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Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Ujuvals1: 11:56pm On Dec 23, 2019
[size=8pt][b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode]My dear nairalanders Good evening.

I just want to pour out my heart here because i am suicidal and i am hoping God will comfort me and help me through.

The heart of man they say is desperately wicked and it just dawned on mw today.

I am a married woman with kids, my husband's business had crumbled over three years ago and i have been the one holding forth the home.

The country is so tough that for a man without capital for business or education, he may spend longer time trying to find his feet.

Things had been so rough for us over these years, i have been doing all jobs just to survive.I work in a small company that pay me monthly, the weekends i also wash and do menial jobs for people to support the home front.

My husband in turn takes care of our kid, do the chores and move around for anything he can lay his hands on but its been so tough.


In october a friend asked my husband to join him in business in the market that way he can find his feet.He talked to me abt it, we agreed i should take loan and i took loan of 250,000naira to enable him start business while i gradually work and pay it up monthly.

He has been going to work since october and sincerely things got better becauze with the funds he was able to do business and give me some money from the gain to support the house and also join in repaying the loan.

Just few days ago, the man whom they were working together said they should buy goods as usual to resell which they did, the man also encouraged other traders to buy too because his northern customers were coming to purchase them.

People bought and we were happy that after the sales our lives will get better, so the northerners came and the goods were sold.His friend was credited and when the man tried to transfer them the money but said network issue because the transfer wasnt going.

They went to the bank but it was on friday and time had gone so he said he would credit all traders that did the business togther their money that night, thats how this man went home and nobody knew he had plans.

By early morn my husband didnt sleep at night so he went to the man place in the morn to ask why the delay, he went there with other men too who wanted to collect their money.We got the shock of our lives.The man had travelled abroad with traders money and my husband's own inclusive.


We are really at a loss on what to do and i am frustrated as i cant explain why this hardluck had to fall on me.People say women dont support a struggling man but here i am supporting for over three years and this is how my christmas ended.

I am writing now in tears because i dont even know whatelse to do, the man literally left with the whole money.We have no dime on us, i dont know how we will survive, i have to keep repaying the loan for few more months and yet we have nothing to live on.

To be sincere my faith is really broken and shaken.i got this sad news immediately i got back from vigil where i went to dance and thank God for his love and faithfulness.

Where do we go from here with a little kid that has to survive, my office is very far and i spend about 1000 a day to and fro and with this situation now i dunno what to do.

Why are human beings so heartless, this is how this man travelled and wrecked many homes in a desperate bid to leave the country.


I dont know if people have any right words to calm me because i am shaken, i am depressed and frustrated.The burden is so much moreso in december when january is tougher and waiting.


How do we cope from here?Lord pls save me.I am shattered beyond words.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Litesanti(m): 12:01am On Dec 24, 2019
Seriously.... No one can console u in diz situation than God Almighty

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:02am On Dec 24, 2019
its called LIFE... dont despair, all will be well with time.

Litesanti:
Seriously.... No one can console u in diz situation than God Almighty

unless that your "god" can bring back the money they lost to thieving partners (or better yet, give her husband a job in the last 3yrs), what you wrote is actually complete rubbish.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Prettiedame: 12:04am On Dec 24, 2019
Be strong

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Tellemall: 12:07am On Dec 24, 2019
Wipe your tears, madam, and keep a stiff upper lip.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Tellemall: 12:08am On Dec 24, 2019
Wipe your tears, madam, and keep a stiff upper lip.

What happened to you isn't enough to break you. Don't you know that the trials that come our way are only to teach us how to handle a new growth? It might not make sense to you now, but when you realize it, remember this post.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Tellemall: 12:10am On Dec 24, 2019
Wipe your tears, madam, and keep a stiff upper lip.

What happened to you isn't enough to break you. Don't you know that the trials that come our way are only to teach us how to handle a new growth? It might not make sense to you now, but when you realize it, remember this post.

