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This is clearly a case of conduct disorder. But we Africans just term it as being "stubborn" or "evil"or "witch".
If you want to help your daughter, take her to a Neuropsychiatric hospital, it's important she starts treatment early.

Renderhelp:
Hi @Renderhelp...

I am so confused and tired. I don't understand what is wrong with my 8 year old daughter.

Everyone calls her an ogbanje and I'm starting to think its true.. She is a tricky person and acts older than her age.

One day, I sent her to buy me 2 crates of eggs from a nearby store. I gave her 2000 naira. She spent hours and I became worried, so I went to look for her. I saw her on the way and her eyes were red, she had been crying bitterly. She told me the eggs fell into the gutter and she couldn't jump in to get it as the gutters were flooded. I told her not to worry and we went home.

That same day, my neighbor came to ask me why I sent my daughter to eat at a fast food restaurant alone and I didn't send my other kids. I was surprised and told her I didn't. She said she saw my daughter eating rice, chicken and icecream .. That was how I found out she had lied about the eggs. I flogged her thoroughly that day.

That night, I had my bath and applied lotion on my body. Few minutes later, my body became hot. Both my eyes and private parts were on fire. I ran into the bathroom to pour cold water on my body. I was like a mad woman that night.

The next day, I checked my cream and saw it was red with particles of pepper in it. I became afraid of my daughter that day!!!

She also steals a lot. We can't hide money in the house anymore. Our neighbors have warned their kids to stay away from my daughter.
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Recently, she quarreled with a little boy and slapped him. She later went back to apologise to him and asked him to hug her. The boy hugged her not knowing she had a razor blade in her hand which she used to tear his back. We took the boy to a clinic and paid for his treatment. We also had to apologise to his parents.

My mother suggested we should take her to see a prophet but I don't trust those men.

My daughter is just 8 years old and she is so evil...how about when she becomes a teenager??!!

We have beaten, punished and advised her but she's getting worse by the day.

Please help my daughter!

She has exhibited all you need to know about a possessed child

Take her from one prophet to another, you will meet four out of five prophets who will tell you the same thing

Starts now to arrest her spirits before it will affect her further

Be ready to spend money for sacrifices

Renderhelp:
Hi @Renderhelp...

I am so confused and tired. I don't understand what is wrong with my 8 year old daughter.

Everyone calls her an ogbanje and I'm starting to think its true.. She is a tricky person and acts older than her age.

One day, I sent her to buy me 2 crates of eggs from a nearby store. I gave her 2000 naira. She spent hours and I became worried, so I went to look for her. I saw her on the way and her eyes were red, she had been crying bitterly. She told me the eggs fell into the gutter and she couldn't jump in to get it as the gutters were flooded. I told her not to worry and we went home.

That same day, my neighbor came to ask me why I sent my daughter to eat at a fast food restaurant alone and I didn't send my other kids. I was surprised and told her I didn't. She said she saw my daughter eating rice, chicken and icecream .. That was how I found out she had lied about the eggs. I flogged her thoroughly that day.

That night, I had my bath and applied lotion on my body. Few minutes later, my body became hot. Both my eyes and private parts were on fire. I ran into the bathroom to pour cold water on my body. I was like a mad woman that night.

The next day, I checked my cream and saw it was red with particles of pepper in it. I became afraid of my daughter that day!!!

She also steals a lot. We can't hide money in the house anymore. Our neighbors have warned their kids to stay away from my daughter.
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Recently, she quarreled with a little boy and slapped him. She later went back to apologise to him and asked him to hug her. The boy hugged her not knowing she had a razor blade in her hand which she used to tear his back. We took the boy to a clinic and paid for his treatment. We also had to apologise to his parents.

My mother suggested we should take her to see a prophet but I don't trust those men.

My daughter is just 8 years old and she is so evil...how about when she becomes a teenager??!!

We have beaten, punished and advised her but she's getting worse by the day.

Please help my daughter!

Wow, this is so bleeped up.
Most people don't want to trust prophet anymore but this is not something you can just keep mute about. You don't have a choice than to see a prophet. Not just anyhow how prophet though and most importantly pray for her. You can just wake up in the middle of the night, hold her picture in your hands, light candle (optional) and pray really hard. Talk to God, he might speak back to you. You can also be your own prophet too.

Goodluck

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why are you questioning me?

What are you feeling like?

timibare:
Pls ya'll should know Wat to write....her daughter might see your comments

I saw the girl following this post

Change the environment.

