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jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

Lol... Normal boys behavior. I did all that and I am a fine adult right now. He will outgrow it soon... Especially when he is independent

DavidEsq:
I'd rather stick a knife in my left eye. They teach u to hate God. Look at Madonna uni; didn't u hear them say that atheism is bae on twitter? Do u think that getting education is all in life? Heck no!

says who... I know someone who went to that school... If you are not a Catholic, you will only participate in some of their activities but they will never force you to become one

olabrinks:
That thread was out of pure hormones, When you’re pregant your emotions are all over the place. Me and my partner are straight. He is my husband yes, we have already done our engagement with church blessings, the only thing left is the white wedding. My best friend and lover all in one. He is my husband I am his wife. Do you have any more concerns?

I don't want to push this so that It won't be like I'm invading your privacy.
I understand this little part and wish you a safe delivery.
It's a faceless forum afterall

Fourwinds:
says who... I know someone who went to that school... If you are not a Catholic, you will only participate in some of their activities but they will never force you to become one

Bullocks

Thanks

Ebenaba:
I don't want to push this so that It won't be like I'm invading your privacy.
I understand this little part and wish you a safe delivery.
It's a faceless forum afterall

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

There is nothing wrong with him, speak to other parents with boys and 90% of them will tell you same thing, please don't tag him or beat him. He is just a normal 9 year old. Like someone said register him in a football club, to use up some of that boisterous energy.

Ebenaba:
I don't want to push this so that It won't be like I'm invading your privacy.
I understand this little part and wish you a safe delivery.
It's a faceless forum afterall

I doubt broda Invictus would agree with u

this exactly how my brother is now, his was detected late, cause he loved playing in school
so we thought it was sheer laziness. pls take him to a neuro-psychatric hospital for check up, the doctors there are good, they will do a widely scan to see what's happening, as for my brother it was detected rather late, his on drugs to calm his nerves and daydreaming life, and in all we wait on Jehovah God to heal him, cause in his MRI scan they found untreated jaundice. madam all is well,

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

DavidEsq:
Bullocks

nonsense..couldn't defend your talk

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

I did crazy things like him at younger age... right now, I honestly think I'm the most cool headed in my family.
I think he'll change with time, that boy is smarter than you think. Just keep talking to him and stop beating him.

Fourwinds:
nonsense..couldn't defend your talk

I did but fly suddenly entered ur eyes, hence u didn't "see" it.

DavidEsq:
I did but fly suddenly entered ur eyes, hence u didn't "see" it.

did what... After the first quote what did you do next... Nonsense everywhere

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

I don't think your son has problem. I have a son of his age that does some of the things u mentioned. He will grow up to be normal. Reduce pressures and too much rules. He is just a child.

realtalk19:
Enrol him into COMMAND secondary school(boarding),iyana ipaja, Lagos. His ways will surely improve. Be sure to have a trusted guardian you can entrust him with in Nigeria.

When OP carried the boy overseas to be eating chocolate and meatpie.
Mumu don catch the boy now.
OP must return to Nigeria and stay here before that boy will improve.
Nonsense.

Tellemall:
I saw your sentences on prayer and brilliance. Two misconceptions. Every bad behavior in children is down to this mythical "brilliance". Suddenly every child is Einstein in child form.

Ridiculous.

BTW, Did I quote him or you? You.

Your opinion bro.

There's nothing wrong with your kid it's his age I think with time he would out grow the playfulness & about the beating please I think you should resort more to talking to him & make him see reason y he shouldn't be acting the way he does its even in the Bible When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. He would outgrow it

jess2019:
Although it's not allowed here but I've moved from smacking to beating now but no change in his behaviour. I fear this boy will put me into trouble one day or grow up to hate me. I'm thinking of sending him to naija for one school semester but hubby refused.

don't try sending him to Nigeria, my Uncle did that to his son only for the boy to return with more crazy attitude. just get a computer game and restrict his access to it whenever he misbehaves as a form of punishment

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

He is not having any problem in my opinion but when he is ready to start secondary school, send him to Nigeria to attend Deeper Life High School. You will thank me later.

