We are just two tenants in the compound.

I met my neighbour in the compound when I moved in and as such was friendly and nice to her in every way.(she is a stark illiterate that has a ghetto,razz mentality and upbringing)

The landlord shuttles btw Nigeria and italy because his family is based in Italy.

My neighbour has a husband that visits often.

I am a single mum and I have a nanny for my kids so I can work .

When I moved into the compound ,I met my neighbour and her sister(and child) who stays with her just for company because she was the only tenant before I moved in

Initially out of a free minded spirit,we chat a lot and discuss experiences but don't do in and out gossips .
She was free to ask for things and I was always willing to help.

As time went on I noticed immediately the landlord travelled my neighbour and her sister changed completely and started acting strange towards me .
At a point I tought I had offended them and I called both of them personally to sort tins out because I don't hold grudges but even at that their strange behaviour continued.
They started seeing me as a competition, they taunted me most times expecting a reaction in return but instead I kept my cool and never fought them and kept being nice to them.

Sometimes my neighbour and sister give evil stares, laughing hysterically whenever I pass or show up and gossiped and tormented me at every opportunity. I endured till the landlord came Bak from his trip and they switched back again to their fake niceness and acted like all was well between us.

My neighbour is not working and also a full house wife.

She did everything to tanish my reputation before the landlord but the landlord already observed my kind of person and cautioned her concerning her behavious towards me. Since her plans of pitching everyone against me wasn't working, recently the landlord travelled again and as expected she switched and started her nasty gossip and taunting towards even to the extend of greeting her and she wunt respond, she make some false statements of faking my looks,not good enough to look good etc.

I decided to stop greeting her since she doesn't respond and completely cut her off from my mind.
Immediately I made the decision of minding my business ,my neighbour and her sister started their gossips and was also angry I didn't react to all they have been provoking me with but instead I ignored them and cut off completely.


How best can do you think I can overcome them maturely without any physical contact or exchange?

Buy their life's.

Dont ask me to explain.

here is my 2cent

Take their only power away. And that is your ATTENTION.

Isn't your apartment different from theirs? Do you not have doors separating you? Hmmm...biko ban your kids and nanny from playing outside, dry your cloths far from theirs and completely see them less the best you can manage. They will soon receive sense and get tired...indeed, illiterate jobless people have that behavioural pattern.


By the way, rule no one... Never get too familiar with neighbours. The regular "hellos", " hi" and every small talk in between would have been enough. Pele.

realtalk19:


I met my neighbour in the compound when I moved in and as such was friendly and nice to her in every way.(she is a stark illiterate that has a ghetto,razz mentality and upbringing)

You are extremely rude for this statement. But to answer your question, simply move out.

Ignore them, pay them no attention.
Keep telling ur landlord abt their harrasment, it can't be good for ur wellbeing to live in this environment. Tell anyone else what they're doing bc what u don't want to isolate urself. They're being bullies, if their harassment worsens go to the authorities or leave. At your next residence don't get too familiar wit any neighbors

realtalk19:

We are just two tenants in the compound.

I met my neighbour in the compound when I moved in and as such was friendly and nice to her in every way.(she is a stark illiterate that has a ghetto,razz mentality and upbringing)

No wonder!

They are illiterates and are just showing their behaviour.
Ignore them and stay off their path as much as possible.I believe you don't use the same door to your apartment

What is the relationship between illiteracy & bad behavior? That's unnecessary info in my opinion. Just ignore them,you needn't do more or less.

Buy Benz
If you get Benz them no go even get mind to laugh when you pass
I have an idiot too here that behaves like that and I do everything to piss her and her husband off but no one has coughed out a single word!
I come home late(1am most times,blare the horn as loud as I can,smoke very well outside,Run my Gen throughout...)
Just show your neighbour you are way above her league and watch fear set in

Zielle:
Ignore them, pay them no attention.
Keep telling ur landlord abt their harrasment, it can't be good for ur wellbeing to live in this environment. Tell anyone else what they're doing bc what u don't want to isolate urself. They're being bullies, if their harassment worsens go to the authorities or leave. At your next residence don't get too familiar wit any neighbors

No wonder!

