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AmazonTopaz:
What if the father abandoned them
So he should look for a man who may not want anything to do with him

the OP should answer the question...what about his dad?

mankettle:
was ur mum married to your step dad legally? also what state are you in? answer

answer to this question is cogent!!!

is there a will?..if not...the case go hard!

mankettle:
was ur mum married to your step dad legally? also what state are you in? answer

I'm in Lagos. But they didn't do court marriage. I'm sure that's why these issues are coming up

babyfaceafrica:
is there a will?..if not...the case go hard!

He didn't die here (Lagos). He died in Ondo State (his state). He stayed there for some time before he died. So, whether he wrote ite a will or not, I don't know

Please get a probate immediately. Liquidate as much from his accounts and move to yours or your mother's. Get big muscled bouncers as security and not let those people near the house. Sue them for ownership of the hotel and fraudulently converting your car.

Kaveco:
I'm in Lagos. But they didn't do court marriage. I'm sure that's why these issues are coming up

Did your mum has a child for your step dad before he died? Kindly answer

Acidosis:
Alright, man. Like you've already mentioned, follow your lawyer's recommendations, and ensure you do not confront your father in-law's family. Leave that to your mom and her lawyer.

Bottom line is you have a father. If I were you, I will get him and hold him accountable for my needs and upkeep. I would not forget about him unless I've had terrible personal encounters with him. Emphasis on the word "personal". You currently don't know your fate as per accommodation and perhaps schooling(?). These are my exact words to someone in your shoes some years back. Of course, his mother kicked against the idea, they fought, etc. but today, he is happy, everyone is happy. Guy would have been a dropout over an issue he knows nothing about.

You understand the situation better than anyone though, so do what is best for you and your mother.

I don't even know how to contact him. I know his Facebook ID, and sent him a friend request two years ago. He blocked me.

edoman2016:
Did your mum has a child for your step dad before he died? Kindly answer

She didn't.

blank:
Please get a probate immediately. Liquidate as much from his accounts and move to yours or your mother's. Get big muscled bouncers as security and not let those people near the house. Sue them for ownership of the hot
el and fraudulently converting your car.

He didn't write a will. At least, not that we are aware of. All his money has been withdrawn from his accounts.

Kaveco:
I'm in Lagos. But they didn't do court marriage. I'm sure that's why these issues are coming up

a little bit more difficult, so your mum just moved in with him, did they do traditional? if not and no kids too?
that's a bit difficult, this one requires more thought and research. I will send u a PM

Kaveco:
He didn't write a will. At least, not that we are aware of. All his money has been withdrawn from his accounts.

He doesn't need to have written a will. Use his death certificate to get Probate from a court. Then take it from there.

Btw, does he have any kids?

If he has his own kids and your mother was not legally married to him, you guys better start looking for your own accommodation. Even if you don’t know of kids he may have had, those relatives can bring one child from no where and claim he is your late dad’s. Your mum should have tried to legalize the marriage...or had one child for him.

mankettle:
a little bit more difficult, so your mum just moved in with him, did they do traditional? if not and no kids too?
that's a bit difficult, this one requires more thought and research. I will send u a PM

They did traditional

blank:
He doesn't need to have written a will. Use his death certificate to get Probate from a court. Then take it from there.

Btw, does he have any kids?

He doesn't have kids

Kaveco:
They did traditional

then to an extent she is the legal wife and thus entitled to a major share of his assets to the detriment of other family members

cy4eve:
I think is high tym the both of u stop dis rubbish, d fact dat ur opportuned to comment on dis section does not Gv u guys d right to Banta words at each oda, if you don't hv anytin to say to d young man, u marry ur bed.@UyaiIncomparabl

Ok.

mankettle:
then to an extent she is the legal wife and thus entitled to a major share of his assets to the detriment of other family members

Soo wrong! Traditional marriage is just a palmwine drinking ceremony in the face of the law. You and your mum should lay your hands on anything you can from your stepdad and plan your exit . Your mum has no marriage papers and no child for the man.
The only way better option is if the man adopted you as a child, you answer his surname and there are legal papers certifying it.

amaham:
Soo wrong! Traditional marriage is just a palmwine drinking ceremony in the face of the law. You and your mum should lay your hands on anything you can from your stepdad and plan your exit . Your mum has no marriage papers and no child for the man.
The only way better option is if the man adopted you as a child, you answer his surname and there are legal papers certifying it.

They are married under common law. It's just a pity that now it has to be the rules under common law that apply and they are not usually female friendly.

amaham:
Soo wrong! Traditional marriage is just a palmwine drinking ceremony in the face of the law. You and your mum should lay your hands on anything you can from your stepdad and plan your exit . Your mum has no marriage papers and no child for the man.
The only way better option is if the man adopted you as a child, you answer his surname and there are legal papers certifying it.

I won't want to stress my head doing legal research here. but there are plethora of authorities that protect wives married under customary laws when it comes to inheritance. even the administration of estates laws provide for them so what are you saying? all they need is a good lawyer who is well versed in probate and family law issues.
PS. this applies to the wife only. she is the one that is entitled to a major part of his estate.