I was reading through this thread with happiness and contentment, I am glad more and more women are now rejecting the lies men have been peddling for years that it is okay for them to cheat while their wives stay faithful.

Bullshit

If he is cheating find a way to get back at him, if you can't cheat back physically then then do online romance, even if just for entertainment or revenge, just find a way to cheat back.
Yes I said it, gone are the days of forgiving useless randy men. Take vengeance against them.

If you don't want to cheat on him back maybe because of religious or moral reasons then put some really gross sh!t in his food after cooking it, spit in it, wash your feet in it or put some small amount of filthy gunk in whatever food he will eat alone, let him eat rubbish the same way he expects you to eat his rubbish and stay submissive to him.

modernWays:
The rate of infidelity among married women is so alarming these days, and one keep wondering if there are somethings their husbands dont have that the next man possessed or can we simply call it stupidity or moral decadency. Some are even robbing it on your face by having sex with a next door neighbour or one useless broke guy in the street. Office romance are not left out.


As we all know, a cheating wife is as dangerous as cancer to her husband. Apart from the life of her husband she would put in danger, what about bringing disease or another man's child to your home.

What women should know is that, they have a lot to lose if they're caught. Apart from losing your blessed home, you lose your value and dignity as well as puting yourself in shame especially if your husband is someone who cannot bear the pain alone.

Note: Men are not saint, men could cheat and still be responsible at home, the moment a woman start having sex outside her marriage, she became an endanger specie to her husband.

So what is the best and fastest way to catch such a woman.

See how you are justifying yourself (man).who told you ,you can't be an 'endangered specie' to your wife or not have a lot to loose when you cheat as a man.maybe, ur rules apply to idle, jobless women who don't empower themselves with a means of income and 'boys'(men) like you feel you can intimidate your wife and make her see you as their means of survival instead of as a partner, husband and father.

Fastest and best way to catch your 'kind' of cheating woman is by meeting us at the T-junction of your area by 12am midnight.'We' Wil escort you to catch her.

Pardon my manners but I am tempted to tell You are not serious at all.

yemmit90:



CCTV at home and hacking of her phones. Be smart enough to pick points from her statements and body language.

If you eventually discover the truth, dont ever forgive her, a cheating wife is as deadly as Ebola virus.

So what happens to a cheating husband, if the wife is like Ebola Will CCTV go out with the wife? Or follow her wherever she goes?? Most women knows that the first call of search is their phone, hence some of them have a spare sim for calling without the husband's knowledge. What am I saying in summary, a faithful man shouldn't worry about tracking a cheating wife cos the truth will surface without a stress from the husband.... Note, I am only referring to a faithful man, who isn't cheating on his wife but if you are an unfaithful man and your evil mind is telling you that your wife is doing same, hence you are trying to catch her, I tell you, you will Neva get any evidence untill you the husband put a stop to yours, only then will her wayward lifestyle be made known to you. Nothing beats faithfulness in marriage... And a home filled with God's presence.... May God give us the grace to be faithful to one another amen....

This sounds like something I already posted on a different thread.

Mstick:
Men can cheat but women can't, please tell me who are the men suppose to cheat with? Don't you know that the women you're cheating with is also someone's wife or girlfriend?


Men are polygamous in nature so please allow your wife to help other men. Or do you want the men to cheat nature?


Men expect faithfulness from their spouse meanwhile they go around sleeping with everything that moves forgetting that there's only so much women to go around and one day another man will be "polygamous" with your wife.

You want a faithful wife then be faithful and encourage your fellow men to stick to their partners. Since you guys want to keep eating your cake and having it then forget fidelity from your wife. You can't love someone and cheat on her, that's a BIG LIE. Go and look up the meaning of love. You can't be disgracing and humiliating your wife and claim responsible.

Numerous women cheat on their spouse and still run their homes and "love" their husbands. So all this brainwash doesn't work on women anymore, you want a faithful wife? Then be faithful. Threatening to send her back to her father's house as if you met her there is old school.

ststyreal:

So what happens to a cheating husband, if the wife is like Ebola Will CCTV go out with the wife? Or follow her wherever she goes?? Most women knows that the first call of search is their phone, hence some of them have a spare sim for calling without the husband's knowledge. What am I saying in summary, a faithful man shouldn't worry about tracking a cheating wife cos the truth will surface without a stress from the husband.... Note, I am only referring to a faithful man, who isn't cheating on his wife but if you are an unfaithful man and your evil mind is telling you that your wife is doing same, hence you are trying to catch her, I tell you, you will Neva get any evidence untill you the husband put a stop to yours, only then will her wayward lifestyle be made known to you. Nothing beats faithfulness in marriage... And a home filled with God's presence.... May God give us the grace to be faithful to one another amen....

