Alashoalash10:
With all you have said if it's 100% true, your mother in-law is the problem. Is the father in-law dead ?, he needs to send the lady back to her home. How do you known the mother is not arranging another marriage for her ,meet your family to deliberate and take a decision on the next line of action

That's my guess too, that mother in law is up to something, I can smell it. This man needs to keep calm and watch their next move before he reacts. If he acts too early, all blames will be heaped on him so let him keep calm, cease all communications to enable them act out their plans before he reacts.

daddytime:
Your whining, lack of balls but enough mouth to engage your wife in a needless banter is the reason why she and her mother have got zero respect for you, my brother.

If you could, just ignore them and forget the so-called wife with her mom.

Na dem go begin beg you say Eleru, wa gberu re o

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

wrong foundation

i tell you what any madapoca that will ask you to stay with her is one of your biggest enemy

skywalker240:
No one is above challenge, this is just a little challenge.

go to your room, kneel down and speak to the lord from your heart, only him can change the impossible. Tell him Nnani gi. It would be alright
if she aint seeing someone else, she would oneday grow tired of her dominant mum.

now you need to work on yourself, get a source of income no matter how small or stressful it could be.
atleast for your boy and some bills

am not married yet, but even our girlfreinds increase the respect when we spend, its a woman thing i guess.

Thank you skywalker240. I appreciate your encouragement and moral support. God bless you.

Lexusgs430:


I have not said that.... But I would presume, Oyakhilome is more spiritual than OP.......

The former divorced his wife....... That was my point....

Then what exactly is your point??

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You are very correct bro

Tunagee:


So there is no for 'better for worse again'
Somebody told me that all women always destroy their husbands image in their family when they have issues. Does it apply to all women?

No its not all women sir, i am married for 16yrs now, from d beginning my husband do reports me few times but i desist that a lot with time he understood
We can settle our differences on our own thats d foundation i laid and till today i have never ever him to my parent ever, i once reported him to his superior at work cos he is like a father to him but never to his own parents or mine, nothing kills marriage like exposing d weaknesses of ur spouse to ur own family. U didnt train ur wife not to include third party in running ur home. One thing i know for sure she still loves u, she hates whats she is doing when she is alone. She isnt responsible enough only u can correct her, go tru her real friend or keep meeting her, she needs direction and both of u will b ok

I GUESS I AM THE ONLY ONE THAT READ WHERE THR OP ADMITTED TO BE VERBALLY ABUSIVE. HEY! THIS DUDE INSULTS HIS WIFE AND SHE'S EXPECTED TO BEAR IT BECAUSE HE "MARRIED HER"?

AN ALMOST 40 YEAR OLD WOMAN BEING TONGUE LASHED BY HER HUSBAND ISN'T WRONG IN Y'ALL EYES? HOW CAN YOU BE JOBLESS AND ABUSIVE AT THE SAME TIME?

THE FOOLS ASKING HIM TO GET A GIRLFRIEND OR DIVORCE, I HOPE YOU IDIOTS WILL BE WILLING TO FINANCE IT. A 44 YEAR OLD MAN HASN'T SEEN HIS SON SINCE JANUARY AND EVERYBODY IS OK WITH THAT.

lefulefu:
babe go don already dey make plans to jakpa so dis advice wey u dey give op might not work. i just pray one malaysian bigboy with benz no dey d picture cos if one dey then all we need say is rest in peace in advance to d marriage.

Lol
For a forty year old woman?

You're jobless but you can afford data to come online and bash your wife. If she comes back home what's the plan YOU have for your family? How will they eat and pay bills? Am really trying my best to be civil here but you're a joke.

Loosen yourself from your mother's apron string and get a life. You're coming online to look for sympathy hope those supporting you credit your bank account.

emkz:
One of those stories so intelligently put together with exact phrasing, paragraphing and punctuation that you wonder how a writer who is (apparently) severely emotionally traumatized can be so articulate in delivering his problems. Despite the pseudo-fictionality of the story, let us assume someone is really facing this in life.

Prevention is always better than cure. Therefore, never, ever beg a woman to love you. Never beg a woman to respect you. Never ever beg a woman to be loyal to you. Never tie your happiness to a woman. Study the family of you potential spouse. Ask questions. Do not, for the love of toto, ignore red and black flags. Do not condone any act of disrespect. Same also applies to women. If that man cannot respect you, walk away. Tell yourself: "I deserve better and I can get better"

OP, if this your story is true, take time out from the marriage. Examine things without emotional blinders and see if this charade is what you want for your life. I can tell you that many men and women die miserably because they simply do not quit when the signs are obvious that they should. Assume you hit it big again. Don't you think this woman you painted can organize your death so she can claim your life insurance and what you have? Give yourself brain and write something more entertaining. I really don't buy this story.

