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Op, if the woman were to be single, would you act the same?

Not really easy to resist such you tried

luminouz:
Ehya...another woman who can't be objective...how long did the kiss last? 10 secs or less?? 1 hour or 2?? Did he initiate it?? What do you say about a married woman who was so brazen to ask a guy for sex?? I guess that one no be cheater oooo... The way u ladies dey oppose OP eh....I dey fear una o...be logical naaaaaa

there is justification for this act bro,there no way you will blend it that it will fine,unless the OP was drugged, but but seeing the kissing coming, and you didn't act fast to stop it,menh,cheating is in op's blood. As for the woman, she will meet her Waterloo.

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanged saliva with another woman.

Modified

Thanks hopefullandlord for seeing my point of view and clearing the air.

all the same he still tried,most men can't resist such.

JejeNaija:
I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

guy I don't care what any lady says here but u be man,most men will forge ahead with the whole thing and another thing thank God for d spirit of your wife who brought u back to reality.lol

nwanyiugbo122:
there is justification for this act bro,there no way you will blend it that it will fine,unless the OP was drugged, but but seeing the kissing coming, and you didn't act fast to stop it,menh,cheating is in op's blood. As for the woman, she will meet her Waterloo.

Why are you over stressing the kiss issue dear? In very civilized world kissing is absolutely nothing and means nothing. Kiss can neither build a beautiful and lasting relationship neither can it destroy it. The point of not cheating on your partner is a mental issue and that has to do with having an intention to cheat which can always be avoided. No sane married man can say they don't see or meet women who appeal more to them than their wife but it only take discipline for a man to avoid such lustful desire and put his wife above all others.
My dear, if you have a husband that will be able to overcome these sort of temptation when it comes his way, you better be grateful to God.

sassysure:
U make no sense.
That guy has already cheated with this lady in his mind.
That was why he followed her like sheep to her hotel.
Why did he ran away?
So he can now think properly?
He only thought with his head for only few minutes and that was when he decided to leave the hotel.
The rest was him thinking with his dick.
It's as simple as that.

That the lady seduced him isn't any of our concern but he was too weak to act except when it has gone far after leading the lady.
He is lucky. Next time he might even lose his head for following a random lady to her hotel

Since you are too emotional to converse without insults, u dont deserve any intelligent reply from me
Bye Felicia

https://www.nairaland.com/5173944/why-it-difficult-get-date great read, you guys should take a look

JejeNaija:
I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

nwanyiugbo122:
there is justification for this act bro,there no way you will blend it that it will fine,unless the OP was drugged, but but seeing the kissing coming, and you didn't act fast to stop it,menh,cheating is in op's blood. As for the woman, she will meet her Waterloo.

Cheating is in OP's blood yet he rebuffed an adultress's advances Do you know what you are saying

Yet you didn't castigate the woman but to say she go meet her waterloo?? U see why I think y'all emotional beings now This is not a MAN VS WOMAN scenario... Its just fact...too bad y'all too skewered to think straight...

JejeNaija:
Hey kissing is not cheating. It happened very fast and I had to nicely stop it to avoid anything further. I can't tell my wife such a thing because she might see it in a different way. However I resisted it 100%

Kissing is cheating and the sooner you recognized that, the better for you. Yes, you didn't have the mind to sleep with her, but I'm sure you deliberately returned her kiss because you wanted to know what it felt like.

The reason you didn't sleep with her is not due to self control but fear of the unknown. Your fear is greater. Someone with self control would have resisted the kissing from the onset.

JejeNaija:
I want to share this story so that we guys should know that we can always resist temptation if we decide to because just few minutes or hours of fun can change your life and your home for good.