LordKO:
She has histrionic personality disorder - in fact, let her parents know that she has an elder sister who's a Nairalander, lol. In the next few years, she'll start to heat-up the cyberspace - a forum like this in particular - with her chauvinism.

Bros no vex. Abeg who be the elder sister on Nairaland?

Thank you.

NGRsenate:
Busy body neighbors that will not mind their business.

Did you tell the neighbor to carry you to the same restaurant so you can confirm from people there, you just swallowed what your neighbors tell you hook, line and sinker.

What if the neighborhood kids have been bullying your daughter? I’m sure you did not find out, you just swallow what they tell you hook, line and sinker.

What if the real mischievous child is not even the girl? Have you observed your other kids?

See as you run dey call your pikin ogbanje. The goal of the so called ogbanje is to kill you. If she was one, you would have died at childbirth or the child would have died by now.

Nigerian parents and their gullibility. Everything neighbor tell you, you chop.

If you gave birth to a child as smart as that then you have the capability of being smart yourself, I suggest you employ smart tactics to observe and monitor your child. I’ll suggest you start with discreet baby cams around the house.

If you find something disturbing, I trust you’ll know how to proceed from there.

She should not have called her daughter an ogbanje. That was totally wrong and counterproductive. That said, the child's actions are very bothersome and quite frankly abnormal. You cannot excuse her actions by blaming the neighbours. They point to a very deep seated problem that needs to be unmasked very fast. I think the girl needs a child psychologist, and the mother needs to pray hard as well. I sympathise with the mum as I also have a daughter in that age bracket.

Again OP please mind the kind of beliefs you entertain. The mind is powerful. Your beliefs conscious or unconscious shape your person and your experience. Toss out this ogbanje/evil/prophet/diabolical brouhaha. Don't label your daughter and don't allow others label her. Thoughts are actually powerful. Again, I speak from experience. Stay positive and trust God.

greatme2good:
Y'all be wasting your precious comments on something that is not in existence. Dude is a fiction writer and this story and others are his imaginations.

Why do most of you think that every story in Nairaland is a fiction?

Wow! I know a boy of around 10-12 years old with exactly the same kind of personality disorder. Boy almost set his foster parents and their children ablaze at home when they all were asleep. When asked why, he said the woman who happens to be his aunt(mother's elder sis) scolded him for another evil thing he did earlier that week.

I can't even begin to recount the evil things this boy does on a daily basis. In fact parents in the neighborhood and in church warn their children never to go close to this boy. All the kids avoid him.

Whoever the mother of this girl is, one thing I'll advice is, don't take her to any "prophet" or "man of god". No help will come from there. They will only collect your money.

You need to understand that your daughter is not a witch or an ogbanje.

Her case is just a subtle reminder of the fact that reincarnation is true.

She has a medical condition. She is probably psychotic. That means that if she isn't helped fast, she will probably kill someone before her 15th birthday.

Get her professional help from QUALIFIED psychologists AND PSYCHIATRISTS.

chuksville:
Take her to some genuine Men of God
They'll lay hands on her and pray some Holy Ghost sense into her.

Nonsense talk.

Well...if I were you, I would enroll her in a military boarding school. I can't fit shout biko. Whew!

sisisioge:
Well...if I were you, I would enroll her in a military boarding school. I can't fit shout biko. Whew!

Sisi ego, sisi owo,
promise you'll never leave me alone,
I am for you as you are for me ahh ahh,
Promise you'll never leave me alone.

saucecode:
Sisi ego, sisi owo,
promise you'll never leave me alone,
I am for you as you are for me ahh ahh,
Promise you'll never leave me alone.

Biko no start with me o...I no get money, neither am I showing off. Military schools are government owned thus cheap.

sisisioge:


Biko no start with me o...I no get money, neither am I showing off. Military schools are government owned thus cheap.

Had nothing to do with your comment jor, just felt like singing for you
I like you, I really like you.

saucecode:
Had nothing to do with your comment jor, just felt like singing for you
I like you, I really like you.

Hmmm...sounds cute.

The other time a certain jakande who openly fought with people and even created a thread about beating his gf to stupor liked me. Now you, the town square trouble maker is liking me. Hmmm...dont you think I need to especially pray about the kind of guys that like me? And I am well behaved o

Change your ways for the kingdom of God is eminent!

sisisioge:
Hmmm...sounds cute.

The other time a certain jakande who openly fought with people and even created a thread about beating his gf to stupor liked me. Now you, the town square trouble maker is liking me. Hmmm...dont you think I need to especially pray about the kind of guys that like me? And I am well behaved o

Change your ways for the kingdom of God is eminent!

