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Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 11:37am On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: No wonder men make bad husbands these days since they are only being taught how to be financially responsible and heading a family. In a case where he loses his source of income, what is left of him? He becomes a frustrated human/wounded lion. Men should also be taught to love their wives and treat her with respect and not like a subject or steward. Money is your basis for respect or "head of houseship". You probably cannot marry a woman who earns well because it might emasculate you and make you lose your control over her. Since that's your only basis for holding your home together. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 11:54am On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: I see you are still speaking hypothetically. When you get married and live this principle for 5years and you and your wife are happy and fulfilled, you can come back and drop your advice. But if it's still based of youthful exuberance and ignorance of what the institution of marriage is really about, let the experienced ones give us real facts. 3 Likes |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 11:57am On Dec 21, 2019 |
ImaIma1: No. They make bad husbands because they are being taught to fall in love and go down on their knees to beg one gold seeking, multilply violated, elderly woman to become their king and ruler. That narrative is what your feminist type is trying to push. Respect is earned only if she behaves with decorum as a wife, not because she bears the title of Mrs. As for love, what's to love? At the risk of repetition, what more than sex, children and headache does a woman have to offer these days? To be honest, my wife is a professional and going by the fact that she has her own vehicle and is constructing her own office building, should be earning quite well. I cannot give you exact figures because I have no idea what she makes and no interest in finding out, I insisted on staying out of her affairs unless my help is specifically needed. I neither feel emasculated nor do I fear loss of control because I do not subscribe to the belief that either of us is indispensable to the other. If she decides that she does not wish to live under my control, she is free to try her luck elsewhere and so am I. I do not consider the children a hindrance to seperation because I am sure that an amicable divorce and suitable care of the children can be arranged at that stage. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 11:58am On Dec 21, 2019 |
ImaIma1: I am married and have been for more than 5 years so far. How about you? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 12:03pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: Hmmmm... That's all I can say right now for your wife without saying too much. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 12:08pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: This is already a recipe for divorce. I see both of you are like housemates that have kids together. You both signed a contract to cohabit together till it no longer works for you. Like friends with benefits living together. Love is not part of the contract. As long as it works for you. 5 Likes |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by faithfull18(f): 12:11pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Lol, every man for himself. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 12:13pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by midnighter(f): 12:16pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: This is reasonable except for the bolded part. You are being practical but the problem is that pragmatism can quickly become rigidity if care is not taken. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 12:16pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
ImaIma1: It works better than all the love marriages you idolize on telemundo. There is mutual respect, consciousness of our respective duties and even a growing fondness which could potentially be developed into old age; if we are still together. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 12:20pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
midnighter: Yes. The stipulations of the contract are rigid. That way, we both know our boundaries and limits. I'd rather go and borrow money than be late one day with the agreed upon housekeeping money. So she knows that my rigid adherence to my duties necessitates her own rigid adherence to hers. With only a few unavoidable minor hitches here and there which are quickly corrected for, the marriage is smooth and efficient, thank you. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 12:21pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: Sorry I don't watch Telemundo |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by bukatyne(f): 3:27pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
RisenPhoenix: You know that this line of thought is what put you guys in trouble at the end. Since financial responsibility is now the definition of headship and boss, don't whine when the woman becomes the boss when the man experiences financial down turn. Anyways, Nigerian women are well suited to you Nigerian men: they only respect your money and treat you like trash as soon as it is gone. Whatever rocks individual boats. 2 Likes |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 4:04pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
