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modernWays:
You know when you see a mature intelligent woman. You earned my respect in this forum henceforh. Unlike some women here, i'm so happy you noticed the different between a cheating wife and a cheating husband.

This was not actually happened to me as my wife is heavily pregnant now, i raised this alarm on behalf of my dear brother and a very close friend.

Cheating only cause shame/regret, and should not be tolerated in the relationship/marriage.

Hmmm...thank you. Although cheaters are measured by the same scale in my book regardless of their gender even in light of our society's tendency to be lenient on men. May God bless us with fair partners fa.

elektra:
Don’t search her phone or monitor her movement. You will just find what will make you angry.
If you find out she is cheating then what?
Even if you leave, how are you sure your next wife won’t still cheat on you.
Oga just face your work and your children.
Or do you want to break up your happy home? Also, watch War Room and pray for your wife instead of all this detective work. Shallom.

Always advise people to do this to maintain peace in their families until i witness(with my two naked eyes) where 1 out of 3 children of this lovely neighbour are not his. Some weeks ago, a friend to my cousin asked me of the best way to reclaim his child from this family because he was dead sure he impregnanted his wife some years back when he stayed in the same compound with them. The boy about 8 years old was actually a carbon copy of this guy when he showed me his picture.

Apart from this what if she bring deadly disease to her husband or home?

I think cheating from both patners should never be ignore/tolerate(especially with genuine evidence) in the name of peace.

Oga 99% of Nigerian marriages are open marriages not by the woman's choice but the fact that Nigerian men feel it's their right to cheat. So they want to cheat and come back home to a faithful wife.

You keep talking about disease and bringing another man's child home, what about the men don't they bring diseases and other children home?

I know a man that got paid off in his company with millions of naira and he left his wife and four children to go and stay with another woman in Asaba for over 5 years. The day he came back he was brought in a taxi with swollen stinky legs and this same wife he abandoned took care of him till he got better, now this fat bastard is going around telling people she doesn't let him touch her so she's cheating.

The days of our mothers is long gone, no woman has to endure the humiliation of a cheating husband anymore.

madridguy:
Nairaland ladies can be so funny. My sister stop dragging position with men.

Men can cheat and women can't :Pkiss the fact my sister.
A man can stand at the midst of his family, friends and say boldly, " that lady going i don chop her " but ladies can't. Why do you think God Almighty put seals on every woman?

My sister, cheating is not a thing to brag about but its easy for a man to gather his family to beg his wife over infidelity than a woman.
Make i stop here first.

The lady made sensible points bro.

No one has the monopoly to cheat.
A cheating husband has adverse effects on the wife and the home. But since it became an habit for most men, women learnt how to deal with it.
The reason why cheating is becoming a problem now is because some "modern" women now indulge in it, hereby serving it back to men hot hot.

If only we could all see the danger in cheating on a loyal and loved one, then would we understand the hurt.

So, trust me, find out why she isn't loyal to you, and address it, else it's gonna continue. That's all you can do.

Mstick:
Oga 99% of Nigerian marriages are open marriages not by the woman's choice but the fact that Nigerian men feel it's their right to cheat. So they want to cheat and come back home to a faithful wife.

You keep talking about disease and bringing another man's child home, what about the men don't they bring diseases and other children home?

I know a man that got paid off in his company with millions of naira and he left his wife and four children to go and stay with another woman in Asaba for over 5 years. The day he came back he was brought in a taxi with swollen stinky legs and this same wife he abandoned took care of him till he got better, now this fat bastard is going around telling people she doesn't let him touch her so she's cheating.

The days of our mothers is long gone, no woman has to endure the humiliation of a cheating husband anymore.

You said it all.

Most Women these days are no more loyal because they witnessed what cheating by their fathers did to their mothers, and they have refused to allow same happen to them.

The tables have turned, and it scary as hell.. God help us.

[quote author=loveliveshere post=82385992][/quote]This account definitely belongs to a woman pretending to be a man.

Don't mind them. They keep brandishing the fallacy that a man can cheat and love his wife meanwhile they're millions and millions of cases when a cheating man abandons his family totally just because of asss.

My father cheated on my mom to the point that she didn't even care anymore and the next thing he started accusing her of cheating because she stopped begging and pleading with him to stop.

My father will leave the house for months so he can stay with his girlfriend and when he comes back he expects a rousing welcome.

Most of this guy's supporting cheating in marriage saw the pain their mum when through but they're so selfish and narcissist to break that circle and they keep putting their spouse in pain.

Nigerian men claim they're polygamous in nature so why are you bothered about some thing natural?

loveliveshere:
You said it all.

