₦airaland Forum

ibkayee:
Lol there are ladies who are content with this arrangement and that’s fine.

I am talking about women who actually want careers/to progress but are being stopped by their husbands

I see.is that what you want?
Well I will personally support my woman to forge ahead in her career but if I make big money my dear she will turn to a trophy wife
Excess bread tinz
ABI you no want dey sleep for house dey collect major
G wagon and all

nwanneni:
I see.is that what you want?
Well I will personally support my woman to forge ahead in her career but if I make big money my dear she will turn to a trophy wife
Excess bread tinz
ABI you no want dey sleep for house dey collect major
G wagon and all

Lol if that’s what she wants, no problem. Hope you won’t be one of those guys who are adamant on stopping her from working yet will turn around to complain about her not bringing anything to the table and chopping all your money

ibkayee:
Lol if that’s what she wants, no problem. Hope you won’t be one of those guys who are adamant on stopping her from working yet will turn around to complain about her not bringing anything to the table and chopping all your money

ibkayee money stop nonsense.
How you go make like 10 million dollars come dey worry about say your wife no dey contribute
How much she want even contribute to start with
Money good oo ibk

nwanneni:
ibkayee money stop nonsense.
How you go make like 10 million dollars come dey worry about say your wife no dey contribute
How much she want even contribute to start with
Money good oo ibk

I’m just saying o, it happens

Acidosis:
We've never been on the same page?

I don't know the water you drank recently

Anyways, Acidosis is back.

Yay!

Pavore9:
Those women are our sisters, who raised them?

Where are those memes when you need them?

LordKO:
Yes. In fact, the most successful women I know are those who are submissive to their husbands - sane husbands. Submissiveness is neither a success inhibition nor a disease. Behind any family you see where the couple has peace of mind mutually, there's a man who loves his wife and a wife who's submissive to her husband.

And every sane man knows that the last person to take for granted is a submissive woman, because when pushed to the wall she can mar the mightiest of men. Someone like Jeff Bezos is lucky he came out less-scattered after taken his ex-submissive wife for granted.

Meanwhile, the biggest misconception out there is an average Black woman's thought that sane White women aren't submissive to their husbands - they're.

Submissiveness doesn't mean a man having his way over his wife, even when he's wrong in his thought or action - selflessness, which is the soul of submissiveness doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness. A sane man knows the importance of being thoughtful and tactful towards his wife.

you never disappoint. but how can you know when a woman is submissive to you?

bukatyne:
I don't know the water you drank recently
Anyways, Acidosis is back.
Yay!

pandv:
you never disappoint. but how can you know when a woman is submissive to you?

When you have peace of mind in your home, it means that someone is loving and another is submitting. You can't have submission without love unless you are living in West Point.

Submissiveness in Nigeria context is one of the over-exaggerated words ever used. Nobody will be 100% submissive in this 21st century not even kids.

pandv:
you never disappoint. but how can you know when a woman is submissive to you?

The answer isn't available for public consumption. lol.

Theyoungmatron:
When you have peace of mind in your home, it means that someone is loving and another is submitting. You can't have submission without love unless you are living in West Point.

Submissiveness in Nigeria context is one of the over-exaggerated words ever used. Nobody will be 100% submissive in this 21st century not even kids.

Thanks.

lilmax:
lol

time for unmarried women to give married women advice

so what it is now is

submit= no career
don't submit = career

where are these dumb women coming from?

this got me laughing had.

ifyalways:
The most abused word in Nigeria now once a male + female is involved= submission.

From the church to mosque to Sango shrine.

Yes it's possible for a career woman to submit to her spouse. It's also possible for s full time housewife to be rebellious, non-submissive and a feminist

Thanks.

jackslow:
yesssss very possible it depends on the kind of husband

Thanks.

LordKO:
Yes. In fact, the most successful women I know are those who are submissive to their husbands - sane husbands. Submissiveness is neither a success inhibition nor a disease. Behind any family you see where the couple has peace of mind mutually, there's a man who loves his wife and a wife who's submissive to her husband.

And every sane man knows that the last person to take for granted is a submissive woman, because when pushed to the wall she can mar the mightiest of men. Someone like Jeff Bezos is lucky he came out less-scattered after taken his ex-submissive wife for granted.

Meanwhile, the biggest misconception out there is an average Black woman's thought that sane White women aren't submissive to their husbands - they're.

Submissiveness doesn't mean a man having his way over his wife, even when he's wrong in his thought or action - selflessness, which is the soul of submissiveness doesn't mean absence of conscientiousness. A sane man knows the importance of being thoughtful and tactful towards his wife.

This is refreshing. Thanks a lot.

bukatyne:
What is your definition of submission?
What is your definition of a successful career?

I have no definition of any of them and that is while I am eager to hear from experienced people because my father is talking about need for me to consider marriage as I choose my career path.

ibkayee:
It’s scenario dependant

For example:

Since the whole idea of submitting to your husband is that he has the final say, if he doesn’t want her to take a specific job or have a career at all then she can’t essentially

So in this particular case, it isn’t possible

Thanks.

Acidosis:
Someone posted this earlier "submissiveness doesn't mean a man having his way over his wife". Nothing is wrong in having certain prejudices about about situations, job, in-laws, place of worship, etc. It is not gender specific.

People should focus on marrying sane partners. A man can allow you to work 24/7 so he can merry in peace and tour the world with his side chicks, not necessarily because he wants the best for you. Some want you to work so you pay most of the bills.

Marrying sane and loving/lovable partners should be our focus. Submissiveness, and the rest are extremely natural when love prevails.

Btw, the decision to work or not should be talked about before marriage.

Thanks.

TheeDetective:
@bold; those words are what I call WORDS ON MARBLE; nice one .


There seems to be so many threads talking about this one word ‘SUBMISSIVENESS ’so frequently on Nairaland; WHY? It’s simple; WIVES-BE SUBMISSIVE TO YOUR HUSBANDS AND HUSBANDS-LOVE YOUR WIFE. Why is it becoming so difficult for this to be applied? Huh!!!

Your question @op; yes it’s possible as long as she knows her career SHOULD IN NO WAY INTERFERE WITH HER ROLE AS A WIFE AND IF SHE HAS CHILDREN AS A MOTHER. Then there wouldn’t be the issue of whether her career would cause problems or not in her marriage.

Thanks.

Mellowbandw:
I have no definition of any of them and that is while I am eager to hear from experienced people because my father is talking about need for me to consider marriage as I choose my career path.

Discuss with your dad on what he means with practical scenarios.