I took a bus from Lagos going to Asaba for a business and the bus with filled with really matured guys and ladies. As we proceeded in the smooth journey there was a beautiful and very good looking lady who sat beside me. There were two guys who were just gisting anyhow and showing themselves so everyone already knew they were car dealers. If they see some certain cars zoom pass they started talking of the time they went to deliver such car to heaven and earth (you know how Igbo guys boast sha lol).
Well at a point I think a lady called one of them on phone and that's how gist changed to sex and stuffs like that, before you know everybody inside the bus joined the gist both guys and ladies. I didn't say anything at first so I was just laughing at some things they said and I observed the Lady beside me would always laugh and either hit me or fall on my body somehow but I just overlooked it all and tried to enjoy the gist and the trip. At a point she started asking why am not saying anything or if I don't have a girlfriend or wife and then I told her I was married and she also told me she was married and it didn't mean I can't join the gist. I just told her I prefer to listen and laugh than talk so she kept smiling.
Getting to Ore we came down and because normally I don't like eating when travelling just to avoid stories of running stomach and begging driver to stop on the road, I decided to just buy a little suya and had a drink. At this point trust me I had no single thought of that lady in my head and from no where this lady just approached me and sat with me while we were waiting for the bus to load and move. We then started talking normally and got to properly introduce ourselves. Being that she stated she was married and I too had made it clear to her I felt a little comfortable that this won't go pass normal talk and as soon as we get to Asaba its all history. She was into wedding planning and wedding accessories so she said she was going to deliver a wedding gown to her client in Asaba. I also told her I was going to inspect a property for my client who wanted to buy and I will be staying for just two days. She said she will be leaving back to Lagos the next day. Then she asked where I will be staying and I told her I was given direction to a hotel I could lodge and she told me she was lodging in a better hotel which is also affordable and I can lodge there too being that she always lodge there when she goes to Asaba she knows the place is very safe and comfortable. Having the whole she is a married woman idea in my head, I accepted to lodge in the hotel since now she has made me understand that the place is okay compared to the one I was given which I didn't know what to expect when I get there.

Long story short, we took off from ore and almost through out the rest of the journey the lady and I never had any conversion again as she spent most part of the remaining journey sleeping. Arriving at Asaba we got a taxi that took us both to the hotel and I think her room had already been settled so it was just me. She then told them to show me the rooms first and she followed us to see the room and it was nice so I said I was taking it for two nights.
Now knowing she knows my room I became very uncomfortable but I just had to be a little smart and vigilant in case of anything. I later went out to inspect the property and being that am a very adventurous person I decided to go somewhere to chill out after I finished the inspection. I stayed there till a little late like 10pm and headed back to the hotel. Getting to the hotel I decided to relax somewhere at the pool bar till about 12am or so before heading to my room to sleep so all these while I had not seen this lady but my mind was telling me its possible she came to check on me but I was around. I slept very very well oooo until about 6am I heard a knock on my door ooo. Like if my mind just knew it must be this lady I quickly wore a short and singlet then opened the door and behold it was this lady. Thinking that she even just came to say goodbye because she was meant to leave that day according to her, I was shocked she wasn't dressed like who was ready to travel. So I asked her and she said she had to stay an extra day and in my mind I was like yawa don gas be this. I did all I could to be calm and mature about everything so she showed me pictures of her husband and two beautiful kids. No this is why I feel sorry for young ladies who go to marry old men just for money. This lady is so damn pretty and fresh it I had know doubt this lady is loaded so when I saw her pictures I already knew her husband being a very wealthy man would definitely be spoiling her with money. I then asked her why she didn't use a flight instead and she said she is not even sure if the Asaba airport is even functioning lol... That one really cracked me up and just like play she just said she felt like getting a little naughty and do something crazy. I was like how do you mean and the next thing this lady just grabbed me and started kissing me. At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss when the spirit of my wife came all the way from Lagos to give me one dirty slap. As in instantly my head reset and I came back to my senses that this is totally so so wrong. I had to stop her in a very cool manner and told her it's quite early and I have to go finish up my inspection then when I get back I think it will be so nice to go really naughty with her. I told her I guess that would be our own little secret and she was happy to hear that. So I took her number I told her I would call when I return.