bukatyne: I don't whine. I will always consider myself the breadwinner, the only problem is whether my wife will be content with what I can provide if I am no longer at the same financial level. If not, she is free to leave. I will marry someone else that will. But one thing I will never do is take money from her and lose my place in the home only for the sake of keeping her at a level SHE deems fit. That is what gets men into trouble. @bolded it's not just Nigerian women and Nigerian men. Women dig for gold the world over. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 10:29pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Mindfulness: You seem to be looking at this guy's plight from the negatives based on since it's my body then it's my choice beliefs. Does she have the rights to be clean shaven in this instance because it boosts her self esteem and it makes her feel more feminine and comfortable even if the husband is totally repulsed and violated by it? Why doesn't he have such rights, after all, to be clean shaven is all he ever wants and having all the extras makes her miserable? I am serious, there are women like that bro!!!! I am just curious with this body-choice debate. Also, in pregnancy, does a married woman have the rights to terminate the fetus against her husband's wishes or do anything for that matter since it's her body (she has every right to do whatever she wants, after all, she houses the fetus and get to make the decision) in this case and carrying to term is NOT what she envisions (having a baby) in the next two, three or four years? On the other hand, if she doesn't want to terminate and the husband absolutely does, would the husband's rights be violated if she doesn't? The truth is, as humans, we have mutually exclusive preference and someone has got to have it. Who is going to always have his way? What metric should be used? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 10:44pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
shestrong: Yes, absolutely, but she (and you) cannot be beautiful for everyone, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Who does a good wife wants to appear most beautiful to? Her customers? Colleagues? Neighbours? Who exactly? don't tell me it's what I am thinking. You do realize, don't you, that beauty and sexual attraction are at the heels of each other? I am curious |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 10:54pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
cococandy: If the table were reversed: the poster had been OP's wife, saying, "Wigs and long hair make me miserable. My husband doesn't want me to be clean shaven and I have had to repeat it to him many time, but he has always reiterated time and time and times again that wigs and other feminine hair style is a turn on for him, and make him attracted to me." Question: In all honesty, what would you do? So because he's a man, his opinions and preference and desires are not valid and he has no rights to determine his partner's choice. If OP goes ahead (goes bald) and husband cheats because he is no longer sexually attracted (don't doubt it please, there are still men and women whose sexual attraction is contingent on physical attraction) to her on account of her hairstyle, who is to blame? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by shestrong(f): 11:47pm On Dec 21, 2019 |
Blackmiserable:I understand ur point of view and to an extent ure correct but why did he not go for his spec? i do not evn know y i am taking panadol for anodas headache. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 9:03am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Blackmiserable: You could suggest to your partner what you think would look good on them but you should never expect them to do something they are not comfortable with. It's very simple. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 9:43am On Dec 22, 2019 |
shestrong: Lol. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 9:48am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Mindfulness: So one's comfort always comes first in marriage? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 10:01am On Dec 22, 2019 |
Blackmiserable: No feeling ugly does. |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by GrossPrice: 12:07pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
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Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by GrossPrice: 12:08pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
ImaIma1: What should women be taught? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Nobody: 12:22pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Blackmiserable: I actually do understand @op very well. His presentation was a put off to many. He jumbled everything together and it came off with negative vibe. He is the type that get turned on seeing women in low cut. We have few of them. The same way we want our men to wear beard, have muscled and toned abs etc. He should coarse and explain himself better to her concerning that separately without mixing it up with other problems. It's one of his fancy. I hope she indulges him. Some things aren't worth the fight. One day he will get tired and hairs continue to grow. Unless he is saying she should stop taking care of her hair strictly because it costs them a lot. In which case, he should let her know that she should reduce what she spends on her hair and still look good to him. It's not about how much but how it fits. He should know how to project that without sounding self centered. 2 Likes |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 12:44pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by GrossPrice: 1:45pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 1:59pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
sassysure: I think the bolded makes sense. That said, men have the tendency to dismiss other's opinion as weird and invalid because it doesn't go down well and that is what all the female and male commenters here are doing. I don't see any big deal in OP's demand sha. From the enthusiasm of OP's words, I can confidently infer that his feelings are real. Whether the OP made up this story on NL just for discussion or not is what I am not sure about. 1 Like |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by Blackmiserable(m): 2:02pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Mindfulness: Is feeling ugly as bad and dangerous as the attendant discomfort that comes with pregnancy? Do we give the go-ahead to do whatever she wants because she bears the problems, pain and houses the baby? |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by ImaIma1(f): 3:17pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Re: Can A Man Force His Wife To Go On Low Cut? by jahsharon: 7:27pm On Dec 22, 2019 |
Right from time, I have always like my woman on low cut, so this issue came up, not that there is no money to pay for plaiting her hair monthly but I do really admire lowcut on women. I have been saying this, Marriage is a Scam. How can you attempt to force a hair style on your partner? Are you Hitler or Kim Yung? Or are you mad ni ke? |
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