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baby124:
Wow! Just seeing this!!! Congratulations Esther! It is well with you! Thank you for the update. It is only fitting that you come here with your good news since the bad and ugly of your life has been displayed on NL.

I have followed your story and even watched your YouTube video and Instagram page. I cannot say enough how much I admire your strength. I don’t know if I could survive what you have been through in your life. I cannot judge your decisions for being with Siena. But I hope in that time, you had some good times when you were happy.

I also can’t speak Ill of him since he’s your children’s father and, they may read this some day. Siena no try at all sha. See all the wealth he almost used his hands to destroy. His own blessings. He will realize only too late.

I want to congratulate you for standing up and doing what is necessary to give your children a good life. I want to congratulate you for making the best out of a sad situation. Please move on from Siena. I know it is difficult but no matter the temptation, do not open the door for him to come and take you 20 steps back after all you have achieved. Take your time and get some counseling, you need it. Trust me, you will feel so much better. After all you have been through my dear you really need this help.

You will find someone who will love, appreciate and encourage you. That peace that you have sought, you will find it. I wish you the very best and I pray that God will come through for you in a very big way. Goodluck and a big congratulations on the paper!

I hope you can reach out to others stuck in London through your experience, to help battered and abused women find their way! Use your experience to help others in desperate situations. God brought you out of this situation for a reason. Goodluck dear! So happy for you! This made my day!

this is such a lovely post
you have a very good heart
may your good wishes return to you thousandfold

This type of thread is for dropping a word or two/encouragement....Such that sometimes when life throws you lemon and you are trying to make lemonade, you scroll or stroll down memory lane for something to cheer or smile at, or sigh and carry on. I think that was op intention.
No e-punch please...I'm boiling fresh corn who want some?

Oh my!

I certainly feel like a doofus for not knowing a thing about this since everyone seems to know.
I remember the moniker sienna because he usually posts sensible stuff. Wow what happened and when?
I’m not looking for story just really surprised.

Wish you the best life OP. I also wish him a great life ahead. Whatever happened both of you can have wonderful lives henceforth and still find a way to be civil with each while parenting your kids.

ifyalways:
Preaching women equality or however you put it. I greet you back.

You, Sisioge and all the other bush radio listeners on stealth mode should know that this "She" I talked about is not lady Mercedes .

Really! Who then? Wow!

Please drop the name but mention my correct moniker this time around ma...sisisioge( I just had to add the extra "si" for good effect )

cococandy:
I certainly feel like a doofus for not knowing a thing about this since everyone seems to know.
I remember the moniker sienna because he usually posts sensible stuff. Wow what happened and when?
I’m not looking for story just really surprised.

Wish you the best life OP. I also wish him a great life ahead. Whatever happened both of you can have wonderful lives henceforth and still find a way to be civil with each while parenting your kids.

I don't know too...in case you get the full gist before me, kindly mention me. Cheers.

Lol

sisisioge:
I don't know too...in case you get the full gist before me, kindly mention me. Cheers.

Gaggi:
I've been on this forum long enough, 11 solid years. I mind my business generally and I've witnessed alot of the NL scandals, I just read, laugh and go. However, this struck me as I knew then that this guy that is being treated like a scum now was the toast of all ladies. He was the model man for NL's women. All men were to go learn how to be a good man, great husband and father. He has suddenly become a villain now. FEAR WOMEN.
Lesson to my boys, no matter how you love a woman, please be wise. Never get carried away by verbal expressions of love. Always give that little room for logic, never plunge in 100%. Love can only be authenticated when the chips are down. Stay strong.

