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Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by elektra(f): 7:55pm On Jul 09, 2019
kowema:
Do you know the circumstances behind over staying their rent?.
What if they had hopes to pay, what if the Landlord understood. You people saying move to the village blah blah. Really?.

That someone is down doesn't mean they won't rise or that dey had been wretched all along. Help if you can or walk away.

You guys wait till you need help nd the whole world goes logical on you.

People are committing suicide daily and the world keeps saying dey didn't voice out.

Someone voices out now, you people drag them to further gutters
She already said the circumstance behind overstaying their rent, if the landlord was okay with them overstaying the rent he/she wouldn't have gone to court. Because you are down does not mean you should cause another man pain, what if the house rent was the landlord's source of income too?
What is wrong with living in the village?
Every one has/will experience hardship and so everyone should be ready cut their coat according to their cloth when they need to.
Me, I was not born with silver-spoon in my mouth either and my advice from experience. When things were hard my father bundled us to the village, he remained and hustled in Lagos while squatting with other hustlers. We eventually returned to Lagos when things got better and we did not die.
You should have taken your own advice and "helped or walked away" instead of quoting ifyalways and saying she is insensitive for giving practical advice.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Contumely: 7:58pm On Jul 09, 2019
mezarddinny:
why do Nigerian tenants like frustrating owners like this? I am experiencing the same, when they come to rent the house, it is hitch free but when you tell them to move out after they have owed you for long, they start forming strong head. you and your husband don't have a job yet you stayed put in another mans house without no hope of payment, if na Una employer no give Una salary for 3 months, wahala go don burst.


my advice for you is to move to your village and start farming at least you will get a cheaper room and free land or cheap lease, no be by force to stay for lag abeg
Idiiot stop playing God. You could walk away without commenting instead of this rubbish.

How much do you have? One serious illness can send you not just to village but to hell fire.

Be humble.

Spits.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by ThothHermes: 8:05pm On Jul 09, 2019
elektra:
The insensitive person her is the OP that comfortably balanced in someone’s house for 8 months without paying. Last minute was before their rent ended, then they waited 8 months so tay the owner had to go to court for his/her own property. If that is not heartlessness I don’t know what is.
OP, if I was in your shoes I will move out of Lagos ASAP. You build yourself a pretty decent life in other less expensive states.
Please shut the hell up!!!
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Contumely: 8:07pm On Jul 09, 2019
ifyalways:
Healthy people wake up and walk in for surgery.

Carry your emotional and all what not issues and waltz out of my mentions abeg.
I assume you are an adult, hence should know that there could be impromptu or emergency surgery, like after an accident.

You sound so myopic on this.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by yeyeosoronga: 8:07pm On Jul 09, 2019
kowema:
Do you know the circumstances behind over staying their rent?.
What if they had hopes to pay, what if the Landlord understood. You people saying move to the village blah blah. Really?.

That someone is down doesn't mean they won't rise or that dey had been wretched all along. Help if you can or walk away.

You guys wait till you need help nd the whole world goes logical on you.

People are committing suicide daily and the world keeps saying dey didn't voice out.

Someone voices out now, you people drag them to further gutters
Are you the OP's main handle?
Those people living in the village, are they not human? People here have given their advice by suggesting they move to the village and build their lives from the scratch there again without any debt of house rent, bills hanging over their head.
It's always better to live within your means and cut your coat according to your cloth.
You have suggested giving OP money, kindly pay some money into OP's account, and let those that have other suggestions for them give their suggestions in peace. Many people you are soliciting funds from don't even have the luxury to live in a 70K rented apartment. Nothing wrong in advising.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by elektra(f): 8:09pm On Jul 09, 2019
ThothHermes:
Please shut the hell up!!!
Please, go fvck yourself!!!
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by kowema(f): 8:16pm On Jul 09, 2019
yeyeosoronga:
Are you the OP's main handle?
Those people living in the village, are they not human? People here have given their advice by suggesting they move to the village and build their lives from the scratch there again without any debt of house rent, bills hanging over their head.
It's always better to live within your means and cut your coat according to your cloth.
You have suggested giving OP money, kindly pay some money into OP's account, and let those that have other suggestions for them give their suggestions in peace. Many people you are soliciting funds from don't even have the luxury to live in a 70K rented apartment. Nothing wrong in advising.
I'm not the OPs main Handle Sir/Ma.
There's a difference btwn giving advice and making derogatory comments.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by ThothHermes: 8:25pm On Jul 09, 2019
sassysure:
My dear, don't just make me remember,I have 2 stubborn tenants that have refused to pay since 2 yrs now. We are going to surprise them very soon. They will surely pay and pack out overnight. No court, no police. We know how to handle such people.
Wicked people.
Never lived in anybody's house without paying rent as that's day light robbery.
U will suffer and sweat to build a house, some wicked soul will wanna claim right on top your money and sweat.


