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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 11:04pm On Oct 19, 2019*

This OP na something else cheesy

I pray you don't beat any of them to death if you have chance grin

Your aunt must have treated you wickedly.
Now she knows what motherhood is all about.

Give the children warm rebuke.

Take heart,,,,, biko

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Beverlyjean(f): 11:04pm On Oct 19, 2019

Are they ur childre? Na by force... If u wan discipline, go born ur own

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 11:05pm On Oct 19, 2019

.https://www.nairaland.com/5482087/balancing-discipline-communication#83290945

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by notoriousbabe: 11:07pm On Oct 19, 2019

And so?must you discipline them? Are they your children? You better forget about her children and face your own

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by AntiWailer: 11:07pm On Oct 19, 2019

Go and give birth to yours.

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by BabangidaHamza(m): 11:09pm On Oct 19, 2019

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

I love ur Method.. If dem do anyhow dem see anyhow

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by toprealman: 11:10pm On Oct 19, 2019

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

Rechannel the energy on raising your own kids. Your aunty (a woman) understands the true meaning of the word vendetta beyond the dictionary definition.
Leave her children alone.

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 11:11pm On Oct 19, 2019

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Terrible advice. As an adult, you ought not to be typing this. When it comes to children, it's not a matter of who craze pass. That's extremely immature. The aunt did wrong and got away with it. The op could do the same and scar a innocent child for life. Jungle justice is real, mind what you post please. It doesn't ball narrow down to likes and shares.

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by toprealman: 11:11pm On Oct 19, 2019

shamecurls:
Use both kids for money rituals

Good night huh

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Nobody: 11:12pm On Oct 19, 2019

I have said it in different ways but essentially women are very selfish and can rarely treat others children the way they will treat their own children

This is why I say that if for some reason you expect the family of your close relatives to take good care of your children, you will find your children are being treated like second class human beings.

It is also the danger involved when a man siezes his estranged wife's children and takes them to live with him and his new wife or with his siblings or someone else.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

Las Las op is out for payback. If he wants to beat children for breaking plate

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Xclusiveme: 11:15pm On Oct 19, 2019

Hahahaha. Cos she knows the kind of pain she inflicted on you so she doesn't want that on her child. Sometimes compassion takes over a bitter woman when she bears her first child.

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by KraticKratus: 11:18pm On Oct 19, 2019

It's because she doesn't want her kids to grow up as mumus spending their time asking useless questions on nairaland. She learned a lot from destroying you. Sorry.

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Ihutomi: 11:21pm On Oct 19, 2019

Mind ur business my brother

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by blaque7: 11:24pm On Oct 19, 2019

dont mind her..che u ll still have your own children. You will discipline them as you like..even if u want to cut offtheir head no one will ask you..just chill.

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by omoiyaakanbi(m): 11:28pm On Oct 19, 2019

Leave them..... na by force

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by frozen70g(f): 11:29pm On Oct 19, 2019

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

To me the truth is that, you want to retaliate not disciplining her children

Just leave those kids before you create family enemity with her

If you can't join her to pamper her kids then don't discipline them

The kids will start running away fro you soon and your visit will no longer be needed

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by King44(m): 11:33pm On Oct 19, 2019

notoriousbabe:
And so?must you discipline them? Are they your children? You better forget about her children and face your own

things have changed Yoruba's have a saying that only the parent alone can't mold the character of their child but this days it is the other way round and things that were considered uncool is now seen as the new cool trend

if I get pikin they gats greet people in the house or u receive bashing, they gats be upright

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Trimque2k1(m): 11:35pm On Oct 19, 2019

I stayed with an uncle back then during school days fast forward to 200 level in school my girl friend started visiting me once a week,his wife got pissed and suddenly uncle started scolding me. My revenge was his daughter started dating at junior secondary level.i was so happy dat she slept at d boy's house one of those days...b calm my dear

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by AmazingELixir: 11:36pm On Oct 19, 2019

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Hmm Jennifer take am easy oooh
Op those kids are your cousins whatever they are doing now they'll out grow it in time, if you must correct them do so out of genuine concern for their wellbeing and it mustn't involve getting physical.

Meanwhike you must cure yourself of the inner bitterness you endured from your aunt's treatment, afteral as you pointed out your aunt's corrections had its benefits as reflected to some extent how you've turned out.

I donot believe your aunt can instruct her kids not to greet you but if she did it will be best to leave them to their devices and mind your lane.

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Majornuggets(m): 11:42pm On Oct 19, 2019

Go and born your own children and discipline them. Chikena

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by AmazingELixir: 11:42pm On Oct 19, 2019

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by MrFly(m): 11:44pm On Oct 19, 2019

kindly encourage them to do wrong or aint u their aunt? Pamper them to becme fools!