I used to and still am d greatest pro-women cos I believed and still believe women usu have d short end of the stick all over d world except in d West.
Had àll d right influences.From a bit above average home,read hundreds if not thousands of American n British novels even b4 senior high school where I learnt d concept of gender equality,chivalry,etc.Dated only 1 girl 7/8 of university years and she was super cool (God bless you Chidi).
However,having started proper practice and being married is changing all that.My work entails ppl who are far older,very rich or poor,rev Frs/pastors etc tell me things and d truth in confidence and women aren't totally d angels I used to see them as.
On d home front,I still consider myself as among d luckiest 10% based on what i hear and see but I've got to know women are d masters of emotional blackmail and even outright lies esp in marital disputes.
I now live full time with a wife who I will beg to do this or don't do that for the whole day and she will refuse but when d negative consequences of her recalcitrance happens and I get angry ,she starts crying and starts asking "What did I do" lolz.Then I wonder if this is why men used to be so pessimistic about women.
Forgive my winding epistle but as far as I believe d man in question is a big mofo if he did even a quarter of what he is accused of,I also know there must've been stimulus from the wife,she prolly contributed and still contributes possibly up to 49.9%.Used to enjoy his contributions in car talk and admire his level headedness and maturity and finding it difficult to believe such a man can suddenly do a u turn and turn to a monster overnight.
Let us not be quick to crucify d man abeg.
Peace!!

dokiOloye:
I used to and still am d greatest pro-women cos I believed and still believe women usu have d short end of the stick all over d world except in d West.
Had àll d right influences.From a bit above average home,read hundreds if not thousands of American n British novels even b4 senior high school where I learnt d concept of gender equality,chivalry,etc.Dated only 1 girl 7/8 of university years and she was super cool (God bless you Chidi).
However,having started proper practice and being married is changing all that.My work entails ppl who are far older,very rich or poor,rev Frs/pastors etc tell me things and d truth in confidence and women aren't totally d angels I used to see them as.
On d home front,I still consider myself as among d luckiest 10% based on what i hear and see but I've got to know women are d masters of emotional blackmail and even outright lies esp in marital disputes.
I now live full time with a wife who I will beg to do this or don't do that for the whole day and she will refuse but when d negative consequences of her recalcitrance happens and I get angry ,she starts crying and starts asking "What did I do" lolz.Then I wonder if this is why men used to be so pessimistic about women.
Forgive my winding epistle but as far as I believe d man in question is a big mofo if he did even a quarter of what he is accused of,I also know there must've been stimulus from the wife,she prolly contributed and still contributes possibly up to 49.9%.Used to enjoy his contributions in car talk and admire his level headedness and maturity and finding it difficult to believe such a man can suddenly do a u turn and turn to a monster overnight.
Let us not be quick to crucify d man abeg.
Peace!!

Let me tell you he not only did quarter he did the whole lot, a man who wanted kids so he could be collecting their benefits. He took their money right from when they were babies up until some months ago, my first daughter would be 9 in July so please do the calculations, up till now he is still being chased for Child Maintenance. He left his job all because he didn’t want to pay for his children and ran from England to Scotland, well he is still in the UK and I know the law of the land will definitely catch him soon. As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

You are saying I contributed up him sleeping with a friend in our house who came on vacation, what about him having an online affair with other nairalander, who he sent to insult and humiliate me both online and offline, or you want to talk about his girlfriend buying my children’s Christmas gifts, pls don’t let me start.

Or I contributed to the fact that he refused paying rent for months and we were kicked out of our home, we had to go stay in a hotel before he abandoned me and my children to go to Uganda to go meet another woman.

How did you keep sane with all this atrocities. My dear, take your time to heal. You need a healthy body, soul and mind to nurture your kids. If you can, try not to leave negative reports bout him on the net. N I might get roasted for this but when your kids are bout 18, tell them the facts about their dad. Wont want them to be his victims as well if he already sees them as his meal tickets. You dear are one strong woman. Dont feel less like you were not enough. This time around, if all you have narrated is true, then its him n not you. You will be alright in the end, otherwise it's not the end.

Coolesther:
Let me tell you he not only did quarter he did the whole lot, a man who wanted kids so he could be collecting their benefits. He took their money right from when they were babies up until some months ago, my first daughter would be 9 in July so please do the calculations, up till now he is still being chased for Child Maintenance. He left his job all because he didn’t want to pay for his children and ran from England to Scotland, well he is still in the UK and I know the law of the land will definitely catch him soon. As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

You are saying I contributed up him sleeping with a friend in our house who came on vacation, what about him having an online affair with other nairalander, who he sent to insult and humiliate me both online and offline, or you want to talk about his girlfriend buying my children’s Christmas gifts, pls don’t let me start.

