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Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by khiaa(f): 7:24pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
kneehighbootz: LMAO "Sleep with a white corpse". That's GOLDEN. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by khiaa(f): 7:49pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
2buffagain: When I see those meth head white junkies begging on the street I just laugh and think "What a waste of white privilege." Those sorry homeless opioid son of a Bytches have moved on the mountain in my neighborhood. They are living under cardboard boxes with so much junk surrounding them and are stinking up the neighborhood. I called Code Enforcement to get them out but because they are white they have the complection for the protection and nothing is being done about it. We are holding a community meeting in our park next month to discuss solutions to get rid of those foul demons. They should not be around our children. It is illegal for them to squat on that beautiful mountain, but you know the rest. 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 8:20pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
khiaa:im not in the state, but those white folks are everywhere. I give them my change when I have any. I can’t really blame them. It takes true sickness to understand the value of health and true hardship to understand opportunity when u see one. Some of urs had the opportunity to experience hardship before comfort so we will never abuse it. Some of those guys don’t really understand what life is all about. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by khiaa(f): 9:09pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
Beverlypie: I don't give a damn what happens to white people, all they have shown is wickedness in this country to all people who are not white throughout the history of the United States and still today. I could careless if they fell of the face of the Earth, the planet would be so much better without them on it. I wonder how many Nigerians you showed the same compassion for when you were there. PS..If you don't blame them for their behavior who is responsible for it?Doing drugs was a choice that they made. You brought up my people, well they have always had hardship in this country due to the injustice of the people you chose to lay down with and show unreturned compassion for. 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 10:22pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
khiaa: Lol .... u are right |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by khiaa(f): 10:37pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
Beverlypie: I'm glad you understand, as for your situation, move on, you'll find the right woman for you to have your beautiful babies. What country are you in? A lot of Nairalanders are going to get pissed at me for saying this, but hey, I'm going to say it anyway. YOU HAVE MY SUPPORT TO SCAM THOSE DEMONS IN ANY WAY YOU CAN!!! If any of you don't like what I typed you can kick rocks. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by sisisioge: 10:52pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
khiaa: Haaa! I'm going to kick a mountain down! No nau, same way we have both good & bad here, that's how it is the world over! No scamming biko, let no innocent be tried for the guilty' crimes. Who knows, someone may just be plotting against you too...pls no. 2 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by khiaa(f): 11:14pm On Oct 16, 2019 |
sisisioge: Those greedy demons aren't victims, they are reaping what they have sown. They are the biggest scammers ever known to man. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Nobody: 9:08am On Oct 17, 2019 |
A lot of these comments here are just weird . Brotherly , First and foremost , have you secured citizenship in that country ? Secondly you have to familiarize yourself with the family and marriage laws of the land . It's good that you haven't had any children with wife . I could be wrong but it depends on what country or state you are in. Child support could be something else . I would advise you to seek your fellow African brothers or Nigerians for advice . As for your emotions , my brother I understand but you have to give serious thoughts to the red pill movement . It's not an instant fix but it will help you be tactically aware of the psychology of relationships. Just Google Rollo Tomassi , Richard Cooper , Rian Stone there's endless material. This hopefully will make you a better man and improve on yourself. You can't change people , but you can work on yourself. But that all starts with knowing what you want and subtracting things that aren't good for you . One . 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by healthserve(m): 10:39am On Oct 17, 2019 |
tobianthony: Very weird comments 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Nobody: 4:26pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
flyca: And what if you're wrong? 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by GoodFaith: 5:51pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
