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Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:02pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Typing is a pariah for me. Call me . hide your digits, call me let's talk |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:04pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick: Your M.I.L shouts back and wants to know what she did wrong |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:07pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Bossjakande: Yes Sir |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:09pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
doitforyou:Ok fair point, respect isn’t the word I should’ve used since you can respect your husband without having to take on the ‘assistant’ role lol. I should’ve just said if he plays his part well, you don’t need to tell her submit twice, given that’s what she wants to do. I’ll change it |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:10pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Submission is contentment in role playing without feeling worthless. Of what use is abundance without character, plentiful without wisdom. Both roles plays role in sharpening the life of the next generation. So His gains becomes our gains and our gains becomes the next generation's plus. That a mother plays active home front role doesn't reduce her to a loser or a foool cause of she doesn't hold this forte well, whatever gains the family has would be flawed and lost with time. So every good mother is an amazing woman by virtue of role and not even by contribution cause without this role been played actively, the society would be filled with fools. If you think I'm lieing read up Winston Churchill's biography. And imagine if Hitler would be the same if he had the guidance of a mother. Family life is balance. Wholeness, the intentional desire for both husband and wife to be together and the purposeful pursuit of this desire to achieve its outmost capability. So, marriage is for whole people. The moment its deduced to individuality removing the sight from the couples identity, then individualized concept like Lordship and Boss bar sets in which is the aftermath of not setting out on solid grounds. Its not a competition, but |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by doitforyou(f): 4:12pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:17pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Its not plainly a vertifical horizontal relationship. But a side by side . Hence Authority & Submission, that submission can't exist or would be out of concept without Authority, respecting it,yielding to it and embracing it. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:22pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Planet3xi Vibes Continues |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 4:24pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
doitforyou: What does submission mean to you? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:26pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Simply put, submission is yielding |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 4:34pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Who is this one? This internet make people delusional. What my dead mother-in-law accomplished while she was alive, you will never reach a speck of it in your lifetime. You better put respect on that name, what has my poor dead mother-in-law got to do with this thread If you don’t agree, state why and keep it moving like a matured logical human being instead of involving a dead woman you don’t even know. Don’t let her ghost haunt you o I heard she was a feisty woman when she was alive. essenceplus: 2 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:39pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick: 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 4:47pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl, Hello... So on the issue of submission, a topic we have delved into quite a lot in this section - it's quite simple really and does not have a master-slave, dominator-dominated connotation, like young women these days like to paint it. Where and how this idea came about, I have no clue. Perhaps women are becoming too wise for their own good, even when it's not necessary. There's something called the 'Unity of Command', don't know if you heard of it before. It's a key war strategy that some of the greatest generals the world has known had to abide by. Robert Greene wrote extensively about it in the 33 Strategies of War. You might ask, what has war got to do with marriage? Not a lot honestly. But then, real life applications of the 'Unity of Command' can be observed in every structured organization around us. Acîdosís already mentioned examples like one Captain in a ship or in a plane, one CEO in a company (even if there is a board of directors). In addition, you can see it in government with one commander-in-chief (even with a cabinet). In courts with one judge (even with a jury). In church with one head pastor (even with deacons), In heaven with one God (even with the celestial hierarchy of angels), etc... This is how the 'Unity of Command' works - it's an organizational rule that every structure MUST adhere to in order to succeed. It simply means that there must be one person whose authority supercedes all others, one person whose authority must be deferred to in times of decision making & crisis. Anything other maintaining the 'unity of command' is a recipe for disaster. In marriage, the 'Unity of Command' by default is bestowed on the husband. The truth has to be told. Some of you have been claiming you're not religious and can't go with the biblical/qur'anic instruction and bla bla bla, but at the same time, y'all will probably have a marriage ceremony officiated by a religious leader. Now, are there marriages where the women seem to be the ones in charge? Of course. It probably works for them that way, but don't ever make the mistake of thinking this is normal. It's an aberration. Submission in marriage is not blind followership, it's a mental state in which one knows deep down that they are part of a structure, part of the decision-making, but also realizing there is an authority figure to be deferred to. Alternatively, leadership by the unity of command in marriage is also a mental state. The leader knows deep down that he is part of a structure as well, it is not a blind dictatorship, he also realizes he is the authority figure and as such MUST do everything to make it easy for the wife to see him as such - which is where love comes in. In a marriage where there is love, there is no argument about who the leader is. Everything flows smoothly. Husband knows when to put his foot down, wife knows what to do to manipulate the husband into doing what she desires while making it seem it was all his idea. I noticed that EVERY woman who has an issue with submission all have one thing in common - they don't have a single idea how to get into a man's head without making use of their sexual organs, and it always makes me laugh. What a woman should be looking for is not a man who doesn't see himself as the authority (this will be a problem for the woman in the long run), what she should be doing is teaching herself how to recognize the authority of her husband and at the same time, knowing exactly how to get her own opinions stuck in every corner of his psyche that he won't be able to make any decision without considering her perspective. Only a smart and intelligent woman knows how to do this, her brain is her weapon, not her body. And Uyai, 'crackhousé' and I are not the same person. Take note. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 4:49pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick: I simply meant tell us what's up since you mentioned her Thanks for the curses ma 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by doitforyou(f): 4:50pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