My dear friends, immediately she left I jejely went to take a shower, packed my bag and baggages, deleted her number, checked out the hotel and off I went to another hotel. Stayed two extra days so that by mistake we will not meet in the park for any reason. Up till date we have never crossed path again and sometimes I the thought of it come to my head I would just laugh it off. But then I thought about it, what if I had fallen for the temptation, imagine she gave me a better sex than my wife, that would have affected me in some ways that sometimes I might be making love to my wife and seeing this woman's face and body.

My good friends, I can confidently tell you that resisting temptation is absolutely something you can control with your head and your heart. Do not destroy very good things ahead of you just for a short moment of pleasure.

Think Fast.

You have no idea the blessings u packed on your self and progeny .you will soon see it God's willing.May God bless you

Very weak male.
If your wife had given you this same tale, will you clap for her?
Ode.

The truth is that the only reason the OP shared this was to convince himself that he didn't in any way and on any level cheat on his wife. He's simply trying to clear his conscience, however, he's living in denial because he cheated a bit by encouraging the temptation even after sensing same. You don't have to fvck another person before you know you've cheated.

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanged saliva with another woman.

Modified

Thanks hopefullandlord for seeing my point of view and clearing the air.

Thank you for this. He flowed with the kissing and yet he said he didn't cheat. He also knew where the thing was going right from the start yet he flowed with it. If he had avoided her right from the bus it wouldn't get to the kissing stage.

@op you have already cheated on your wife. And to think most guys are defending him whereas if this case were that of a lady they would devour her.

@op tomorrow if you found out a guy kissed your wife and she even flowed with it, would you tap her on the back and congratulate her?

May God give u d grace to continue to stand

BluntBoy:
I remembered when I was a pastor. A married woman kissed me suddenly. And even though I wouldn't say I flowed with it, I was initially too shocked to even get away. Anyway, I gave her a good slap. She would remember that slap for the rest of her life.

I don't hate women. In fact, I love women. But I hate indiscipline. I regard cheating as indiscipline.

why are you no longer a pastor?

anadozie1:
Thank you for this. He flowed with the kissing and yet he said he didn't cheat. He also knew where the thing was going right from the start yet he flowed with it. If he had avoided her right from the bus it wouldn't get to the kissing stage.

@op you have already cheated on your wife. And to think most guys are defending him whereas if this case were that of a lady they would devour her.

@op tomorrow if you found out a guy kissed your wife and she even flowed with it, would you tap her on the back and congratulate her?

Na NL alfa males be that.
They can defend anything done by a man, claiming they are logical. Their provost is already doing a good job defending

luminouz:
Why won't u read biko??
Did he initiate the kissing? No
Did he stop kissing her? Yes
Did he fuq her? No

Conclusion:
Did he cheat on his wife: NOOOOOOOOOOOO

Now dede or whatever u call ursef, now run along....

You problaly read it but didn't comprehend much. Did you read where he stated, "At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss.."?

It doesn't matter who initiated the kiss. He went along with it and was actually enjoying it until suddenly he remembered his wife and stopped. He cheated.

If he really didn't want the kiss, he could have dodged it or pushed her away. He knew this woman wanted something and he didn't do much to resist her.

kings59:
Nice resistance.


Sometimes I would just put myself into temptation.

I would just go to a bar that I know ladies would be patrolling, I would just keep looking at them and controlling my mind. I would look at them and keep saying," devil is this all you can do, bring more"


Sometimes I go to a place I would see sexy/naked girls just to know how strong I am in spirit and my resistance accuracy.

I can remember 2016, I and my 5 friends went to a brothel/bar just for drink, we sat on the chair in our space and table, suddenly girls started coming out and started shaking their yash, both full naked and half naked, both the ones that wore transparent cloth/thighs .

Next thing, they all started falling, saying this girl ass is hot and soft, I go like enter dis and dat.

