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I dont know why people like confiding in me with their problems.


From my conversation with a friend today, I think I should bring this question here to know what people have to say.remember that your response could be a solution to someone's problem.


Married or not, have you been in a relationship with a partner that was once rape? How can rape affect a partners sexual life??

Interestingly at the on set of @MeToo i thought back to past relationships and there were 2 that started as rape, and ironically i went ahead to have relationships with them.

Each i was talking too, and could have potentially been great relationships but each time, i wasn't just ready for an intimate relationship but was forced. There was very verbal and clear Nos and struggles, however the predators were relentless and I just gave in after several hours. The bodycount guilt & thought that maybe I put myself in compromising position that allowed for the rapemade me go ahead to try and forge a relationship as the deed which i termed sacred then had been done. Of course they were both scumbags and both relationships were short lived.

tsmith:
Interestingly at the on set of @MeToo i thought back to past relationships and there were 2 that started as rape, and ironically i went ahead to have relationships with them.

Each i was talking too, and could have potentially been great relationships but each time, i wasn't just ready for an intimate relationship but was forced. There was very verbal and clear Nos and struggles, however the predators were relentless and I just gave in after several hours. The bodycount guilt & thought that maybe I put myself in compromising position that allowed for the rapemade me go ahead to try and forge a relationship as the deed which i termed sacred then had been done. Of course they were both scumbags and both relationships were short lived.

it is well...I'm certain they would all get a life that's deserving, in future try not to find yourself in compromising situations, Godspeed

TerryMcGinis:
it is well...I'm certain they would all get a life that's deserving, in future try not to find yourself in compromising situations, Godspeed

Well said, I'm definitely older, wiser and more vocal and more in control.

However do note that me saying or thinking maybe I somehow contributed to the compromising situation was thoughts from 14 - 16years ago. Now that I know better, regardless of any situation, no one should be forced into an act they are not ready for; whether male or female, NO should simply mean No, and be acceptable.