₦airaland Forum

Fyi0:
Stupid thing. Women have also become more bitchy, disrespectful, hoey etc than before.
Bitch

Fountainofyouth:
And men have not been horrible from time immemorial? See double standard, do your part by not fvcking the married women, same way some single women will never fvck married men.

MyNation:
I doubt the figure of this post.

Almost everyone knows Nigerian men of this generation are becoming more fatherly, caring, less abusive etc than before. While the ladies are becoming not so motherly like their mothers.

The truth is always bitter.

bukatyne:
What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

lagosminded:
Why not read and understand comments in context? Does it make sense for me to say women should suffer and in the next sentence say “women are not blameless tho”

Let me make it clearer to you, modern women are increasingly initiating divorces because they don’t want to suffer like their mothers. Also as it becomes less of a taboo to be a divorcee more will have the courage to seek one. Women are not blameless though, (in why marriages fall apart) they have perfected the art of getting the ring (pretending while dating and marrying people they’re not compatible with to be called “Mrs”)

lavylilly:
and men have not?

lagosminded:
From the start of the relationship, men will tell you they’re looking for a wife material - which mostly means - good cook, manage a home, peaceful home take care of kids etc. Nigerian men don’t pretend this is what they want. Nigerian girls play this role well while dating and reverse when they get married.

1StopRudeness:
Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

lavylilly:
Say most not all

lavylilly:
From your comment it obvious you are very immature.

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

LadySarah:
The 'now ' mothers can do something.
We train the girl child to behave lyk a girl while the male behaves as he wishes.

At the end,the properly raised girl falls into the hands of the badly behaved boy.

Have a neighbour who beats her 2 yrs plus daughter at the slightest provocation.She says''She is a girl,i have to correct her now.''but to touch the boy .Never.

I feel like knocking sense into her sometimes...

lagosminded:
Why not read and understand comments in context? Does it make sense for me to say women should suffer and in the next sentence say “women are not blameless tho”

Let me make it clearer to you, modern women are increasingly initiating divorces because they don’t want to suffer like their mothers. Also as it becomes less of a taboo to be a divorcee more will have the courage to seek one. Women are not blameless though, (in why marriages fall apart) they have perfected the art of getting the ring (pretending while dating and marrying people they’re not compatible with to be called “Mrs”)

bukatyne:
Ma'am, you are a lawyer so you should understand that you CANNOT legislate people's choices, thoughts and feelings.

If I feel that a divorced man is damaged goods to me, whose business is that? I can only ensure that I do not deprive him of his rights in line with the constitution. I have the freedom of association and I can decide a divorced man is not it.

Ditto single woman, married man, married woman, housewife, househusband, only child, working wife, Igbo man, Hausa woman, Yoruba child etc.

People will always shame others not like them, better than them, worse than them, or even like them sef. Peeps who know what they want out of life would focus on their path and shut out distractions and naysayers.

Like I always say, every woman has the responsibility to choose the man that works best for her.

Fyi0:
Nonsense!!!

lavylilly:
As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

pansophist:
As usual, men by default, are monster who are terrorizing women's live, while women are some innocent, incapable of crime creatures that sinless, sugar and spice

Why not mention the reason of the 65% divorce? Dont worry I'll tell you, it's mostly because of money. Money is the major reason for divorce. When the man couldn't earn more or loose his financial foothold, instead of support him, he is divorced. And you still turn around and blame men and called them toxic.

What has happened to introspection? From my experience, it is hard for women to look in the mirror and tell themselves the truth, you need lie than woman-up and admit fault.

Also, policing thoughts never works. Grow up and learn to shrug aggression off. People will always be mean. I constantly receive yabbings here on nairaland by some idiots but you wont see me creating a thread complain about women being toxic. I just shrug it off, as their opinion and impression doesn't reflects me whatsoever.

pansophist:
As usual, men by default, are monster who are terrorizing women's live, while women are some innocent, incapable of crime creatures that sinless, sugar and spice

Why not mention the reason of the 65% divorce? Dont worry I'll tell you, it's mostly because of money. Money is the major reason for divorce. When the man couldn't earn more or loose his financial foothold, instead of support him, he is divorced. And you still turn around and blame men and called them toxic.

What has happened to introspection? From my experience, it is hard for women to look in the mirror and tell themselves the truth, you need lie than woman-up and admit fault.

Also, policing thoughts never works. Grow up and learn to shrug aggression off. People will always be mean. I constantly receive yabbings here on nairaland by some idiots but you wont see me creating a thread complain about women being toxic. I just shrug it off, as their opinion and impression doesn't reflects me whatsoever.

MyNation:
I doubt the figure of this post.

Almost everyone knows Nigerian men of this generation are becoming more fatherly, caring, less abusive etc than before. While the ladies are becoming not so motherly like their mothers.

The truth is always bitter.

MyNation:
How many deadbeat fathers are around you or how many children are fatherless ( father love )even when you know their Fathers are alive.

When most people think fathers are not doing their work is because of social media, internet and mostly irresponsible ladies around

Romanoff:
We place a high premium on Marriage and shame a woman from 30-40yrs for not being married. This is leading to men getting away with randy, abusive and intolerant behaviour because las las, them go marry any woman wey them want and women will manage them like that just so they won't face the stigmatization of being unmarried.

The ones going through abuse in their marriage can't leave cause of the stigma attached to divorcees.

We need to change our mentality.

1StopRudeness:
Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

Lonelypacifist6:
Engaging with women in things like this is a waste of time, their aggressive nature won't allow them to heed advice and they've perfected the role of victim playing.

1StopRudeness:
Why do u ladies worry so much about what people say about you especially guys... people u don’t even know, people that don’t know u most of the time..the funniest part is your fellow women folk even say more horrible shiit..

Few men say they don’t like a divorcee or say some nasty shitt...u cry river.
some men say they don’t want non-virgins you start screaming discrimination, a man has some nasty opinion about ladies with cascade of abortion history, you start screaming double standards...at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to his or her preference and opinion about you..weda good or nasty...I feel the duty is on you not to let it bug you instead of crying and clamoring that they should not talk or they can’t have their nasty personal opinion...
You women always approach life like u want some automatic support and validation from the world..sooner or later, u’ll start tagging it as hate....
The fact is u can never have total control over how people see u, we all have different mentality and process things differently, some people are damaged and hurt psychologically, experiences have damaged their views about the world....no matter how good and perfect ur life may seem, married, great husband, have a house and car... someone will still have something nasty and horrible to say about you let alone when u are divorced, a prostitutee, barren, or worst, u have a sex tape online sucking sperrm from a d!c..

The world is naturally mean, it’s not a man thing....Develop a thick skin, enjoy ur life with the decisions you took and the consequences that follow....at the end of the day...the world owes you nothing..

Izzyovercomer:
God bless you so much for maintaining your integrity and not having affairs with a married woman. If I open up on my own can of worms, this thread will focus on me. Women are terrible these days!

Plead:
And the gender war continues...