odisman:

Sex before marriage is wrong. God's opinion so respect that. Keep your body holy, and wait for the right man. Who did this to us as a society? Moral decadence is alarming.

Zuguluzugulu:
lol

amliftedhigher:

My own may soon come. Because my wife is unappreciative, greedy, selfish and self centered. She doesn't want anybody around me especially my family members except hers. She is always nagging and conspired with a stranger to humiliate me and my siblings. She lacks nothing and my siblings love her very very very much but she hates them with passion without a reason. Women hmmmmmm

efficiencie:


How did your mom, with all that education, fall for a guy who lied about his education, lied about his age and lied about many other things? This is the question you should ask. Your mom did not propose to your Dad it happened the other way round. Your mom was sought out by the man and she agreed to a life long relationship with him, so the question is what did your mom consider as a criteria for choosing such an irresponsible man? This is the problem with ladies today. You choose a man based on some shallow criteria and when shit happens you turn it on the man completely. You decide to bring ant infested wood into your home and you are complaining that your home is full of lizards...Ladies should stop using very frivolous and stupid criteria for sieving suitors and they should focus primarily on character, attitude and disposition. But if you tell ladies this, den go tok sey "na character, attitude and disposition we go chop? Shey na im go pay the bills?" and in the end they live with regrets!

sweetiliciouz:
please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

bukatyne:


What does the bolded mean?

Why should a lady want to suffer like your mother?

What makes you think a mother wants her daughter to suffer what she did?

lavylilly:
I have been reading with so much disdain, the recent tantrums thrown on divorced ladies on this platform recently. I may not have followed every comment and reply, but majority I read from guy seems to shame the ladies. This is very wrong.

There is nothing dehumanizing or stigmatizing about a divorced lady coming out to say she was divorced. There is nothing glorifying managing an unmanageable husband or wife in a matrimonial home. I have rarely read people shame a divorced man, or are their stigma different?

The truth is simple, its better to live alive or stay and die, and its very very simple, simpler than staying.

As a legal practitioner, I have had the opportunity to handle/witness several divorce cases, and I'm sure to say its better to leave alive.

65% of divorce cases in Nigerian courts today are instituted by ladies who couldn't tolerate a toxic marriage any longer. This simply means, there is something certainly wrong with men of today, or both.

Men have become more randy, intolerant and abusive than before.

Let's watch how we shame somebody, especially in a situation we haven't been involved in before.

Remember the goal is to be alive and happy, married or single.

Thanks, and have a lovely week.

frozen70:


You made a valid point my dear

Men has become what our fore fathers couldn't do out of shame

A man that loses his worth, strength and pride shouldn't vent his anger on his woman

Am glad women are sensing dangers and walking out, marriage it is not a prison or correctional home

It's supposed to be a love field where true love guides our activities, actions, words and deeds

pansophist:

As usual, men by default, are monster who are terrorizing women's live, while women are some innocent, incapable of crime creatures that sinless, sugar and spice

Why not mention the reason of the 65% divorce? Dont worry I'll tell you, it's mostly because of money. Money is the major reason for divorce. When the man couldn't earn more or loose his financial foothold, instead of support him, he is divorced. And you still turn around and blame men and called them toxic.

What has happened to introspection? From my experience, it is hard for women to look in the mirror and tell themselves the truth, you need lie than woman-up and admit fault.

Also, policing thoughts never works. Grow up and learn to shrug aggression off. People will always be mean. I constantly receive yabbings here on nairaland by some idiots but you wont see me creating a thread complain about women being toxic. I just shrug it off, as their opinion and impression doesn't reflects me whatsoever.

sharone21:
As I read comments especially from ladies, ma belle full....Naija girls are really intelligent.
My own little words:
From small, a girl child has been trying to be a mother/caregiver with her dolls while guys have been playing with guns....from birth, women have been told to behave well and society frowns more on her while family/society leaves the males... End result: We seem to have more morally upright/heaven bound ladies than men who commit more crimes/evil, who can even sleep with anything including fowls and goats (commit incest, rape, beastiality) and have little or no self control ....the result is that we have more women with sane/good characters and more men with deformed characters and not in equal proportions...so either some good ladies end up with bad guys or stay single.

sweetiliciouz:
please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

24kmagic:


Women are the problem, not the men. Men simply go with the flow. You have the power in your hands to get the man of your dreams all to yourself.

At times when I see a girl and her boyfriend walking down the street, what I usually ask myself is na wetin this guy tell this girl whe make her gri for am?

There's this guy I know, he managed to finish secondary school only. Since then, he's been at home forming street guy. No job, no skill, no certificate. All what he knows is play bet9ja, smoke and fvck. At at 30 ooo. Funny thing is he got many girls falling for him. The question is why? Even in sch, we all know that the so called classy girls were reserved for the cultists. In the event that these girls end up with such guys, how far do you think that union will last?

Taste = 0

Ask an average lady what she wants in a relationship.

Good preek
Money

Once a guy knows you're with him for any of these two things, you're already his slave. And you know how masters treat slaves.

