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I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

Family pattern needs to be broken... Just move closer to God and serve in his vineyard and be committed to things of God.

Pray and fast...

While you wait on God,try learning a skill, you could be your own boss,forget relationship for now, keep working on God's principle,He will see you through.

Dear,

You have no reasons whatever ever to be depressed. The Lord is working on better things for your sake. If you no mind can I chat you up?
Things will be fine..


Let talk..

When the lord turned again the captivity of zion,they were like them that dream dreams.Be free from every captivity in ur life.
Let God hav his way in you.
Run to God,confess positively.Its difficult but Dont let them weigh You down.Download some Good praise songs in ur phone and play always.Play when You are down,when You are burdened and at ur lowest ebb.


Secondly,Learn a skill.Faith without works is dead.While waiting for that job that May never come,Learn one.God blesses You from that wjich You are diligent which is Why his word says''seest thou a man diligent in his ways''...

Serve,yes Serve others.
God who sees the heart of men will certainly rewarded.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

Don’t lose hope .. keep on fighting and believe that with God all things are possible ...

You going to have a cause to smile very soon ...

Thank you all for your responses... I'm encouraged.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

Can we talk? I sent u a message

If I were you, I will switch off. But it depends on your level of faith, it won't work for you because you're already depressed, what I advice you is to fast, pray and never lose hope, your case is different

My dear, life is not fair to anybody so forget the thought of ending your life.

Depression dont just start in a day.. It is the accumulations of unsolved problems which you have been subconsciously ignoring.

This is a signal to you that you can start all over. An adage from my side says : The day a mad man knows what he is doing, then he don get well be that.

About your relationship life, you need to check yourself.. All your previous suitors can not be wrong. May be some attidudes..

As for references to other family members, childhood perceptions about life still stucks in some of us atimes. Life is not a fairy tale. Village people self wan buy car and build house... They hardly have our time



All the best

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

Visit the Lord's chosen church.

1. Accept the teaching job if that's the only job available right now. It will keep you busy and you'll have less time to be depressed.

2. As you're doing #1, continue looking for the type of job that you do want.

3. Start exercising. Exercising releases endorphins [happy, feel-good chemicals], making you happier and less stressed.

@Op let me give you one simple solution that has been working for me. Giving...

If you know where I am coming from, and how my situation was, you would not believe how far I have come.

I have seen locked doors open, divine favour, unexplainable breakthrough....... but I can tell you one thing that I believe is the reason is Giving

Look for the needy around you, regardless of how much you have give something atleast once a month. Buy food for someone starving, or clothes.

Just give , that is the most potent divine weapon, dont do it to take glory o.

Do it with a pure heart, I am a christian but the muslim calls it saaraah, I am not sure if the current muslims do it right, but even the bible tells you that true religion is to give to those in need .

For your information, I am christian, I only give offering but I do not pay tithe because I do not believe in tithing.

I'd rather give that money to someone who needs it.

Try this for a few weeks and let me see if your story will not change, know that there are forces in this world and just like law of gravity in physics, some things can be controlled (like favour, breakthrough etc) provided you apply the law guiding them.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

See my dear! It's not a curse or whatsoever, just pray! Any situation we found ourselves that we don't like.

I'm a living witness! At that 27year you are complaining you have never seen a job, that u have graduated 4 years ago, I got admission into University at 27 yeas, with no relationship at all, but I thank God today.

Go outside and make things happen. There are so many short day jobs u can be managing pending when u have a good one.
Talk to people about jobs, not necessarily should be in your line of study. It may not even be B.sc required. God will make away for you.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

This is the major problem I have with Nigerian mentality. What is wrong with a teaching job? Are teachers not human beings?
Everybody wants to work a desk job all for some silly prestige (forgetting that as long as you work for anybody/organisation you are just a corporate slave).
Teaching is such an honourable profession where one gets an opportunity to impact lives and shape destinies. To be honest, teachers ought to be paid way more than most professions.
Get your mind right sweetheart. You are not "too big" to be a teacher. No one is!

sweetmelanin:
This is the major problem I have with Nigerian mentality. What is wrong with a teaching job? Are teachers not human beings?
Everybody wants to work a desk job all for some silly prestige (forgetting that as long as you work for anybody/organisation you are just a corporate slave).
Teaching is such an honourable profession where one gets an opportunity to impact lives and shape destinies. To be honest, teachers ought to be paid way more than most professions.
Get your mind right sweetheart. You are not "too big" to be a teacher. No one is!