There is nothing like "what does submission mean to you?" the word submission only means one thing "to yield to a higher authority". The meaning of the world will NEVER change no matter how much some Nigerian women dance around it when asked. Most Nigerian women will start by " I believe i should submit BUT" because they don't want to be bashed for rejecting that word or they start with "I am a christian so I have to BUT" most women will NOT subscribe to the real definition of 'Submission'. As you can see with the responses on this thread, most will start with standard "I believe women should submit but" will then go on to explain scenarios that are NOT submissive ones For example is just like how some women will say "I am not a feminist because" and then go on to describe feminism, all because they don't want to be tagged with the 'dirty' word. See as some women on this thread are ascribing non submissive scenarios to the word "submissive" because women have been conditioned that respect and submission mean the same thing. The right question will be "do you subscribe to submission in a marriage?" NO. RESPECT is much better. UyaiIncomparabl: 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by doitforyou(f): 4:53pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
I agree. Women are not that complicated, you don't even need to command it out of her. She will love and respect you completely. ibkayee: 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 4:56pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
doitforyou:Exactly. Too many dusty 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 4:59pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
When I saw this I was like “what a minute?” Then I went to check my profile, this yeye NL is celebrating my NL age lol I think I joined today some years ago. Bossjakande: |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 5:04pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
I knew that’s what you were trying to insinuate. People will be who they are, there are some Nigerian men here that beat their wives risking jail time. It’s fine you don’t agree, I always say if you know your values then seek a partner that share those same values Simple. Bossjakande: |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 5:12pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Well this is your opinion and it is not a fact, no matter how much you dance around it, the definition of submission is not VAGUE and young women are not confused. It is defined clearly in the dictionary and the Bible. At the end of the day, women will decide and do what they think its best for them and their family not because of what some faux intellect said on the internet. crackhaus: 4 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 5:19pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick:You're really not at peace with yourself, are you? You are already married and doing what works for you, which is okay. Why are you fidgeting at my opinion still? 2 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 5:26pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
You are really not that bright, are you? I know you like your women to be seen and not be heard but this woman married or single will participate in a public forum that she was invited to, she will also click on the ‘quote’ button that was put there to be used by people on this thread. You can start a private group/thread if you don’t want a dissenting voice. crackhaus: 3 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 5:35pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick:But I should be the one asking you that, no? Quoting me was never the issue, but quoting me and getting all defensive while making it seem like I was trying to convince you, a woman married for 12years who already figured out what works in her marriage. Lady, I don't even recognize your handle. I mean, come on... You good? 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by liberalchick(f): 5:54pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Yawn You keep bringing up my marital status like it’s supposed to be some sort of handicap I am not going to go back and forth with you, I quoted you because I COULD, and you have replied even though your posts had absolutely nothing do with the thread. Now, this exchange is no longer useful to me. I will leave you in your virtual world where you believe you are king and people actually care about what you think. crackhaus: 4 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 6:01pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:You've got it totally all wrong. Props to bukatyne for asking that question. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 6:05pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
essenceplus:It's obvious her mindset is skewed! |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 6:06pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
essenceplus:
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Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 6:07pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
[quote author=Raalsalghul post=79080861][/quote] Planet3xi vibes continues. Respect back Sir |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by essenceplus: 6:08pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
And Jesus did not act out of line despite being equal with God. Its funny people don't know marriage emanates from the God-head identity, and hence marriage draws its source and principles from the union of the trinity deity. That though all equal,yield their will to the God-head Planet3xi vibes continues I forgive the mod that banned that moniker |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 6:15pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
liberalchick: It took you three replies and almost an hour of said 'back & forth' to figure that out. Wow Now you should understand why I wondered how my opinion on submission was even useful to you in the first place, so much so that you got irritably upset at my faux intellect. You, a married woman with 12years experience who is still not sure if her style is the right way to go? It's amazing, you're amazing... 2 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 6:21pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
LuciferMessiah: Lol Hope you've prepared another moniker down for when the mods ban you. May I suggest LuciferImam Nevertheless, you've got a big fan here 3 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 6:22pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
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