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Big SHAME on all the women, who were asking for evidence. In fact SHAME on anyone who are supporting this Gucci pastor. Na only him dey this our obodo.

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

did you say he is being blackmailed? To use you for ritual just dey hungry me walahi

Actually you are dumb!

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

Bro do u mean sexual relationship with a minor? ....

Bisi Fayemi, feminist activist and the wife of Ekiti state governor, Kayode Fayemi has called out people especially women who condemned Busola Dakolo, wife of singer, Timi Dakolo who recently accused the Senior Pastor of the Commonwealth of Zion Assembly COZA, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo, of raping her when she was 17.

Bisi Fayemi, while narrating her own near-rape experience says she is appalled by the number of women who have come out to shame and condemn Busola for speaking up.

In an article she shared with the press, Mrs. Fayemi says the culture of shaming rape victims and forcing them to silence their pain in Nigeria must stop.

In her opinion, ”any adult who has a sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 18 is committing statutory rape, there is no such thing as consensual sex with a minor”.

Addressing the backlash Busola has received for speaking about the rape incident 20 years after, Mrs Fayemi wrote

”Over and over, supporters of the Pastor and some who claimed neutrality kept asking why Busola decided to speak up twenty years after the rape took place. Why is she speaking out now? Why did she not say something at the time? I could not believe some of the things people were saying, including those who ought to know better.

Busola Dakolo and her husband Timi received unprecedented support for their bravery, the court of public opinion seems to be in their favour. However, I could not help but wonder how we got to where we are, a society blissfully unaware of the war that has been waged consistently on the bodies of women and girls from one generation to the next.

Women don’t talk about what happened to them as girls or as adults because of the implications – shame, stigma, punishment, rejection.

I am even more appalled at the number of women who have added their voices in the shaming of Busola. If you cannot say anything to support another woman in pain, say nothing. Keep quiet. If you are a fan of the accused Pastor, support him if you want, but you don’t have to call his accuser names.

Mrs Fayemi went on to share stories of how she was almost abused when she was a child and how her gut as a child and her mother’s immediate stand saved her from being a victim
When I was ten years old, my mother brought a male teenage relative to live with us to help around the house. His name was Sina. He slept on a mattress on the floor with my younger brother, while I was on the bed with one of my young Aunts. One night, before I fell asleep, I felt my bed covers being pulled. I pulled them back up. It happened again and I did the same thing. The third time, I allowed the covers to be pulled off totally to be sure I was not making a mistake.

I sat up and asked Sina what he was doing. He said ‘nothing’. I stayed awake for most of the night. First thing in the morning, I went to tell my mother. She did not yell at me. She did not scream and call me a liar. By the time I got back from school, Sina was gone and we never saw him again. We never had any male relatives live with us after that.

When I was in secondary school and home for the holidays, I was around thirteen at the time, I told my father I wanted to learn how to swim. There was this young man who lived next door, he used to run errands for my father, we called him Brother Lai. My father asked Brother Lai to take me and my Aunt to Airport Hotel, Ikeja, to teach us how to swim.

My first swimming lesson was my last. Brother Lai held me from behind, teaching me how to kick my feet under the water, while at the same time pressing himself against me and touching me inappropriately. When I asked him why he was doing that, he asked, ‘Can’t I play with you’?
The next day, when he came around for us to go for the next lesson, I refused. I never told my parents what happened, I just mumbled something about not liking water.

I was afraid of causing trouble. I did not want Brother Lai to be sent away on my account, the same way Sina was frog-marched to the motor park by my mother.

I did not want my parents to think I was in some way encouraging these men to be inappropriate towards me. So, I said nothing and just stayed out of Brother Lai’s way. Brother Lai had never given any indication that he was anything other than a respected older brother figure. I was however literally placed in his hands and he saw an opportunity and took advantage of it.

That is what predators do, they wait for opportunities to present themselves and then they abuse trust and innocence. With hindsight, I shudder at the naivety of my trusting parents. I, however, learnt to appreciate my mother’s response to my claims, it could have gone differently. What if my mother had not believed me? What if Brother Lai had come into our house and I had let him in, and he had proceeded to attack me in my own home?

Rape allegation by Busola Dakolo against Pastor Biodun continues to generate reactions from all quarters, even has the embattled stepped down as the senior pastor of COZA.

Busola has, however, reported the case to the police.



https://www.independent.ng/fayemi-shares-rape-experience-blasts-women-shaming-busola-dakolo/

THERE IS SO MUCH STIGMA ATTACH TO RAPE VICTIMS, THEIR EXPERIENCE, STORIES THAT SOME SECTION OF THE PUBLIC HARDLY BELIEVE THEM.

THIS INCIDENT IS COMMON IN NIGERIA AND THE REST OF AFRICA.

Mrs Bukola Dakolo story is one of the good example.

tsinzu:
Ha!!! Biodun, powerful voices are rising against you

More dry woods are being supplied to burn his already burning ass.

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

SMH......And you think you are bright

Thank you o jare...Better human being.

Don't mind the fish brains. Most African females lack common sense. That's why they raise regressive baboons only.

I HOPE IS NOT broda lai Muhammed

Neddstark:
18 is a minor for sex? While 18 year old girls are allowed to carry guns and kill in the army. You must be mad madam.
If your children say that in northern Nigeria, Arab countries, Indonesia and some parts of India, they will be lynched.