The way some of you ladies replying to this thread is just so irritating and quite pathetic. Cheating is bad irrespective of whoever indulge in it, but using it as an excuse to commit adultery in marriage is wrong, and i dont think it should be encourage for whatever reason. A responsible woman with self respect/dignity would rather divorce the said husband than messing herself around.

Mstick:
How many Nigerian men do you see transferring generational wealth to their kids/family? Once they get small change drink and women become more important.

well said

CHoccolaTE:
I was reading through this thread with happiness and contentment, I am glad more and more women are now rejecting the lies men have been peddling for years that it is okay for them to cheat while their wives stay faithful.

Bullshit

If he is cheating find a way to get back at him, if you can't cheat back physically then then do online romance, even if just for entertainment or revenge, just find a way to cheat back.
Yes I said it, gone are the days of forgiving useless randy men. Take vengeance against them.

If you don't want to cheat on him back maybe because of religious or moral reasons then put some really gross sh!t in his food after cooking it, spit in it, wash your feet in it or put some small amount of filthy gunk in whatever food he will eat alone, let him eat rubbish the same way he expects you to eat his rubbish and stay submissive to him.

You couldn't cheat even if you wanted to madam - as the unmarried, childless, overweight, 35+ year old that you are.

Comments on Nairaland gives you joy and contentment? Lmao!

piroux:


The second paragraph made a lot of sense actually. And i agree. I personally don't intend to cheat in marriage and i will not take such from a partner.

However, your first paragraph is totally obsolete. Women who cheat these days have alternatives unfortunately. Men marry them, they move on and have more children, they have jobs and play the field. A lot of them sustain and keep the homes and men cannot cope without them. Infact, why do you think there are more men forgiving cheating spouses? Their wives feed the homes, they provide. The age when cheating was a man only thing was when men alone sustained and provided for their homes. Now, the playing field has been leveled.

If any man considers himself the head of his home, let him set a good example in fidelity and loyalty. A man who cheats deserves a community vagina. If you want faithfulness, lay a good example and give it.

In my opinion, only an unintelligent person excuses infidelity in men and tackles that of women. Marriage is a give and take. No one is an idiot. What you cannot take, don't dish out.

At this rate of delusive knowledge and outright arrogance from feminism mixed with the gibberish you taught yourself or probably read or watched online, you need some realities to hit you and then you'd wake up and realize that you don't carry this kind of energy into marriage.

yemmit90:


The way some of you ladies replying to this thread is just so irritating and quite pathetic. Cheating is bad irrespective of whoever indulge in it, but using it as an excuse to commit adultery in marriage is wrong, and i dont think it should be encourage for whatever reason. A responsible woman with self respect/dignity would rather divorce the said husband than messing herself around.

Why didn't the responsible husband divorce the wife, rather than messing himself around?


They should both be there. God hates divorce.

modernWays:
The rate of infidelity among married women is so alarming these days, and one keep wondering if there are somethings their husbands dont have that the next man possessed or can we simply call it stupidity or moral decadency. Some are even robbing it on your face by having sex with a next door neighbour or one useless broke guy in the street. Office romance are not left out.


As we all know, a cheating wife is as dangerous as cancer to her husband. Apart from the life of her husband she would put in danger, what about bringing disease or another man's child to your home.

What women should know is that, they have a lot to lose if they're caught. Apart from losing your blessed home, you lose your value and dignity as well as puting yourself in shame especially if your husband is someone who cannot bear the pain alone.

Note: Men are not saint, men could cheat and still be responsible at home, the
moment a woman start having sex outside her marriage, she became an endanger specie to her husband.

So what is the best and fastest way to catch such a woman.

I 100% agree with you.

My question is 'who are these cheating responsible husbands supposed to cheat with?'