Stay positive and keep an open mind. Now is not the time to break down.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by eyinjuege: 12:11am On Dec 24, 2019
Chai, sorry o madam.
Really wicked people everywhere.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Gracespecial101(m): 12:14am On Dec 24, 2019
It hasn't been easy but Keep Calm

Tables are about to Turn

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Nobody: 12:20am On Dec 24, 2019
What the op wants is for people to donate to her. Instead of asking for her account number, y'all are saying "It's well, God will help you, bla! Blah!! Blah!!!"

I take such stories here with a pinch of salt. The op could even be a guy. What do I know sef?

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:24am On Dec 24, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
What the op wants is for people to donate to her. Instead of asking for her account number, y'all are saying "It's well, God will help you, bla! Blah!! Blah!!!"

I take such stories here with a pinch of salt. The op could even be a guy. What do I know sef?

DONATE ko DO NINE ni!

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Nobody: 12:27am On Dec 24, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


DONATE ko DO NINE ni!
cheesy grin
You guys won't make heaven. The op needs money, not words of prayer. Oya, ask for his/her account number.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by MrBrownJay1(m): 12:33am On Dec 24, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
cheesy grin
You guys won't make heaven. The op needs money, not words of prayer. Oya, ask for him/her account number.

bro we know them sob stories already...they are plenty on NL, and its xmas time, but at least give some time for OP to flip the script (aka beg for money) so we could insult her (and her story) properly.... until then, the best she can get from us is e-hug:

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Augla1: 12:35am On Dec 24, 2019
Oh devil, a poor kettle called black by a dirty pot.
Ur deed are not worse, is just man ur hypocritic antagonist that exaggerates it.
Man is a creature worse than the devil, so sly in his dealings, posing as what he is not.
How can one even trust his tears?

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Nobody: 12:48am On Dec 24, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


bro we know them sob stories already...they are plenty on NL, and its xmas time, but at least give some time for OP to flip the script (aka beg for money) so we could insult her (and her story) properly.... until then, the best she can get from us is e-hug:



LOL. cheesy

Why can't y'all pretend she's asked for money? After all, she did mention they don't have anything to feed on. grin

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by uruba23: 1:20am On Dec 24, 2019
Just like in the time of Job there is nothing I do say that would comfort you,I am also going through my own challenges and I usually do my best not to think about it,just spend sometime on Nairaland to get my mind distracted and I even hardly sleep at night this days. Anyway when face with insurmountable challenges the first thing to do is stay positive, look at what options you got,I know it is hard to discount suicide that is what the devil usually suggest to us as the easy way,but in reality for someone like me dying isn't as easy as you think and the damage you do cost is even worst off. Just calm down and leave all your cares to God,yes you just danced to God and the devil was smiling let us test her like we did Job let see if she would dance. My dear I pray the Good Lord send you a helper to solve your problem so the Good Lord can solve their bigger problems. Stay Calm Biko ,God is the same today and tomorrow.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by LadySarah(f): 2:54am On Dec 24, 2019
What doesnt kill you make you stronger.pls be strong for your husband and family,its not the end of the road.

God will make a way.Yes he will.
Encourage your husband cos he might feel suicidal at this pt and hustle without shame.Always use ur mouth and prophesy favor in his life and you will see God will bless your efforts.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Nobody: 3:55am On Dec 24, 2019
And you had to type in that tiny font? sad


Sorry about your loss. Trust no one.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by CHoccolaTE(f): 4:34am On Dec 24, 2019
OP write the man's full name here, name and shame him
Even if you can't catch him at least you can expose him as a crook

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by femi4: 5:28am On Dec 24, 2019
GrabHisBalls:
What the op wants is for people to donate to her. Instead of asking for her account number, y'all are saying "It's well, God will help you, bla! Blah!! Blah!!!"

I take such stories here with a pinch of salt. The op could even be a guy. What do I know sef?

I thought I was the only one that observe.

I went through her post, she had to type in this font for the first time.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Sanchez01: 5:57am On Dec 24, 2019
Scam. Someone in distress had the time to write this long epistle and thought to format it by making the font smaller.

If your supposed heart was heavy, you wouldn't even have the strength to format the text. I squinted all through just to read the tale.

