
Some ladies, as soon as they receive their first paychecks as Registered Nurses, they start to disrespect everyone including their husbands forgetting that their husbands have been receiving same paychecks for long time without causing drama at homes.

it's a matter of upbringing and where the woman is from

when I tell our igbo uncles to stop marrying from the gutter, they will not hear, it's the same thing again and again.

A woman who has always been well to do will not disrespect you BECAUSE of financial /success standing

She could disrespect you for other reasons tho depending

these men should STOP marrying from the gutter and trying to prop these ungrateful women up, they will not hear

megareal:
Terrible generalization. Just as we have men who become Lord and master the moment they make it, so we also have some women who may not handle success well.

From my observations of women who changed after becoming rich, their husbands maltreated them psychologically and emotionally when they were housewives. Some abused them verbally and often ill treated them when they needed some cash. So they tend to not care anymore when they make money, a situation the man may now term as non submissiveness and disrespect.

this happens to be the case quite often

soul95:
Seriously a lot of Nigerians(both male and female) have a terribly poor mindset towards basically everything, from social interactions, to business transactions to relationships.

An average Nigerian man will consider money as his only card to play in a relationship and reason thus:
Make money, Impress one kain girl, Have sex with her or wife her.

An average Nigerian female will reason thus
I Have sex with him, that's all I have to do, I am automatically entitled to everything about the man. That's why they go to stupid extremes to get no dey only to waste it impressing women rather than doing something concete with it in their lives

Some even carry this mindset into marriage, the only thing they are bringing into the marriage is their bodies, that is why you will hear don't give a man sex so he will not get tired of you and be forced to wife you, like you are dangling sex like a carrot, any man in my own opinion who marries for the sole purpose of being legally able to have sex with a woman is not worth his salt.

Yeye people

But thanks to the ones that have sense

you have spoken well

Jman06:
Nigerian women love to be controlled with money!

which brings us back to my point on UPBRINGING

how they were raised to see the world

funshint:
A man is not meant to be submissive to his wife lest he becomes a fool. A man is meant to love his wife. Besides why marry someone you don't respect and can't be submissive to in the first place?!

What do you need her submission for?

Thane:
Igbo's are very known for their freedom and space for women. You are supposed to be an undergraduate and educated, ask questions and observe before disgracing yourself in public. About female SUG president, its very funny to hear this because many SUG presidents in the east are females during my time. ABSU, Oko Poly, ANSU, MOUA.....

Igbos are known for what?

Lmao this is so so funny

Akuruoulo:
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u really dealt with this Easter.
nice meal dear.
where are u from ?

Yea I did

Lemme pamper myself jare.

I'm from delta state, the warri part.

And u?

jackals:
They actually aboundd everywhere tho. I dont give a damn about most of them

I don't give a damn too but as a Warri babe, we don't just look on while haters victimize us. We fight back immediately, and head for the jugular. That's how most of us are wired .

It's well jare.

Ugosample:
which brings us back to my point on UPBRINGING

how they were raised to see the world

I think some of them do it out of selfishness. After spending many years in school, a lady should know better not to hold on to some backward orientation gotten from home.

victorian:
Yea I did
Lemme pamper myself jare.
I'm from delta state, the warri part.
And u?

. Am an Owerri man

victorian:
Yea I did
Lemme pamper myself jare.
I'm from delta state, the warri part.
And u?

. Am an Owerri man

Akuruoulo:
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Am an Owerri man

OK cool


What's your whatsapp number, let's chat

I have said it several times that love does not exist in Nigeria. The average Nigerian (whether male/female) place their worth based on how much money they have. The average Nigerian man believes that he cannot be "man of the house" if his wife is richer than him and the average Nigerian woman assesses a man's worth based on how much he earns. This is why I have advocated that people should marry based on their social class like the Fulanis do since we place our value as human beings on how much we make. A rich woman should marry someone in her class vice versa a poor guy should marry someone on his wavelength.

victorian:
OK cool

What's your whatsapp number, let's chat

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07089236009

victorian:
OK cool

What's your whatsapp number, let's chat

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07089236009

Akuruoulo:
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07089236009

Take her ladyship to Ibari-ogwa. Remember to gist us later

JoannaSedley:
Take her ladyship to Ibari-ogwa. Remember to gist us later

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Thank u very much
am not gonna gist just on person up
at least gather ur group then u remind me of the gisting later.

Akuruoulo:
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07089236009

Got it

Will send u a message in the next 4mins

Thanks

Macnnoli4:
It is unfortunate some igbo people have this retrogressive mentality. Even the university in the east, I am schooling in, a good number of males are against having a female SUG President, busy citing that a man is the head of a home.

My brother, the same way Nigerian Men will forbid a female president, forgetting that women are oftentimes better managers.

Not just Igbo people, but African retrogressive mentality.

AntiBrutus:
None in your family?

Unnecessarily disrespectful!

victorian:
No need getting angry at him.
He's saying the mind of most Nigerian men.

A typical Nigerian men detest marrying successful women ,it's a well known fact people rarely talk about.

Imagine a suitor telling me last two weeks, I should promise to give him all my earnings in my business. Because he said earlier I won't be submissive in marriage with the way he sees me in his spirit and giving him everything means I will be a submissive wife.

I laughed so hard.

I was like really? Don't worry I will even hand over my company to you, so u and your spirit will become satisfied I'm submissive enough. Don't worry that will be your wedding gift from me to you.

Ole! Come carry o! Because you were there when I was suffering and building my career up. Na you and your papa train me for school and gimme capital to start afterwards. Nonsense!
Smhhhhhh

Aye ma ni ka o!

I'm three weeks pregnant for you!

Preshy561:
Just pray to marry a good woman.
There are many homes today being funded by the wife and the family is still very peaceful.

The woman's action can be justified if the man is lazy and not attempting to go further to enhance his career and help in building the family.
No woman will be happy seeing her husband spending her money on bars and women, cos, that's what hopeless men, who has lost sight and hope in their future do.
So, most times, these actions by their husbands breeds hate or scornful attitude from the wife.

Honestly, many Nigerian home today are being run by the women, but you won't hear their voice cos they still want to protect the image of the husband.

At the end, pray for a good woman who will help build the family and who you can fall back on when the chips are down.
Whether she's richer than you or not.

I agree with most of what you've said my dear but there are still a whole lot of truth in the original post, Women (not all) tend to lose respect and value for their men when they become rich.
Also making irrational decisions there by bruising the men's egos.

Guest007:
Because you came to earth to compete

is it your competition?

Icekeeng:
I'm three weeks pregnant for you!

Really?

Are u a male, female or transgendered?

victorian:
I don't give a damn too but as a Warri babe, we don't just look on while haters victimize us. We fight back immediately, and head for the jugular. That's how most of us are wired .

It's well jare.

Can u quit typing and stop show casing your stupidity, just went through the thread, and I am quite astonished at how daft u can be,plus u can lie for Africa, these your so called friends supporting u should Berra talk some sense into u.

MariaLavina:
Not the typical Nigerian Man.

ok. good morning

Macnnoli4:
It is unfortunate some igbo people have this retrogressive mentality. Even the university in the east, I am schooling in, a good number of males are against having a female SUG President, busy citing that a man is the head of a home.

it's sickening to be honest...