Take the Babcock girl story as an example. The boy is a drug addict on rehabilitation, but he still has her mumu bottom cos of good preek. Even on a hospital bed, she couldnt miss an oporrunity to taste his preek. Should that pretty girl even be involved with a drug addict in the first place? Do you think a marriage between these two people will last the test of time knowing that good preek was the foundation? Most of the ladies are just confused beings. Expect more devorce cases as time goes on.

So many things to type but let me stop here.

sharone21:
As I read comments especially from ladies, ma belle full....Naija girls are really intelligent.
My own little words:
From small, a girl child has been trying to be a mother/caregiver with her dolls while guys have been playing with guns....from birth, women have been told to behave well and society frowns more on her while family/society leaves the males... End result: We seem to have more morally upright/heaven bound ladies than men who commit more crimes/evil, who can even sleep with anything including fowls and goats (commit incest, rape, beastiality) and have little or no self control ....the result is that we have more women with sane/good characters and more men with deformed characters and not in equal proportions...so either some good ladies end up with bad guys or stay single.

MedicH:



Women and audio. Just imagine. She fell for a man that lied and was too blind to figure out the truth even in the midst of guys that have just come out clean and plain. Unbelievable. That's why it's easy today to tell a woman I have a helicopter parked right on the roof of my house and she's happy. Now when she gets to the roof and finds no helicopter she will apply for a divorce. Hmmm

sweetiliciouz:
my Friend did you reason before typing ? what is women and audio ? am sure you are a graduate, dont you tell people you are a graduate so just keep quiet if your brain is paining you ..if you have a sister and she's brings in two suitors one who went to school and d other who didn't go to school , would you not pick the learned suitor
abeg talk well ,do you think I am happy I have a father like him ,I am very much aware of the various suitors who come into my life
my father even went to forge a useless certificate that did not look real as far back as 1995
mom applied a job for him after they married just to find out that it was all lies ...if u can't reason then pray none of your sisters if u have any doesn't fall into such liars as husband .....pls anyone who quotes me should reason with his brain ,I wont reply anyone who doesn't think.
before you quote ask your sisters if they can continue a marriage with a lazy man who lied to them about going to school
it's not like my dad was rich self or was working because he wasn't ,she got married to him in her year 4 at futo so my mom wasn't convetious or so ,he was an ordinary man full of lies
uncle go and train ur daughter and let her bring in a liar husband and someone who has nothing to show in his life and tell me if you won't be the most miserable man on Earth
the reason y u can chat reasonably is because your father trained you and impacted so much
mine did nothing to not even biro did he buy , everything my mom ,
I told my mom I kinda feel bad I wish she knew what divorce was in 1996 after marriage .............

sweetiliciouz:
please do not ever say women are at fault ,how about men ? my mom divorced my dad and yes am in support of her divorcing him after 23 years ,imagine a man telling a lie to a 20 year old lady that he has certificates (studied architecture ,lied about his age and so many other things ) ,just for my mom to discover after bn married to him that they were all lies ,if not that she is a graduate of chem eng which has been helping her ,I swear life will be difficult.
my dad right from when I was born till date and that of my siblings he has never paid a dime on us (school fess ,food upkeep ,any other thing ) all he does is to fold his legs. mom paid her labour bills for I and my siblings ,d house we live in mom built it and all d furnitures in it she bought them ,she gives him money for different business (huge sums and all he does is to bet naija or sell some furnitures in the house or fold his legs ) I can't even state all what he has done but please do not say women are the issue .....if not for my mom I wouldn't be a graduate ,I and my siblings won't go to school , father doesn't call ,if I ask him he will say borrow from your friends na, ... can u imagine that!!?

FocusedB1h:

Exactly and I love this new generation of women.
We are not our mothers who stayed back and tolerated all sorts of abuse just to answer Mrs.
What men won’t want for their sisters, they shouldn’t wish it on another woman.

generationz:

Ivebeenbanned:

Yet you're not toxic.

Ivebeenbanned:

Shut up, trash

Kennedyiheme:
naija ladies are intelligent?.. maybe you mean the antonym of intelligence .. which is dumb by the way... ya'll are far from that, please, lets not open your book

Oreofepeters:
I smell lies in your story. You probably formulate it just to back up your point

MedicH:


part of reasons why people go to school is to learn objectivity. someone can't tell me he/she is a lawyer and i have no means of figuring it out. My only impeding factor will be if i let my heart do the thinking instead of my learned brains. How will an uneducated lie to you about obtaining some degree and then you couldn't prove it. It's very preposterous.

imagine as u de now i come and tell you i am a doc and want to marry you but all na wash, do u want to tell me there's nothing u can do to know the truth? you may not be interested in knowing the truth if u allow ur heart do the thinking pls.

i'm not shaming anybody i'm not in that line of business but people should be careful of spoken words. if my daughter knows how to thing with her head she will figure out the truth from all manner of mendacity and deception. Pls oo i am sorry that kind of man is unbelievable. maybe he was bewitched or something. i tell guys to avoid girls in waist beads and there seems to be a lot of them nowadays. they bring nothing but witchcraft and bad luck turning people against their homes.

everything will be okay, your mother is a strong woman

sweetiliciouz:
do you think I will waste my time writing this about my mom just to prove a point ? I ain't daft