Belafonte:

Patriarchy is not a sin. It is not a crime. Any woman that wants a man to take care of her is plying by patriarchal rules. If you detest the patriarchy and want to abolish it, no problem. Pay your own damn bills.

You either turn down the patriarchy completely or shut the eff up and submit to your man

Michellekabod2:
you are a dunce.
When did I say I have an issue with a man or woman leading?my stance has always being that who leads is the couples mutual decision,it doesn't concern me. If the woman wants to lead,fine,if the man wants to lead,fine....as long both are comfy with it and they are treated with love,care and respect.

Belafonte:


Your stance is irrelevant to the fact that you think the patriarchy is wrong. If you truly believe couples should do what they want you’d show respect to all possible decisions

You’re an intellectual rabbit. Picking and choosing what you find convenient, when you find it convenient.

Michellekabod2:
so you have become jnr that issues treats and curses...

Belafonte:

Patriarchy is not a sin. It is not a crime. Any woman that wants a man to take care of her is plying by patriarchal rules. If you detest the patriarchy and want to abolish it, no problem. Pay your own damn bills.

You either turn down the patriarchy completely or shut the eff up and submit to your man

budaatum:

Karma is not "threat and curses". We all reap whatever we sow. And I thought you might like being advised to not create false images of buda like we small knowledge religious folks often do with our Gods.

ZIMDRILL:


am suggesting anything for anyone, but am explaining, some type of women and men that, agree with a sitting home wife and men who have beliefs and salaries that allows wife to just sit home

Belafonte:

Patriarchy is not a sin. It is not a crime. Any woman that wants a man to take care of her is plying by patriarchal rules. If you detest the patriarchy and want to abolish it, no problem. Pay your own damn bills.

You either turn down the patriarchy completely or shut the eff up and submit to your man

Belafonte:

PATRIARCHY IS NOT A SIN. IT IS NOT A CRIME. ANY WOMAN THAT WANTS A MAN TO TAKE CARE OF HER IS PLAYING BY PATRIARCHAL RULES. IF YOU DETEST THE PATRIARCHY AND WANT TO ABOLISH IT, NO PROBLEM. PAY YOUR OWN DAMN BILLS.

YOU EITHER TURN DOWN THE PATRIARCHY COMPLETELY OR SHUT THE EFF UP AND SUBMIT TO YOUR MAN

Belafonte:

Patriarchy is not a sin. It is not a crime. Any woman that wants a man to take care of her is plying by patriarchal rules. If you detest the patriarchy and want to abolish it, no problem. Pay your own damn bills.

You either turn down the patriarchy completely or shut the eff up and submit to your man

crackkhaus:




This should be framed and hung up in the National Assembly if possible.

bukatyne:

Then what happens when the bill paying man loses his source of income and the wife steps into his shoes?

They start matriachy in the family?

Or the man still wants to claim been the head while he can't foot the bills when money was what defined his status in the relationship?

I like this type of thoughts and life has a way of turning round.

With the above, Nairaland males should stop whinning when they lose earning power and their wives no longer want to reckon with them.

That will be now be 'having your cake and eating it.'

bukatyne:




Then what happens when the bill paying man loses his source of income and the wife steps into his shoes?

They start matriachy in the family?

Or the man still wants to claim been the head while he can't foot the bills when money was what defined his status in the relationship?

I like this type of thoughts and life has a way of turning round.

With the above, Nairaland males should stop whinning when they lose earning power and their wives no longer want to reckon with them.

That will be now be 'having your cake and eating it.'

budaatum:

Have you not heard of meeting halfway, where we both contribute to the bills?

You should read up more about about patriarchy. [url=https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purple_Hibiscus_%28novel%29?wprov=sfla1]Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie[/url] wrote a fantastic book explaining what it can be in a family unit. And there's lots out there about how it destroys society, examples being ₦50 olosho and the need to feed herslf with her tits.

Michellekabod2:
my stance still remains that you are a m0r0n
As I feminist, I am against female oppression (infact oppression of any human) and subjugation, how husband's and wives run their homes is not my business. Let women have rights as men(go to school,take part in politics, equal work pay etc),anything aside that such as how couples live in their matrimonial home doesn't concern me.

I love chivalry from men and I love femininity from women. I love Masculinity and I love femininity. People should be free to decide how they want to live and roles to play in their own marriage.

Your pitiful self can't provide proof where I had a problem with a woman or man leading the home.

crackkhaus:




This should be framed and hung up in the National Assembly if possible.

crackkhaus:

You're asking questions pretending as if women don't already misbehave once they start paying ALL the bills in the house.

Was it not on this same section someone asked his wife to pay her own children's fees, and he received the insult of his life?
What about the one that was considering running away to live with his mother after he lost money?
Or just yesterday, one asked his fiancée to purchase her own wedding gown, what she will wear on her own body, and she's not picking his call again?

See ehn, any man that loses his financial standing and is unfortunate enough to be married to a woman who will start bossing him around, he better avoid her as much as he can and make sure he is trying very hard to get his finances back in order...not forming head of house all over the place.
He should even temporarily move away for a while on his own accord, if it comes to that.

The only woman who will take care of a grown man who is not contributing a dime without complaining after sometime, is his own mother - there's no Nigerian wife or girlfriend like that.. You can quote me anywhere, I will defend my statement. NONE whatsoever!