@topic, no comment.
Two years is a bit much but are they simply refusing to pay or is it that they don't have the money?
In the OP's case I don't think it's wickedness or anything. They were paying the 400k until their predicament. A single event can derail a person's best laid plans.
Landlords also commit robbery in the name of agreement and all those cutthroat fees would-be tenants are made to pay nohuh

Owing for 8months in Lagos is not such an unusual thing given the circumstances. I hope they get the miracle they seek.

PS: You can't collect the rent and still evict them. You only get one. Na mouth you dey make grin grin
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by ThothHermes: 8:27pm On Jul 09, 2019
undecided
elektra:
Please, go fvck yourself!!!
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by 2mch(m): 8:34pm On Jul 09, 2019
Smh. Many alternate handles fighting people here. Goodluck OP
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 8:54pm On Jul 09, 2019
kowema:
Do you know the circumstances behind over staying their rent?.
What if they had hopes to pay, what if the Landlord understood. You people saying move to the village blah blah. Really?.

That someone is down doesn't mean they won't rise or that dey had been wretched all along. Help if you can or walk away.

You guys wait till you need help nd the whole world goes logical on you.

People are committing suicide daily and the world keeps saying dey didn't voice out.

Someone voices out now, you people drag them to further gutters
Wow! I'm impressed by your comments. This country will sure be a better place with just half of Nigerians with your kind of heart and reasoning. I'm in love with you already.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m):
Those that can help her should please. I know those who won't give her shishi are the ones insulting her the most. Such is life. I pray helpers locate you and your family ASAP.

Meanwhile, I'm in dire need of money for my school fees presently as difficult times are here staring me in the face but this same unregulated and unguarded jibes thrown at OP is why I'm afraid of opening a thread soliciting for my school fees. Who knows, with my strong faith, my prayers may be answered. May God help us in this country. It's only when they hear you've committed suicide and then they ask 'why' while others type RIP.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Michelle55: 9:32pm On Jul 09, 2019
Kindly help her out no matter how little.... She seems genuine
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 10:04pm On Jul 09, 2019
You guys should read here. Case of suicide over debt that just happened this evening. And when others take a bold step to solicit for help, those who can't even donate a kobo will take the lead on throwing jibes at already depressed person. SMH!


https://www.nairaland.com/5291667/bike-rider-commits-suicide-lagos#80102598

See it there.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Acidosis(m): 10:18pm On Jul 09, 2019
emptor:
Meanwhile, I'm in dire need of money for my school fees presently as difficult times are here staring me in the face but this same unregulated and unguarded jibes thrown at OP is why I'm afraid of opening a thread soliciting for my school fees. Who knows, with my strong faith, my prayers may be answered. May God help us in this country. It's only when they hear you've committed suicide and then they ask 'why' while others type RIP.
strong work


That's what many so called rich Nigerian students abroad do to pay school fees. Over 95% of Nigerian students in the UK, US, etc work day and night to survive.

I wonder why we can't replicate same over here.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 10:24pm On Jul 09, 2019
Acidosis:
strong work


That's what many so called rich Nigerian students abroad do to pay school fees. Over 95% of Nigerian students in the UK, US, etc work day and night to survive.

I wonder why we can't replicate same over here.
I work too if you must know.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Acidosis(m): 10:25pm On Jul 09, 2019
emptor:
I work too if you must know.
Okay, great. May divine help locate you.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 10:39pm On Jul 09, 2019
Acidosis:
Okay, great. May divine help locate you.
Amen. Thanks.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by izzou(m): 10:52pm On Jul 09, 2019
grin grin grin grin
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Nobody: 12:52am On Jul 10, 2019
ThothHermes:
Two years is a bit much but are they simply refusing to pay or is it that they don't have the money?
In the OP's case I don't think it's wickedness or anything. They were paying the 400k until their predicament. A single event can derail a person's best laid plans.
Landlords also commit robbery in the name of agreement and all those cutthroat fees would-be tenants are made to pay nohuh

Owing for 8months in Lagos is not such an unusual thing given the circumstances. I hope they get the miracle they seek.