I am asking for a friend o!

pocohantas:


Why didn't the responsible husband divorce the wife, rather than messing around?


They should both be there. God hates divorce.

Only the divorce initiated by the wife of a cheating hubby counts.

madridguy:
Nairaland ladies can be so funny. My sister stop dragging position with men.

Men can cheat and women can't :Pkiss the fact my sister.
A man can stand at the midst of his family, friends and say boldly, " that lady going i don chop her " but ladies can't. Why do you think God Almighty put seals on every woman?

My sister, cheating is not a thing to brag about but its easy for a man to gather his family to beg his wife over infidelity than a woman.
Make i stop here first.

It is a pity you can't understand even your own post.

If a man is free to cheat, who is he cheating with?

Sister read my input again, am not in support of cheating both man or woman as its against my religion. My comment is for the lady trying to compete with men.

bukatyne:


It is a pity you can't understand even your own post.

If a man is free to cheat, who is he cheating with?

bukatyne:


Only the divorce initiated by the wife of a cheating hubby counts.

That is why this thread is DOA. She would most likely not be caught- she knows what she stands to lose.

madridguy:
Sister read my input again, am not in support of cheating both man or woman as its against my religion. My comment is for the lady trying to compete with men.

This is not about 'competition' and open your mind.

For sex to occur, it takes two or more parties.

Except a man is gay, every time he has sex, there must be a woman/ women in the mix.

The question is that if a man is free to cheat (have sex outside his marriage), who are the women he would have it with?

Wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends etc.

So telling men to be morally upright to stop adultery on both ends is not about competition: it is common sense.

The more heterosexual men cheat, the more heterosexual women in that community would cheat except if the men import women.

Which still boils down to heterosexual women of another community/ society cheating.

While other vices can be excused for genders, sex cannot because of its very nature.

A community where they have stringent sexual morals would see less complaint of paternity fraud, cheating spouses etc.

pocohantas:


That is why this thread is DOA. She would most likely not be caught- she knows what she stands to lose.

I am even referring to the Bible verse you quoted.

That's why I say that the average Nigerian mixes religion & culture.

Anyone who takes the fact that God hates divorce seriously would advocate for husbands and wives to forgive cheating spouses.

The fact that the society only impresses this task on women shows you that the average Nigerian is not serious religiously.

And lukewarmness is worse than hotness or coldness.

No identity, no root, nothing.

bukatyne:


I am even referring to the Bible verse you quoted.

That's why I say that the average Nigerian mixes religion & culture.

Anyone who takes the fact that God hates divorce seriously would advocate for husbands and wives to forgive cheating spouses.

The fact that the society only impresses this task on women shows you that the average Nigerian is not serious religiously.

And lukewarmness is worse than hotness or coldness.

No identity, no root, nothing.

Yea, I got your point and I was even being mischievous with that "God hates divorce".

When it comes to wielding the bible in marriage, our men are very selective. They will shun no-sex relationships, even insist she takes in before the wedding- all to remember bible verses after every.

God is indeed very merciful...

A community where they have stringent sexual morals would see less complaint of paternity fraud, cheating spouses etc.


EOD

bukatyne:


This is not about 'competition' and open your mind.

For sex to occur, it takes two or more parties.

Except a man is gay, every time he has sex, there must be a woman/ women in the mix.

The question is that if a man is free to cheat (have sex outside his marriage), who are the women he would have it with?

Wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends etc.

So telling men to be morally upright to stop adultery on both ends is not about competition: it is common sense.

The more heterosexual men cheat, the more heterosexual women in that community would cheat except if the men import women.

Which still boils down to heterosexual women of another community/ society cheating.

While other vices can be excused for genders, sex cannot because of its very nature.

A community where they have stringent sexual morals would see less complaint of paternity fraud, cheating spouses etc.

modernWays:


God bless you sir. Imaging calling me unintelligent person even though she failed to understand or read with wisdom. I dont trade words with women, so i will let that part pass.

Please sir, suggest the way men can quickly catch before they send someone to his early grave. [/b][/i]Alot of men could be save from these evil women.[i][b]

Why do you see women as evil becasue they cheat? That's a very strong word to use. Do you see men as evil for cheating and sending their wives to early graves too?

You must think you just posted something cool. Agbaya

genq:





You couldn't cheat even if you wanted to madam - as the unmarried, childless, overweight, 35+ year old that you are.

