A Nigerian lady has taken to twitter to express how stressful it is for her to enter into the kitchen to make a meal and she revealed that she has not cooked in 8 months.

The twitter user identified as @sally, is an entrepreneur and she also revealed that she has not stepped into a market place in 10 months as she has no one she is catering for.

She further stated that things have become easier as anyone could order for food over the internet without the stress of cooking

She wrote:

If I decide to go to the market today, it would be the first time in 10months. And if I cook today it will be the first time I’m cooking in 8months I find market run really stressful and since I can order food why do I actually need to cook when I don’t have anyone I cater for?

https://lailasnews.com/ive-not-cooked-in-8-months-nigerian-lady-writes/

At first, I agree with d "no one to cater for" ...since she's d only one, ordering food doesn't mean she can't cook when d necessity arises.

But then, "finding market run stressful" and staying off such an important aspect of womanhood for 8-10months, it obvious she won't find it easy when she marries. For some women, cooking is fun but this one is finding it stressful to cook for her own self, when there'll be about 4 mouths to feed in marriage

I always wonder how the most cherished things that makes a woman highly valued are their greatest challenges

- natural beauty is a problem for most of them
- good manners and attitude is also a problem
- faithfulness in relnshp/marriage is a major problem
- now cooking. Women used to be masters of d kitchen but not anymore.

No woman is perfect, but honestly if u remove these four things from a woman's life, its empty barrel that's left.

It wil be a huge task readjusting after marriage and settling.

Let's hope you can turn the switch back on before hubby begin see wife material in your househelp.

Shior

Hiring a chef would be better than ordering every time.
Also, I don't like cooking too.

I can order food why do I actually need to cook when I don’t have anyone I cater for?

This is a very dumb statement.

Having no one to cater for shouldn't be a stumbling block to prevent anyone from cooking. [It doesn't make sense ]

Besides if she doesn't deem herself worthy enough to cook for her own personal consumption, she will hardly do it for anyone. I doubt the fact if she can even cook.

No wonder she's all alone without anyone to cater for.

I rather marry a woman who sees cooking as fun.

Do we still have such women?

All we get are complaints about cooking up and down.

Smh

Twitter lies

Man wey go marry dis one go hear wieeee.

Nowadays every CAT and DOG wants to trend.......

wetin concerned us even if you want to spend your entire live without cooking??......... Are We Going To Be Your Future Husband?? <:

Who's the idiot who created this thread? Of what benefit is her cooking to anyone?

Never did I imagine this would get to front-page when I passed on my comment but it's only a confirmation of how USELESS nairaland has become

Pls, that's your headache, not mine

No be day cooking is stressful to her.. na she no Sabi boil water not to talk of cook any dish. Most of them na dem maids dey cook everything.. if it's possible the maid will even feed them. 8months without cook and 10 without visiting the market... Something must be wrong somewhere..

LGBT as usual, She is into lesbianism. I wonder why no one saw that rainbow love emoji on her face.

Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how family women in Lagos cope. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

These women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.
Yet you wonder why the wife looks older?

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone (this includes their husband and kids) to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I meet my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

AntiBrutus:
Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how those family women in Lagos cope. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

The women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone, this includes their husband and kids to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I block my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

you are soooo correct

most nigerian women just like stress for stress sake

my wife was getting seriously stressed out and making sure we all knew it She takes the kids to school, something she hijacked from me. and the children were constantly getting to school late. to the point the school wrote us.So i went to the school and paid for a bus to take the kids to school.did she use it? No!some story about it is too late in the term, money is being wasted; we will do from beginning of next term. next term is here and she is still taking them to school; they are still almost always late, and the children are getting the disturbing lesson that beig late is acceptable because you're stressed .

we have an toddler son who watches stuff on her laptop. he has broken the screen, torn out half the keys. she complains about how stressful it is to do her work - so i have gotten her a new laptop. over six months she refuses to use it. last year she had an exam and was complaining bitterly about the challenges downloading materials shared on whatsapp. i have set up everything for her, but she refuses to use them.

same toddler watches videos on her phone. three weeks ago, he broke the phone. there were shards of glass everywhere. she was complaining and complaining, so i got myself a new phone, and passed my phone to her. she still has not set up the phone to date [which makes what some would call my cheapness better - that is how a new phone would be sitting round the house for months]. she continues to suffer with her broken phone.

i got a tablet so he can watch videos without disturbing her and be completely disassociated from her phone. that one too has been shoved into a corner of the house. this morning she was stuck with him dragging her phone with her.

every day it is complaint about how stressed i am, but when solutions are provided, they are ignored until the situation is out of control.

most of last year, i was teaching our first two kids to wash dishes. it is only now when situation is critical she is actually enforcing this. same thing for laundry. i was doing laundry with washing machine when i was 10. for reasons best known to her, she continues to insist on doing laundry by herself rather than outsourcing to the kids.

for security and of course her own agidi reasons, no maid in the house. the other day i was considering buying a dishwasher, and she shot it down immediately.

i have just switched off because i am seriously irritated by the whole thing. stress that yields no money is a nono for me.