Thank you emkz. I appreciate your advise. This is a real life experience and I'm currently in it. My phone number is in my signature for confirmation. However, my marital issue started like 10 months ago, so the level of traumatization should actually not affect my grammatical expressions. All in all, you are really appreciated.

Mummymahdi:



No its not all women sir, i am married for 16yrs now, from d beginning my husband do reports me few times but i desist that a lot with time he understood
We can settle our differences on our own thats d foundation i laid and till today i have never ever him to my parent ever, i once reported him to his superior at work cos he is like a father to him but never to his own parents or mine, nothing kills marriage like exposing d weaknesses of ur spouse to ur own family. U didnt train ur wife not to include third party in running ur home. One thing i know for sure she still loves u, she hates whats she is doing when she is alone. She isnt responsible enough only u can correct her, go tru her real friend or keep meeting her, she needs direction and both of u will b ok

You’re right madam but what about a lady who vows to go for an abortion when the husband to be said he’ll take full responsibility of the pregnancy � see you ladies can be so toxic at times

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

Tunagee, you are just a victim of blue pill trap set for you because of your background from a broken home. You were being the nice gentleman and husband material of 1 million yards fighting for your marriage.

Sadly, women, even the best of them don't play by these rules. I've seen a lot of it in life. As a matter of fact, it's the reason she disrespected and left your sorry ass immediately shît hit the fan because everything you talked about smirks of weak masculinity and being sissy.

You were never really in charge. She and her mother control the marriage, you were just a mere provider.

I'll let you know a thing, you mentioned all these moralistic nonsense of "I don't smoke" , "I don't drink" thinking it would make you seem nicer to her and the society (I'm not advising you to change and do all these, but you can do it once in a while to step up your appearance of control and being in charge). I can assure you that your lady might be presently attracted to a guy with standards far below yours, but who puts himself at peak value of positive masculinity and make the lady strive for it.

That's what women respect in men. Even the worst of hardcore feminist would respect you if you hold your own as a male who owns is shît and not being manipulated or cowed around. Women are not fools. Their social and emotional intelligence is way above average and it's the reason why they control relationships today, and complain about how weak men of today are, spiking up feminism in high numbers. You are one of the reasons, it's happening now.

Back to your marital life, accept it that sometimes, shît can go wrong in a man's life. No one can have it perfect but how you handle these negative circumstances put you as the head of your home and not a whining sissy begging a bîtch.

I'll advise you that you pick yourself up, instead of sucking up and get something to do. No matter the pay, just get busy. I'm glad you have your own house. I'll not ask you to seek for divorce immediately. It still makes you look like a whimp and gives her the control of what she wanted. Open a bank account for your kid's upkeep send him whatever you can muster at any point and keep a record of it (You won't be able to fight for your child's custody in court at his age, unless you can prove that her mother is unfit to train your son). Keeping a record of it would make you be able to have some rep from your son, would make him to share in your experiences and understand how to man up. Remember, he is in the hands of manipulative women who may turn him against you, risking him, turning sissy and suffering the same fate as you, when he becomes a married adult too.

Focus on your hustle and open yourself to meeting more women. It would help you understand the world of women in dating and marriage. I don't advise marriage at this time. You may end up with another bitchy lady. Dress well, look good and try not to call or beg for your wife and her mother's attention. It puts you in control. When she sees you owning your control back, she may consider coming back. At this time, don't fall back into your past behaviour of acting nice and sissy. Make rules and be sure that she follows it.

If she refuses to come back after a while and you have learnt a lot from other women (and bedding them, of course). Divorce her trashy ass, get you a new woman but maintain relationship with your son.

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

You are the type that believe in the make money first then women will follow. That implies you have no choice than to make the money so that she will return. So forget about her if you don't make the money and since you don't want a divorce. But better verify if those children are yours

Tunagee:


So there is no for 'better for worse again'
Somebody told me that all women always destroy their husbands image in their family when they have issues. Does it apply to all women?

Don't listen to that guy

He is spitting bag eggs
Ask him if he is married , he would say no

His advice comes from boyfriend / girlfriend stuffs.

Don't listen to the one advicing you to take up a vice

Just ignore your wife for now and focus on getting a job for now. Then you can dictate the tune

OmoOshodi:
Faulty foundation

Questions for you

Is ur wife's mum a single mother? ( divorcee / widow)

Are u a Christian or Muslim? ... Either way what's u guys level of spirituality... Bench warmer or religious ?

I suspect you had a faulty foundation and there may not be remedy to marrying a wrong woman or man....

Cos the bible says " he who finds a wife has found a good thing and he has obtain favour from the lord"

If God is not the one that chose her for you .... You can't report the case to God


Sir you are finished!!!

Wife's mum is a widow.

Am a christian, and not a benchwarmer.

LordAdam16:


Cut the sh*t out!

Virtually all romantic relationships are business contracts.