Most Women these days are no more loyal because they witnessed what cheating by their fathers did to their mothers, and they have refused to allow same happen to them.

The tables have turned, and it scary as hell.. God help us.

How many Nigerian men do you see transferring generational wealth to their kids/family? Once they get small change drink and women become more important.

genq:
This account definitely belongs to a woman pretending to be a man.

Need I state, that I am a female.

loveliveshere:

Need I state, that I am a female.

Bingo! Discernment is one of my greatest attributes.

Mstick:
Don't mind them. They keep brandishing the fallacy that a man can cheat and love his wife meanwhile they're millions and millions of cases when a cheating man abandons his family totally just because of asss.

My father cheated on my mom to the point that she didn't even care anymore and the next thing he started accusing her of cheating because she stopped begging and pleading with him to stop.

My father will leave the house for months so he can stay with his girlfriend and when he comes back he expects a rousing welcome.

Most of this guy's supporting cheating in marriage saw the pain their mum when through but they're so selfish and narcissist to break that circle and they keep putting their spouse in pain.

Nigerian men claim they're polygamous in nature so why are you bothered about some thing natural?

Let's not start opening cans of worm here on nairaland, cos trust me almost every one has an abusive parent/ abused parent story to tell. We all are trying to live above the trauma.

I sometimes don't judge woman that cheat on their spouse, not because I condone such or indulge in such, but because I know most times it's a case of revenge and "pushed to the wall" kinda situation. Although, unfortunately, there are some nice men out there who have happened to fall into the laps of these broken women.

I hope that our men will soon start to respect "the woman and her hustle" , and I also hope that these women will so start to realise that two wrongs never make a right.

genq:
Bingo! Discernment is one of my greatest attributes.

Uncle you missed. You initiallythought I was male

So I guess cheating has now become a competition

The purpose of this thread was to discuss "how to catch a cheating wife" NOT "whether or not women are justified to cheat".

Foolishness in the family section is at an all time high.

True. Of course cheating is 100% wrong, till the men start valuing women and know that women aren't just for their pleasure it would only get worst.

How to catch a cheating wife? Don't be a cheating husband.

loveliveshere:

Uncle you missed. You initiallythought I was male

genq:
So I guess cheating has now become a competition

The purpose of this thread was to discuss "how to catch a cheating wife" NOT "whether or not women are justified to cheat".

Foolishness in the family section is at an all time high.

Look at pot calling kettle black.

Show me where in this thread you answered the question posed by OP.

How are you different from the people you call foolish?

loveliveshere:

Uncle you missed. You initiallythought I was male

Oh lord, this site is full of dum...

Mstick:
True. Of course cheating is 100% wrong, till the men start valuing women and know that women aren't just for their pleasure it would only get worst.

How to catch a cheating wife? Don't be a cheating husband.

I quite agree with your last paragraph, it takes a crook to know a crook after all

When you are dating, and your partner already cheats, you can't expect them to change and become faithful, cos they will always get better and maybe even become pro.



Dear people, according to one of the very popular moonlight folktales in " stories my mother told me", " DO AS YOU WOULD BE DONE BY", and the word would be a beautiful place to live in.

Take care mstick.

genq:
Oh lord, this site is full of dum...

I would have loved to reply you accordingly, but it would mean me stooping to your level.

Let's just pretend that our paths didn't cross tonight. Thanks for your time.

loveliveshere:
I would have loved to reply you accordingly, but it would mean me stooping to your level.

Let's just pretend that our paths didn't cross tonight. Thanks for your time.

For your own sanity, that's the best decision.

loveliveshere:
I would have loved to reply you accordingly, but it would mean me stooping to your level.

Let's just pretend that our paths didn't cross tonight. Thanks for your time.

sincerely he is like a mosquito. boozing around quoting everyone, so irritating.

zeb04:
sincerely he is like a mosquito. boozing around quoting everyone, so irritating.

Buzzing

zeb04:
sincerely he is like a mosquito. boozing around quoting everyone, so irritating.

The last thing I want to do on nairaland is to indulge fools. So I have successfully ignored him. I pray he finds peace in life.

Don't mind the idiót, the only time they remember they are African "men" is when its time to quarrel and belittle women. Forgetting that the African men women took bullshït from in the past fed their families meanwhile they're here looking for women they would split bills with and still cheat on with reckless abandon.


African men went to wars for their family honour but this ones all they know is jump on any female comment and tag you a feminist when you don't agree with their rubbish, government keep raping the country they can't even protest but make a comment about women empowerment and watch them bark like toothless dogs.