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

too many nigerians do not understand working smart and focusing your energy on what brings in the bacon. there is zero reward for housework when you are doing it yourself.

_{its your old friend oyb. this post of your hit home. . .}

Lemme learn from those two intelligent guys up there. Abeg, make u na continue ooo! Am learning.

thelastorca:


you are soooo correct

most nigerian women just like stress for stress sake

my wife was getting seriously stressed out and making sure we all knew it She takes the kids to school, something she hijacked from me. and the children were constantly getting to school late. to the point the school wrote us.So i went to the school and paid for a bus to take the kids to school.did she use it? No!some story about it is too late in the term, money is being wasted; we will do from beginning of next term. next term is here and she is still taking them to school; they are still almost always late, and the children are getting the disturbing lesson that beig late is acceptable because you're stressed .

we have an toddler son who watches stuff on her laptop. he has broken the screen, torn out half the keys. she complains about how stressful it is to do her work - so i have gotten her a new laptop. over six months she refuses to use it. last year she had an exam and was complaining bitterly about the challenges downloading materials shared on whatsapp. i have set up everything for her, but she refuses to use them.

same toddler watches videos on her phone. three weeks ago, he broke the phone. there were shards of glass everywhere. she was complaining and complaining, so i got myself a new phone, and passed my phone to her. she still has not set up the phone to date [which makes what some would call my cheapness better - that is how a new phone would be sitting round the house for months]. she continues to suffer with her broken phone.

i got a tablet so he can watch videos without disturbing her and be completely disassociated from her phone. that one too has been shoved into a corner of the house. this morning she was stuck with him dragging her phone with her.

every day it is complaint about how stressed i am, but when solutions are provided, they are ignored until the situation is out of control.

most of last year, i was teaching our first two kids to wash dishes. it is only now when situation is critical she is actually enforcing this. same thing for laundry. i was doing laundry with washing machine when i was 10. for reasons best known to her, she continues to insist on doing laundry by herself.

for security and of course her own agidi reasons, no maid in the house. the other day i was considering buying a dishwasher, and she shot it down immediately.

i have just switched off because i am seriously irritated by the whole thing. stress that yields no money is a nono for me.



too many nigerians do not understand working smart and focusing your energy on what brings in the bacon. there is zero reward for housework when you are doing it yourself.
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Why did you introduce yourself naw?
I am very excited at your return, I can't find words to reply your post...


Let me get myself together
*breathes in and out*

I think they love the emotional blackmail. You know that feeling of, if I am not home, this home wouldn't function up to 40%. The worst thing is, they won't stop complaining about how they are doing it all alone. They will complain indoors and outdoors.

In the process, they make their husbands look like demons. Whereas, some men are really progressives. I know someone who said he would never get the concept of a woman spending 10hrs in a Saturday that should be used for bonding to do house chores . I also have a friend whose ex complained she didn't feel like they were in a relationship because she never got to cook in his house.

So, men are not always the problem. Some of these women need to be validated, feel like they are doing something you can't do. That is why some would never date a very tidy man, who is also good in the kitchen.

Propose getting a help, they would kick against it. Get modern equipments for the home, they would make it dormant. I don't just get my people.

AntiBrutus:


Why did you introduce yourself naw?
I am very excited at your return, I can't find words to reply your post...


Let me get myself together
*breathes in and out*

I think they love the emotional blackmail. You know that feeling of, if I am not home, this home wouldn't function up to 40%. The worst thing is, they won't stop complaining about how they are doing it all alone. They will complain indoors and outdoors.

In the process, they make their husbands look like demons. Whereas, some men are really progressives. I know someone who said he would never get the concept of a woman spending 10hrs in a Saturday that should be used for bonding to do house chores . I also have a friend whose ex complained she didn't feel like they were in a relationship because she never got to cook in his house.

So, men are not always the problem. Some of these women need to be validated, feel like they are doing something you can't do. That is why some would never date a very tidy man, who is also good in the kitchen.

Propose getting a help, they would kick against it. Get modern equipments for the home, they would make it dormant. I don't just get my people.

Hmmmm. Quite revealing.

AntiBrutus:
Anything that can be outsourced, I will gladly do that, so far there is money and I get good results.

I wonder how family women in Lagos copecopeu. I thought I love cooking, Not in Lagos.

These women wake up early in the morning, prepare kids for school, package their lunchbox, rush off to work, do their best to be productive at work, starts rushing back home, struggles for bus, buys petty things for the home in traffic, gets home exhausted, probably fixes dinner again, serves Oga, serves children, enters room, Oga still expects her to position yansh like a single lady with no responsibility...next morning she is up again.
Yet you wonder why the wife looks older?