Financial pressure is by far the biggest challenge committed relationships face. And this is factual with studies affirming same. Trust me, you (and no guy) wants to find out if their lady would stick around or be their usual self if they lose their current financial standing for an extended period of time.

That's when you'd know marriage vows and proclamations of love are empty words.


-Lord

Too much wisdom will not kill you, Weldon Sir.

Poorboy:
Don't be too emotionally attached to women if you do so suicide awaits you..... If you love with your whole heart then a big problem awaits you. ....


You said you're jobless and you feel a woman will love you, wake up brother and do something about your life.

Note as a man even if you marry a lady that loves you and Money stops coming the love she has for you will die naturally.

Not that you must be rich, but you must be working and be able to pay some bills.

Even in my house as a man the time my parents started respecting me is when I got a Federal Government job, I saw a different behavior from them...

Even some men treat their full time house wives with disrespect.

It's a human thing not just with women.

Kvngwitty:



You’re right madam but what about a lady who vows to go for an abortion when the husband to be said he’ll take full responsibility of the pregnancy � see you ladies can be so toxic at times

U can say that , some women are something else but that woman doesn't have any reason unless if she doesn't want to settle down with u in d future. When oda women run away from abortion she want to engage herself when she has no concrete reason, wish u d best

Tunagee:


The truth is, we only courted for like a year plus, so I did not see a lot of things about her mum,but till she left, she had always been a well brought up girl, an introvert, and extremely faithful.

With this ur explanation,oga talk true,were you being hash on her (strong,medium or soft violence)

We can understand it as transferred aggression from ur lack of job ..but u have to let men know everything to give you true piece of their mind

daddytime:
Your whining, lack of balls but enough mouth to engage your wife in a needless banter is the reason why she and her mother have got zero respect for you, my brother.

If you could, just ignore them and forget the so-called wife with her mom.

Na dem go begin beg you say Eleru, wa gberu re o

Follow this guy's advice, stop begging as a man, you only diminish your worth. Man is meant to be strong and be the head, let her be. Go and hustle and just ignore her totally.

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

She is not your wife abeg move on

That is why I would always advice men out there, if you you have intension to marry a girl do not show her your money.

But appear before her as though you don't have money. If she is comfortable with you like that then marry her. But if she a money type of woman then don't marry her, Find another lady.

Any Lady that cannot stay with you when it seems as though you have no money, does not love you she is only a gold digger.

If you have money today and she is all over you because if it, it does not mean she will be there for you when things go sour. Be wise !

Women are dynamic.

Chose the right woman base on love, care, how responsible she is, her dress sense, and how descent she is.

Do not marry a woman based on her beauty, if you do that you will be lead astray !!!

The guy is 5yrs on here and he don't know a lot about naij women.

Sorry bro this woman was after your pocket and nothing more

You just need to MKe plans for your children so they won't suffer in future.

I hope you have a job now.

And you think marrying a naija girl legally is the surest way to respect ns obey you when you are loaded .then
Leave you when you are down.

She was gold digger with her mum..

Open ya eyes bro

#TGIF

Brother my advice to you is to do your possible best to keep your marriage, from what I have read you do love your wife.

Please and also put it in daily prayers.

You will rejoice at the end

OladimejiRufai:
Well, nobody knows the future.


But personally, whenever it is that I finally 'jam' that stage when I will have a lot of money, my interest in women will diminish greatly.


As the door to riches open, the door to my heart will close. Because any woman who shows love or approach to me then, I may not be sure what she is actually showing love to; me or the money? Especially when the lady knew me before I made money and used to act like I do not exist.


And I will hate it upon realizing that the woman I married, married me because of my money. In fact, I may send her out No place for such a despicable human being in my home.


Anyways, OP, if your story is true, you are welcome to the club cause you are not the first man women will show such attitude. If ur story is true, it is obvious she came for the money and now that the money is leaving, she is leaving. Believe me, such a woman is not worth a companion.


Well, people have different perceptions of divorce so I do not know abour you but what I want u to know is what I have said; if your story is true, such a woman should not be allowed in one's life as a man for the sake of progress, peace of mind and sanity. That woman is not worth taking as a wife. So it is left to you

bro, 90% of Nigerian women marry for money in d Short or long run. That's d harsh reality men have to live with.

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

that is the memory verse - thank God you lost your Job, now you know the marriage was "for better to stay, for worse to go" .. guy, count your losses and MOVE ON! a relationship this toxic is not worth one minute of your limited time in life. If you dont move one, you will develop BP or if you already have it, you will worsen it, and you know what that means? DEATH!!! - dont refer to that woman as your wife anymore, she is already fvcking someone else, please please please, dont ever sleep with her again, IF YOU CANT BE MAN ENOUGH TO REJECT SEX from her, please, please, please - USE protection to avoid INSULT + INJURY, be safe!