This pikin eeh u de hungry?

RoyalBlu:
Madam, that child is VERY troubled.
Sit your girl down and ask her deep questions. I promise you, she's rebellious because of something that musta happened to her.

Please stop the beating. It will only toughen her up and make her " bottle up"

Raise your voice to God who gave her to you. You're her mother. She's been entrusted to you. Open your mouth and bless bless her. Cut of every negativity you've tied to her.
Pray for her everyday. A mother's prayer is always honored by God. Trust me.

Draw her close. Be more loving. She'll come around.

It's well with her.

Best advice

our neighbors child has the same abnormal behavior

When she is about to enter secondary school take her to a military boarding school, by the time them drill shagay comot for her body her brain go correct.

UyaiIncomparabl:
Kill her!

You need deliverance.

Dump the evil thing in an orphanage, I hate poo. Such a child is dangerous to kids in her class/neighborhood.

LordKO:
She has histrionic personality disorder - in fact, let her parents know that she has an elder sister who's a Nairalander, lol. In the next few years, she'll start to heat-up the cyberspace - a forum like this in particular - with her chauvinism. Actually, if they take her to 100 religious homes, they all will proclaim her an ogbanje or witch, although her condition is closely related to them, but she's none of the two.

Her condition isn't curable, but very manageable. She won't really be able to help herself much. She personifies "self and self-interest" and I know she's very hyperactive - trickishness/slyness, hypocrisy, sexual suggestiveness and attention-seeking will be some of her major hallmark. Her condition will get worse as she grows older with some achievements in her arsenal.

She's a child with special need and needs a special care to bring the best out of her always. However, her "win no matter which way/expedient/contentious and prideful mentality/nature" will make her susceptible to depression and suicide. She'll always experience depression and entertain the thought about suicide anytime she encounters more failure than success in the journey of life. Of course, she can kill at the slightest provocation/imaginary betrayal wittingly or unwittingly. Genuine happiness and peace of mind are/will be luxuries she can't afford. Her type usually gains temporary equivalent of happiness and peace of mind at any point in time when they succeed in ruining/defeating others (real or assumed opponents) in any cause, because they've great delight in others misfortune.

It's only a genuine authority (I didn't say neither a dictator nor a sycophant), one who practically understands her condition and has altruistic interest in her, who'll help her maintain balance always - such an authority must be ready to tolerate a lot from her because her type has phobia for decorum and dictatorship. Better if she finally develops altruistic interest in the authority figure.

With the right education and continual management by the authority figure in her advanced life, the sky will be starting point in many things for her. She needs/will always need all the genuine love in this world with its benefits from any authority figure in her life at any point in time to maintain saneness and experience true happiness and peace of mind.

Once more, she's neither an ogbanje, witch, psychopath nor sociopath. She has histrionic personality disorder. Only genuine love of an established authority can conquer her and help her maintain saneness always.

i guess the nairalander here is either your Pocohantas, or funmisticqueen or LilMissFavvy. which one of them?

General0847:
I think you and your neighbours are the real ogbanje here. That child needs therapy and care. You could have contributed to her behaviour as we don't know your relationship with her at home and how you relate with her.
Better take her to see a psychologist instead of allowing people put evil ideas into your head.

That's the problem of Africa....we always associate wrong things together.....the lady needs to talk to her child......
I don't know why Some parents prefer to trust outsiders than their own flesh and blood....

NGRsenate:
Busy body neighbors that will not mind their business.

Did you tell the neighbor to carry you to the same restaurant so you can confirm from people there, you just swallowed what your neighbors tell you hook, line and sinker.

What if the neighborhood kids have been bullying your daughter? I’m sure you did not find out, you just swallow what they tell you hook, line and sinker.

What if the real mischievous child is not even the girl? Have you observed your other kids?

See as you run dey call your pikin ogbanje. The goal of the so called ogbanje is to kill you. If she was one, you would have died at childbirth or the child would have died by now.

Nigerian parents and their gullibility. Everything neighbor tell you, you chop.

If you gave birth to a child as smart as that then you have the capability of being smart yourself, I suggest you employ smart tactics to observe and monitor your child. I’ll suggest you start with discreet baby cams around the house.

If you find something disturbing, I trust you’ll know how to proceed from there.

That's the problem with some parents.....they tend to believe all those busy body neighbours

I think you should send her to a Christian boarding school. Just see if there is any change when she gets back home from the holiday. If not you need to take her for deliverance sessions in the church and possibly an therapy session too.