I am not as young or as innocent as I look, yet every time I cross the street with any man, whether I've known him 10 minutes or 10 years, they either hold my arm/hand or put a protective hand on my back and lead me to the other side of the road.

Most Western-minded, proudly independent, 21st Century women would be insulted by this because they feel it patronises them; they can cross the street just as well as any man! I don't. I take it as a compliment that a man acts on his natural instinct to protect when he's with me. Some women, because of the aggressive vibe they give out quench this gentlemanly behaviour in guys, but I'd like to think it is because of my sweet, accommodating nature that men are willing to open doors or pull out chairs for me.

Now I know and they know that I can do these things for myself, but that's not the point. I'm a lover of classic literature like Pride and Prejudice because it describes a time when men were men and ladies behaved decently and were treated with care because they were the fairer sex. I am not insulted by this, and I believe that women that are have either been hurt by misogynistic men or were told that a woman is just as good as a man and doesn't need to be treated differently.

Well, its their loss. If a man wants to treat me nicely because I am a woman, let him. I know I am just as intelligent as he is, so why should his chivalry make me feel bad?

There's a difference between a man opening a door for you and a man not allowing you to speak in public. Women in certain Middle-Eastern or African countries have the right to demand more fairness because they are been oppressed, but I'm afraid if women get more fairness in the West they might stop having babies, because if men don't have to do it, why should we?!

So its obvious that I am not a feminist. I thank the Women's Movement for the vote, shattered glass-ceilings and the Pill, but it all spun out of control when:

Women Started Acting Like Men

Some women think that if a man can sleep with 300 women and be admired by his peers, why can't she sleep with 300 men and be equally respected? Well, umm, apart from this being a cry for help, nature discourages it. A man produces trillions of new sperm daily throughout his lifetime, whilst a woman is born with about 400 viable eggs, is able to fertilise only one a month, and then they run out when she's 45. Also, women tend to get pregnant after sex whilst men can walk away if they so wish, and the reproduction game is such that whilst a man shoots and deposits, a woman receives and incubates.

All this means that nature has given men the ease and biological efficiency to have sex-and-go a lot, whilst women have to deal with the palaver of periods, pregnancy and ticking biological clocks. It kinda seems as if 'Mother Nature' is a misogynistic man trying to ruin women's fun doesn't it?

Fact is women are BUILT differently from men and it is not everything they do that we should do. Those that want to out-earn, out-drink or out-burp men may feel emancipated now, but a wise man is not looking for a woman to compete with but a mate to build a life with, and a woman that uses her femininity to compliment a man will have a happier home.

Women Started Demeaning Men

I dislike watching adverts these days because of the trend for women to belittle men. Commercials like Windows 7's Family Photo is one that I actually switch channels to avoid watching. I just get angsty about seeing a woman say things to a man that will cause outrage if the tables were turned. Watch a round of adverts next time you're in front of the TV with this in mind, and you'll see stroppy, domineering women chastising gormless men for being inept. Its never the other way round. Because that would be sexist.

The funny thing is that ad executives are overwhelmingly male, so either they're being funny, or worried that if they don't toe the feminist line there would be backlash. It's probably the latter.

I was watching a show about weddings, where it is the norm for the bride-to-be to complain that the groom doesn't help enough etc and then a 'Fairy God-mother' is called to help. But one episode had a wealthy young man who was outspoken about the fact that he'll pay for the wedding, but the bride should make all the arrangements (he was American. I noticed that their adverts are fairer). The female voice-over and 'Fairy God-mother' were indignant: how dare he be so honest about his disinterest and put the bride in a bad light! Didn't he read the memo? Only the bride can complain; the man should just nod and apologise!

The gender role-reversal in the media probably reflects reality. Today most divorces are initiated by the woman who is encouraged to not put up with any dissent, I mean failings in a man. Of course I know that men can be *%*#*@*, but perhaps women don't try so hard anymore?

Women Started Saying They Didn't Need Men

I used to say this. Back when I was young and drunk on the feminist power Destiny's Child sung about. Sure women can and have raised babies who became well-adjusted adults without the help of men, but should they? It's fine if you have no choice, but to make a conscious decision that you want to raise your child without a father is like cutting your nose to spite your face. Children from such homes grow up with daddy issues because it was never supposed to be that way.

Women also say this to mean they can buy their own houses, cars, clothes, weaves, shoes etc without the help of men. That's fabulous. I'm sure the men are quite happy not to have to pay for all these things too. But I personally want my husband to take care of me and be the breadwinner, and thankfully I'm with a traditional Hausa man who feels that it is his responsibility to provide for his family.