Yes

Tunagee:
My wife started behaving strangely immediately I lost my job in April 2017. She leaves home to her mum at the slightest disagreement without even communicating or making to express her feelings; and to worsen it, her mum gives her a great welcome with a room and parlour for her to stay, without even calling me to discuss what the problem. Whatever her daughter says is always the final, and she concludes on that.

My wife literarily destroyed my image before my in-laws to such an extent that I can't even visit them again. She tells them i insult her and her parents, and i make negative remarks about them, that i abuse her verbally at the slightest provocation. Several lies against me that I did not allow her travel out, I don't give her money, I told her not to have another kid, that I told her not to work, her mother has decided to keep her with her as I speak without even calling me to discuss, even despite all my appeals. She has been with her mum now for almost ten months(my wife is a fully grown legally married faithful woman of almost 40 years)

All these disrespect, probably cos I lost my job two years ago of which I fulfilled all responsibilities to the home. i don't drink, i don't smoke, don't womanise(even till now) I have never beaten her, I never another child out of my matrimonial home, and never impregnated another woman.

Rather than resolve her marital problem by discussing with her husband, she takes it to her family claiming emotional abuse. Fine, I agree I get provoked cos of her persistent shortcomings, and of course, frustration which leads to unguided vocal utterances towards her, but this could have been resolved easily without having to involve her whole family. Now what she keeps telling my family is that her family said she should still hold on at her mum's place. This is the 10th month since October 2018.

The last time my mum went to her mum's house precisely June last month, she was asked if she was still interested in her marriage, and she said yes, that she does not intend leaving her marriage; but we should give her time. Her mother practically told me to go and do something meaningful, and that there is time to marry, separate, reunite and hustle. Her mum is the one controlling her movements and everything about her for now; not even giving her room to give me audience.

Pls advise on what to do.

We are legally married.

I left a girl I supposed to marry due to this similar situation. I engaged her and paid some money when I arrived Nigeria from Abroad, a month later, I traveled back to my base so that I can get her a visa to join me. She started trouble that I was delaying her visa process after I have spent 1.3m for her visa . She started using has words on me as her life depends on going abroad.

I lost my job in abroad because I have to move to nearby country to get her visa as she have not traveled before. I even did an international passport matching my surname to enable fast approval of documents. Some rich white ladies I left because of her also gave me some money to bring her over as they trusted my transparency In our relationship.

As I could not bear her rude attitude, I called their family and cut off the relationship. Now, I have peace of mind. I am going to marry a white lady now. They cares for those who are good to them.

Since I have been dating my girl now, I have not bought a pant or makeup for her. She don’t need my money or the things that some Nigerian ladies will kill you for if you didn’t buy it for them.

It’s better for a white lady to divorce me rather than an African woman.

I spent close to 3 million naira for 2 and half years just for upkeep of the Nigerian woman. But I have not spent up to 300$ for over 5 years with this white young lady.

She love me die . I will marry her.

Just leave that your wife in her mother’s house, do your things , if she didn’t hear from you, she will come back by herself, then give her conditions.

Disconnect her from your social media accounts so that she will not know anything about you first

Fountainofyouth:
Honestly this is sad, from all your write up, the problem started when you lost your job, meaning all was fine before then, meaning you enticed her with money when you both started dating, meaning there was never real love in the first place just love for material and financial gain, well,since she is still interested in the marriage, give her more time that she needs, do your part by calling and seeing her not just sending your mum to go there, make steps too towards getting her back cos it's obvious you both still want to be together, all the best.

P.S To all those guys that says "make money first then women will flow your way" this is the end result.

Bro, most of d women u see don't want to suffer. A woman likes to live a comfortable life. So, when the source of the husband income is cut off, that's when u know a true woman. But going by his confession of getting angry most of d time with her may be evidence of what she is accusing him of. But that should not be a reason for her to live now that he has no job. She could have left when he was financially ok not now. And trust me d moment u r financially stable she will come back. Women r unpredictable in life. He should be focused n try to improve on his financial state, I believe he has kids to take care of n God will lead you through. Bro, that is the reality of life, you have to face it squarely. Most of the men you see in marriages faced this ugly situation n it depends on how you handle it.

Nnemuka:

proudly feminist
choke on my feminism
You guys are just silly, any lady with a different opinion from you daft beings gets tagged with feminism or insulted.
what manner of humans are littered all over this platform

Professor of feminism, just be ready to turn into a witchcraft at your old age because that's when the reality of life will set in. I pity any guy that would come close to you as a suitor, his future will be miserable if he didn't realize himself on time.

God will surely give you wisdom to meddle through this but my advice is this;

Double your effort to secure another job. Assume you are a bachelor for now. After securing the job, other things will fall into place. Don't ask of her anymore but be focused with achieving the success of your future. It takes the grace of God to meet/marry virtuous women. Life is short!