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My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by romanusgab(op): 12:34pm On May 09, 2019
So I guess I don't really know where to start, i have been in a serious relationship with my fiance for over 3 years, we have been engaged for a year. All has been great and we never have any problems or issues until recently. So as most people are on social media we see post, likes etc from our friends, I noticed about 6 months ago he was progressively following those half naked sexual Instagram pages, and constantly liking the photos on them, it really bothered me, I stayed quite for a bit trying to get my own head over my personal insecurities but it was making me so volatile so I spoke to him about it, I got upset and explained that it made me feel inadequate and that I wasnt enough for him if he felt the need to constantly look at other girls.
He apologised and unfollowed them straight away. I felt bad for feeling like I made him do it but then whenever he was on his phone on instagram I didn't feel paranoid so it helped us.

He has been quite secretive with his phone over the last few weeks and never really goes on Instagram much when I'm sat with him, or if he does he scrolls a little then comes off. He hasn't followed them again but when I'm not with him hes on it constantly. so I had a weird feeling about it, I didnt say anything and just carried on as normal, I was over at the weekend and in the morning we sit and have breakfast, watch some TV and check some things on our phones, we were both on Instagram and it was all fine, talking about people we mutually follow, then we went to get ready, I showered first and started getting ready, he left his phone on the bed which is a rare thing, I never snoop ever, but I had a gut feeling and I had to check something, I was right... I went on his Instagram and while I was in the shower he had searched several of the sexual half naked girls he use to follow. They were the most recent too so while I was naked in the shower he was looking at other girls.... I am positive he searches them regularly aswell and I now have the same inadequate feeling as before but now have no idea what to do!

I get stuck in my own head wondering what he might think and if he looks at those photos or those girls and then thinks about them when we are intimate, does he get turned on by them then has sex with me because of them.... I just dont understand why he needs to?

He always says he loves me the way I am but this makes me question it, I will never have a body like theirs, before anyone thinks no I did not let myself go in the relationship either, I still make effort with the way I look and still shave my legs etc basically everyday, I'm 5ft 3inch and 62kgs so I'm not overweight, I have curves but they generally seem to be in alright places.

I just keep getting scared he is going to cheat on me with someone he prefers the look of, and I get paranoid around women he isfriends with. I need some perspective on this, am I over reacting or should I be worried?
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by essenceplus: 12:42pm On May 09, 2019
You try. So you're hurting yourself to make someone else responsible for your actions. Well done. Go and learn what wholeness means. Your attitude is your responsibility madam. If you can attain it you'll hold the control button of your life and make him put more effort. Which he obviously isn't. Chalo
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by essenceplus: 12:42pm On May 09, 2019
You try. So you're hurting yourself to make someone else responsible for your actions. Well done. Go and learn what wholeness means. Your attitude is your responsibility madam. If you can attain it you'll hold the control button of your life and make him put more effort. Which he obviously isn't. Chalo..
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Nobody: 12:52pm On May 09, 2019
Maybe you should start watching half ñaked men too. There's a very high probability that he thinks those women in his head while having sex with you.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by LuciferAkbar: 12:53pm On May 09, 2019
romanusgab:
I'm 5ft 3inch and 62kgs so I'm not overweight, I have curves but they generally seem to be in alright places.
Bros, what this means is that your boyfriend might be bi-sexual.

Yes, he loves fvcking your ass but seems he's also interested in women.
A way to solve this might be to talk to him about bringing home a girl he wants so you guys can have a threeesome.

That way, he can fulfill his sexual fantasies and possibly return to his old self.

I don't think he's going to leave you for a girl.
Maybe he thinks he should experience what pussy feels like for a change.




*spits angry

Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Davash222(m): 12:55pm On May 09, 2019
If You’re not comfortable with him checking other girls unclad photos on Instagram, then learn to send him your nude photos on Instagram every 2 hours. Maybe he’s obsessed with Instagram unclad photos.

You girls worry over nothing.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Nobody: 12:59pm On May 09, 2019
Foundation is already shaky.


Work on your insecurity.


Ur background, how u look, lack of confidence, molested, abused? Etc. Which among them triggers this.

When u have worked on u, u can now start talking of tying the knot with another.

I don't want to go into what's happening between u and ur guy.

U need to overcome u first.

Cos u will get paranoid for nothing in the future over some insignificant things and depression will set in. U know the rest.
Thanks and goodluck
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Nobody: 1:04pm On May 09, 2019
LuciferAkbar:
Bros, what this means is that your boyfriend might be bi-sexual.

Yes, he loves fvcking your ass but seems he's also interested in women.
A way to solve this might be to talk to him about bringing home a girl he wants so you guys can have a threeesome.