Thank you Zielle, the landlord is aware of their attitude and already served them quit notice once after the first harrassment but had to give her a warning wit a condition that her sister doesn't sleep over and has to leave but can only visit. But because the landlord isn't around,her sis starts sleeping over again and it gets worse once the sister is around.

genq:


You are extremely rude for this statement. But to answer your question, simply move out.

How was I rude? ,That's exactly how I could describe them so that whoever is reading Wil have an understanding? Why shuld I pack out because of a nasty tenant ?

missjo:
What is the relationship between illiteracy & bad behavior? That's unnecessary info in my opinion. Just ignore them,you needn't do more or less.

Their illiteracy at this situation has a connection because even when I speak on fone or with my kids they feel am insulting them in English or forming because they don't understand and feel intimidated. And sometimes I interprete they feel am lying.

thorpido:
They are illiterates and are just showing their behaviour.
Ignore them and stay off their path as much as possible.I believe you don't use the same door to your apartment

Thank you thorpido our apartments are seperate. Noted

nwanneni:
Buy Benz
If you get Benz them no go even get mind to laugh when you pass
I have an idiot too here that behaves like that and I do everything to piss her and her husband off but no one has coughed out a single word!
I come home late(1am most times,blare the horn as loud as I can,smoke very well outside,Run my Gen throughout...)
Just show your neighbour you are way above her league and watch fear set in

Thank you nwanneni, I look forward to have a ride by God's grace.lol

HacheNoire:
Buy their life's.

Dont ask me to explain.

How can I buy their life HacheNoire?

zeb04:
Take their only power away. And that is your ATTENTION.

Thank you zeb04. Well noted.

sisisioge:


Isn't your apartment different from theirs? Do you not have doors separating you? Hmmm...biko ban your kids and nanny from playing outside, dry your cloths far from theirs and completely see them less the best you can manage. They will soon receive sense and get tired...indeed, illiterate jobless people have that behavioural pattern.

By the way, rule no one... Never get too familiar with neighbours. The regular "hellos", " hi" and every small talk in between would have been enough. Pele.

Thank you sisisioge , we have separate apartments, my kids don't even play outside or relate with her kids because they bully my kids a lot . My line for spreading clothes is also occupied by my neighbour most times they see I am about washing (spreading of dry wrappers on the line to keep space) I still go ahead to wash and spread on every space available and use my baby drier for the remaining clothes to avoid what the want(fight).


I already learnt my lesson,I actually thought they were good people not knowing they were pretending. Thanks. Noted

Ignore them abeg


Pretend they don't exist.

Reason I don't do in house friendship. I only greet good morning and i don't wait for response as i would be miles away before you respond and if you don't respond i will not know.

Start greeting them and wait for no response. Do this continuously and with time they will realize their madness.

Also, DO NOT involve yourself with any of your neighbours again. They are your neighbours, its not important you make friends with them. Enemies within are real.


Btw, thought you said you work? How come you have time for all this?

Florblu:
Reason I don't do in house friendship. I only greet good morning and i don't wait for response as i would be miles away before you respond and if you don't respond i will not know.

Start greeting them and wait for no response. Do this continuously and with time they will realize their madness.

Also, DO NOT involve yourself with any of your neighbours again. They are your neighbours, its not important you make friends with them. Enemies within are real.


Btw, thought you said you work? How come you have time for all this?

Lol Florblu ,yes I work o and even come back late sef.no more involvement again.tanks

realtalk19:


Thank you sisisioge , we have separate apartments, my kids don't even play outside or relate with her kids because they bully my kids a lot . My line for spreading clothes is also occupied by my neighbour most times they see I am about washing (spreading of dry wrappers on the line to keep space) I still go ahead to wash and spread on every space available and use my baby drier for the remaining clothes to avoid what the want(fight).


I already learnt my lesson,I actually thought they were good people not knowing they were pretending. Thanks. Noted

Lolz...I was just laughing reading this post!
My dear .. please stay put in that abode...no one has the right to make you uncomfortable.

But here z how it works...
Do not ever get too familiar with your neighbors
To avoid see finish.i hope you ve learnt your lessons.

Secondly kindly severe all forms of communication... salutation no bee love.

Thirdly...if you can do it my isoko way...good for you.which z...
Continue to ignore them...but if you feel you ve had enough abeg change ham for them by using soldiers to cure dia skoin skoin.
Zero tolerance for nonsense.

ahnie:


Lolz...I was just laughing reading this post!
My dear .. please stay put in that abode...no one has the right to make you uncomfortable.

