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frozen70:
Lol, like I said, I don't support a woman taking advantage of a gentleman

But I will fight any man that maltreats a woman just because he feels she is a lesser being

My sister we men have lost hope if na woman matter. Its beginning to feel and look safer to have multiple sex mates outside than have a committed-to lady. It strips a man of his peace of mind and mental health. Just imagine calling a call girl she does the service, pay her to go. Next time get another one. No strings attached. Abeg na peace of mind sure pass. No stress

kunleweb:
I don't get it. How come your writing tone sounds so relaxed/calm. What did you do today. Oya o confess

In this case now, he has been guiding her to avoid her falling into the wrong hand and she wants to loose the grip

Let her have her freedom because am very sure she may not get a guy like him though it will take so many heart breaks to achieve that

By the time she comes back, the road is already blocked

kunleweb:
I don't get it. How come your writing tone sounds so relaxed/calm. What did you do today. Oya o confess

If you take time and patient to read my comments and assimilate them, you will alway understand my point of view

frozen70:
In this case now, he has been guiding her to avoid her falling into the wrong hand and she wants to loose the grip

Let her have her freedom because am very sure she may not get a guy like him though it will take so many heart breaks to achieve that

By the time she comes back, the road is already blocked

Straying is more psychological than the way people treat it. Someone was doing same around me, quick I find am tfare move. My principle about life is simple. I allow people to stray and move on. Ba da mu wa. But I won't be anyone's rebound. Be it friend, lover, pastor or associate. My golden rule is be responsible for your actions and act responsibly. He's jittery to due his emotional investment. I think I should advice him Happy heartbreak in advance cause no matter what he does when people go through this phase of wanderlust, words don't appeal to them unless them miss road suffer a few bullet wounds. Some don't even recover for life. Many ladies who are single till deep 40 and 50lost a chance like this in their 20s.assuming more guys will come. For where. Wu sai. Many dey mountain as we speak eating all sorts of concoction, cook towtow join, yet new husband no gre come. Karma is a bit h. It has a way of making people pay badly when they miss their chances.

kunleweb:
My sister we men have lost hope if na woman matter. Its beginning to feel and look safer to have multiple sex mates outside than have a committed-to lady. It strips a man of his peace of mind and mental health. Just imagine calling a call girl she does the service, pay her to go. Next time get another one. No strings attached. Abeg na peace of mind sure pass. No stress

But for how long

I mean till what stage in life will you end it

If you are scared of what women does and their antics then you need some lectures from dad

frozen70:
But for how long

I mean till what stage in life will you end it

If you are scared of what women does and their antics then you need some lectures from dad

I won't stress it for a woman. Not fear. I just won't tolerate an infidel under my roof. Even acting like she has my best interest at heart when it's the opposite. I don't want to die from a woman's hands abeg. There are more honorable ways for me to die as a man.

kunleweb:
Straying is more psychological than the way people treat it. Someone was doing same around me, quick I find am tfare move. My principle about life is simple. I allow people to stray and move on. Ba da mu wa. But I won't be anyone's rebound. Be it friend, lover, pastor or associate. My golden rule is be responsible for your actions and act responsibly. He's jittery to due his emotional investment. I think I should advice him Happy heartbreak in advance cause no matter what he does when people go through this phase of wanderlust, words don't appeal to them unless them miss road suffer a few bullet wounds. Some don't even recover for life. Many ladies who are single till deep 40 and 50lost a chance like this in their 20s.assuming more guys will come. For where. Wu sai. Many dey mountain as we speak eating all sorts of concoction, cook towtow join, yet new husband no gre come. Karma is a bit h. It has a way of making people pay badly when they miss their chances.

very very true

SimeonOTC:
very very true

I tell people. It's not even in books. I tell people. The very first thing to look out for if one funds a lover is their "psyche", their ability to be... That ability to remain in a state/phase without been tossed to and fro by external issues. Only people with a very stable core can form stable relationships. And unfortunately many sorry most people aren't stable psychologically. They're tuned by anxieties, worries, insecurities, words of friends, family pressure. People are mad thesedays but don't know. How then can they form stable bond with people when they can't be at peace with themselves first

kunleweb:
I won't stress it for a woman. Not fear. I just won't tolerate an infidel under my roof. Even acting like she has my best interest at heart when it's the opposite. I don't want to die from a woman's hands abeg. There are more honorable ways for me to die as a man.