That way, he can fulfill his sexual fantasies and possibly return to his old self.

I don't think he's going to leave you for a girl.
Maybe he thinks he should experience what pussy feels like for a change.




*spits angry
Are u okay?
Why do u call her a bro?

What won't I see here cheesy
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by shortgun(m): 1:19pm On May 09, 2019
LuciferAkbar:
Bros, what this means is that your boyfriend might be bi-sexual.

Yes, he loves fvcking your ass but seems he's also interested in women.
A way to solve this might be to talk to him about bringing home a girl he wants so you guys can have a threeesome.

That way, he can fulfill his sexual fantasies and possibly return to his old self.

I don't think he's going to leave you for a girl.
Maybe he thinks he should experience what pussy feels like for a change.

Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by shortgun(m): 1:23pm On May 09, 2019
Op take a chill bill and calm down.
Its nothing....we guys like to look and stare it doesn't mean a thing.
You should only be concerned if it becomes an obsession.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Gloriagee(f): 1:24pm On May 09, 2019
so are u male or female
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Gloriagee(f): 1:33pm On May 09, 2019
and u don't think it's become an obsession?

Dear op - this is what a future with this guy looks like. Consistent exposure to unclad images will most likely result in treating women as sexual objects, insecurity on the part of the partner and inablity to enjoy sex as u will be wondering if u meet up, masturbation, premature ejaculation. Don't let anyone invalidate how u feel. For Chrissakes u havent birthed a baby yet. What happens if u have a CS or saggy boobs in future.


shortgun:
Op take a chill bill and calm down.
Its nothing....we guys like to look and stare it doesn't mean a thing.
You should only be concerned if it becomes an obsession.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Richy4(m):
Everything here looks so suspicious... Your gender for instance...

What will it cost u to say that u are a female.. or better still ignore it...

I don't just understand.. maybe I'm used to he who comes to equity must come with a clean hand and a neat underwear just incase....

I like your story but looking at that puts me off..it doesn't seem real to me...
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Nobody: 1:40pm On May 09, 2019
Op's threads don't seem authentic.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by DonEd(m): 2:24pm On May 09, 2019
This same transgendered has another thread saying heshe is in a long distance relationship with a guy that called heher a gossipper.

What a huge display of self deceit.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Biglittlelois(f): 3:28pm On May 09, 2019
Are you a male or a femalehuh
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Raalsalghul: 4:52am On May 10, 2019
LuciferAkbar:
Bros, what this means is that your boyfriend might be bi-sexual.

Yes, he loves fvcking your ass but seems he's also interested in women.
A way to solve this might be to talk to him about bringing home a girl he wants so you guys can have a threeesome.

That way, he can fulfill his sexual fantasies and possibly return to his old self.

I don't think he's going to leave you for a girl.
Maybe he thinks he should experience what pussy feels like for a change.




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Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by UjuJoan2: 7:03am On May 10, 2019
romanusgab:
So I guess I don't really know where to start, i have been in a serious relationship with my fiance for over 3 years, we have been engaged for a year. All has been great and we never have any problems or issues until recently. So as most people are on social media we see post, likes etc from our friends, I noticed about 6 months ago he was progressively following those half naked sexual Instagram pages, and constantly liking the photos on them, it really bothered me, I stayed quite for a bit trying to get my own head over my personal insecurities but it was making me so volatile so I spoke to him about it, I got upset and explained that it made me feel inadequate and that I wasnt enough for him if he felt the need to constantly look at other girls.
He apologised and unfollowed them straight away. I felt bad for feeling like I made him do it but then whenever he was on his phone on instagram I didn't feel paranoid so it helped us.

He has been quite secretive with his phone over the last few weeks and never really goes on Instagram much when I'm sat with him, or if he does he scrolls a little then comes off. He hasn't followed them again but when I'm not with him hes on it constantly. so I had a weird feeling about it, I didnt say anything and just carried on as normal, I was over at the weekend and in the morning we sit and have breakfast, watch some TV and check some things on our phones, we were both on Instagram and it was all fine, talking about people we mutually follow, then we went to get ready, I showered first and started getting ready, he left his phone on the bed which is a rare thing, I never snoop ever, but I had a gut feeling and I had to check something, I was right... I went on his Instagram and while I was in the shower he had searched several of the sexual half naked girls he use to follow. They were the most recent too so while I was naked in the shower he was looking at other girls.... I am positive he searches them regularly aswell and I now have the same inadequate feeling as before but now have no idea what to do!

I get stuck in my own head wondering what he might think and if he looks at those photos or those girls and then thinks about them when we are intimate, does he get turned on by them then has sex with me because of them.... I just dont understand why he needs to?