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Bbbwings: 11:45pm On Oct 19, 2019

Abeg go find somewhere to chill.
Is it a must for you to interact with them
Abi you no get work
Mtchew

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by dave4rella(m): 11:47pm On Oct 19, 2019

If it's me, I will pamper them until they spoil finish
She will even be angry that I don't scold them

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Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by notoriousbabe: 11:50pm On Oct 19, 2019

LadySarah:
You should ask yourself whether your discipline is borne out of retaliation or correction.How will the result benefit you.The child didnt intentionally break the plate,all of us did as children.

Be that as it may,times have changed.Just a cane may land the indomie child in the hospital.Also,a knife wielder will hardly let knife across his back.so if you must retaliate so bad,go and flog your aunty not them

Leavre her kids and mind your bizness.They shouldnt bear the brunt of their mother's st.idity.It is the wickedness of man.Now she has given birth and seen how painful it is .

he was doing his discipline out of malice and retaliation and you know what that means. The kind of beating he will be giving the innocent children. Very wicked man

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by notoriousbabe: 11:51pm On Oct 19, 2019

Bbbwings:
Abeg go find somewhere to chill.
Is it a must for you to interact with them
Abi you no get work
Mtchew

no mind am

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by Sterope(f): 11:53pm On Oct 19, 2019

Why do you want to discipline another person's children?

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by notoriousbabe: 11:56pm On Oct 19, 2019

jenifer007:
Most relations are like that.They don't tolerate rubbish when it comes to other peoples' children but their own kids are like eggs nobody must touch them.That's total nonsense....Op if the children cross your path which I know they will because they believe they have their mother's support, show them the African method by scolding them wella, if their mum tries to shout at you in return,please endeavour to serve her tea hot too....Give her her own dose too then she will realize you are also a no nonsense person like her too and she will definitely give herself brain.

Trust me anyone that thinks say he or she get craze,that person never jam person wey get craze pass am.

if no be sey Lalasticlala, mynd44, ishilove and dominique even dominique go vex, I know wetin i for tell you.

Seun, lalasticlala, mynd44, ishilove and even you dominique, make una come here, which one of you banned me?I dey ask because I want put the person name inside Bible and also to know who to put him name for my prayer points. Make una leave me alone o. Na all of us get this nairaland no be only una get am.

Re: My Aunt Doesn't Want Me To Discipline Her Children. by NiCurious: 11:59pm On Oct 19, 2019

Charleys:
I have this aunt who used to flog me, give me all sorts of punishment when I was a child.

Most of my childhood worst childhood memories are tied to her.
But she thought me lots of things, like self discipline, patience etc.

I was always with her when my mum was working.

Fast forward to now....
She has two kids (boy & a girl) very stubborn.

She doesn't want me to do the same thing she used to do to me. Is it fair at all.

Example I went home to visit during holidays, her children broke the plate they were washing...

If I was the one hell would have broken loose that day but while I was talking to them I noticed she was protecting them. I kept quiet.

Secondly when I tell them to do something they do not do it, that will be the right time to flog them.. but my aunty boldly told me not to touch her children.

I believe deep inside me I'm trying to pay her for the evil she use to do to me but I'm not aware of it.

Or am I being too harsh on them... Her kids.
Why doesn't she want me to also flog her children. My mum never had problem with her if I did something wrong. So why is she having problems with me now that her kids are doing things wrong.

I believe my generation have been cheated, children dont learn anymore in school. in fact she secretly told her children not to greet me. (This can never happen if I did this to her).

What should be my next move now. Because I believe there's a cold war going on in the house.

Note we stay at family house when we travel back to the village.

Note it's out of disrespect that makes me think this way.

Yes, you are aware of wanting to pay back your aunt for the evil done. No, it was not right, what she did to you. No, in eye-for-an-eye terms it is not "fair" that you are not to treat her kids as she treated you.
But, fair or not fair, it is time to rise above eye-for-an-eye mentality. Her kids are just kids...they didn't even exist yet when your aunt was flogging you, they are nothing to do with the resentment you already bore toward your aunt. Don't take out your frustrations on them, or else they will just be looking for someone else's kids to flog when they grow up, to relieve their frustrations about you. Stop the cycle.
Someone suggested treating the children kindly. So do I: not by spoiling them with gifts, but with kind words and constructive correction, eg. "do it this way, and then you won't drop the plate". When they do well and behave well, tell them sincerely how happy that makes you. Be the relative that you wish you'd had. It will be much more rewarding in the long run...your revenge on your aunt will be that her kids will be happy to see you and to greet you, no matter what she might or might not say. They might even help you in your old age, who knows....

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