ibkayee:

No none of my husbands are cheating on me

Good to know, sugar mommy

dia4iam:
Good to know, sugar mommy

Lol I wish, give me about 20 more years and I’ll be qualified

In that case, must be dating around. Good for you sha, gather the experience while you can

ibkayee:

Lol I wish, give me about 20 more years and I’ll be qualified

That’s exactly what loyal means to a Nigerian thinking male

ibkayee:
What does being 'loyal' even entail in this case though? Because we know to most Nigerian men being loyal means putting up with their shvt like a ragdoll

A 'rebellious' one could be one who did not put up with his cheating for example and 'broke the home' by retaliating negatively like a normal human being and/or leaving. To Nigerians the home was broken because she did not forgive him, not because he cheated

Not saying this is what happened between them, I wouldn't know, but this is just how a lot of Nigerians think

cococandy:
That’s exactly what loyal means to a Nigerian thinking male

Lol that's why before I take them seriously I need them to define their meaning of 'loyal'

ibkayee:

Lol that's why before I take them seriously I need them to define their meaning of 'loyal'

loyalty means;
No come dey drag my house with me.
No nag me.
No give me orders and ultimatum.
No look down on me when I no get.money can be hard at times.
No cheat on me.
If you get and I no get,please share with me because I will do same for you.
If there is a way you can build us,please do.
If you do these,I go reward you ×10.
That is my definition of loyalty
When you dey come naija this girl

Iogobenz:
loyalty means;
No come dey drag my house with me.
No nag me.
No give me orders and ultimatum.
No look down on me when I no get.money can be hard at times.
No cheat on me.
If you get and I no get,please share with me because I will do same for you.
If there is a way you can build us,please do.
If you do these,I go reward you ×10.
That is my definition of loyalty
When you dey come naija this girl

Lol see list, next year probably

ibkayee:

Lol see list, next year probably

Will you honour my invite to port harcourt?
Ever been here?

Iogobenz:
Will you honour my invite to port harcourt?
Ever been here?

Never been to the east or south/south and since I don't have any family there it's unlikely that I'll ever be there, but if you're ever in Lagos or Abuja around Christmas time let me know

Loyal in what sense pls? Is it loyalty knowing he cheated several times but she stayed and was still faithful or what exactly does he mean

ibkayee:

Never been to the east or south/south and since I don't have any family there it's unlikely that I'll ever be there, but if you're ever in Lagos or Abuja around Christmas time let me know

alright.
I hardly ever go to those places except for business.
But hey,Christmas is usually boring for me so I guess it won't be bad If we all spend it together
Have a nice time and all...
Shey you have my number?
Just send me a message on WhatsApp,will you?

Iogobenz:
alright.
I hardly ever go to those places except for business.
But hey,Christmas is usually boring for me so I guess it won't be bad If we all spend it together
Have a nice time and all...
Shey you have my number?
Just send me a message on WhatsApp,will you?

I'll email you if I'm there

ibkayee:

I'll email you if I'm there

It thought it could have been when
Well...
which one be mail again ibk?do you have the number or not?

Iogobenz:

It thought it could have been when
Well...
which one be mail again ibk?do you have the number or not?

Lol nah I don't, I'll message you for it when I'm there though

ibkayee:

Lol nah I don't, I'll message you for it when I'm there though

alright no ish.

why can't she get a benz for herself?
or her husband?
instead she needed to behave herself like a lil gal
to get a prize
although she was the one having his back
when he was making money
and he made it
while she was serving
so he is in charge
and she remains a lil gal
at his mercy

Good question, Ibkayee.

theButterfly:
Good question, Ibkayee.

Lol let them tell us what she did exactly to be considered 'loyal'

the cray cray ones still dey get 2019 Tesla model X bo

cococandy:
We wey dey para still dey get Benz nko?
Oga speak for yourself.
Not every man likes your specific type of wife.

Some like them rebellious. That’s when their own mumu button gets turned on.

You know it.

armyofone:
the cray cray ones still dey get 2019 Tesla model X bo

Is your house also her house? Or is it just yours? Can she claim it as hers as well as yours?