Sometimes when I see women wondering why a lot of men don't joke with their mothers, I am always beside myself with laughter - they must be blind or stvpid, or both.

Belafonte:


The Bible said the fool thinks himself wise. In light, of Solomon’s wisdom your opinion is irrelevant. Just because you think something doesn’t make it the truth.

However, you are a sophist or, at best, a chaparral feminist. The mere mention of your belief in chivalry puts you as a fraud or again, at best, an ignoramus of the most sinister order.

Your beliefs and the feminist you claim to be are naturally at variance.

In the words of Frank Underwood, “you want a man to be an equal when it suits you and you want a man to take charge when it suits you.”

Madam, you are a lying, manipulative dingbat.

adexpa:
I have seen quite a lot of interesting topics here on nairaland this fresh year that we just spent 48 days out of 365 days. I can confess that they are all quite interesting and educative.

I will love to share little light on the issue of responsibilities in family or relationship as regards NIGERIA . Please, let your understanding of the message have a NIGERIA scope, because I understand that a lot of us are wise now and we are already moving away from traditions and cultures.

When it comes to responsibilities between couples, intending couples and other relationships that involves man and woman, the man must understand that every financial part of it is for him. There is no where in Nigeria culture or tradition where woman takes care of the financial part no matter how buoyant she is at the time of the need.
Every man must have this understanding before they involve in any relationship in order to save them of heartbreak or disappointment from their partners because without such understanding, a man will be disappointed and get paralysed when he discovered millions in his partner account or purse when they are in need of just 100k and the woman did not bring out the money.
Men needs to understand that our women are not wired to spend from their own income, but they can buy heaven with someone else money (I am not criticising women here, I was only saying fact)

HOW TO HANDLE FINANCE WITH WOMAN
Firstly, you have to agree with the above fact.
There are practical ways to cheat woman without fight or argument and it is not making her feel like it is her responsibility. Never show her that you feel that it is her responsibility to partake in whatever you guys intend to finance. The best way is to tell her that you do not have or you are not capable of doing it alone at the moment and you will need her assistance. Let her feel that she is assisting you and not that it is her responsibility. The two of you will need to evaluate the need and agree on the sharing ratio; how much you expect from her as per support (not her duty).
You must make it clear as early as possible because it will take sometimes for her to adjust her believe system to the new reality(e.g wedding plans, you need to start discussing that immediately you agreed to marry each other n not when it is almost few weeks).

Men, we do not have to criticise our women in this regards, it is how they are been wired, either by upbringing or environmental factors. We only need to ask for wisdom to handle the reality.

Secondly, our men should not be seeing themselves as CEO who sits and watch their staffs doing all. We have to start assisting in domestic activities and also allow their opinions in all affairs ( not a must to apply opinion)

Women!!!!! Please, let us start reducing the believes and start seeing the responsibilities as a joint task.

Happy homes and relationships

Belafonte:


I am old enough to know that the man immediately loses his respect. He is head in nothing but name and title.

Every idiot knows that women only respect money. How many times have men on here been advised to forget women and go make money so they can qualify for a woman’s love? Have you yourself not read it, at least, twenty times on nairaland?

Forget all this scaremongering, we done wise. We sabi as e dey go. Men must make money or suffer disrespect. Shikena

Belafonte:


The Bible said the fool thinks himself wise. In light, of Solomon’s wisdom your opinion is irrelevant. Just because you think something doesn’t make it the truth.

However, you are a sophist or, at best, a chaparral feminist. The mere mention of your belief in chivalry puts you as a fraud or again, at best, an ignoramus of the most sinister order.

Your beliefs and the feminist you claim to be are naturally at variance.

In the words of Frank Underwood, “you want a man to be an equal when it suits you and you want a man to take charge when it suits you.”

Madam, you are a lying, manipulative dingbat.

crackkhaus:

I used to think the text in bold was common knowledge too, until I realized there are some men who exist permanently on a unique spectrum of idiocy which is responsible for making them believe there is still an angel of a woman out there, the kind of woman that will cater to their whims and financial needs with gleefulnes and joy peradventure their fortunes dwindle.

Some idiots are yet to wake up bro, still in sleep mode.

crackkhaus:

Lmao

100%

Belafonte:

Bruh, I never see dis kain tin before. Dem wan keep one leg for patriarchy and the other for feminism. Even giraffes will have a hard time doing that.

Belafonte:


Dem go wake up by force. Person wey oversleep go still wake up whether for this side or for the other side.

crackkhaus:

I asked one yesterday if the intense stretching does not pain them in their yansh - one leg in 1780 and the other in 2020. Lol

Belafonte:

Lol. I saw your poser. Got a good chuckle out of me. But I suspect you’re just a misogynist. Everybody knows real men always please their women

Belafonte:


Lol. I saw your poser. Got a good chuckle out of me. But I suspect you’re just a misogynist. Everybody knows real men always please their women

crackkhaus:
As long as the woman always remembers her place, I don't believe any man will have a problem taking a larger share of the financial responsibilities.

The issue usually comes when she is mostly dependent on you and still insists on having things go her way.

How that logic works in their heads is what the universe does not understand.

Omar09:


Yup. I suspected that line. Have you actually seen a real man, and if you have, what is your qualification of a real man?

crackkhaus:

Music to my ears, lol..