Dear Jess 2019,
I believe your son is displaying all the usual signposts of a keen mind. He is absent minded because he is focused on more interesting things than the mundane. You call him a daydreamer and you actually hit the nail on the head that way. His head is almost literally in the clouds. To give you a parallel or two, the greatest scientist of the 20th century, Albert Einstein was told by his niece to boil an egg for five minutes for his breakfast, he was told to time it by his watch so it is neither over or undercooked. This man boiled his watch while starring at the egg in his hands.
In the same way, Bill Gates, until he married Melinda, often went to work wearing different socks. These are all just attributes of a mind refusing to be bothered by ordinary things. I warrant that he should bother, but beatings will only leave him confused. Don't worry, might not seem that way, but you are getting through. One day, he will just grab your tutelage of the past ten years and in 5 minutes process it and make it work. I would say it is something like Asperger's syndrome but I am not medically qualified to say that, and of course that is associated with high-performance autism.
He is just a smart kid. Solutions: Engage him, the more technical the better. Computers, music, writing, design, anything creative in fact. You will see he soaks all in like a sponge. And don't stop with your reminders, be patient. One day, you wil be living in the big house he buys for you and shaking your head ruefully. GOD bless you and the genius.

he prolly might be an autistic kid with ADHD syndrome. but there's absolutely nothing wrong with him, let him live in his own wprld , but always make sure he is always responsible for himself, to take charge of himself, you can do this by constantly reminding him to always look out for himself. you can do this by helping out sometimes and also allowing him to do things on his own without interference, always know when to come, do not ever intrude when you shouldn't. you will only complicate things. when he needs your help, he may or may not beckon on you depending on your relationship. find out what he's good at. might wild guess might be anything arts like painting or drawing and also he might be good at fiddling with gadgets. allow him to daydream, it is will boost his creative power, you can to do this by joining him on sessions like this in solitude without speaking to each other, but only occasionally asking him lovingly and playfully asking him questions that will prod him like " so what's up, what are you up to. fill me, I want to know what songs, what painting, what gimmick you intend to build maybe I can be of help" Always try as much as possible to experience what its like being in his world, then you will crack open where his line of interest lies, and always ask questions that will pique him in what he loves. also go on vacation together, somewhere fun, go to clinics and other places that require a lit bit of lending service, this will stir in him a sense of responsibility to help with his gift. Introduce him to your culture and speak your language to him more often. tell him about great things about your culture, read exciting story books at bedtime or free time. story books may be in areas of his interest too, he will surely get excited, trust me. beating and shouting will only compound the problem and will eventually shut you out of his life, with future breakdown in communication. do not do this! I repeat, do not do this! in worst case scenario, the beating and shouting might morph him into a being you may later regret, a narcist with bad tendencies, this is depending how he can cope with the psychological and physical abuse ( not every child , can come out to be something good from the psychological trauma they faced as a child) it will hamper his self esteem greatly and damage his creativity giving him split personalities. Always know that raising child is the most complicated task in the world, one simple mistake can disorganize the whole setup.


I never had that kind of dad and it still pains me till today, me and my dad would have become the greatest combo ever, I still remember when I was small I was so close to him, but along the line. I don't know what went wrong. but I figured out religion, and always wanting the best "in his own view" wrecked the relationship. I never got the chance to choose, it is either his way or you are not his child. I had an eccentric and overzealous father, Although, his dad died when he was small, but managed to get educated, so he always says it is a must we must be educated. the zeal played out on us by insisting we must be educated, although it helped but it sucked out my energy, because I learnt under duress, was in so much psychological stress that it damaged my creative and social abilities, I was a loner throughout my growing up years, I had friends and fun, but in the end I was still lonely, all because I had a father who his always hell bent on forcing his way of life down my throat. if you fail, you are in soup. the abuse will wreck you in all spheres. my junior brother was the hardest hit. I am lucky, my stubbornness saved me a little. but unfortunately, it wasn't so for my junior bro. he loves drawing and very good in practical works, but a insistent father will not . I always want a change of environment for him to save him from his misery. sometimes, when I beat my kids too, I always feel guilty, because I am inherently transferring the aggression of my child hood to them. so I made sure I develop a bond with them. we play a lot. we eat together, we go out together. all because I don't want to be a sadist father who will take out the revenge on his kids, no. The cycle will just go on and on.
so take your time with your Son. he's gifted, but you don't know. I am telling you this today, because I was once in his shoes.

AntiWailer:
Leave him alone.


Some crazy stuffs comes with being brilliant and smart.

He will out grow them with time.

You have to keep correcting him in a balanced approach so he will not grow resistance against you.

Beating does not really help in some instances. At times when he is so sure you were going to flog him, call him and explain why he should do the right thing.

Most importantly, please pray for him.

.




Right... Beating doesn't even help at all.. It turns a child to a rebel...

jess2019:
I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

Seriously, this is just what you shouldn't do. He is normal. Stop working yourself up over nothing.