I said I can do any type of job except teaching reason is that I have 2 sisters and two elder brothers none of them studied education yet they are all teaching,one studied accounting, another mech engineer, another Mass comm, another marketing, yet they can't get any Job apart from teaching, all their salaries put together can't even pay the house rent. Now it's still the teaching job that is staring at me,my dear I won't do it. It's not just about looking for White collar jobs.

sweetmelanin:
This is the major problem I have with Nigerian mentality. What is wrong with a teaching job? Are teachers not human beings?
Everybody wants to work a desk job all for some silly prestige (forgetting that as long as you work for anybody/organisation you are just a corporate slave).
Teaching is such an honourable profession where one gets an opportunity to impact lives and shape destinies. To be honest, teachers ought to be paid way more than most professions.
Get your mind right sweetheart. You are not "too big" to be a teacher. No one is!

What you saying? People don't just hate teaching. Teachers are poorly paid in this part of the world. If it's not a federal/state government teaching job, forget it.
Tell me, how will anyone survive on 10-20k monthly salary?

Op, I will suggest you stop beating yourself up about relationship for now. You are just 27. If you keep getting desperate about marriage, you will end up with the wrong person.

First, focus on becoming financially independent and you will attract the right person.

Getting something doing. Start a business if you have some savings. And focus all your energy on growing your business to be something productive.

miib:
See my dear! It's not a curse or whatsoever, just pray! Any situation we found ourselves that we don't like.

I'm a living witness! At that 27year you are complaining you have never seen a job, that u have graduated 4 years ago, I got admission into University at 27 yeas, with no relationship at all, but I thank God today.

Go outside and make things happen. There are so many short day jobs u can be managing pending when u have a good one.
Talk to people about jobs, not necessarily should be in your line of study. It may not even be B.sc required. God will make away for you.

Amen... I have been talking to people about it, I'm thinking of learning a skill as some people advised. Thanks for reaching out

LadySarah:
When the lord turned again the captivity of zion,they were like them that dream dreams.Be free from every captivity in ur life.
Let God hav his way in you.
Run to God,confess positively.Its difficult but Dont let them weigh You down.Download some Good praise songs in ur phone and play always.Play when You are down,when You are burdened and at ur lowest ebb.


Secondly,Learn a skill.Faith without works is dead.While waiting for that job that May never come,Learn one.God blesses You from that wjich You are diligent which is Why his word says''seest thou a man diligent in his ways''...

Serve,yes Serve others.
God who sees the heart of men will certainly rewarded.

Thank you... I will

Adinije:
Op, I will suggest you stop beating yourself up about relationship for now. You are just 27. If you keep getting desperate about marriage, you will end up with the wrong person.

First, focus on becoming financially independent and you will attract the right person.

Getting something doing. Start a business if you have some savings. And focus all your energy on growing your business to be something productive.

I'm just scared, looking around me,no one has gotten married traditionally or legally.. it's worrisome. It's not like I have also been idle these years, I prepare moi moi,buns and drinks. I distribute to offices and shops yet they keep owing me, I always have to look for money to put into the business because I don't get my capital not to talk of profit. I served in a primary school during NYSC, had to even take one teaching job to keep myself busy before I get a better offer but I taught for a year no good job... I realized I was going the same line with my siblings, I had to quit and start that other business

author=calgaryFriend post=81231512]@Op let me give you one simple solution that has been working for me. Giving...

If you know where I am coming from, and how my situation was, you would not believe how far I have come.

I have seen locked doors open, divine favour, unexplainable breakthrough....... but I can tell you one thing that I believe is the reason is Giving

Look for the needy around you, regardless of how much you have give something atleast once a month. Buy food for someone starving, or clothes.

Just give , that is the most potent divine weapon, dont do it to take glory o.

Do it with a pure heart, I am a christian but the muslim calls it saaraah, I am not sure if the current muslims do it right, but even the bible tells you that true religion is to give to those in need .

For your information, I am christian, I only give offering but I do not pay tithe because I do not believe in tithing.

I'd rather give that money to someone who needs it.

Try this for a few weeks and let me see if your story will not change, know that there are forces in this world and just like law of gravity in physics, some things can be controlled (like favour, breakthrough etc) provided you apply the law guiding them.[/quote]ok I will

Cuteify:
I said I can do any type of job except teaching reason is that I have 2 sisters and two elder brothers none of them studied education yet they are all teaching,one studied accounting, another mech engineer, another Mass comm, another marketing, yet they can't get any Job apart from teaching, all their salaries put together can't even pay the house rent. Now it's still the teaching job that is staring at me,my dear I won't do it. It's not just about looking for White collar jobs.

