MistadeRegal:
It's not that hard to imagine.
Well, being an introvert as you claim will take a long time to get along well with her. Just try as best as you can to smile at her whenever you see her. Greet her first. Ask her little favors. She already knows you are an introvert that's why she's not reacting negatively towards you neither is she reporting you to your dad. Her daughter using your stuffs is just to make you come out of hiding and bring up a reason to engage you in a family discussion should you try to report her to her mum. So, try to start little chats with her whenever she's around. She'll pick it from there and in no time you both will be best of friends.

I know all these, because I'm like you.

gudvibz:









You're soooo on point do you know many introverts?

Isha327:
Hi people.
I really need serious advice. My dad just married someone else since my mum passed away 7 years ago. My late mum only had two girls for my dad, am the last and my sis is married.. Am currently doing my national diploma and awaiting final exams but I had to come home due to strike
.ant my dad to be happy cuz he need someone to take care of him... Pls advice me on how to warm up to her..thanks

MistadeRegal:
It's not that hard to imagine.
Well, being an introvert as you claim will take a long time to get along well with her. Just try as best as you can to smile at her whenever you see her. Greet her first. Ask her little favors. She already knows you are an introvert that's why she's not reacting negatively towards you neither is she reporting you to your dad. Her daughter using your stuffs is just to make you come out of hiding and bring up a reason to engage you in a family discussion should you try to report her to her mum. So, try to start little chats with her whenever she's around. She'll pick it from there and in no time you both will be best of friends.

I know all these, because I'm like you.

LordKO:
Your introverted nature isn't the main cause of your obvious intolerance towards your stepmother in particular and her daughter in general. Your sociopathic nature is. If you can strive and conquer the negative attributes that made you sociopathic - they negative attributes are so glaring from your message - you'll automatically begin to rapport with them, regardless of your introversion. Most introverts are either sociopathic or psychopathic, but they hardly know or acknowledge this bitter truth.

Daisy17:


Stop spewing rubbish. From what institution did you get your qualification?

theButterfly:
Hi OP,

Since she's really nice to you and helps you out financially, then warm up to her. One tip is to let her know you're introverted. I can't tell you how many times people assume I'm being snobby, I'm ignoring them or that being rude simply b|c I keep to myself, not knowing that it's just my introverted nature. I've found that communicating this aspect of my personality to people (e.g. Professors) helps avoid misunderstandings, lol.

You're neither a sociopath or psychopath. Anyone in your situation would keep to themselves, more so if you're an introvert. Your Dad should've told you he was going to move her in to prepare you for this new family dynamics, but just try and get along w| them, as this is a harmless situation and this isn't the case of a wicked stepmother.

LordKO:
Your introverted nature isn't the main cause of your obvious intolerance towards your stepmother in particular and her daughter (your stepsister) in general. Your sociopathic nature is. If you can strive and conquer the negative attributes that made you a sociopathic person - they negative attributes are so glaring from your message - you'll automatically begin to rapport with them, regardless of your introversion. Most introverts are either sociopathic or psychopathic people, but they hardly know or acknowledge this bitter truth.

LordKO:
Your introverted nature isn't the main cause of your obvious intolerance towards your stepmother in particular and her daughter (your stepsister) in general. Your sociopathic nature is. If you can strive and conquer the negative attributes that made you a sociopathic person - they negative attributes are so glaring from your message - you'll automatically begin to rapport with them, regardless of your introversion. Most introverts are either sociopathic or psychopathic people, but they hardly know or acknowledge this bitter truth.

LordKO:
Your introverted nature isn't the main cause of your obvious intolerance towards your stepmother in particular and her daughter (your stepsister) in general. Your sociopathic nature is. If you can strive and conquer the negative attributes that made you a sociopathic person - they negative attributes are so glaring from your message - you'll automatically begin to rapport with them, regardless of your introversion. Most introverts are either sociopathic or psychopathic people, but they hardly know or acknowledge this bitter truth.

What are u saying mister?
I only asked for tips on how to be comfortable around her.
Am not a sociopath neither a psychopath
Am perfectly normal
Thanks.

Isha327:
Hi people.
I really need serious advice. My dad just married someone else since my mum passed away 7 years ago. My late mum only had two girls for my dad, am the last and my sis is married.. Am currently doing my national diploma and awaiting final exams but I had to come home due to strike
..on getting home I met this woman tho I have met her before when I also came home for holiday but she only stayed for few hours and left so I didn't ask my dad questions. But this time around she came to stay finally..
I called my dad since he is at work and he told me she is his new wife and he didn't know how to tell me before.. But the problem is am an introvert and I hardly talk to people I don't know, the woman is nice but I don't feel comfortable around people have not been with for long...I always lock myself up so as not to see her whenever she is around. The only people I feel comfortable around are my dad , sister and some long term friends...she thought I hate her but I don't. And worst is she doesn't know how to cook .her food is either too salty or burnt..I always give my dad excuses not to eat her food and my dad doesn't complain about the food since he can eat anything.
But recently her daughter (she has one child before)came to live with us and I feel more uncomfortable... She is so lousy and use my things without permission and this makes me angry tho am older than her..I don't look happy most times and my dad thinks she is maltreating me but its cuz am not free around the house and I can't do whatever I want anymore. I hardly talk when she is around but she tries to talk to me and make jokes but I always flee..I told my sis and friend about it and they said I have a problem...am going back to school soon to write my final exams and am coming back home finally...
I don't want to live like this and I don't want to push her away cuz she is really nice and she helps me financially whenever my dad isn't around.. I feel irritated and uncomfortable especially with her daughter but I want my dad to be happy cuz he need someone to take care of him... Pls advice me on how to warm up to her..thanks

Ardar:


You've already analyzed and labelled the op as a sociopath from just a single write up .

Oga anyone who finds it hard to warm up to new people is not a sociopath or a psychopath.

@op pls it's normal for those who are introverts, just give it time you'll definitely be comfortable around them.

theButterfly:
Hi OP,

Since she's really nice to you and helps you out financially, then warm up to her. One tip is to let her know you're introverted. I can't tell you how many times people assume I'm being snobby, I'm ignoring them or that I'm being rude simply b|c I keep to myself, not knowing it's just my introverted nature. I've found that communicating this aspect of my personality to people helps avoid misunderstandings, lol. In fact, I remember telling one Professor about my shyness [I'm both shy and introverted] and I was surprised when she said she was once shy like me and gave me some tips.

You're neither a sociopath or psychopath. Anyone in your situation would keep to themselves, more so if you're an introvert. Your Dad should've told you he was going to move her in to prepare you for this new family dynamics, but just try and get along w| them, as this is a harmless situation and not the case of a wicked stepmother.

Gloriagee:
Internet psychologist plenty for here. Now assuming shes was really a sociopath, will she be sensitive enough to realize her actions could be hurting another ie the stepmother.

SirL0neWolf:


Could you expound more please?

LordKO:


It'll not be good to grant your request on this thread, I don't want the OP to think that I want to cast aspersions on her person deliberately.