He said 17 not 18 & in the face of the law; they are minors.

Sterope:
Nah, you are the dumb one. You should be appointed president of the dumb ones association.

You have managed to make yourself feel good.

He made sense.

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scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

guy u dey talk nonsense

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

Fish head

enemyofprogress:
This woman fine o,has she got any femail child?

She only has one child(son)and folajimi and people claim they adopted him.

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

you are a dumb genius!

Such an obnoxious fellow...

But Timi its self said he marry Busola as a VIRGIN , Why her story change ??

Iyajelili:
Well said Madam! If victims of rape come out to talk about their experience, many men would divorce their wives.
Like she right said, victims don't speak out because of the stigma that comes with speaking out.

Please shed more light, why will they divorce their wife??

Stillthebest:
She only has one child(son)and folajimi and people claim they adopted him.

In that case I will like her to adopt me too,anything to be close to her

Iyajelili:
Well said Madam! If victims of rape come out to talk about their experience, many men would divorce their wives.
Like she right said, victims don't speak out because of the stigma that comes with speaking out.

are you going to come tonight?

KingAzari:
Near - rape?

I do not take such people serious. She has no experience.

U sound like a rapist

realstars:
So you know brother lai before he became a minister?
Le me stop there, my battery is running down.

Lai Mohammed lied to her he was trying to play with her while he was trying to rape her.

See he ia he President of dumb ones association and you are one of the members. Of course, he would make a lot of sense to you.

Stillthebest:
He made sense.

The import of the message is that Parents should keep eagle watch on their children(male and female).Entrusting your children in the hand of a relative, cousin or P.A without proper monitoring could spell doom. Let us be guided.

Busola's rape story has opened my eyes to what has been going on. A lot of women have come out to tell their stories in hidden groups dedicated to women and by God, the scars are still fresh.

I realised roughly 50% of the members have been raped or abused. And the common reason for not speaking out was, shame, fear of being accused and of course ignorant and disbelieving parents, guardians and society who preferred beating them for lying rather than investigate. The scars are deep, a lot have never healed, yet society throws fake tantrums when one of these traumatized victims speak up.

Rape is occurring in virtually all families and the perpetrators are trustworthy friends, pastors and family members. I deduced that the only way to stop rape was for parents to listen to their children and for them to be extra attentive to the slightest change in their children or ward's behaviours and of course for the society to give them the benefit of the doubt when they come out and pretend to at least care.

So many Nigerian men are marauders of the innocent. It is sad, but it is the truth.

It's like this year,it's a year of recompence,a year of karma and vengeance,
desist from ur evil ways now b4 karma comes calling.

This thing is s getting silly. Someone pulled off your bed sheet, you pulled it back....same sequence is repeated twice and yes.....it must be rape.
Children cannot play in peace again.
#CrorruptedMind

While I am morally and ethically on the side of Busola in this saga, I don't really know that Mrs. Fayemi's claim that sexual relationship with anybody below 18 is statutory rape. At 11, Nigeria presently has the lowest age of consent in the world, and so it seems statutory rape doesn't apply after 11 in Nigeria. Even more absurd is that two kids, say, 9 and 10, engaging in sexual relationship can technically be convicted of statutory rape because there are no legal protections for minors who find themselves in such a situation.

Clearly, Nigeria's laws need serious overhauling.

Well, that is her opinion. I just hope Gov. Fayemi doesn't failed again in Ekiti

Thesame wife of Governor has nothing to say on their indecency & insanity among her folks.

It baffles me that most times when the so called women(Feminist, strong advocate for women's right) often hide from discussing indecency & insanity of the female folks in the society.

All, we see them doing is to cry for empowerment, equal rights.

They should balance things, that is when the society can appreciate.


On her own case, since the feminist opinion support "male & female are equal".

I hope she wont do the same mistake her parent did....given her to learn swimming from Bro. Lai

uhmmmm..... Infact from driver, security to kitchen staff, should be replaced with female.

scoory:
What people don't understand is that justice is not black and white. When Fela was jailed for currency smuggling, there are probably some truth to the allegation but it is not true justice because it was politically motivated.
This Fatoyinbo guy most likely had a sexual relationship with the Bukola girl but he can't admit it because he is a pastor. That does not mean he actually forced himself on her.
He is being blackmailed because he has more to loose. If he was a regular guy like me, I will gladly come out and explain how we enjoyed each other's company.

You all keep watching until these NGO organizations turn nigeria into the rape capital of the world so that they can be swimming in money from funds and donations.
You think all the rape stories trending on Nairaland, blogs and social media recently is a conincidence?
Sometimes I wonder if I'm a genius or most people are just dumb.

They always emphasize on girl child or women being raped but never about how women rape men.
When I was I2 as a young boy I was raped by my aunt who was 25years old then. No one knows about that incident till now.
...

Deliberately misleading headline meant to garner clicks!
Near rape is what she said.. Not rape!!!

Islie:
https://www.independent.ng/fayemi-shares-rape-experience-blasts-women-shaming-busola-dakolo/

Uchenaija:
Seriously, rape or attempted rape is not good for nobody.


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Uchenaija:
Seriously, rape or attempted rape is not good for nobody.


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