The ones at the office were always sleeping. You will hear, "my baby refused to sleep all through the night, I think he is teething". I asked them, why don't you take this stress off you? I can't be working, earning in 6digits and still suffer myself like this naw. Do, I want to die and have a man remarry before my casket sinks into the ground?

Surprisingly, they said NO!

It made me realize another thing, Naija women love accolades more than anything. They rather do these things, be stressed out, so that their husbands can call them superwoman. They also need it for emotional blackmail. They wouldn't want anyone (this includes their husband and kids) to think they have motherhood easy.

That is why paintings of a black woman most times looks like suffer. Kid at the back, another in the hand; basin on the head and they are trekking to God knows where . This is a Naija man's definition of wife material. This is what Naija women have perfected the act of pretending to be.

Anyway, not me. I outsourced almost every fcking thing. Sometimes I meet my buddy at Eko hotel roundabout. From there we go for dinner. He drops me home, I bathe and sleep!

I make money to make my life easier. I would only do these things if they are very convenient for me. No one should expect me to perform magic in same 24hrs he has, when we both do a 9-5.

If you go and kill yourself, he would remarry and she wouldn't even have to boil water. Look at Regina, getting customized cars weekly. After Ned's first wife spent all her productive years going to market and pounding akpu .

You are wrong! Not dis 1 KFCchicken laps tastes like tissue papers !
Ladies forever ©

Adaibeku:
You are wrong! Not dis 1 KFCchicken laps tastes like tissue papers !

Lmao, who does KFC? I am into restaurants than fast foods. Anyway, there are cooks wey their food be like homemade. You even give them your specifications, bespoke things

AntiBrutus:


Lmao, who does KFC? I am into restaurants than fast foods. Anyway, there are cooks wey their food be like homemade. You even give them your specifications, bespoke things

Ok i thought is fastfood stuffs ,
because dat fastfoods gives me depression
Its foods taste like shit aaaah!

me that work night duty, or 36 hours calls will now be struggling to keep a man because I want to form superwoman. i cannot die before my time. i just hope my future hubby isn't like me that gets sick from food that has stayed in the freezer more than a week.

although i like cooking, it isn't a do or die affair for me, i easily lose appetite after cooking sometimes so i cook for other people and hardly for myself.

but the issue comes when one wants to eat healthy or eat to lose weight, i don't trust outsourced foods for that.

it seriously isn't easy.

going to the market is stressful when you dont have an item list and regular customers for what you want to buy. no time to waste haggling, just buy at our agreed price and move on.


ladies!! proverbs 31 woman is a scam! wife material is a scam! they use that to brainwash you to slave away in the kitchen until your brain atrophies while they chase the latest skirt in town. enough said.

No problem as long as she eats healthy. If I can get all the foods I want delivered to me in my current location then I wouldn't bother cooking either so whatever makes her happy.

funmisticqueen:
me that work night duty, or 36 hours calls will now be struggling to keep a man because I want to form superwoman. i cannot die before my time. i just hope my future hubby isn't like me that gets sick from food that has stayed in the freezer more than a week.

although i like cooking, it isn't a do or die affair for me, i easily lose appetite after cooking sometimes so i cook for other people and hardly for myself.

but the issue comes when one wants to eat healthy or eat to lose weight, i don't trust outsourced foods for that.

it seriously isn't easy.

going to the market is stressful when you dont have an item list and regular customers for what you want to buy. no time to waste haggling, just buy at our agreed price and move on.


ladies!! proverbs 31 woman is a scam! wife material is a scam! they use that to brainwash you to slave away in the kitchen until your brain atrophies while they chase the latest skirt in town. enough said.

When you struggle to keep a person is usually when you loose them. My mother made it clear to my dad that there will be no cooking on every nkwo market day(once in four days) because that's the day she makes her own money.

Old man didn't have option so we started sorting ourselves out before she comes back(usually around 7-8pm).

Relationship/marriage is about understanding and if you love who you're with, you will always be willing to help out. I don't see cooking as a woman's sole responsibility, cooking is the responsibility of whoever eats food.

Tallesty1:
When you struggle to keep a person is usually when you loose them. My mother made it clear to my dad that there will be no cooking on every nkwo market day(once in four days) because that's the day she makes her own money.

Old man didn't have option so we started sorting ourselves out before she comes back(usually around 7-8pm).

Relationship/marriage is about understanding and if you love who you're with, you will always be willing to help out. I don't see cooking as a woman's sole responsibility, cooking is the responsibility of whoever eats food.

true

Nice arguments without necessarily bashing each other. This is how it should be.

Y'all should continue abeg, I'm learning some vital points.
AntiBrutus Poco babe, I want to be like you when I grow up! Your points are valid mehnnn!

She prefers to order food and not home made cook. That's something too

Twitter and its attention-seekers.