But here z how it works...
Do not ever get too familiar with your neighbors
To avoid see finish.i hope you ve learnt your lessons.

Secondly kindly severe all forms of communication... salutation no bee love.

Thirdly...if you can do it my isoko way...good for you.which z...
Continue to ignore them...but if you feel you ve had enough abeg change ham for them by using soldiers to cure dia skoin skoin.
Zero tolerance for nonsense.

Lol, u too Sabi jare.tanks ahnie.i have relly learnt my lessons o and I will keep ignoring them and act like they don't exist.

realtalk19:


Thank you nwanneni, I look forward to have a ride by God's grace.lol

Don't have a ride because you want to intimidate your neighbours rather have it because it is necessary for you to have one.... Pray God to change their heart towards you for good..

Show them love ,be mature ,act in wisdom,bear no grudge and you would just see them practically bowing to you.trust me it works.

realtalk19:

We are just two tenants in the compound.

I met my neighbour in the compound when I moved in and as such was friendly and nice to her in every way.(she is a stark illiterate that has a ghetto,razz mentality and upbringing)

The landlord shuttles btw Nigeria and italy because his family is based in Italy.

My neighbour has a husband that visits often.

I am a single mum and I have a nanny for my kids so I can work .

When I moved into the compound ,I met my neighbour and her sister(and child) who stays with her just for company because she was the only tenant before I moved in

Initially out of a free minded spirit,we chat a lot and discuss experiences but don't do in and out gossips .
She was free to ask for things and I was always willing to help.

As time went on I noticed immediately the landlord travelled my neighbour and her sister changed completely and started acting strange towards me .
At a point I tought I had offended them and I called both of them personally to sort tins out because I don't hold grudges but even at that their strange behaviour continued.
They started seeing me as a competition, they taunted me most times expecting a reaction in return but instead I kept my cool and never fought them and kept being nice to them.

Sometimes my neighbour and sister give evil stares, laughing hysterically whenever I pass or show up and gossiped and tormented me at every opportunity. I endured till the landlord came Bak from his trip and they switched back again to their fake niceness and acted like all was well between us.

My neighbour is not working and also a full house wife.

She did everything to tanish my reputation before the landlord but the landlord already observed my kind of person and cautioned her concerning her behavious towards me. Since her plans of pitching everyone against me wasn't working, recently the landlord travelled again and as expected she switched and started her nasty gossip and taunting towards even to the extend of greeting her and she wunt respond, she make some false statements of faking my looks,not good enough to look good etc.

I decided to stop greeting her since she doesn't respond and completely cut her off from my mind.
Immediately I made the decision of minding my business ,my neighbour and her sister started their gossips and was also angry I didn't react to all they have been provoking me with but instead I ignored them and cut off completely.


How best can do you think I can overcome them maturely without any physical contact or exchange?

I feel like kissing you even without seeing you.

Oluromantic:

I feel like kissing you even without seeing you.

Do I know you?

realtalk19:


Do I know you?

No dear. But we now know each other on Nairaland.

How was your night?

I see this is an old post. nevertheless it prolly hasn't stop the hate and beefs from your neighbors I guess.

My little cent to you will be to avoid and ignore them as best as you can. If possible, vacate that residence cos the fact its only two of you occupying that property does not make it safe as they may plot evil against "themselves" (not you) since they don't like your guts.

Please if you can, leave that place. Once someone dislikes you for no reason other than envy and jealousy, they may stop at nothing to see you hurt.

God be with you and your kids until you're able to relocate.

Oluromantic:

No dear. But we now know each other on Nairaland.

How was your night?

Why the interest? I slept well.thanks.

realtalk19:


Why the interest? I slept well.thanks.

Don't worry I'm no more interested. you're welcome.

You're doing perfectly well. No matter what you do! Not everyone will ever like you. Sometimes is best to be on your own than letting negative people into your personal space, they are toxic already, don't stoop to their level.

You should be glad that they even showed you who they truly are, imagine if you have gone too deep with them thinking that they have your best interest at heart!

Since you're sharing a house just try and manage them, such people are everywhere.