Or I contributed to the fact that he refused paying rent for months and we were kicked out of our home, we had to go stay in a hotel before he abandoned me and my children to go to Uganda to go meet another woman.

dokiOloye:
I used to and still am d greatest pro-women cos I believed and still believe women usu have d short end of the stick all over d world except in d West.
Had àll d right influences.From a bit above average home,read hundreds if not thousands of American n British novels even b4 senior high school where I learnt d concept of gender equality,chivalry,etc.Dated only 1 girl 7/8 of university years and she was super cool (God bless you Chidi).
However,having started proper practice and being married is changing all that. My work entails ppl who are far older,very rich or poor,rev Frs/pastors etc tell me things and d truth in confidence and women aren't totally d angels I used to see them as.
On d home front,I still consider myself as among d luckiest 10% based on what i hear and see but I've got to know women are d masters of emotional blackmail and even outright lies esp in marital disputes.
I now live full time with a wife who I will beg to do this or don't do that for the whole day and she will refuse but when d negative consequences of her recalcitrance happens and I get angry ,she starts crying and starts asking "What did I do" lolz. Then I wonder if this is why men used to be so pessimistic about women.
Forgive my winding epistle but as far as I believe d man in question is a big mofo if he did even a quarter of what he is accused of,I also know there must've been stimulus from the wife,she prolly contributed and still contributes possibly up to 49.9%.Used to enjoy his contributions in car talk and admire his level headedness and maturity and finding it difficult to believe such a man can suddenly do a u turn and turn to a monster overnight.
Let us not be quick to crucify d man abeg.
Peace!!

Doc, you're as real as they come. Just like you, I had to be around lots of people, around lots of women, observed and listened, to finally get to that same conclusion as you. Of course there are times where the woman is completely blameless, this here might be one of those times, but to walk around thinking and carrying women matters, calling and seeing them as angels and just victims of a male-dominated world, is akin to living in fool's paradise.

They will say 'respect women', sure I do. But only in the same way I respect all people, no special consideration. If it's for the ability to give birth, na my mama born me, only she can get that exceptional respect. Every other female should understand they have to earn the right to be given exceptional respect instead of the basic respect accorded to all the sexes.

Forgive my winding epistle too, I was just moved by your openness to take an authentic view. When people like me keep it 100 by typing what I type on this forum, I usually get the tag of misogynist/woman-hater even though on a normal, I love women die..
But man must still gats talk am as e dey be, na so e just be.

Cheers.

sisisioge:
Really! Who then? Wow!

Please drop the name but mention my correct moniker this time around ma...sisisioge( I just had to add the extra "si" for good effect )

What're they even hiding,kessiena's girlfriend was miss Mercede,,the lady with the hazel eyes
Let's call a spade a shovel.

Caaz:
What're they even hiding,kessiena's girlfriend was miss Mercede,,the lady with the hazel eyes
Let's call a spade a shovel.

Chai! There was a Kessiena in the picture? I know Lady Mercedes but not the guy. She's cool as far as I'm concerned fa, yeah, despite dating the married broda. I know that part of the story.

I heard another girl got knocked up and the guy took to his heels...do you know who? So sorry to be bothering you like this, you are now my new bestie . Cheers.

sisisioge:
Chai! There was a Kessiena in the picture? I know Lady Mercedes but not the guy. She's cool as far as I'm concerned fa, yeah, despite dating the married broda. I know that part of the story.

I heard another girl got knocked up and the guy took to his heels...do you know who? So sorry to be bothering you like this, you are now my new bestie . Cheers.

kessiena's z shortened as Siena...
Dazz all for for today.
Please I'm busy boiling corn.

Hmmn, NL.

Caaz:
kessiena's z shortened as Siena...
Dazz all for for today.
Please I'm busy boiling corn.

Oh...I know that part jare. See you doing yanga as if you have insider's gist Anyways, thank you for indulging me.

