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nuelsam:
Wow.....this notion is damn right
most black men just hate on emselves for no reason
Envious bunch of douchbags.....

I dont know about other blacks but you see Nigerians, fear your closest friend.

You should have confronted her when u got the message

So why the bloodclaat did she take you back after you couldnt even confront her yourself...

What kind of human being is this for goodness sake..something that could have been busted and thrashed out from the beginning

So if you dont have a sister what will happen

N

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

hope you know you are stupid

Never take your relationships outside
If you have a problem with someone
Confront them and get the truth
You messed up but thank God it didn't escalate
As for your gal, she might never trust you again
You have planted a seed of mistrust in her
All because of your ego to ask her the truth.

Lesson: always VERIFY. Imagine if no WhatsApp. Check your emotions till u r totally sure

See how your sister saved you from yourself. You were afraid to get to the bottom of it which was where the answer were.

Happy that you guys are back together. Please be mindful of the kind of friends you keep. I can't imagine what your girlfriend would have gone through during the time you gave her the silent treatment.

That's why I never jump into conclusion..most times assumptions are wrong, so very wrong

what I learnt in this your story is regardless of what you heard about your partner whether he/she is guilty or not, learn to listen to her own side of the story and desist from lack of communication


nice input anyway

Young man, go back to school and learn how to write a simple essay.

Your composition is not adding up.

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

And you are someone's uncle o

You have wasted 6months of your life in pain and trying to forget the wrong person.. Never assume, always hear first from both sides before u judge.

Grumpyy:
In response to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5508729/5-year-old-relationship-ended

Hello dear, I went through something like this a year ago but not in your position so let me share my story with you, it MAY help you connect the dots.

So fast rewind to 2013, I met my girlfriend when I was in 200L in the university. I've always been a reserved person, so when I met her, I wasn't really prepared to date anyone yet but her ingenuity attracted me. She was in 100L but then I also have this heightened, over bloated self respect that even as I am her snr by just a level, I still felt she was a child and needn't had to have anything to do with her. I was 18 then, mind you.

What drew me to date her was when I noticed my guys (not really friends) gawking at her. They all wanted to have a piece of her and I just felt I should step in and protect her kinda (yes my mind actually thought this).

I noticed she was always uneasy with me and that was a good sign, so I asked her out and she accepted. I got to find out that she was a virgin too, and before I knew it, I was so deep in love with her. We dated till I left school in 2016. I finished my service early 2018 and got a scholarship for masters in the UK so I left the country, June 2018.

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

There was this guy amongst those my supposed guys that was never happy for me and my babe. He had wanted to ask her out before I blocked him, he would always talk about how he'd f....ck the living shit outta my GF to be, that she was voluptuous and the rest.. So when I started dating the girl, he was not happy, he pretended of course, but I could see through the ruse.

Fast forward to 2018 when I was just about to settle in the UK, I get a WhatsApp msg from this guy telling me he has something to say to me. He says he's been f...cking my babe and sent me her nude. For like 3 days, I shut down. I couldn't eat, I couldn't read, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't coordinate my head at all. I was so confused because before I left the country, i hadn't seen my GF for almost a year but we spoke every day, sometimes 3 to 4 times in a day. I knew all she was doing and where she was at every time of the day, so if it was true, then it means she was being highly smart to keep up with me and still cheat, and that was an evil machination.

I shut her out, I wasn't taking her calls anymore, I wasn't replying to her msgs anymore, I literally brought out my heart, locked it in a chest and threw away the keys on the high sea, I acted this believe me. Her sister called, her mum, her friends, my sister, everybody called me to know what's up but I never said a thing. For 6 months, I wouldn't tell anybody anything and I also felt she was being hypocritical when she knows exactly what she did.

By December 2018, I was still getting calls to explain what was the problem, by then I had already completed my morphing into Davy Jones so I opened up to my sister. I told her that the biatch was cheating on me with the least person I had expected her to. I sent my sis the picture, it was a soft nude picture (you get me) but it was still something. She too, she went mad and said she'd confront her. I told her not to bother that she was already dead to me. She still confronted her and here's the denouement..