Other countries, men are leading their countries to greater heights and making inventions to make life easier for their spouses but they're here still arguing if it's right for a woman to use washing machine or serve her husband food with one meat.

zeb04:
sincerely he is like a mosquito. boozing around quoting everyone, so irritating.

LordKO:
lol, I de always speak pidgin. Na when time no dey too much or when one wan recharge ihm de speak something wey no be pidgin.

I was surprised, I thought you only dealt with speaking huge grammars.

What the hell is wrong with some nairalanders, the OP said "how to catch a cheating wife" while some people are here saying don't be a cheating husband, how does that relates to the topic. So if a man doesn't cheat on his wife that means his wife won't cheat on him or if a woman doesn't cheat on her husband that means the husband won't cheat on her, the dummies on Nairaland are becoming too much these days, gender wars are brought into simple things, I just don't understand Nairaland anymore.

Mstick:
Don't mind the idiót, the only time they remember they are African "men" is when its time to quarrel and belittle women. Forgetting that the African men women took bullshït from in the past fed their families meanwhile they're here looking for women they would split bills with and still cheat on with reckless abandon.


African men went to wars for their family honour but this ones all they know is jump on any female comment and tag you a feminist when you don't agree with their rubbish, government keep raping the country they can't even protest but make a comment about women empowerment and watch them bark like toothless dogs.

Other countries, men are leading their countries to greater heights and making inventions to make life easier for their spouses but they're here still arguing if it's right for a woman to use washing machine or serve her husband food with one meat.

"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

Buhahahahahahahaha classic! Come on! Dude if I didn't want childish people like you to bring up my post to use as armor against me I wouldn't have written it.

I know bitter and feminist is the favorite word for you dunderheads on this platform, I've being here long enough to know.

My advice? Save that for people it would work on as for me? Before I said my truth, I have worked through my feelings. I cannot be bullied and shamed for what I went through and what I decided to post online.


my advice instead of fighting women online why don't you use that same energy to work on yourself because if you're busy you wouldn't have time to go back and forth checking posts and pulling them up.

genq:

"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

Mstick:
Buhahahahahahahaha classic! Come on! Dude if I didn't want childish people like you to bring up my post to use as armor against me I wouldn't have written it.

I know bitter and feminist is the favorite word for you dunderheads on this platform, I've being here long enough to know.

My advice? Save that for people it would work on as for me? Before I said my truth, I have worked through my feelings. I cannot be bullied and shamed for what I went through and what I decided to post online.


my advice instead of fighting women online why don't you use that same energy to work on yourself because if you're busy you wouldn't have time to go back and forth checking posts and pulling them up.

Lol. Well, judging from your numerous posts aimed at men, I highly doubt this.

If you are anything like your mother, then I understand why the old man did what he did

P.s. All men are not your father ok - shoot your shot at him.

Like I said, instead of wasting your "manliness" arguing and fighting for battle of supremacy with women ONLINE then when you're done you go and eat "mommy thank you" why don't you get busy?

Of course I am like my mother, she was so bad that today the "old man" is calling and sending emissaries to pacify and beg her.

Today she's in Spain with her son and his family meanwhile "the old man" gave me 30 missed calls today alone because he wants to "talk".



I wrote that post with my clear conscious mind if I didn't I wouldn't leave it up, so you boy, can not bully or shame with what I wrote Myself.

I never said all men a like my father but since you had to go dig up my post and since the beginning of this thread you've been looking for the woman to go back and forth with, then it's safe to say you're not even a MAN.

genq:
Lol. Well, judging from your numerous posts aimed at men, I highly doubt this.

If you are anything like your mother, then I understand why the old man did what he did

P.s. All men are not your father ok - shoot your shot at him.

Mstick:
Like I said, instead of wasting your "manliness" arguing and fighting for battle of supremacy with women ONLINE then when you're done you go and eat "mommy thank you" why don't you get busy?

Of course I am like my mother, she was so bad that today the "old man" is calling and sending emissaries to pacify and beg her.

Today she's in Spain with her son and his family meanwhile "the old man" gave me 30 missed calls today alone because he wants to "talk".



I wrote that post with my clear conscious mind if I didn't I wouldn't leave it up, so you boy, can not bully or shame with what I wrote Myself.

I never said all men a like my father but since you had to go dig up my post and since the beginning of this thread you've been looking for the woman to go back and forth with, then it's safe to say you're not even a MAN.

I love this. Own your experience, don't allow anyone shame you or bully you into silence

Ayofaks:
I love this. Own your experience, don't allow anyone shame you or bully you into silence

me too @Mstick

genq:

"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

Just look at who is talking about spreading venom.
Almost all his posts are filled with bitterness and resentment against women.

Such hypocrisy.

Mstick you gave him the perfect reply.