In as much as woman can't run away from giving birth to a child because of their infant wahala and sleepless night with unnecessary crying

A man too should not run away from marriage because of the way women and men sees marriage these days

Marriage requires patients

Marriage requires true love

Marriage requires understanding each other

Anything short of this is dead on arrival

frozen70:
In as much as woman can't run away from giving birth to a child because of their infant wahala and sleepless night with unnecessary crying

A man too should not run away from marriage because of the way women and men sees marriage these days

Marriage requires patients

Marriage requires true love

Marriage requires understanding each other

Anything short of this is dead on arrival

My sister. I asked you a question earlier this morning you deflected. Anyway I've dodged two demons disguised as women recently and more before them. Despite my eagle eyes for observation. Permit me to ask the question I asked in a different way, from the divorce cases you come across and problematic marriage.. Women contribute to over 80% of them. True or false. This includes divorce, heartbreak, betrayal, theft and all vices. Women control 80% of issues in marriage issues of recent. Tell me I'm not right. There are better ways to die than from the hands of a woman. It paints a man as a weakling.

kunleweb:
My sister. I asked you a question earlier this morning you deflected. Anyway I've dodged two demons disguised as women recently and more before them. Despite my eagle eyes for observation. Permit me to ask the question I asked in a different way, from the divorce cases you come across and problematic marriage.. Women contribute to over 80% of them. True or false. This includes divorce, heartbreak, betrayal, theft and all vices. Women control 80% of issues in marriage issues of recent. Tell me I'm not right. There are better ways to die than from the hands of a woman. It paints a man as a weakling.

God created man to be strong and not to be a weakling

Just give me five valid points you think women are 80% cause of marriage break up

frozen70:
God created man to be strong and not to be a weakling

Just give me five valid points you think women are 80% cause of marriage break up

Na so. Answer mine first. I didn't just say marriage breakup. I'm not even concerned about that one. Na small thing. Some men like me are men of class. Breakup of I marry you next week I flow with another. Yeah. I'm financially good to pick em. Of shelves. But you first answer my question honestly and in the spirit of righteousness.i don't feel like saying what is on my mind publicly.