When my sis confronted her with the evidence, she fell down and cried and rained curses on me. She swore she never sent that guy, that picture. The picture was sent to me. She even right there sourced for the guy's contact and called him and the demon said how could her BF not trust her. That he was teasing me and he said I was the one that shared the nude amongst my friends. My GF opened her WhatsApp and luckily the chat from the day she sent me the picture was still there. I couldn't see this particular chat on my phone. I still kept her WhatsApp history too. My best guess is that the day she sent me the picture, my phone was with this other guy and he took it and deleted the chat from my end.

I begged for forgiveness, I had to cry to her before she said Ok.. I couldn't call the guy cause I don't know what to tell him.

So my dear, it was a long story indeed but I'm sharing it with you so you'd ask him the direct question like "did you hear I cheated on you?", or "Did you hear I wished you bad?" People are spreading malicious rumours about other people, so ask him if he heard or he saw anything.

There's this chat going around now where a guy said he saw his GF through CCTV where she was been fondled by another guy, the guy may decide to just shut her out and she wouldn't have a clue as to why.

Also, check yourself... if you ever betrayed his trust in a seemingly contrived way thinking he'd never find out.

At the end of the day, nothing really is hidden under the sun.

Thanks.

LolaO
Rocktation
Farano
Lalasticlala

The best way to solve any problem in a relationship is via communication.. never shut anyone out of your life without hearing his/her side of the story.. that's what I've learnt from this.. and thank you for this writeup

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Grumpyy:
In response to this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/5508729/5-year-old-relationship-ended

Hello dear, I went through something like this a year ago but not in your position so let me share my story with you, it MAY help you connect the dots.

So fast rewind to 2013, I met my girlfriend when I was in 200L in the university. I've always been a reserved person, so when I met her, I wasn't really prepared to date anyone yet but her ingenuity attracted me. She was in 100L but then I also have this heightened, over bloated self respect that even as I am her snr by just a level, I still felt she was a child and needn't had to have anything to do with her. I was 18 then, mind you.

What drew me to date her was when I noticed my guys (not really friends) gawking at her. They all wanted to have a piece of her and I just felt I should step in and protect her kinda (yes my mind actually thought this).

I noticed she was always uneasy with me and that was a good sign, so I asked her out and she accepted. I got to find out that she was a virgin too, and before I knew it, I was so deep in love with her. We dated till I left school in 2016. I finished my service early 2018 and got a scholarship for masters in the UK so I left the country, June 2018.

For the 5 years we dated, we never had sex. We did other things of course but not sex. We made solid plans and I trusted her with my all my heart.

There was this guy amongst those my supposed guys that was never happy for me and my babe. He had wanted to ask her out before I blocked him, he would always talk about how he'd f....ck the living shit outta my GF to be, that she was voluptuous and the rest.. So when I started dating the girl, he was not happy, he pretended of course, but I could see through the ruse.

Fast forward to 2018 when I was just about to settle in the UK, I get a WhatsApp msg from this guy telling me he has something to say to me. He says he's been f...cking my babe and sent me her nude. For like 3 days, I shut down. I couldn't eat, I couldn't read, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't coordinate my head at all. I was so confused because before I left the country, i hadn't seen my GF for almost a year but we spoke every day, sometimes 3 to 4 times in a day. I knew all she was doing and where she was at every time of the day, so if it was true, then it means she was being highly smart to keep up with me and still cheat, and that was an evil machination.

I shut her out, I wasn't taking her calls anymore, I wasn't replying to her msgs anymore, I literally brought out my heart, locked it in a chest and threw away the keys on the high sea, I acted this believe me. Her sister called, her mum, her friends, my sister, everybody called me to know what's up but I never said a thing. For 6 months, I wouldn't tell anybody anything and I also felt she was being hypocritical when she knows exactly what she did.

By December 2018, I was still getting calls to explain what was the problem, by then I had already completed my morphing into Davy Jones so I opened up to my sister. I told her that the biatch was cheating on me with the least person I had expected her to. I sent my sis the picture, it was a soft nude picture (you get me) but it was still something. She too, she went mad and said she'd confront her. I told her not to bother that she was already dead to me. She still confronted her and here's the denouement..