Comments on Nairaland gives you joy and contentment? Lmao!

genq:





You couldn't cheat even if you wanted to madam - as the unmarried, childless, overweight, 35+ year old that you are.

Comments on Nairaland gives you joy and contentment? Lmao!

I can see you are in sifia pains over my comment

Good, continue crying

sisisioge:


Well well well...you guys sure know how to drag issues.

To the question: to catch a woman that cheats, all you need to do is to pay attention to her attentiveness to you. We can't honestly love two people at the same time, so one of the duo will suffer attention deficiency.

Then check her phone.

Then check her underwears- women love to change the undies as soon as they plan on showing their bodies to a new guy .

Then her schedule- it will definitely change from what it used to be.

Good luck catching her...I hope you're ready for the aftermath.

Meanwhile, cheating is wrong on all accounts for both men and women...Mr and Ms HIV/STDs are real. Hian!

Personally, i don't support cheating from both gender but one of the best ways to get a partner is through DSS or CID
They have a division for that and some people use them, it just that the awareness is not there and you may likely spend some money but all in all, it is the most effective and less stressful because you are outsourcing the job and stress to professionals.
I worked with a DSS in 2014 at Usan field and he told me how the catch spouses or patners with EVIDENCE - pictures and videos of when they are knacking.
Those guys are too good and use modern equipments.
They will get you all her text msgs, voice calls, whatsapp msgs, pictures and videos when banging, meeting the concubine etc everything.
But it cost some money if you can.

CHoccolaTE:
I was reading through this thread with happiness and contentment, I am glad more and more women are now rejecting the lies men have been peddling for years that it is okay for them to cheat while their wives stay faithful.

Bullshit

If he is cheating find a way to get back at him, if you can't cheat back physically then then do online romance, even if just for entertainment or revenge, just find a way to cheat back.
Yes I said it, gone are the days of forgiving useless randy men. Take vengeance against them.

If you don't want to cheat on him back maybe because of religious or moral reasons then put some really gross sh!t in his food after cooking it, spit in it, wash your feet in it or put some small amount of filthy gunk in whatever food he will eat alone, let him eat rubbish the same way he expects you to eat his rubbish and stay submissive to him.

Na wa oooooo
Na wa ooooooooo
Na wa oooooo
Why this anger and bitterness?
Is cheating the only quality you can emulate from men?
Why not also picking one positive quality of men?
Buying of car to a man, abroad vacation, sponsoring is family to school, buy land for him etc
There are many good qualities in men you can pick despite picking the bad quality of cheating or does it mean the only language an average lady understands in relationship is cheating/unfaithfulness/dick riding?
God help us all, help your son

emmaodet:


Na wa oooooo
Na wa ooooooooo
Na wa oooooo
Why this anger and bitterness?
Is cheating the only quality you can emulate from men?
Why not also picking one positive quality of men?
Buying of car to a man, abroad vacation, sponsoring is family to school, buy land for him etc
There are many good qualities in men you can pick despite picking the bad quality of cheating or does it mean the only language an average lady understands in relationship is cheating/unfaithfulness/dick riding?
God help us all, help your son

Hahahaha

You don't like it then don't cheat on ur wife
And women have been doing those things your mentioned and more for their poor husbands
They don't announce it because of shame.

bukatyne:


I 100% agree with you.

My question is 'who are these cheating responsible husbands supposed to cheat with?'

I am asking for a friend o!

Are the married men only males on earth if i may ask you?

From a reliable statistic, only a few married women are cheating with married men, a large percentage of them prefare Single energetic jobless street guys.

yeyeosoronga:


Why do you see women as evil becasue they cheat? That's a very strong word to use. Do you see men as evil for cheating and sending their wives to early graves too?

But why are you people keep rehashing the same melody over and over again.

Where in my first post did i justified cheating from men?

The sentence says "men are not saint, though they could cheat and still love their wives or be responsible at home" Women cheat by emotion in which all of you know. The moment a women starts having sex with another man other than her husband, things will never be the same again in that house with the real husband.

Why cant you people simply give a suggestion on how to catch a cheating wife instead of all this defensive claims.

CHoccolaTE:


Hahahaha

You don't like it then don't cheat on ur wife
And women have been doing those things your mentioned and more for their poor husbands
They don't announce it because of shame.