PS: You can't collect the rent and still evict them. You only get one. Na mouth you dey make grin grin
A smart person will never borrow to pay house rent. If next yr, they couldn't pay again, what happens?
Another story?
I have long stopped believing nairaland stories even with evidences. We have seen enough, scammed a lot and are wiser now.
The story would have garnered enough sympathy if she beg for money to start up some small scale biz, tell people what was wrong with her husband even if lie.
They are not hungry, she is healthy, case solved.
Hubby can stay at home with kids if they are very small and she goes hustling. Thousands have be3n doing that.
And besides, after the said surgery, they would have told themselves the truth and start looking for cheaper apartm3nts, sub let that one and use the money to get a smaller accommodation. With hubby not working, how much can she save to pay for house rent, feed and settle bills with her salary.even if she is still working.
Can u see their move isn't smart?
That ur hubby had surgery, laid off from work isn't the reason u couldn't make use of common sense.
Lay low when the going is rough. U will rise again.


As per my tenants, it was so cos we were not around. The caretaker is lax and there is nothing we can do until one of us is there.

That I can't collect my money and evict them?
In Nigeria?
I will do that very comfortably.
As it is, u go to court , they will be given time to pay and court will still tell them to vacate. Few months if you want to follow court. And court will seize their ppty if they don't comply.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Pavore9: 5:43am On Jul 10, 2019
emptor:
Those that can help her should please. I know those who won't give her shishi are the ones insulting her the most. Such is life. I pray helpers locate you and your family ASAP.

Meanwhile, I'm in dire need of money for my school fees presently as difficult times are here staring me in the face but this same unregulated and unguarded jibes thrown at OP is why I'm afraid of opening a thread soliciting for my school fees. Who knows, with my strong faith, my prayers may be answered. May God help us in this country. It's only when they hear you've committed suicide and then they ask 'why' while others type RIP.
For issue of school fees,one always have the option of deferring a semester or two to go hustle out his/her school fees. I recall a mechanical engineering student of Unizik some years back, who had to leave school for a while because of finances to go work full-time at the construction site of Davis Suite(Hotel) in New Haven Enugu when it was being built and the next compound to mine back then. This guy lived on site with other artisans throughout the construction of the hotel and we became friends. He went back to school to finish and he is presently working for Forchbahn AG, a railway company in Zurich, Switzerland.

People have their own stories and have made tough decisions.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by 2mch(m): 5:58am On Jul 10, 2019
Pavore9:
For issue of school fees,one always have the option of deferring a semester or two to go hustle out his/her school fees. I recall a mechanical engineering student of Unizik some years back, who had to leave school for a while because of finances to go work full-time at the construction site of Davis Suite(Hotel) in New Haven Enugu when it was being built and the next compound to mine back then. This guy lived on site with other artisans throughout the construction of the hotel and we became friends. He went back to school to finish and he is presently working for Forchbahn AG, a railway company in Zurich, Switzerland.

People have their own stories and have made tough decisions.
Leave the goat. He thinks the people that contribute here are just swimming in cash. When some of them wake up 5am to go and work and then find the strength to attend school. He thinks we were put on earth to feed him. Hunger never sama your head. A young man like him with plenty muscles is talking like a baby. He say he need to school and cannot work at the same time, he’s relying on strong faith grin. So we that do it are fools abi? Hunger fire you dia. If you like commit suicide. Who are you threatening? You think we don’t have our own problems? Person die na Im own don end be that.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 6:57am On Jul 10, 2019
Pavore9:
For issue of school fees,one always have the option of deferring a semester or two to go hustle out his/her school fees. I recall a mechanical engineering student of Unizik some years back, who had to leave school for a while because of finances to go work full-time at the construction site of Davis Suite(Hotel) in New Haven Enugu when it was being built and the next compound to mine back then. This guy lived on site with other artisans throughout the construction of the hotel and we became friends. He went back to school to finish and he is presently working for Forchbahn AG, a railway company in Zurich, Switzerland.