So after we marry I'll take primary care of the children, (since they grew in my body for nine months and were then fed with my body-juice, it seems fair) cook, clean, work and help him be the best he can be, whilst he protects, provides, procures the bacon and loves and respects me as the superwoman-mother-wife-lady I am. He'll probably wash the dishes too sometimes because he's nice like that. But he doesn't have to.

It's old-fashioned and I love it. There's something, wholesome about the natural order of things.

http://hausanigerian..com/2011/04/i-am-submissive-womandoes-that-make-me.html

Tweety121:

I am not as young or as innocent as I look, yet every time I cross the street with any man, whether I've known him 10 minutes or 10 years, they either hold my arm/hand or put a protective hand on my back and lead me to the other side of the road.

Most Western-minded, proudly independent, 21st Century women would be insulted by this because they feel it patronises them; they can cross the street just as well as any man! I don't. I take it as a compliment that a man acts on his natural instinct to protect when he's with me. Some women, because of the aggressive vibe they give out quench this gentlemanly behaviour in guys, but I'd like to think it is because of my sweet, accommodating nature that men are willing to open doors or pull out chairs for me.

Read the rest of the controversial & hilarious post on the Hausa-Nigerian blog here: http://hausanigerian..com/2011/04/i-am-submissive-womandoes-that-make-me.html

So Is the blog writer empowered or deluded?

I don't know, you tell me. You are the owner of the blog and your thoughts, I will take your word on the matter as fact. I have read your blog before and I think you be-labour your heritage too much. Let us just know what you think about the world. Not where you were born and the tribe you belong to- shikena. Have a very nice day Ma'am.

I don't know, you tell me. You are the owner of the blog and your thoughts,  I will take your word on the matter as fact. I have read your blog before and I think you be-labour your heritage too much. Let us just know what you think about the world. Not where you were born and the tribe you belong to- shikena. Have a very nice day Ma'am.

The whole blog is about being a Hausa Nigerian, hence the name + what I think about the world. What's the problem? Lighten up

yet[b] every time I cross the street with any man,[/b] whether I've known him 10 minutes or 10 years, they either hold my arm/hand or put a protective hand on my back and lead me to the other side of the road.

Actually, I am happy for her. Or should I say them.
Taking 'baby' steps to civilization.
It is common for Hausa peeps to lead themselves across the street.
I used to see a few 'bambi-allahs' or 'gbomo-gbomos' do just that while begging for money or trying to kidnap little children in large loin-clothed suffocating cow-skinned bags from street to street.
If the gesture can be extended to women who can see with all hands and feet INTACT. . . I rejoice. Very romantic.
From chopping off hands and feet for adultery to leading their women with protective hands on their backs and buttocks. . .to the other side of the road WITHOUT KILLING THEM or using the women as donkeys or mules THEMSELVES to transport merchandise across the streets while sitting on them?

[size=20pt]Somebarry please shout J-J for Jehovah Jireh!!! [/size]


The only problem?
I wish she will experience that kind of basic'chivalry' in Hausaland, Nigeria.
Not just in London.
All well and good sha.

Please, rock on. "Awusa" peeps in London. . . you have a lot of catching up to do.

Small-small. . . una go reassssh dia. Amen.

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrran-ka-de-de ma!!!

Mu hee heee heee.
You are one annoyingly funny gal

Blazay:

Actually, I am happy for her. Or should I say them.
Taking 'baby' steps to civilization.
It is common for Hausa peeps to lead themselves across the street.
I used to see a few 'bambi-allahs' or 'gbomo-gbomos' do just that while begging for money or trying to kidnap little children in large loin-clothed suffocating cow-skinned bags from street to street.
If the gesture can be extended to women who can see with all hands and feet INTACT. . . I rejoice. Very romantic.
From chopping off hands and feet for adultery to leading their women with protective hands on their backs and buttocks. . .to the other side of the road WITHO0UT KILLING THEM or using the women as donkeys or mules to transport merchandise while sitting on them?

[size=20pt]Somebarry please shout J-J for Jehovah Jireh!!! [/size]



The only problem?
I wish she will experience that 'chivalry' in Hausaland Nigeria.
Not just in London.
All well and good sha.

Please, rock on. "Awusa" peeps in London. . . you have a lot of catching up to do.

Small-small. . . una go reassssh dia. Amen.

Rrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrran-ka-de-de ma!!!

Yesssooo! Awusas have come a long way since boko haram. We speak and write in English now and some of our men even let us women walk side by side with them on the street and not three steps behind. We thank God for progress.

Odunnu:

Mu hee heee heee.
You are one annoyingly funny gal

Submissive, feminist, easy to see why both can be misconstrued for one other, yeah that's it.

