sinaj:
You cant force her to do anything to her body against her will.

Dan2000:


But is it too much to ask for?, like You request her that you will love her to be on low cut. This is a woman I have sacrificed my past 5 years for.
But her response got me worried. " you can go ahead to get a Lady that is on low cut"
Though we only do see on my vacation, twice in a year because I don't reside in Nigeria.
She knows that I can't go after any other woman since I work in a remote location.

famouscargo4u:
all a woman's body is for her man. At the same time, the man should be considerate. What would be considered wrong is for the woman to go on low cut without her man's consent.

sinaj:
Its not too much to ask.
As for her response, you know your wife better than anyone here so you should be able to tell if she responded that way coz of the low cut issue or coz of someother issue that is eating her up.

So go back to your wife and talk with her.

Dan2000:


What actually brings up the issue is this. I discussed with her that I realised that she do spend less time in studying compared to the time she use in going out, meeting family and other unnecessary things.
Note: we have plans writing IELTS by Jan, but since Sept till date, she haven't covered 50% of the few materials given to her but she prefer spending the whole day with her family, rather than staying in her apartment studying.
I actually shunned off the issue of working under anyone immediately after her NYSC POP around this year July just for the IELTS preparations.
So when I requested such a favour from her and she declined it, I felt bad, like I am here in a remote location working and saving money for the family, no social life, no friends, just only my phone, books, and work.
I felt bad like, I should have migrated alone instead of waiting for her to be through with her studies.

Dan2000:

I actually shunned off the issue of working under anyone immediately after her NYSC POP around this year July just for the IELTS preparations.
So when I requested such a favour from her and she declined it, I felt bad, like I am here in a remote location working and saving money for the family.
I felt bad like, I should have migrated alone instead of waiting for her to be through with her studies.

famouscargo4u:


Please, be patient with her. You should channel more efforts to her studying and acing the IELTS. if you have to, warn her that if she fails and you pass you will have no choice than to leave her behind. This should make her sit up.

doitforyou:

lol your wife refused to get a haircut so you’re regretting valuable sacrifices you made for your family? Why didn’t you date and marry a woman with a short haircut?

Dan2000:


We dated for over 5 years before marriage, I actually started dating her while I was in 3rd year in the university, whereas for her being on low cut was never an issue then.
The only thing I realised is that women do change after marriage.

Dan2000:
Right from time, I have always like my woman on low cut, so this issue came up, not that there is no money to pay for plaiting her hair monthly but I do really admire lowcut on women.
I discussed with my wife concerning this, I even used a married colleague at work as an example.
But my wife says what do I want people to say?, that she is not interested in such. That I can for someone that likes such.
What will You do if Your woman react like this?.

bukatyne:


I don't get.

She was on low cut before you married?

Dan2000:


We dated for over 5 years before marriage, I actually started dating her while I was in 3rd year in the university, whereas for her being on low cut was never an issue then.
The only thing I realised is that women do change after marriage.

izzou:


Oga, don't scatter your marriage abeg

Dan2000:


I meant Ex colleague while I was working in Nigeria some years ago. She once met the Lady in question.
I no fit scatter my marriage boss, sometimes one need to sort things out once and for all. There should be priorities for whatever we want to do.

doitforyou:

There’s nothing wrong in wanting a certain aesthetic preference in your wife but sometimes your preference isn’t mutual and you have to accept that.

The way people wear their hair, what they eat, the kind of songs they love etc is part of them and forcing them to change a part of them is cruel.

Dan2000:


Thank You.

izzou:


If your wife says she admires men on Afro or dreads and wants you to have such without your intentions, how would you feel?

She's human sir. Consider her feelings too. I'm not saying you shouldn't tell her about it, or ask for it. But be able to respect her feelings. She may be uncomfortable on low hair cuts

midnighter:
I can't understand this dude at all.

Did you sit her down and explain that you people needed to implement some budget constraints?

Did you challenge her on why she hasn't gotten through enough of the material she was supposed to read?

Or you just randomly told her she needs to go on low cut like one girl from your former office as in I just don't understand how you expected the conversation to go

Dan2000:


Seriously I never forced her and I won't, even if we are living together, I will never force her.
I do pay for the hair, but imagine paying for hairstyle that You don't admire, though it always look beautiful on her, but I prefer her natural beauty more, that's just one thing I observed about myself. I do admire her more whenever she loose her hair than using wig or any other hairstyle.

Tough decision for you.

Women care about their hair.

Dan2000:


No she was never on low cut, except secondary school days, we use to joke about it then, all her response was that she will have to satisfy her man by all means.
So I was wondering that what's the big deal for a lady to be on low cut, why will she care about how people outside will feel.

izzou:


Tough decision for you.

Women care about their hair.

Dan2000:


Its true Bro... I will have to let go of such an idea, it's easy for a man to compromise for his woman.

Dan2000:


Its not because of budget. I was just wondering why a woman can't go for a low cut since her man likes it.

Dan2000:


Its not because of budget. I was just wondering why a woman can't go for a low cut since her man likes it.

midnighter:


Oh.

Well I think she told you that SHE doesn't like it on herself I think that's supposed to be enough of an answer for you

But on second thoughts I commend you for liking the low cut because most of the time it's the other way around with the lady begging the guy to let her shave her head.

Hmm! You'd better convince her if that's what you want but it depends what her everyday life is like. I'm sure [b]she doesn't want people to say that she's suffering or running low on [/b]money