Is it that there is no companies or factories in your area that any of your siblings can apply to? Your siblings could lack ambitions and settle for less. Which state do you live?

calgaryFriend:
@Op let me give you one simple solution that has been working for me. Giving...

If you know where I am coming from, and how my situation was, you would not believe how far I have come.

I have seen locked doors open, divine favour, unexplainable breakthrough....... but I can tell you one thing that I believe is the reason is Giving

Look for the needy around you, regardless of how much you have give something atleast once a month. Buy food for someone starving, or clothes.

Just give , that is the most potent divine weapon, dont do it to take glory o.

Do it with a pure heart, I am a christian but the muslim calls it saaraah, I am not sure if the current muslims do it right, but even the bible tells you that true religion is to give to those in need .

For your information, I am christian, I only give offering but I do not pay tithe because I do not believe in tithing.

I'd rather give that money to someone who needs it.

Try this for a few weeks and let me see if your story will not change, know that there are forces in this world and just like law of gravity in physics, some things can be controlled (like favour, breakthrough etc) provided you apply the law guiding them.

I need to talk to you sir/ma

AmericanDad:
Can we talk? I sent u a message

I HV replied

edoman2016:
Is it that there is no companies or factories in your area that any of your siblings can apply to? Your siblings could lack ambitions and settle for less. Which state do you live?

Ph

It is well with you and I will put you in my prayers, 5 years from now you will look back at this and laugh, mark my words.

Cuteify:
Thank you all for your responses... I'm encouraged.

Wake up tomorrow, knee down by your bedside and pray. Stand up after praying and dress up in your excercise clothes and go for a good run for about 30min to 1 hour -run. Do it five times a week. Make sure you stay away from meat pies and other high carbs meals. Eat healthy meals. Add mushrooms, avocados and fruits to your daily diet.
By the way, take up the teaching job as long as it pays for you to eat!
Humble yourself and do what it takes to survive.
Forget the ones that jilted you- not the end of the world sis. One little step for yourself.

JBoy9:
I need to talk to you sir/ma

I am all ears, and I am a guy.

Cuteify:
I'm a member of this forum but I had to creat this account to express how I feel,Please pardon my errors.

I'm really depressed and most times I feel like ending it all. I have come to realize what people who commit suicide go through. Let's say I have been an unlucky girl. I don't get what's happening anymore to me. I don't know if I'm under a curse or something.

After my NYSC 4 years ago, I haven't been able to secure a good Job, I get invited for interviews yet at the last phase of it, I'm turned down. Same thing happen in my relationship, I give all yet I'm jilted. I'm not the demanding type, I have been able to main Long relationship thinking it would end in marriage yet it ends with no just cause. I'm good looking yet I don't know what the problem is. My elder sister faced the same challenge, infact she had to run off with the guy and got pregnant without being married legally. I don't want such type of marriage,I want everything to be done properly yet it's not working. I'm 27 years, yet I don't have a serious relationship,no Job too. My brothers are graduate yet they can't secure a good job, everyone in my family is teaching because that's the only job available, I refuse to take up one when I see it as a curse.

I had to do some research on my background and I discovered somethings. My uncles are facing same thing, I have aunties 40years and above not married,no job. In a family of 9 children, Just my mum is married. I have prayed and prayed it seems it's not just working.. .

I'm a graduate, intelligent, Good looking yet I can't get married or at least have a good job all because of a family/generational curse. I'm really dying silently, what's the need of living again?

I posted this on romance section but I still need advice, I noticed I can't make any comment on the post

The first phase of deliverance is getting to know the root of your problem. Thank God your know it's a generational pattern. It is only by the grace of God that this pattern can be broken. Which state do you reside?

Owiii:
The first phase of deliverance is getting to know the root of your problem. Thank God your know it's a generational pattern. It is only by the grace of God that this pattern can be broken. Which state do you reside?

Rivers

@Op, sometimes, God might be pushing you to some particular direction. Look inside of you, what is your passion? Forget about your course of study first.
What is your talent? Forget about depression and marriage first.
Then draw out your inner strength and pursue it.

Lastly, in relationship, don't give your all. Make sure the man earn your love because you're a princess and deserve honour.

Cheers