A supposed business man who had been doing business at a particular place suddenly had plans and disappeared with people's money, forgetting he is still very much in the business of buying and selling and most likely would have to come back to buy goods...

This sob story is way too obvious.

Modified

Was it not the same 'three years ago' 'your husband' traveled to Brazil to work and worked for a company? How come it's the same three years ago that his business crumbled?

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by tabithababy(f): 6:05am On Dec 24, 2019
Ujuvals1:
My dear nairalanders Good evening.

I just want to pour out my heart here because i am suicidal and i am hoping God will comfort me and help me through.

The heart of man they say is desperately wicked and it just dawned on mw today.

I am a married woman with kids, my husband's business had crumbled over three years ago and i have been the one holding forth the home.

The country is so tough that for a man without capital for business or education, he may spend longer time trying to find his feet.

Things had been so rough for us over these years, i have been doing all jobs just to survive.I work in a small company that pay me monthly, the weekends i also wash and do menial jobs for people to support the home front.

My husband in turn takes care of our kid, do the chores and move around for anything he can lay his hands on but its been so tough.


In october a friend asked my husband to join him in business in the market that way he can find his feet.He talked to me abt it, we agreed i should take loan and i took loan of 250,000naira to enable him start business while i gradually work and pay it up monthly.

He has been going to work since october and sincerely things got better becauze with the funds he was able to do business and give me some money from the gain to support the house and also join in repaying the loan.
uyJust few days ago, the man whom they were working together said they should buy goods as usual to resell which they did, the man also encouraged other traders to buy too because his northern customers were coming to purchase them.

People bought and we were happy that after the sales our lives will get better, so the northerners came and the goods were sold.His friend was credited and when the man tried to transfer them the money but said network issue because the transfer wasnt going.

They went to the bank but it was on friday and time had gone so he said he would credit all traders that did the business togther their money that night, thats how this man went home and nobody knew he had plans.

By early morn my husband didnt sleep at night so he went to the man place in the morn to ask why the delay, he went there with other men too who wanted to collect their money.We got the shock of our lives.The man had travelled abroad with traders money and my husband's own inclusive.


We are really at a loss on what to do and i am frustrated as i cant explain why this hardluck had to fall on me.People say women dont support a struggling man but here i am supporting for over three years and this is how my christmas ended.

I am writing now in tears because i dont even know whatelse to do, the man literally left with the whole money.We have no dime on us, i dont know how we will survive, i have to keep repaying the loan for few more months and yet we have nothing to live on.

To be sincere my faith is really broken and shaken.i got this sad news immediately i got back from vigil where i went to dance and thank God for his love and faithfulness.

Where do we go from here with a little kid that has to survive, my office is very far and i spend about 1000 a day to and fro and with this situation now i dunno what to do.

Why are human beings so heartless, this is how this man travelled and wrecked many homes in a desperate bid to leave the country.


I dont know if people have any right words to calm me because i am shaken, i am depressed and frustrated.The burden is so much moreso in december when january is tougher and waiting.


How do we cope from here?Lord pls save me.I am shattered beyond words.
.. .





What is the .name of the man that scammed you. If possible, post his pictures and phone number

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by ProtectMyMoney: 6:06am On Dec 24, 2019
Ujuvals1:
My dear nairalanders Good evening.

i got back from vigil where i went to dance and thank God for his love and faithful ness

How do we cope from here?Lord pls save me.I am shattered beyond words.
..

Church should not be only for dancing and singing. Sincerely, the first place you should ask for help is from your Pastor and Church support in the Church you attend.

We often leave out Churches that should be first to give succor in the time of need. Or is it not written that come unto me all ye that are heavy laden, and i will give you rest.

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Ujuvals1: 6:22am On Dec 24, 2019
I typed in tiny font because i used a fone.After typing i didnt see the submit option probably because the text was too much so i decided to format and it worked.

My dear sometimes all we need is encouragement, not all the time someone is a criminal or sub stories etc.

Thank God some of u can connect to my past, where i wrote my life stpry.i made the post short when i said three years ago because he was not around all through that period and i rember telling u guys i struggled all alone because when he came back he said his business collapsed.

