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| How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 10:32pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
I met this lady in January and I let her know from the beginning of our relationship that I want to settle down soon. We love other very well but the challenges I am having with her is that she's not mentally ready for marriage. When I try to interrogate her she told me that she find it difficult to convince her parents because she is just in 100 level though she's 24yrs old. I try to convince her that I'll make sure that her education is not suffered since we are not in the same state. I told her that I believe her parents will allow her to settle down with me depending on her reaction at home when notice that she's really serious considering her age. Please I need your advice on how to convince her further. Thanks |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by SageMK: 10:44pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
You have to convince her that — 1. You are the right guy. 2. She's better off married to you than being single. 3. What you bring to the table outweighs her studies. 3 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by desvi: 10:47pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
why don't you give her some more time? she should be eager to get married to you, not talked into marrying you. why are you so impatient? 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 10:51pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
SageMK:Thanks bro I need more advice pls |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by elantraceey(f): 10:53pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
If you can't wait for her then let her be. Because she's getting old doesn't mean she should be desperate for marriage. This age/marriage thing needs to stop, schooling and taking of a family is not an easy task and I won't advice anyone to go into that. Allow her finish her school and establish herself a bit before she gets into marriage, before you know it now you'll start seeing her as a liability. If you can't wait then find someone else who's ready for marriage. 5 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by Nobody: 10:54pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
There is something she knows about you, herself and her parents, that you do not know. ---There are parents that would never allow their daughter marry as an undergraduate. Maybe her parents na that type. I commend them, before you start bragging how you trained her, 5yrs from now. ---Maybe she doesn't want to hinder her future with marriage. You would promise everything and anything now. After marriage, you will start looking for who will submit her personal goals for the marriage. ---Maybe you are sure of her, but she isn't sure of you. As a woman grows, her circle grows, her choices grow, her taste grows. I like that men are beginning to realise not every lady will lose her senses at the first mention of marriage. You will have to give her time to want the marriage as much as you want it. I hope ladies are reading and learning. Men can want marriage as much as women want it, that is when they meet that person who ticks the boxes and they think it is TIME. The only difference between them and women (on the average) is, they still apply their brain in the midst of the desperation. All those ones that will say they are tasting/testinrg you, like say na Quality Control Officer them be. Taste for 8yrs, yet he is very stable. Check him well, he is still hunting for that one worth his COMMITMENT, while tasting YOU. 15 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 10:58pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
desvi:Thanks for the question. I have been trying to settle down since five years but it didn't work out due to one reason or the other. So I believe this is the best time for me to make up my mind since we are both moving fine, I'm working and living alone comfortably. So what else do you think I need? |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by desvi: 11:03pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
lafex: it takes two to tango it is an important decision do not rush her 6 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 11:06pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
AntiBrutus:Thanks This is so enlightened |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 11:08pm On Jun 09, 2019 |
elantraceey:This is easier said than done because this is a lady that used to complain in any day that I decide to call her late |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by cococandy(f): 5:17am On Jun 10, 2019 |
24 is not getting old by any means. Don’t let these people slyly brainwash you into thinking like them. I honestly don’t mean any offense but I didn’t know any way to say that better. And you’re absolutely correct at home elantraceey: 5 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by Nobody: 5:32am On Jun 10, 2019 |
Exercise more patience with her. Co-signing Desvi: "SHE SHOULD BE EAGER TO MARRY YOU, NOT TALKED INTO MARRYING YOU"... It might be that 1. She's not yet sure about you since you just met in January 2. You've displayed behavior she doesn't like 3. She has other things on her mind right now besides marriage Getting married is an important decision and you should be on the same page. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by zed7: 5:59am On Jun 10, 2019 |
I promised never to propose to any women until she starts hinting at marriage or outrightly wants to know where the relationship is leading to. And it worked for me. Let a woman be eager to marry you and not vice versa. Most men have married women who really didn't want them, that's part of the reasons we have all sort of complaints from married men today. For this to work, you have to be a decent man, you cannot be a cheat and a woman beater and be expecting a woman to be eager to marry you. 5 Likes |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lafex: 6:56am On Jun 10, 2019 |
cococandy:I don't know why our society get this worse. 24 is not old enough to marry but 17 is old enough to have sex indiscriminately. I shouldn't take her into marry but I can take her into sex and abortion. I know that many people like you will applaud me if I said that I abort several times for her and want to dump her. It's left for you to think |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by lilmax(m): 7:28am On Jun 10, 2019 |
tbh if you marry a 24 year old in 100 level, you're heading for destruction she's not ready because she isn't done tasting every drop of fun I'll advice you to move on now |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by Richy4(m): 10:52am On Jun 10, 2019 |
lafex: Brother please leave that sermon... You totally forgot that her dad was in that field before you and may have played the "your education will not suffer" game you were trying to play here.. The game is still the same game but different players bro  Once she is married.. and you storm from your different state and gets her pregnant, will she terminate it? If that happens, you will change your sermon... and start reading the epistle on how Chioma, Linda, Hawa and Bisi coped with pregnancy while studying in University... Please let her finish her studies first.. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by ibkayee(f): 12:48pm On Jun 10, 2019 |
You’ve said it yourself, she is not mentally prepared for marriage, so why rush it? |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by cococandy(f): 2:13pm On Jun 10, 2019 |
Who said she’s not old enough to marry? Comprehension issues lafex: 1 Like |
| Re: How Can I Turn Her On For Marriage? by baby124: 2:50pm On Jun 10, 2019 |
You can take her to put in birth control for the next 3-4yrs if you can wait that long to have kids. Then deposit 4yrs of school fees in her account before taking her to her parents for marriage. Baby girl wants a life but you want a wife. I think you want to marry her for the wrong reasons. Please stay away from this young lady if you cannot help her achieve her dreams, other than a marriage proposal. How feasible will it be for her to be a wife to you and a mother while going to Uni. It will be very hard for her. Are you buoyant enough to afford good help to make her life easy and are you willing to work with her? Like wash your clothes, cook food and clean the house often? If I were her parents you will have a wait till she is don’t with school because she just met you and you are already trying to rush her into marriage without plans for her future. I think you need a maid and a girlfriend. Not a wife. 2 Likes |
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