The temptation there was much and it takes a strong heart and spirit to refute the offer.

I was the last guy remaining after all had gone to their various choice.

A fair skinned lady of average height came and told me that all my friends had made their choice, that I should take her, I told her I don't do with prostitutes, she said ok then.

I was glad I didn't fall, it is just good to learn how to resist temptation.


I would advise the op to tell his wife about this, but he should skip the" she kissed me" part.

That way, your wife will trust you more and whenever she comes across what the husband experienced, she will also resist the man.

This is not discipline but ignorance!!!
You cannot resist evil by constantly observing it's root.

-Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.
-These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.--James 1:14

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.--Job 31:1

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the LORD from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

The ear that listens to the reproofs of life abides among the wise!!!

But before then, he deserves some kudos. It takes a whole lot, only God's grace as a matter of factly, for a man to go that far and make it back safely. The power a woman has over a man is big.

Biglittlelois:
You didn't resist the temptation 100%, you kissed her and flowed with the kissing for a while, that's cheating, you have to tell your wife cos you locked lips and exchanged saliva with another woman.

Modified

Thanks hopefullandlord for seeing my point of view and clearing the air.

luminouz:
Cheating is in OP's blood yet he rebuffed an adultress's advances Do you know what you are saying

Yet you didn't castigate the woman but to say she go meet her waterloo?? U see why I think y'all emotional beings now This is not a MAN VS WOMAN scenario... Its just fact...too bad y'all too skewered to think straight...

let's turn the table around, if poster's wife did exactly what he did,seeing what is coming from the onset and couldn't avoid it. how would he handle that, he will call it a mere kissing, wave it off? why would he flow with the kissing, is sweeting him na,you want us to congratulate him for what na?

I insist he didn't perform badly; let's give him some accolade and thank God for the grace granted him.
Most people, including those claiming men of God, would have fallen for it.

Abcruz:
This is not discipline but ignorance!!!
You cannot resist evil by constantly observing it's root.

-Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.
-These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.--James 1:14

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.--Job 31:1

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the LORD from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

The ear that listens to the reproofs of life abides among the wise!!!

Adedoks:
why are you no longer a pastor?

My eyes opened and I saw a deeper meaning about Christ.

To have a better understanding and a grasp of true relationship with Christ, you need to step out of dogmas and seek Christ in your own way using the Bible through the Help of the Holy Ghost as a guideline.

It has been 5 years since I left the pastoral ministry under a popular church brand, and since then, I have grown even deeper in Christ.

Lol.
Make no mistake. I'm the number one liar and number one cheat. What I don't do however is to cheat, then go online to hype myself as 100% temptation-proof and defend a statement as ludicrous as "kissing is not cheating"

dabiton:
Yes, because you don’t tell lies and you have total discretion, your holiness!

DedeNkem:
You problaly read it but didn't comprehend much. Did you read where he stated, "At first I felt lost and was flowing with the kiss.."?

It doesn't matter who initiated the kiss. He went along with it and was actually enjoying it until suddenly he remembered his wife and stopped. He cheated.

If he really didn't want the kiss, he could have dodged it or pushed her away. He knew this woman wanted something and he didn't do much to resist her.

Did u really say 'it doesn't matter who initiated the kiss' For real

I'm done talking to you.

Biglittlelois:
My answer to your question is yes he cheated cos he kissed someone else


I'm glad you know the stupid kiss can destroy your marriage because that in itself is hurtful cos it is cheating.

You even get tome to waste on these biased pricks. If na OP wife kiss man, allow him into her hotel room at night, you think this thread won't be at 20 pages now?

Now, let's imagine you made this same comment. You called her a cheat. Do you think they will call you emotional? Damn! You would have been the most logical non-feminist NL female...

Don't listen to the things they say,
Watch what they do.