Tbh, am married and don't cheat on my wife but that doesn't mean she may not even though i expect same from her.

It is well

modernWays:


But why are you people keep rehashing the same melody over and over again.

Where in my first post did i justified cheating from men?

The sentence says "men are not saint, though they could cheat and still love their wives or be responsible at home" Women cheat by emotion in which all of you know. The moment a women starts having sex with another man other than her husband, things will never be the same again in that house with the real husband.

Why cant you people simply give a suggestion on how to catch a cheating wife instead of all this defensive claims.

The question is, why should catching a cheating wife be a project that suggestions will be needed from the public? Our socialization has emboldened some husbands to be open with their infidelity while some wives today have chosen to cope with it by being discreet with theirs. We should accept the reality that the concept of a wife has evolved from that of our mothers' and their mothers.

genq:



"My father beat my mom, cheated on her even with a woman old enough to be her mom throughout their 30 years marriage and I know the pain we went through and I would never ever want any woman or child to go through that. Sometimes he would cheat when she complains he would beat her and his family members will ask her to kneel down and apologize".


I guess this is why you are so bitter Mstick. Almost every post of yours echos the same thing.
Why not take time to recover from your childhood trauma instead of spreading venom on nairaland.

This is not right dude. Digging up People's posts and using it to insult them. So petty of you.

modernWays:


But why are you people keep rehashing the same melody over and over again.

Where in my first post did i justified cheating from men?

The sentence says "men are not saint, though they could cheat and still love their wives or be responsible at home" Women cheat by emotion in which all of you know. The moment a women starts having sex with another man other than her husband, things will never be the same again in that house with the real husband.

Why cant you people simply give a suggestion on how to catch a cheating wife instead of all this defensive claims.

There's nothing defensive in my post.
I just cautioned you on using such strong words. It's just ordinary cheating and you're sweating, huffing and puffing about.
To catch a woman cheat, you must use same methods you as a man, normally use to cover your tracts when you cheat.

sisisioge:


Well well well...you guys sure know how to drag issues.

To the question: to catch a woman that cheats, all you need to do is to pay attention to her attentiveness to you. We can't honestly love two people at the same time, so one of the duo will suffer attention deficiency.

Then check her phone.

Then check her underwears- women love to change the undies as soon as they plan on showing their bodies to a new guy .

Then her schedule- it will definitely change from what it used to be.

Good luck catching her...I hope you're ready for the aftermath.

Meanwhile, cheating is wrong on all accounts for both men and women...Mr and Ms HIV/STDs are real. Hian!

Let me tell u this, Nigerian women are the smoothest operators ever.
U will hardly catch them cos they cover their tracks very well.
They don't talk, they are submissive and they love their husbands but they are sleeping with their husbands boss in the office so the husband won't fall on the boss bad side.
They know their husbands winnie winnie has problem getting up and fathering a child, they don't wait, they got pregnant and unless the man went to check his status, he will be taking care of another man's child.
Of course they will rather die than go and check if they can father a child. So who is gaining and who lost?

That's why there are so many men training somebody's child out there.

And the worst thing is that majority are busy looking for the so called money they forgot that their women have needs too. The day he will do something, the lady will be fantasizing about the gate man

Nigerian women are very submissive o.
Calling their husbands Lord and keeping up with the tradition.
Yeye dey smell

modernWays:


But why are you people keep rehashing the same melody over and over again.

Where in my first post did i justified cheating from men?

The sentence says "men are not saint, though they could cheat and still love their wives or be responsible at home" Women cheat by emotion in which all of you know. The moment a women starts having sex with another man other than her husband, things will never be the same again in that house with the real husband.

Why cant you people simply give a suggestion on how to catch a cheating wife instead of all this defensive claims.

Go and meet the person that told you the bolded and ask them for approaches that are specific to women

In all the replies you got for your topic, I have not seen any approach that can only be used on women. They have all pointed out methods that are used to catch cheats in general. Shouldn’t that tell you that both genders cheat the same way?

Yet, You have chosen to continue deceiving yourself that women’s cheating is different is different from men’s. That is how you men will be playing father to kids that are not yours because your wife will cheat and still ‘love’ you while you keep holding on to groundless fallacies.