Iogobenz:
loyalty means;
No come dey drag my house with me.
No nag me.
No give me orders and ultimatum.
No look down on me when I no get.money can be hard at times.
No cheat on me.
If you get and I no get,please share with me because I will do same for you.
If there is a way you can build us,please do.
If you do these,I go reward you ×10.
That is my definition of loyalty
When you dey come naija this girl

cococandy:
Is your house also her house? Or is just yours? Can she claim it as hers as well yours?

yes o.it's our house for Sure.
But no carry feminism come my side dey dictate to me or make me feel not good enough.that's what I meant.

armyofone:
the cray cray ones still dey get 2019 Tesla model X bo

cococandy:
You know it.

As in

Feminism means your house is her house as well. Nobody dictates. You interact as co-owners.
Anything more than that is definitely not feminism. And you’re saying that because you have a wrong understanding of what it means.

Iogobenz:
yes o.it's our house for Sure.
But no carry feminism come my side dey dictate to me or make me feel not good enough.that's what I meant.

cococandy:
Feminism means your house is her house as well. Nobody dictates. You interact as[b] co-owners[/b].
Anything more than that is definitely not feminism. And you’re saying that because you have a wrong understanding of what it means.

lol @ co-owners.
No na.na me get my house o!maka na Adi ama ama.
I hate losing property.

No problem.
I’m sure she will have her own house too. You guys can arrange when to visit each other.

If you’re against women owning property or having anything in their name, make sure you marry someone who’s willing to work and put it all in your name. So that you feel secure.

Iogobenz:
lol @ co-owners.
No na.na me get my house o!maka na Adi ama ama.
I hate losing property.

cococandy:
No problem.
I’m sure she will have her own house too. You guys can arrange when to visit each other.

If you’re against women owning property or having anything in their name, make sure you marry someone who’s willing to work and put it all in your name. So that you feel secure.

she can have hers,i don't mind and would not bother at all.
But that thing called alimony is what gives me goosebumps.
Don't play dumb with me coco.you know too well what I meant.

I don’t know what you meant.

And this confusion stems from reading comments of people (like you) who accuse feminism of breaking marriages and “against good values” yet the greatest value of love, fairness, oneness and togetherness isn’t something they agree with based on their comments.

Iogobenz:
she can have hers,i don't mind and would not bother at all.
But that thing called alimony is what gives me goosebumps.
Don't play dumb with me coco.you know too well what I meant.

Feminism is not a problem. In all sincerity, it is inevitable minding the shift in narrative about the concept of "bread winner". Men simply have to understand this and adjust. However, in cases where the man still carries the load of providing for nuclear and extended family almost exclusively, the woman should do and be a good African wife. No story.

cococandy:
I don’t know what you meant.

And this confusion stems from reading comments of people (like you) who accuse feminism of breaking marriages and “against good values” yet the greatest value of love, fairness, oneness and togetherness isn’t something they agree with based on their comments.

pocohantas:


What she said is the truth and you all have to start dealing with it. Not every man likes your naija definition of "submmisive".

luck wey you get wey make me de pity you be say i de respect dat oga and you know am. but if you like make you de do anyhow de tell dat oga say no be every man likes your naija definition of submissiveness. abi make i mention him here make ihm come see wetin you de talk here.

me self na dis kind talk you talk now make me fire ma baby come used style chase her out of newzealand

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DukeofNZ:


luck wey you get wey make me de pity you be say i de respect dat oga and you know am. but if you like make you de do anyhow de tell dat oga say no be every man likes your naija definition of submissiveness. abi make i mention him here make ihm come see wetin you de talk here.

me self na dis kind talk you talk now make me fire ma baby come used style chase her out of newzealand

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Oga stop wasting my time, does it look like I hang around the kind of men you can easily summon?

pocohantas:
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Oga stop wasting my time, does it look like I hang around the kind of men you can easily summon?

if me want summon oga Lord here i know how i go doam. him and one oda man apart, no oda man for dis forum reach ma level in anything in dis life .so oda men wey you say you de hang around with na small somebody's dem be for me and dem go even de worship me if me wan show ma true self for dis forum. you and dose oda men una small for where me dey forget say me de write like dis