When my sis confronted her with the evidence, she fell down and cried and rained curses on me. She swore she never sent that guy, that picture. The picture was sent to me. She even right there sourced for the guy's contact and called him and the demon said how could her BF not trust her. That he was teasing me and he said I was the one that shared the nude amongst my friends. My GF opened her WhatsApp and luckily the chat from the day she sent me the picture was still there. I couldn't see this particular chat on my phone. I still kept her WhatsApp history too. My best guess is that the day she sent me the picture, my phone was with this other guy and he took it and deleted the chat from my end.

I begged for forgiveness, I had to cry to her before she said Ok.. I couldn't call the guy cause I don't know what to tell him.

So my dear, it was a long story indeed but I'm sharing it with you so you'd ask him the direct question like "did you hear I cheated on you?", or "Did you hear I wished you bad?" People are spreading malicious rumours about other people, so ask him if he heard or he saw anything.

There's this chat going around now where a guy said he saw his GF through CCTV where she was been fondled by another guy, the guy may decide to just shut her out and she wouldn't have a clue as to why.

Also, check yourself... if you ever betrayed his trust in a seemingly contrived way thinking he'd never find out.

At the end of the day, nothing really is hidden under the sun.

Thanks.

LolaO
Rocktation
Farano
Lalasticlala

Gosh! When I read till the point when he said 'the guy said he's been fucking the hell out of her' I just couldn't continue reading. I had rained series of insults on the girl already. The story at that end pissed me off so much. Am happy it actually did end well though.

Wow!!!

iAudio:
Op was 18 in 2013. That's when I gave up.

I joined nairaland in 2007, how old was the Op then?

You get my drift?

Op was 12 years old

I don't understand this story

stupidity:
Exactly how I stupidly caused a breakup between two love birds.

When I was still in school, I’d plant a female slippers right out the door of my neighbor when I know he’s not around. His girl would come and think he’s inside banging and refused to open the door. (phone was still a rare commodity then) lol


Did it twice, the bae couldn’t take it and broke up with him.

Na only me know waten happen

Just like that, you should have call the girl and told her the truth na. E nor make sense at all, imagine what the guy will go tru.

Grumpyy:
Lol, brother. Imagine me the victim now. I had to morp back into a human being again after losing all trust I have for people. It was quite eventful for me

The simple question here wud be is ur gf still a Virgin?? This answers everything in ur case. No need for detectives, WhatsApp histories or cctvs.

nuelsam:
do u actually think u made sense? Seriously? Nah,u just one of these envious douchbags with the dumbest thinking faculty.

did you bother to check the moniker you are quoting at all? It says "STUPIDITY" !

iAudio:
Op was 18 in 2013. That's when I gave up.

I joined nairaland in 2007, how old was the Op then?

You get my drift?

So what now happened, we in our 20s dont have right to join nairaland?

delete that friend from your life!!!call him out in front of your friends and bluntly tell him to his face what a two timing snivelling double crossing rodent he is!!

Relationships don't benefit men, the only thing a woman can offer u is sex. U pay for everything that makes her stay alive. You are the price for a woman. So don't worry about it. Jus understand that woman don't love, thy are always looking for providers so make money n u ll see, u will nver hv to share this kind of story again

But trust me i will show d guy my true colour i swear

TheRedpillguy:
Relationships don't benefit men, the only thing a woman can offer u is sex. U pay for everything that makes her stay alive. You are the price for a woman. So don't worry about it. Jus understand that woman don't love, thy are always looking for providers so make money n u ll see, u will nver hv to share this kind of story again

your conclusion is actually different from the Op story.

iAudio:
Op was 18 in 2013. That's when I gave up.

I joined nairaland in 2007, how old was the Op then?

You get my drift?

The only drift we get is you trying to tell us that you are an old man. Well, I hope you remember that the older you are, the closer you are to your grave

Mr100Dollars:
your conclusion is actually different from the Op story.

Lol dont mind him! The RedPill was a sleeping tablet that wont allow him to read and be normal