People have their own stories and have made tough decisions.
Well, we all have our different ways in approaching issues. He worked as a labourer in a construction site, in the last 2years+, I've worked as a security guard in a hotel sleeping outside and opening gate from morning till the following morning just to be able to meet ends need. We have all suffered in this country and we have stories to tell. On the issue of deferring, I'm already 28 and deferring anything is against my time...NYSC.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 7:03am On Jul 10, 2019
2mch:
Leave the goat. He thinks the people that contribute here are just swimming in cash. When some of them wake up 5am to go and work and then find the strength to attend school. He thinks we were put on earth to feed him. Hunger never sama your head. A young man like him with plenty muscles is talking like a baby. He say he need to school and cannot work at the same time, he’s relying on strong faith grin. So we that do it are fools abi? Hunger fire you dia. If you like commit suicide. Who are you threatening? You think we don’t have our own problems? Person die na Im own don end be that.
Before you throw insults anyhow to someone you can't even help (I know your type), read my post above.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by cococandy(f): 7:30am On Jul 10, 2019
You are on point. I wondered about that too
ifyalways:
3 bedroom flat for husband(sick) , non working wife and two kids. None of you or people close to you adviced you guys to subtly sublet out one or two of the rooms for atleast 100K each to help offset the bill?

You got some cash, instead of trading on things like foodstuff(daily sales gauranteed) you went to sale clothes?

Bad decisions all through.

Going forward, ask your family and relatives for help and look for a mini flat(one bedroom). It must not be within your immediate locality .Maybe Agboju area. 100K at most for total package and start your lives afresh . If that one no work maybe it's time to relocate to the village and re-strategize.

The landlord sef go don suffer. One year or more rent lost, plus money spent in court. Why did he need court order to get you guys out? Strong head on top another man house.

God help us all
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by ifyalways(f): 8:27am On Jul 10, 2019
cococandy:
You are on point. I wondered about that too
I felt for the landlord more. Some people toil for 30 or more years to build a house as something to fall back on. The house might be the landlords source of income for now.

The court summons/quit notice was served Dec last year. NO one serves you quit notice unless you have owed for atleast four months. So perhaps the landlord lost last years rent, some part of this year, lawyer and court fees.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by cococandy(f): 8:49am On Jul 10, 2019
And we are already in July.

I don’t think OP, her family and even those on this thread lashing out at folks who are pointing this out are bad people per se.

We just have enormous entitlement mentality and inability to put ourselves in others’ shoes. That needs to change. Landlords are always getting bad names as if they should build houses and give it up for free.

If this landlord has kids in university, how will they make it through the semester unless there is cash flow from somewhere else?

OP I wish you guys good luck. I pray your fortunes improve.
ifyalways:
I felt for the landlord more. Some people toil for 30 or more years to build a house as something to fall back on. The house might be the landlords source of income for now.

The court summons/quit notice was served Dec last year. NO one serves you quit notice unless you have owed for atleast four months. So perhaps the landlord lost last years rent, some part of this year, lawyer and court fees.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by teemotee: 8:55am On Jul 10, 2019
emptor:
Well, we all have our different ways in approaching issues. He worked as a labourer in a construction site, in the last 2years+, I've worked as a security guard in a hotel sleeping outside and opening gate from morning till the following morning just to be able to meet ends need. We have all suffered in this country and we have stories to tell. On the issue of deferring, I'm already 28 and deferring anything is against my time...NYSC.
sorry I just want to chip in that nysc is not a do or die matter if you clock 30 before graduating. You will be exempted to move on with your life. Please take a year off to sort your finances if you have to rather than depressing yourself
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by emptor(m): 10:01am On Jul 10, 2019
teemotee:
sorry I just want to chip in that nysc is not a do or die matter if you clock 30 before graduating. You will be exempted to move on with your life. Please take a year off to sort your finances if you have to rather than depressing yourself
Thanks for your contribution though.
Re: Help! Help! Help My Family!!!. by Nobody: 11:07am On Jul 10, 2019
ifyalways:
I felt for the landlord more. Some people toil for 30 or more years to build a house as something to fall back on. The house might be the landlords source of income for now.

The court summons/quit notice was served Dec last year. [s]NO one serves you quit notice unless you have owed for atleast four months[/s]. So perhaps the landlord lost last years rent, some part of this year, lawyer and court fees.
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