I cant be making up stories on 23rd of december.I didnt even write to solicit for funds.i am just heartbroken and at this point confused on what to do.

Life can be really hard u know, from one challenge to the other, i am just shocked that someone who knows our history woke up and duped him and left.

If u were in my shoes what would u do, we dont have to always criticize cos truly some people arw fighting with the devil himself.

My family has been tru trials and back.This is the height of it for me just when i was going say we are coming out.

Please dont diacredit my story simply because u are not sure, truly things are happening that sound like a lie.

Is a black december for me.I am facing my loss.It is well[size=8pt][/size][b][/b]

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by ProtectMyMoney: 6:55am On Dec 24, 2019
Ujuvals1:
I typed in tiny font because i used a fone.After typing i didnt see the submit option probably because the text was too much so i decided to format and it worked.

My dear sometimes all we need is encouragement, not all the time someone is a criminal or sub stories etc.

Thank God some of u can connect to my past, where i wrote my life stpry.i made the post short when i said three years ago because he was not around all through that period and i rember telling u guys i struggled all alone because when he came back he said his business collapsed.

I cant be making up stories on 23rd of december.I didnt even write to solicit for funds.i am just heartbroken and at this point confused on what to do.

Life can be really hard u know, from one challenge to the other, i am just shocked that someone who knows our history woke up and duped him and left.

If u were in my shoes what would u do, we dont have to always criticize cos truly some people arw fighting with the devil himself.

My family has been tru trials and back.This is the height of it for me just when i was going say we are coming out.

Please dont diacredit my story simply because u are not sure, truly things are happening that sound like a lie.

Is a black december for me.I am facing my loss.It is well[size=8pt][/size][b][/b]

But you are selling butt enlargement drugs and make up kits on your other posts...or am i missing something here?

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Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by strangest(m): 7:09am On Dec 24, 2019
Ujuvals1:
[size=8pt][b][font=Lucida Sans Unicode]My dear nairalanders Good evening.

I just want to pour out my heart here because i am suicidal and i am hoping God will comfort me and help me through.

The heart of man they say is desperately wicked and it just dawned on mw today.

I am a married woman with kids, my husband's business had crumbled over three years ago and i have been the one holding forth the home.

The country is so tough that for a man without capital for business or education, he may spend longer time trying to find his feet.

Things had been so rough for us over these years, i have been doing all jobs just to survive.I work in a small company that pay me monthly, the weekends i also wash and do menial jobs for people to support the home front.

My husband in turn takes care of our kid, do the chores and move around for anything he can lay his hands on but its been so tough.


In october a friend asked my husband to join him in business in the market that way he can find his feet.He talked to me abt it, we agreed i should take loan and i took loan of 250,000naira to enable him start business while i gradually work and pay it up monthly.

He has been going to work since october and sincerely things got better becauze with the funds he was able to do business and give me some money from the gain to support the house and also join in repaying the loan.

Just few days ago, the man whom they were working together said they should buy goods as usual to resell which they did, the man also encouraged other traders to buy too because his northern customers were coming to purchase them.

People bought and we were happy that after the sales our lives will get better, so the northerners came and the goods were sold.His friend was credited and when the man tried to transfer them the money but said network issue because the transfer wasnt going.

They went to the bank but it was on friday and time had gone so he said he would credit all traders that did the business togther their money that night, thats how this man went home and nobody knew he had plans.

By early morn my husband didnt sleep at night so he went to the man place in the morn to ask why the delay, he went there with other men too who wanted to collect their money.We got the shock of our lives.The man had travelled abroad with traders money and my husband's own inclusive.


We are really at a loss on what to do and i am frustrated as i cant explain why this hardluck had to fall on me.People say women dont support a struggling man but here i am supporting for over three years and this is how my christmas ended.

I am writing now in tears because i dont even know whatelse to do, the man literally left with the whole money.We have no dime on us, i dont know how we will survive, i have to keep repaying the loan for few more months and yet we have nothing to live on.

To be sincere my faith is really broken and shaken.i got this sad news immediately i got back from vigil where i went to dance and thank God for his love and faithfulness.

