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Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Acidosis(m): 8:07pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
] Raalsalghul: Totally different, my brother. Na God dey help us in the midst of confusion. 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:12pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: And how are you sure that the whole content of the bible was not written by some starved sexists in order to suit a particular gender? Submission sounds like 'Master and Slave' business. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by twhy111(m): 8:15pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
ibkayee:and the marriage would be govern by what teachings?? Unless you got married to a white and stay clear of African men. Tell me a tribe here in Nigeria that has deem it fit for a husband and wife to be at par when it comes to decisions making, right and responsibilities. To RESPECT your spouse is one thing to be SUBMISSIVE is another thing. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:17pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Ranchhoddas: Nonsense! It is not an anomaly. Most Women make wiser decisions than men. 3 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Nobody: 8:19pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Any married men here knowing what they are actually talking about? Lots of reading, no sense. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
ibkayee: Spot on. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 8:20pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Yes your mindset is skewed. As you can see your rantings are based on the sermon of a particular preacher. Since it was a church, I'm going to assume you are a christian, but a lazy one at that. Proper research in the bible would have revealed a certain verse that says "Wives submit to your husbands, husbands love your wife". But from your own perpective "Submission means slavery". I have a question for you, is it possible to love a slave? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by twhy111(m): 8:21pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:let even leave the Bible out of this, we're all product of our family settings. Some people's parent never believed in any of the popular religion before they got married, probably did only court wedding or traditional wedding. So who wrote the law that governs them? because no matter how you try to twist it, even the society place the woman under the man in marriage hence, the need for her to be submissive. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 8:25pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:"Sounds like" does not necessarily mean "It is like that". Hope you know? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:28pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Raalsalghul: Are you okay? I'm not your average joe christian. My rantings are/were not based from that sermon. I actually find the sermon very skewed because everything he talked about having a good christian life for a marriage to work. And please, do not quote any verse for me, you all are sexists! |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 8:28pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111:Some practices, characters, behavior, belief systems transcend religion. I don't know why they limit it to christianity. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Raalsalghul: 8:30pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Okay, accepted you are not a lazy christian. Please answer the question. Is it possible to love a slave? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:32pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Acidosis: Alright. Thanks. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Ranchhoddas: 8:32pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Here you go trying to make it about decisions. Crackhaus said something about unity of command. All the answers are in that comment. The thing is you are just looking for talk. No one has said a woman will not make decisions. In fact a submissive woman will make a lot of decisions. Submission is the key to a man's mumu button. I know y'all have to sound enlightened and modern. I understand and I'm sympathetic. But reality is not Nairaland. Even women who have submited will come here and support you. You will submit. It's your nature. 3 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:33pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Raalsalghul:Very possible. A slave is also human and needs love. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by ibkayee(f): 8:34pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111:The way you guys cherry pick biblical teachings to suit yourselves is hilarious lol. All of a sudden the marriage ‘must be governed by biblical teachings!’, I’m convinced they sell men a version of the bible that excludes the bits about fornication and adultery. Thank God my dating pool can go beyond non progressive Nigerian men lol 3 Likes |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by CaesarDon(m): 8:38pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
LuciferMessiah: honestly I'm surprised after reading this, I felt this lady in question was the mature type that wouldn't be as naive as bringing her private life and washing her dirry linen on social media You really are lucifer to hold this against her |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 8:39pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:It's not a mentality, I'm talking real life here. It doesn't matter a woman's nationality, black or white and in-between, there are three things that make women submissive almost to the point of servitude: 1. True Love, emotion-based. 2. True spirituality, religion-based. 3. Money, vanity-based. If money really does not make you see a man as the authority in the home, one of the other two always does. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:42pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
crackhaus: NO 1 might. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by mrsthang: 8:43pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
@uyaiincomparabl Dictionary meaning: Submission is the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person. Some people are born and are naturally able to accept husband as authority,others are born and question it. There are men who naturally do not want to be head of anything,they are happy to hand over that role to their woman and simply let her lead the home. There are women who naturally take charge and seamlessly manage their home and others who want to sit back and let all the decisions be made by their man. There are also men who are born to lead,who make decisions without being questioned about it and their homes are still great. Again,there's another couple who live as the wind blows,take charge in doing and making decisions based on what you're good at There is no shame in any of the above scenarios.None is better than the other,I think the key is finding what works for you and finding a partner that fits into your ideology. Personally,I have never agreed with the word simply because I do not believe people should lead based on genit alia.. When 2 people come together and learn to acknowledge their different strengths,headship, neckship or tailship won't really matter I think. I was raised by a very submissive mother,she spent her time teaching me that it is the acceptable way.My father is the typical you must be submissive male,his own method of leading, interesting.He was good at making decisions,but he left the people under his authority seething with resentment. I didn't understand how despite having such a submissive wife,they were and still are at complete logger heads. Perhaps this colored my view. I struggled all my life to fit into this acceptable mould,was labelled stubborn by male counterparts and told I would never be able to live "under" a man. Eventually,i learned to accept and do me and then went on to marry a man who isn't concerned about submission but is more interested in peace and quiet at home. Almost at 10 years of marriage. I have learned that we all have different capabilities and once we identify those, whomever is better at one role takes charge when it's time to execute it,that way I contribute my best when it's my turn and the husband contributes his when it's his turn. My husband sometimes struggles with his own indoctrination that a man should lead,it's all he's known since birth but within himself,nature has made him more of a mellow personality who would rather sit back and let someone else crack their heads while he gets on with other things. We are all so beautifully made, similar but with so many differences. Whatever choice you make, however you live, it is fine as long as you are happy. No matter how submissive or dominant you are,marriage will always have it's own niggles. Forget what people say or think, work out what is best for you and your partner. In my opinion,that's all that matters. If we all learn to respect other people's choices and not see our way as the wrong or right way,there would be more cohesion and this conversation wouldn't even happen. Cheers! 8 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Nobody: 8:43pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: NO. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:44pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Ranchhoddas: Bullocks! Mumu button indeed! Until then, I remain unshaken. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by twhy111(m): 8:47pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
ibkayee:both sex cheat, stop making it looks as if fornication is only a man's thing. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by Ranchhoddas: 8:50pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Alright then. Internet talk is cheap. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 8:52pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Ranchhoddas:My brother, I even deliberately steered my comment away from biblical instructions and just went with tested & proven life examples. Yet one liberal-whatever-her-name-is was busy yapping about my intellect instead of proving to everyone the invalidity of 1000year old life principles. 1 Like |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:55pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: Men cheat more. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 8:57pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Ranchhoddas: I hold same principle wherever I find myself. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by bukatyne(f): 9:00pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
twhy111: Male adultery is accommodated. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:05pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
Mrsthang, your input was spot on. Thanks. Bukatyne, thanks too. |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by crackhaus: 9:05pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Wow, so what then is your angst with submission if love can make you take your man as the authority in the home? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by twhy111(m): 9:06pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:base on what statistics?? Or because you're a female and you feel the need to rise to other comrade defense? |
Re: What Does 'submission' In Marriage Mean Exactly? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 9:07pm On Jun 06, 2019 |
crackhaus: MIGHT, not certain. |
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