Beverlypie's “Then came in a little bit of jealousy when I got my first job,”--- Now she can’t control you “I wanted to save up to repay my loan” ---now it is all about u, what about the bill u said 50/50 , u want the kids to pay bill? “My conscience won’t just let me walk out, but there was no progress....” --- two of get pro help “She knows my pay rate but still tell people I was not honest because she doesn’t see my payslip”-----controlling lady “She always tell me to leave the house at every provocation then turn around” ----------Tell her next time she ask you to leave that u are not coming back, to kiss the marriage bye I know all you are talking about this first hand the only differences she has her money a lot but I have more and I am always doing project it is all about control and insecurity on her part she is sweet and sour The difference here is I am crazy I told her I will pay and I am paying lot of money I am counting down to 5 more year she is still begging , i just ignore the begging text msg She will come and beg and Do it again Get pro help If it doesn’t work you know you tried If you want to talk we can set it up email me your phone number osag6532@gmail.com 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 6:06pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
tobianthony: Thanks my bro 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by folake4u(f): 9:39pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
Sis, comman see chumchin oh! . Cc: yettymuse . |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Nobody: 9:56pm On Oct 17, 2019 |
Mstick:hahahahahha I can't help but laugh out loud 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by healthserve(m): 6:40pm On Oct 18, 2019 |
GoodFaith: Apt. Nice dissectioning |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by healthserve(m): 6:42pm On Oct 18, 2019 |
Beverlypie: Hey bro. So far have you initiated some of the positive ideas mentioned here. How's it going with you both. Do not be smashamed to share your experiences as it helps equip some coming from behind |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Goddeywithme: 9:06pm On Oct 18, 2019 |
flyca: If the Nigerian woman has nothing else to bring to the table, apart from sex, y should he tolerate her? I tell every young person, male or female, build yourself up and make sure that apart from sex you have something else to bring to the table. You can bring good behaviour and great personality. You can bring patience and peaceful home. You can bring support and love. You can bring money or connections. Whatever you bring to the table should be what your partner cannot easily get anywhere else. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Beverlypie: 4:41am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Goddeywithme: Jah bless .... U said the mind of all legitimate hustling brothers... marriage is actually a risk irrespective of who u marry...... but if sex is the only thing the woman wanna bring to d table, then the man should be ready to be a double looser except if he’s born with a silver spoon. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by yeyeosoronga: 5:27am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Beverlypie: What has your non-nigerian wife brought to the table? A permanent residency and green card? You're obviously using her then. She isn't going to have children for you, she sends you out of the home at the slightest chance, she doesn't speak nicely to you and not even a basic respect. What exactly has she brought to the table? More like a lot of unresolved baggage from what you've written, unless you've just lied and painted her black for people to be sympathetic towards you. 5 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Goddeywithme: 7:09am On Oct 19, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: She brought visa and residency. And she can also bring passport. I am not saying it is right for him to marry the white woman for papers, neither am I saying it is wrong. Marriage and relationship is always a risk. Love should be the foundation, but love ain't enough, unless it is equal both ways. Before u blame the young man, remember that the woman has not recently shown him much love. So in this case, it seems to me both had something to gain from the relationship. For the man, it was papers. For the woman it could have been the big black penis, the companionship someone to talk to. Etc. So going by your writeup, I will say both used the other. But I don't like the LANGUAGE (USED). Both of them brought something to the table. And when they don't need each other, let them separate. Simple. Especially as no kids are involved. OP, MAKE SURE YOU HAVE REGULARISED YOUR STAY. GET YOUR PASSPORT. IF YOU DON'T..... |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by yeyeosoronga: 7:57am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Goddeywithme: That's the only thing she brought to the table- a foreign passport, which she was likely born into and had no control over. He on the other hand only used her to get a passport. Staying with someone for sex- big black pen.is is not different from what you say Nigerian girls bring to the table. She also brought her pussy to the table, so you can't say she used him either. If he has just used his wife to get foreign passport, that's their family problem. Don't involve Naija women and tell us they have brought nothing but sex to a table hanging on the tethers when you also have brought nothing but your big black pen.is to your marriage and have cold heartedly used your woman for her passport. You are no different from the Nigerian woman you always vilify. You now come back and tell us the foreign woman you have always claimed was better than your sisters is no longer a good woman after you have got your passport? We know users when we see them jare. Fear God pls 4 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by saucecode(m): 8:10am On Oct 19, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:Stop ranting, you're not making sense. You Nigerian girls no dey add anything to man life except more expenses, extended family wahala, problem with your mother in laws etc. Even if whitey bring all this one come but still add kpali on top, then she has become 1000 times better than you people. This guy problem is even rare, he is one of the exception. Most whiteys no dey give man wahala the way this nigga own dey worry am so chill. You sef if you see one white bobo wey ask you to settle down with am now, you go run leave dat your managing boyfriend one time. Its just that you girls no dey quick get that opportunity like the guys. 1 Like |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by saucecode(m): 8:12am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Beverlypie:My broda handle your whitey well jor, leave dis bad belle women Wey dey wish say dem get those biracial kids they are always saying awwwwww to. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by yeyeosoronga: 9:48am On Oct 19, 2019 |