Where did all the time go? Jesus!!

I never knew about this story. Siena was someone i cherished so well. I liked his analysis in the car session.

I think his wife gave birth same time with my first (around 2008) i cant remember now.

Madam take heart that is life. But men should try to respect their other half na. Its not easy to be a woman oh.

pocohantas:
No mind them. Their man crush embarrassed himself on Nigeria's largest online forum. Yet they are looking for his side of the story. Maybe na the kind family them from come.

dokiOloye:
I used to and still am d greatest pro-women cos I believed and still believe women usu have d short end of the stick all over d world except in d West.
Had àll d right influences.From a bit above average home,read hundreds if not thousands of American n British novels even b4 senior high school where I learnt d concept of gender equality,chivalry,etc.Dated only 1 girl 7/8 of university years and she was super cool (God bless you Chidi).
However,having started proper practice and being married is changing all that.My work entails ppl who are far older,very rich or poor,rev Frs/pastors etc tell me things and d truth in confidence and women aren't totally d angels I used to see them as.
On d home front,I still consider myself as among d luckiest 10% based on what i hear and see but I've got to know women are d masters of emotional blackmail and even outright lies esp in marital disputes.
I now live full time with a wife who I will beg to do this or don't do that for the whole day and she will refuse but when d negative consequences of her recalcitrance happens and I get angry ,she starts crying and starts asking "What did I do" lolz.Then I wonder if this is why men used to be so pessimistic about women.
Forgive my winding epistle but as far as I believe d man in question is a big mofo if he did even a quarter of what he is accused of,I also know there must've been stimulus from the wife,she prolly contributed and still contributes possibly up to 49.9%.Used to enjoy his contributions in car talk and admire his level headedness and maturity and finding it difficult to believe such a man can suddenly do a u turn and turn to a monster overnight.
Let us not be quick to crucify d man abeg.
Peace!!

You're a wise man. My ex painted her husband to me in very bad light. But I always knew she was very difficult and had issues, I knew that if the man was as bad as she made him appear, she probably triggered it. If I didn't know her better I would have had a bad notion of the poor man. That doesn't mean some men aren't evil but it's better to study both parties before concluding.

Coolesther:
As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

same thing my chic says and she is a devil......................called police on me last week and ol'boy slept in jail over the weekend. dem popo even gave me plastic rice to eat . She lied that i dey do violence.

kai

i have to forgive my dada too cause my mum can cause a mountain to run but i love her dearly.

There is something you did madam that drove him to the edge............please no repeat am if you get anoda man or else same result go happen o. Constant Nagging on a man is very veryyyyyyyy damaging.

Madam, if a man carry even 20 women wetin be ur own. next time use wisdom pretend say you no see am. Anger fixes nothing but destroys everything.


Money is the root of all evil..........................

Proverbs 21:9 - [It is] better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

James 1:19-20 - Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: (Read More...)

Proverbs 21:19 - It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 27:15 - A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

Proverbs 25:24 - It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.

I comot jail man wise up quickly say i dey the land of prostitution, the land of sodom & gomorrah, belly of the beast, babylon the great where women are not equal but superior to the black man.

Men please please don't die for woman matter if she want follow white man philosophy and belief let her go..................

there are other pussies about less troublesome.............but money treated as your God can destroy.


if una no like my english and grammar pls forgive man just comot joint.

ricki:
same thing my chic says and she is a devil......................called police on me last week and ol'boy slept in jail over the weekend. dem popo even gave me plastic rice to eat . She lied that i dey do violence.

kai

i have to forgive my dada too cause my mum can cause a mountain to run but i love her dearly.

There is something you did madam that drove him to the edge............please no repeat am if you get anoda man or else same result go happen o. Constant Nagging on a man is very veryyyyyyyy damaging.

Madam, if a man carry even 20 women wetin be ur own. next time use wisdom pretend say you no see am. Anger fixes nothing but destroys everything.


Money is the root of all evil..........................

Proverbs 21:9 - [It is] better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.

James 1:19-20 - Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: (Read More...)

Proverbs 21:19 - It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 27:15 - A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

Proverbs 25:24 - It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.