Where do we go from here with a little kid that has to survive, my office is very far and i spend about 1000 a day to and fro and with this situation now i dunno what to do.

Why are human beings so heartless, this is how this man travelled and wrecked many homes in a desperate bid to leave the country.


I dont know if people have any right words to calm me because i am shaken, i am depressed and frustrated.The burden is so much moreso in december when january is tougher and waiting.


How do we cope from here?Lord pls save me.I am shattered beyond words.

Bad things happens so good things will come... You will get everything the devil stole and more
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Yustash001(m): 7:40am On Dec 24, 2019
I'm just sort of words.....
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by nazablossom(f): 7:42am On Dec 24, 2019
@Op, I really sympathize with you because I can relate with your story.

You just have to be strong especially for your kids. Things will definitely turn around for you that you would remember this day and laugh.

If you can also post the man's details here, who knows? It's a small world after all.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Ujuvals1: 8:15am On Dec 24, 2019
ProtectMyMoney:


But you are selling butt enlargement drugs and make up kits on your other posts...or am i missing something here?

My dear, i am drop shipping.i contact sellers and help repost and tesell.

How does selling items equate to being duped? I wrote that i havr a job with small pay, i even do laundry for people sometimes on weekends, i resell things on line,i do everything i can, this should tell you that am hardworking and not the other way round.

All thse things didnt sustain us because the finance is weak when a man doesnt bring dime and u the woman pay school fees,rent,feeding,nepa,tissue,down to even matches on a paltry sum why wont you do all to survive.

The burden was too much as i was almost dying hence the need to help him get a loan to support.i dont think i did bad trying to help him ind his feet.

The sad part of this story and my sudden outburst is because someone duped him of the money i borrowed, i dont know if you can relate to my emotions at all.


Have u ever lost money?moreso when it isnt urs and you are on loan?My account is on automatic debit evrrymonth and if there isnt fund there to debit i have to face penalties.

This shouldnt have been an issue cos his business gain feeds us while my salary and online hustle plus weekend washing erc facilitates the loan.

Is just too choky now when the capital and all is gone.

I really dunno if i can recover, i used to be very strong and even encourahe people online here when they are down but this one just finished me.

Christmas period for that matter with a january around the corner.

May God save me this period.If truly he is God on the throne he will arise for my sake.

They say afflictions dont come twice but this is like the third time and i think i shared on true life story on a page here.

Hmmmmmmm!!!!Someone is probably abroad flexing and grooving at my expense while my Bp is on a rise.

Is well
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by Ujuvals1: 8:35am On Dec 24, 2019
Please family if anybody has any car he can give us for weekly return or higher purcahsr to enable him use it to support us now pls help.

The economy is so hard for everyone,i didnt write my story to start distrubing people for fund.i was just so shocked that i wrote all that in tears.

Today is another day, pls if anyone has any solution or option or even advise that can help us suatin atleast till i finish up my loan repayment.

Please i am very honest and we are hardworking, pls help save a sister.
Thanks
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by urchcoded(m): 9:11am On Dec 24, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


bro we know them sob stories already...they are plenty on NL, and its xmas time, but at least give some time for OP to flip the script (aka beg for money) so we could insult her (and her story) properly.... until then, the best she can get from us is e-hug:



bro u wiket oo... Assuming d op is saying d truth nko.... But I don't really think so too cos d story doesn't add up... Someone can't travel abroad within just a day... Especially dis festive period u can't get Visa like laidat now... Wen did u now book d flight? Or d man park d plane for him house den enter am take off for nyt. Nne if peradventure ur story is Tru u have my sincere condolences. Dis year too I've been shaken. Small boy like me don see tins.
Re: Black December For My Family!!!my Heart Is Broken Chai!!!God Why Me by rennylaw(m): 9:29am On Dec 24, 2019
It is quite disheartening. God will give you a Christmas gift. Keep pushing and never give up. Your breakthrough is around the corner.

And as for the man that absconded with your sweat, karma is doing press up...he will surely be repaid in his own coin.

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