saucecode: Haha Haha... I laugh in Mandarin. I have lived with them for years, and I see the way our Nigerian men lament about their white wives. Some are even keeping black concubines in the abroad. I see the way they struggle to make money, care for their homes, cook and even look after their children and stepchildren. I see how their wives don't understand why their visitors from home can come and spend extended time with them and I see how their husbands always have to justify sending money home all the time. Most of their #teamfroeigngirls women are not having that BS.. Infact, in OPs case, she isn't ready to have his children either and yet he is babysitting another man's child (which is great, as I believe a child doesnt have to be biologically yours before you can raise him and he calls you dad). You see that a lot in the abroad. He even has no control over his own salary.. hahahaha #teamforeign Exact same way Nigerian wives do all these in the Nigeria, and more. The role reversal is really eye-opening. In as much as having a pali is great, and if you're #teamforeign, do it with your heart and marry these women because you love them/like them enough to marry with their baggage. 4 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Goddeywithme: 9:52am On Oct 19, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga: If you understood what I wrote, u will know that I did not in anyway excuse, or blame the guy. Neither did I excuse or blame Nigerian women. My premise is this: the ability of your marriage or relationship to last depends on what you brought to the table at the beginning, and what you continue to bring to the table. Love is extremely important, but ain't enough. This applies to men, as well as women. If I didn't communicate this premise well enough before, I hope I did that now. Marriage or relationship is not do or die. If it doesn't work out for you, think deeply, and consider walking away. You only live once. |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Vyolet(f): 10:00am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Team foreign women are better than Nigerian women. Enjoy your foreign woman and stop complaining to us. 2 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by saucecode(m): 10:00am On Oct 19, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:Leave talk Jor. For every Nigerian u see lamenting about their whitey, I can bring two that not lamenting. Na today? Na who no sabi play him game dey talk say whitey dey give am stress for house |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by yeyeosoronga: 10:01am On Oct 19, 2019 |
saucecode: Biracial kids are beautiful, as I see children generally beautiful. However, so are black children. Infact, black chubby infants always melt my heart. How can I deny my own cuteness as a child? How can I wish people like me were never born or were born another color or skin tone? That's what is called self-hate my brother. That's why the blackman can never establish his place in the world. It's bad enough to be known as the major race colonised by every other race, however we did get our independence. The major problem we can't seem to get out of is this mental colonization that has eaten into the soul of Africans. How can you be free from your mind? Are you strong enough to wage war against your own soul that has been rotted by this mental slavery you're in? I genuinely have no problems with interracial relationships, as I am over the injustice done to my forefathers by their own forefathers. But everyone presently should take their place proudly in the grand scheme of things in this current era we're in. Don't sell yourself short 2 Likes |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by saucecode(m): 10:06am On Oct 19, 2019 |
yeyeosoronga:Tell this to your fellow womens, the rate at which dem dey wear oyibo hair and turn skin to by force yellow is nothing compared to the men Wey dey hussle kpali. Relax All of una dey guilty of this self-hate, iz not today |
Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by Vyolet(f): 10:12am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Meanwhile, OP, this just made fp, awon team foreign women
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Re: Help: Married In Diaspora by yeyeosoronga: 10:14am On Oct 19, 2019 |
Goddeywithme: Yes, I agree with you. Relationships are not by force. I really wish the OP well. I'm even glad he was honest about his challenges, so that the impressionable young men on this forum can see that #teamforeigngirls might just be a mirage and mean nothing at the end of the day especially if you're thinking of a long term relationship. Don't get me wrong, I have seen many interracial marriages doing well (blackman+whitewoman, blackwoman+whiteman) but oftentimes usually takes the blackman to TOTALLY submit to his white woman for such relationship to work out. Which is not a problem if he's happy doing that tbh. 1 Like |
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