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

Please get him tested for Autism. A lot of what you have described here is what happens with my cousin's autistic child. Please stop punishing the poor boy, he is a gifted child

Fourwinds:
did what... After the first quote what did you do next... Nonsense everywhere

So the first quote ni do u ba? U want to be Oliver Twist. Well u forget was told "your plate is enough for u"!

bayulll011:
very good.
if you leave your kids and let them get influenced with the western way,wll thats your fault because the society there is to prous and give room to all form of shiiiit.

imagine teaching kids about gay and lesbianism,instead of man and woman,they are teaching joseph and james instead of janet and joshua

yes dear, her son and her daughter will stay with me now from now to 6years of secondary school here in Nigeria. That's a good decision she made and am ready to assist her �%

DavidEsq:
So the first quote ni do u ba? U want to be Oliver Twist. Well u forget was told "your plate is enough for u"!

see yourself... No proof of your insinuations

bayulll011:
very good.
if you leave your kids and let them get influenced with the western way,wll thats your fault because the society there is to prous and give room to all form of shiiiit.

imagine teaching kids about gay and lesbianism,instead of man and woman,they are teaching joseph and james instead of janet and joshua

Nonsense Western world.

Madam, leave that child alone please I beg of you. You have a gifted child. Pay attention to him and you'll see what I'm talking about. I have a case here of a 10 year old kid who speaks Chinese and learning German.

Just pay a closer attention to him and even visit a therapist.

so.....your kid is acting like a kid. Whats the problem exactly?

Hello, Your son is normal, what he is experiencing is abnormal, so his mind drifts alot that's what make him forget always. Firstly you have to work on his conscious mind long enough by impressing a particular task repeatedly. His forgetfulness is coupled with his age, that is why it is obvious for you to see. Many adults are the same , their minds drift also
Secondly he must repeat a task or instruction back to you verbally when you give him one; that will help his subconscious mind to begin picking information and storing.
What is happening is, when you give him an instruction his mind is wandering therefore at that point he can only hear and not listen or comprehend, immediately he leaves your sight he forgets.
Thirdly making him know the implications of forgetting a task or instruction.He could forget the instructions but he will never forget the consequence. With these, the consequence will bring the instruction to his memory

jess2019:
My son will be 9 in October but his behaviour bothers me so much. He acts like a day dreamer. He has turned me into a shouting and miserable mum as I had to beat him after I've exhausted other punishment options. To make this short, I'm going to summarise his behaviour.

He still cannot get himself ready for school in the morning. Either he doesnt cream his body or forgets to comb his hair or doesnt brush his teeth. He forgets to brush his teeth almost everyday. This made me to make a list of step by step sticker. I sticked this on their bathroom mirror and on his bedroom wall. Yet I have to keep reminding him everyday. For example, last week on Wednesday, Thursday and Friday he forgot to brush his teeth and hair. I have to constantly be reminding him every morning. He is the only one that brushes teeth after getting ready. I trained them to brush teeth first before shower but he keeps forgetting.

I have to remind him to do his homework, and put it back in his school bag to return to school on Mondays. The book will still not make it to the school even after constant reminder. We've lost countless of lunch bags. One ended up on school roof. If you give him any form to submit back to his teacher. He will forget in his bag so I now give it to his sister to give to his teacher.

He removes his clothes, shoes, pants, belts etc and leave them on the floor, I bought two laundry baskets for him. One in his room, another in their bathroom, yet all his belongings end up on the floor that you can hardly find a space to put a foot. I dont expect him to be perfect but atleast to try so that his 70% clothes make it to the basket or shoes to their racks. He also has a book shelf and desk yet they also end up on the floor.

He plays so much that sometimes he leaves shops with items in his hands. So I have to always watch out for him. Living in a western country where black boys are stereotyped I fear for him. He can stare at the ceiling for hrs when getting ready for school or spend long time in the shower yet not using soap on his body. This usually makes us late unless I step in to help or keep shouting.

If you ask him to do any house chores, he will not do it instead waiting for us to forget so he can get away with it. When grounded not to watch TV, he will still do it once he knows am inside my room or busy with a baby.

Yesterday we revised all his lesson assignments (5 work books). I specifically asked him to put them in his lesson bag. I pointed at the bag. Now I drop him at the lesson only for him to say oh I think I came with old lesson books. I dont know how he ended up with old books in his bag. It could be he planned it as a way to avoid the lesson. If not I wonder how he will remember it himself as soon as I drop him and his sister as this is unlike him.

I've taken him to a doctor incase there is any diagnosis so I can give him all the help he needs but they said it's just his behaviour because according to the doctor he is smart academically. He is 18months ahead of his year level. So they ruled ADHD out.

Are you a single mum? Your husband could help with this issue.

jess2019 trust me it may sound funny but I think your doctor got the diagnosis for ADHD wrong, there are no medical tests for l ADHD but attributes and behavioral tendencies that point to ADHD, and trust me your son has it,

I know this cos I have a junior bro that exhibits almost everything you pinpointed and is also sound academically the thing with ADHD is that the degree varies in different individuals, getc professional diagnosis from at least 2 more doctors