He always says he loves me the way I am but this makes me question it, I will never have a body like theirs, before anyone thinks no I did not let myself go in the relationship either, I still make effort with the way I look and still shave my legs etc basically everyday, I'm 5ft 3inch and 62kgs so I'm not overweight, I have curves but they generally seem to be in alright places.

I just keep getting scared he is going to cheat on me with someone he prefers the look of, and I get paranoid around women he isfriends with. I need some perspective on this, am I over reacting or should I be worried?
Please is looking a crime too? undecided

Men are visual being, they will definitely look. Just ignore him. I know it can be irrigating and a huge turn off to know that when he gets turned on by what he sees, he comes to ease off with you. But that's just generally how men are wired.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by ogawisdom(m): 8:24am On May 10, 2019
romanusgab:
So I guess I don't really know where to start, i have been in a serious relationship with my fiance for over 3 years, we have been engaged for a year. All has been great and we never have any problems or issues until recently. So as most people are on social media we see post, likes etc from our friends, I noticed about 6 months ago he was progressively following those half naked sexual Instagram pages, and constantly liking the photos on them, it really bothered me, I stayed quite for a bit trying to get my own head over my personal insecurities but it was making me so volatile so I spoke to him about it, I got upset and explained that it made me feel inadequate and that I wasnt enough for him if he felt the need to constantly look at other girls.
He apologised and unfollowed them straight away. I felt bad for feeling like I made him do it but then whenever he was on his phone on instagram I didn't feel paranoid so it helped us.

He has been quite secretive with his phone over the last few weeks and never really goes on Instagram much when I'm sat with him, or if he does he scrolls a little then comes off. He hasn't followed them again but when I'm not with him hes on it constantly. so I had a weird feeling about it, I didnt say anything and just carried on as normal, I was over at the weekend and in the morning we sit and have breakfast, watch some TV and check some things on our phones, we were both on Instagram and it was all fine, talking about people we mutually follow, then we went to get ready, I showered first and started getting ready, he left his phone on the bed which is a rare thing, I never snoop ever, but I had a gut feeling and I had to check something, I was right... I went on his Instagram and while I was in the shower he had searched several of the sexual half naked girls he use to follow. They were the most recent too so while I was naked in the shower he was looking at other girls.... I am positive he searches them regularly aswell and I now have the same inadequate feeling as before but now have no idea what to do!

I get stuck in my own head wondering what he might think and if he looks at those photos or those girls and then thinks about them when we are intimate, does he get turned on by them then has sex with me because of them.... I just dont understand why he needs to?

He always says he loves me the way I am but this makes me question it, I will never have a body like theirs, before anyone thinks no I did not let myself go in the relationship either, I still make effort with the way I look and still shave my legs etc basically everyday, I'm 5ft 3inch and 62kgs so I'm not overweight, I have curves but they generally seem to be in alright places.

I just keep getting scared he is going to cheat on me with someone he prefers the look of, and I get paranoid around women he isfriends with. I need some perspective on this, am I over reacting or should I be worried?
Lol
No woman body is completely adequate for a man. It takes serious self control n discipline to be with one woman. Your hubby is just fantasizing about this bodies and may be using them to turn himself on b4 fucking u. It doesn't mean u are not attractive to him but u know DT want u can have always seems better than what you have already cool

He may never cheat but will fantasize on all nude girls on internet just for fun. Don't worry about that it's very common among men even married one. U should be worried only if there is evidence that he is cheating.

Stop checking his phone ooo before u see isi mbe one day
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Davash222(m): 8:27am On May 10, 2019
Gloriagee:
and u don't think it's become an obsession?

Dear op - this is what a future with this guy looks like. Consistent exposure to unclad images will most likely result in treating women as sexual objects, insecurity on the part of the partner and inablity to enjoy sex as u will be wondering if u meet up, masturbation, premature ejaculation. Don't let anyone invalidate how u feel. For Chrissakes u havent birthed a baby yet. What happens if u have a CS or saggy boobs in future.
Now take a chill pilll and ask yourself, who post the unclad photos onlinehuh Women!! Who are their market targethuh Men!!

As a market woman, how would you feel, you opened your shop and no one patronizes you?? How would you feel, you upload unclad photos and no views??

There’s no negative result coming from watching unclad photos online. We only view and pass, nothing else.
Re: My Fiance Searches Sexual Instagram While I Am In The Shower by Gloriagee(f): 9:39am On May 10, 2019
Keep deluding yourself....

Davash222:
Now take a chill pilll and ask yourself, who post the unclad photos onlinehuh Women!! Who are their market targethuh Men!!

As a market woman, how would you feel, you opened your shop and no one patronizes you?? How would you feel, you upload unclad photos and no views??

There’s no negative result coming from watching unclad photos online. We only view and pass, nothing else.
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