I comot jail man wise up quickly say i dey the land of prostitution, the land of sodom & gomorrah, belly of the beast, babylon the great where women are not equal but superior to the black man.

Men please please don't die for woman matter if she want follow white man philosophy and belief let her go..................

there are other pussies about less troublesome.............but money treated as your God can destroy.


if una no like my english and grammar pls forgive man just comot joint.

Buzugee?

Coolesther:
Let me tell you he not only did quarter he did the whole lot, a man who wanted kids so he could be collecting their benefits. He took their money right from when they were babies up until some months ago, my first daughter would be 9 in July so please do the calculations, up till now he is still being chased for Child Maintenance. He left his job all because he didn’t want to pay for his children and ran from England to Scotland, well he is still in the UK and I know the law of the land will definitely catch him soon. As for saying I contributed, to him being who he is that’s a big FAT lie, if you want to talk about a loyal, hardworking, respectful woman you don’t have to look by further. Like I mentioned earlier on my only offence was to LOVE him just was it was supposed to be.

You are saying I contributed up him sleeping with a friend in our house who came on vacation, what about him having an online affair with other nairalander, who he sent to insult and humiliate me both online and offline, or you want to talk about his girlfriend buying my children’s Christmas gifts, pls don’t let me start.

Or I contributed to the fact that he refused paying rent for months and we were kicked out of our home, we had to go stay in a hotel before he abandoned me and my children to go to Uganda to go meet another woman.

Eleyigidigan. Why does kingreign defend him always? Gazzuzz too

weyreypey:
Eleyigidigan. Why does kingreign defend him always? Gazzuzz too

Abeg leave me out of people's personal marital and family issues.

kingreign:
Abeg leave me out of people's personal marital and family issues.

Mo ti gbo

Lemme call lexus430gs

weyreypey:
Mo ti gbo

Lemme call lexus430gs

Thanks.

kingreign:
Thanks.

Mi tii gba

Hmmmm

The Op is now celebrating what?
Look well within you, you caused the misfortune that befall you. No man will turn beast overnight without your cruel input, he brought you from naija and you betrayed him with your attitude hence pushed him outside... Or you think he enjoyed those stuffs you accused him of?

When you find the next man, be of good character. African lifestyle, beliefs and marriage culture can't be same, stop practicing oyinbo mentality in African marriage.
Go and sin no more!!!

streetsoldier1:
The Op is now celebrating what?
Look well within you, you caused the misfortune that befall you. No man will turn beast overnight without your cruel input, he brought you from naija and you betrayed him with your attitude hence pushed him outside... Or you think he enjoyed those stuffs you accused him of?

When you find the next man, be of good character. African lifestyle, beliefs and marriage culture can't be same, stop practicing oyinbo mentality in African marriage.
Go and sin no more!!!

Yes live, I am celebrating - I am even jubilating from being free from a psychopath who thought he could kill me and lie that my death was a suicide.

A woman doesn’t have to do anything for a man to turn a beast. You say I caused the misfortune it might interest you to know was was married before, I got to find out everything he did to his ex-wife which wasn’t so palatable, in case you didn’t know his ex-wife had called the police on him because he beat her up. The woman is white and she refused getting pregnant for him when she found out he wanted kids for state benefits, she divorced him. Pls tell him to come out and defend himself. And as for you defending him I feel sorry for you, you might probably be the same kind of person.

Coolesther:
Yes live, I am celebrating - I am even jubilating from being free from a psychopath who thought he could kill me and lie that my death was a suicide.

A woman doesn’t have to do anything for a man to turn a beast. You say I caused the misfortune it might interest you to know was was married before, I got to find out everything he did to his ex-wife which wasn’t so palatable, in case you didn’t know his ex-wife had called the police on him because he beat her up. The woman is white and she refused getting pregnant for him when she found out he wanted kids for state benefits, she divorced him. Pls tell him to come out and defend himself. And as for you defending him I feel sorry for you, you might probably be the same kind of person.

so you knew all these and carried on with the marriage?
Gold digging gone wrong