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Many people view sex as an
intimate connection with the person
you love. However, there are a
growing number of people who are
more open about their sexuality
and want to enjoy themselves without the emotional baggage that
comes with love and relationships.
While “No Strings Attached” hook-
ups aren’t for everyone, having a
little fun without commitment is
possible for many people. That said, this kind of relationship isn't
for everyone, and that is okay too. Method One of Two: Avoiding Falling in Love Know that having sex does
not mean that you need to fall in love. Having sex and falling in love are very different things.
Most people are taught by movies,
TV, and even friends/family that
having sex will always lead to love.
Love, however, is a complex and
nuanced emotion that develops over time, building as you get to
know someone emotionally and
socially, not just physically. After orgasm women release a
hormone called oxytocin, also
known as the "cuddle
chemical" that mimics feelings
of connection and love. This is
why, regardless of their logical thoughts about a person, love is often confused with sex.[1] Avoid sleeping with people
you share romantic history with. It is hard to return to friendship after a romantic or
sexual relationship. Adding sex
back into the mix, however, will
always resurface feelings of love
and attraction. One of the things
that separate friends from couples is a lack of sexual connection.
Rekindling your sex life together
will rekindle the feelings involved
as well, whether you want them or
not. This includes sleeping with
close friends, as your existing
connection, when mixed with
sex, leaves very little
separating you from becoming a couple.[2] Ask yourself what you are
looking for in the hook-up. Why do you want to have sex with
someone? Are you trying to have a
little fun, experiment with new
people, or feel lonely? You need to
know your goals going in, because
they will profoundly affect how attached you get to someone. Be
honest with yourself to prevent
confusion in the aftermath of the
hook-up. Casual hook-ups aren't for
everyone, but that is okay. If you tend to fall for every person
you sleep with or are looking for a
partner, then you should think
twice about having casual sex. If
you just want to have fun, have no
interest or desire for a relationship, and feel like experimenting a bit, you should feel free to proceed.[3] Hooking-up without developing
strings is easier if you just
want to have some fun and
learn more about your sexual
needs. Hooking-up because you are
lonely, recently heartbroken, or
hurting is often a recipe for
unwanted attraction, as you try
and compensate for your
feelings with your new sexual partner. Set your boundaries. Are there things that automatically signal intimacy? Some people
refrain from kissing their hook-up
partner, as it feels too close to a
real relationship. Other people
prefer not to cuddle after the fact,
or won't hook up with strangers. Have your boundaries set before
you head out for the night and stick
to them, as this will protect you and
your heart from getting too
invested. Long conversations spent
getting to know one another,
especially on an intimate level
(goals, worries/fears, personal
history), often lead to love and feelings of attraction.[4] Always wear protection when hooking up with someone.[5] Don't hook up every
chance you get with the same person. Spend time apart to protect your feelings from
turning into something more
serious. If you've established with
your partner that you are seeing
other people casually as well, mix
things up so that you don't fall too far for one person. Make pleasure the priority
in the relationship. Don't stay over and cuddle, go on dates,
or spend time talking late into the
night. If you want to maintain a no-
strings-attached, purely physical
relationship, you need to stay
purely physical. Focus on enjoying your time together, making sure
both of you are satisfied when you
leave but little else. A direct line on
pleasure, instead of intimacy, is
crucial to keep the relationship
from developing into broader feelings. Gifts, dates, and sleepovers all
lead to more intimate feelings.
Focus on what feels good and, once you are happy, leave.

I just commented to let you know i didn't read any of that up there

missjo:
I just commented to let you know i didn't read any of that up there

thank bruh

yansun:
thank bruh

You're welcome sista