The key is to ask the woman first, especially or even regardless if she's non- nigerian or not.

Personally i would consider it offensive if someone i hardly know just had his hands all over me in the name of crossing the road.

There are real life people who need assistance and volunteers to help them, so having a caring heart need not go to waste.

Of course all this is just my opinion and anyone who likes such is free to do so.

Firstly - Tweety - Ki Chanza wanchan foton -, it terrible, why dont you employ the image on the blog.

secondly- i like submissive women, there sexy, they make me feel like am the guy and your the girl

Men, do this kind of stuff to chicks they find attractive, from the little i read on the blog, the profile thing,

It would make me do a whole lot of stuff for you, but i wont wash your undies ,

Na gaishe KI,

I believe men and women though different are equal, I donot need anyone hands on my shoulder I am well capable or anyone saying calm down dear to me.
Having said that I enjoy being feminine and having the men around me being masculine, if a strange man opens the door for me he will get my brightest smile and I will make sure to smoothing my skirt before sitting down but my body is mine alone keep your hands to yourself sir except u get a winking from me

UncleJJ:

Firstly - Tweety - Ki Chanza wanchan foton -, it terrible, why dont you employ the image on the blog.

secondly- i like submissive women, there sexy, they make me feel like am the guy and your the girl

Men, do this kind of stuff to chicks they find attractive, from the little i read on the blog, the profile thing,

It would make me do a whole lot of stuff for you, but i wont wash your undies ,

Na gaishe KI,

Lol! Ba zan chanza foto ba. Ya yi kyau mana, ko? And nagode for gaisheing me 

Nothing wrong with being submissive,  I'm the same. It's fine aslong as RESPECT is there. That's the key to everything in my opinion.

Yep. Not every man is deserving of a submissive woman, some will misuse and abuse the power they think they have over you. When a man is worthy of your respect he usually gives it back too (in his own non-ego damaging way).

There is nothing wrong in being submissive hence its not being exploited,
Some men are just way too rigid,especially the uneducated,primitive ones,

It's all about the efficiency of synergy.

And basically, I believe every woman is submissive. She just hasn't met the man she can be submissive to yet.

and loves and respects me as the superwoman-mother-wife-lady I am.

did you just call yourself a superwoman? rotflmao.
I have yet to see or hear of a superwoman who can't cross the street by herself and needs a man to hold her hand to cross the street.
That's the definition of a CHILD, not a superwoman. srry to break it down to you.
There are many women(those 21st century women you refer to) who prefer not to be treated like children. and want to be treated equally as grown adults!

I love how in your opening statement you put a disclaimer stating that you look "young and innocent." of course. child-like. Not every woman wants to be treated like a child.

This is just making the front page?

What has submission got to do with the OP?

nothing is wrng if u are submissive to ur husband. but if u are submissive to dis dogs called guys going around looking for who to sleep with, if u are submissive to them they will end up messing u up. dough u need to be submissive but u nid to check the limits

There is nothing wrong in being submissive.
It is one major key to winning your husband's heart although some men sha....

The African idea of submissiveness is when the wife/woman becomes a doormat and in some extreme cases a punching bag - fail !

A woman submits to a man who provides true leadership , love and protection for his family as a sign of respect but not because the man is some sort of demi-god.

A man who abuses his wife , beats her and cheats on her will be a difficult beast to submit to.

Ok, whatsup with these females, blah blah blah thread

Gehn Gehn!! A Message to the Feminist

Summary pls..



*somebody wanna dance kukelewu..

frosbel: The African idea of submissiveness is when the wife/woman becomes a doormat and in some extreme cases a punching bag - fail !

A woman submits to a man who provides true leadership , love and protection for his family as a sign of respect but not because the man is some sort of demi-god.

A man who abuses his wife , beats her and cheats on her will be a difficult beast to submit to.

Most women don't even submit in the first place....

They are been subservient

A woman submits to a man who loves her

As for the OP, I don't see the correlation between random strangers leading you across the street and been submissive.

A woman should submit to only her husband anyways but then,

This is Nigeria and we using the Nigerian Bible

Why are d mods flooding the frontpage with old posts na. Anyway, notin spoil. We can still learn 4rm d thread

You dey shittz for bush
and your own shittz come dey tell you say" do
quick!, do quick!!"...dear just be urself & don't mind what others think

There's nothing wrong if you have a good man, but if you're dating a bully or an abuser who takes out his frustration on a weaker being. Sorry. Then again, even a nice man wants someone with a backbone, what's the point of being a human being if you can't stand your ground once in a while. Many men want a woman with spunk not a doormat, as much as they like to think otherwise.