Baba cool down. If your wife kiss person, you go open new account, come NL dey para dey vougue say she cheat. If she opens her mouth to say she only flowed with it for a while and says she's 100% wife material, you will call for a divorce.
You F up...simple. Move along.

JejeNaija:
Why are you over stressing the kiss issue dear? In very civilized world kissing is absolutely nothing and means nothing. Kiss can neither build a beautiful and lasting relationship neither can it destroy it. The point of not cheating on your partner is a mental issue and that has to do with having an intention to cheat which can always be avoided. No sane married man can say they don't see or meet women who appeal more to them than their wife but it only take discipline for a man to avoid such lustful desire and put his wife above all others.
My dear, if you have a husband that will be able to overcome these sort of temptation when it comes his way, you better be grateful to God.

nwanyiugbo122:
let's turn the table around, if poster's wife did exactly what he did,seeing what is coming from the onset and couldn't avoid it. how would he handle that, he will call it a mere kissing, wave it off? why would he flow with the kissing, is sweeting him na,you want us to congratulate him for what na?

Fuq the poster... Use me as an example...

Read my reply to lisaflex on the issue..I will feel nothing ...cuz she didn't cheat on me...a cheat will open her mudafuvking legs and allow another man fuq her...that ur attracted or find someone else desirable is never cheating to me...it happens in life...but what makes u a real man or woman is that u dont give in to ur impulses and act on them...

Lemme ask u a question...when u were dating,were there no other guy u were attracted to?? Did u rush to them to kiss them? U will always find other guys attractive but ur love for ur guy won't let u act on that...that's not cheating to me

I turn down advances all the time from women not because I’m even in a relationship sef but just because when I toast the one I really want they don’t take me serious so that’s my own way of pay back,sex is highly overrated tbh, there are ways to have fun without indulging in sex.

LilMissFavvy:
Wow......dats a real man, a man who respects his marital vows. Such men are few, less than 1percent.

You are right. OP deserves some accolades!

Abcruz:
This is not discipline but ignorance!!!
You cannot resist evil by constantly observing it's root.

-Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.
-These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death.--James 1:14

“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look with lust at a young woman.--Job 31:1

Now flee from youthful lusts and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on the LORD from a pure heart.--2 Timothy 2:22

The ear that listens to the reproofs of life abides among the wise!!!

That's for you and not for me.

Practice makes perfect.

Back then when I was in 400L, there was this girl that came for Jamb. Her friend that she was supposed to sleep in her room didn't come home that day, even her number was switched off. I saw this beautiful damsel outside at 8:40, I asked her why she is outside and doesn't she have a home?
She replied that her friend was no where to be reached and tomorrow was exam.

I had to let her in, she was confortable in my room, I made tea for her and got her food because outside really stressed her.

She even wore my top and slept that Night cus she can't wear same yesterday's cloth.

At 2:15 a.m, I woke up to urinate, after I was done, I had to switch on the bulb to see if she was ok.
Behold, she was sleeping naked, my top was didn't cover her to her kneels, so it was balanced at her waist. Seeing her panties and the unclothedness, I didn't feel anything, I had to open my box and brought out a new rapper.

I used it to cover her, after I was done, I went to sleep back.

She woke me up by 6 a.m for prayer, I prayed with her and after that,i told her where my towel was and how to turn on the gas incase if she feels cold.


At 7:00 a.m, she was done. I had to put on my shirt and escorted her to where she would get a bike that wld take her to her center.

After the exam, she came back, good I prepared rice and chicken, good she came just in time when the food was done.

She ate, felt relaxed and slept till the next day, she went back home.

I was glad I did good and treated her like my own sister.



Three days later, her friend came back and was thanking me for the help I gave her friend. She even told me that her friend said she was naked and I covered her with a new wrapper, that she woke up to see a new wrapper.
I just told her it's good to be good. I didn't bother collecting her contact, cus I told her not to worry about that.



So my brother, practice well, then when the real temptation comes, you will just overcome it as easy as..

ok.