Zeal0000007:
I and my gal have been together for 4 years now going to 5, and I have intentions of cementing our friendship this year Atleast with a proposal when I secure my first job and I did marine engineering and have processed my papers to go onboard,my gal has been a blessing to me cos she's understanding, caring and very hardworking, she will be 22 this year while I will be 29 . I met her as a teenager, now adult, I'm still there, I opened her eyes to the world positively. infact the first bank account she ever had was opened by me, I guided her through life till this time, her family has not been really supportive but I keep on trying my best to help and she does the same too for me, she was there right from my 200level till 500 now I'm a graduate. at a point i was like a father, since she has non, I was like an elder brother, husband best friend and lover,. I'm her first experience, pal we've really gone through thin and thick together and I can't wait to give her the best within my capabilities as God gives me strength in this life. But pals my fears wants to finally come to pass. over the past 1 year she has always felt I'm not giving her chance for her to meet and make friends with make folks, and I keep on asking what kind of friends does she wants to make with other guys, is it the one that will drift us apart? but come to think of it, there was no time I stopped her from making friends with make folks, and over the years she has always felt I'm controlling her, since I'm a one woman man and there was no time I dated two women at the same time and I expect that from my woman. Pals since last year August I came from service I have been facing allot of threats from this relationship. and it looks as if,if I give her a single chance she will so much cheat, and I will not believe it. I broke in into something that was almost as serious as what I'm having with her with another guy. that was when I came back from service and the guy in question wasn't in town and they were seriously calling themselves every second to check on each other, I was really going through pains till we resolved that and my gal would have visited that guy as soon as he returned back to town if I did not returned back too that's if she has not gone there before , so to build back trust we had to exchange phone passwords, so I could know who she's was talking with and any constant caller I would want to know the individual vice versa cos as a man that I am and who knows what he wants, I demand absolute faithfulness from my partner and this time no privacy so it has been smooth but I keep seeing threats and for the fact that she has betrayed me before. pals and question I want to ask is this, is it in every gal's/women's circle that they must give in to every tom and dick that wants relationship with them, is it a must that every gal must go through several relationships before settling down, must they always go through heart breaks before making a choice, I have seen even those younger than her having good relationships or is it in the age? and believe me most of these guys just want to sex with her that is all, and I really wanted to do something on her head this year, but the threats keeps coming and she just got admitted, soon be leaving for school though the same town with me, and this has been on my mind, as soon as possible, I might be leaving for offshores, right now I'm even contemplating leaving her cos I feel she might be lost completely now that she will be leaving me for school, and she's this type that longs for material things, and after the last one she did I made up my mind that the might not be another chance again with me if she hurts me again. Pals please your candid advice, cos I keep seeing this tendency in her wanting to explore not minding her serious relationship with me.

I feel you should cut her some slack, u don't demand faithfulness, its her choice, she has to choose if you are the best thing for her or there is someone else better out there and also trust her to make friends, don't let her loose out on a potential business relationship cos of insecurities.... Bottom line, trust her and give her privacy... If it works out, fine, if it doesn't, fine....

frozen70:
Lol, like I said, I don't support a woman taking advantage of a gentleman

But I will fight any man that maltreats a woman just because he feels she is a lesser being

I almost fall in love with you for your comments

Oma307:
I almost fall in love with you for your comments

Lol, funny you

Zeal0000007:
thanks but I don't buy into that school of thought, I can't imagine her with someone else then after getting messed up, I now accept her back, she's not the only girl in the world, just that I love her so much and 5years no be play, I have really gotten used to her, but if she ever hurt me again, I will just let her go,

You are making a serious mistake brother.
Stop forcing yourself on her! That's the mistake you are making.
You're not allowing her to choose you.
What you have been doing all the while and still doing is forcing her to choose you.

All your good intentions and plans will mean nothing to her if she didn't choose to be with you. And you might be stressing yourself for nothing! I mean she might not really care!

Why are you even stressing yourself in this matter?
Did you spend the 5yrs alone? If she is not concerned or care about the fact that you've both spent 5 good yrs together, why should you?

See, you are making it look as if she's doing you a favour by staying with you. It doesn't work that way.
You must allow her to put in some effort for the relationship to work.
And that can only happen if she choosed you!

When a girl/women choose, she will do everything within her power to be with you.
You won't need to be policing her left and right. She will police herself without your intervention just to be with you!
But if otherwise, you will stress yourself for nothing and at the end, she will still leave you and will not even care.

Don't make the relationship look like a burden to her. Yes, free her! Let her do her things and have her way. But make it clear. Let her know that if she messes up, then you will have no business taking her as a serious date.

That's how I position my love life and is working!

I equally date like you do - one girl at a time. But I always made it clear to my girl that our relationship can last forever or end at anytime. It all depends on her behaviour

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Zeal0000007:
thanks but I don't buy into that school of thought, I can't imagine her with someone else then after getting messed up, I now accept her back, she's not the only girl in the world, just that I love her so much and 5years no be play, I have really gotten used to her, but if she ever hurt me again, I will just let her go,

I understand you. You don't other guys to take advantage of her then dump her for you to take what they left, especially since you want to marry her.