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ireneidiva:
Walk away. The problem is that the issue escalated till it went out of control. The period the wife was given silent treatment and maltreating the girl should have been used to communicate and sort out the issue.

I had such scenario

We were arguing and she said I should shut up or she will slap me.

I shut up, and kept quiet, after her ranting

I sat her down and told her that,that day should be the first and last day she will use such words on me, to avoid a bad omen.

Till today,she never tried it again

This oga should have kept calm and address the issue later when her sister might have left.

Homeboiy:
I had such scenario

We were arguing and she said I should shut up or she will slap me.

I shut up, and kept quiet, after her ranting

I sat her down and told her that,that day should be the first and last day she will use such words on me, to avoid a bad omen.

Till today,she never tried it again

This oga should have kept calm and address the issue later when her sister might have left.

Cool.

Belafonte:
True you can’t reason with a mad person, but walking away doesn’t cure madness, it only postpones your interaction with said madness

So she should be slapped?

drmikeadams:



Man::baby what do u want?I will be visiting naija on 8th. Woman:can u get me some clothes for d kids? Man:okay let me know the sizes
Man:by the way how is ur hubby? Woman:mtcww,that one,,leave that useless man




U get d picture now?

Amebo

Theunbreakablem:
There is nothing going on between me and her sister , the only thing that I’m never happy with my wife is the way she send the girl on errands without break and she does everything including cooking , dishing out my food from the pot and serving it for me which I don’t like , she knows that I hate anyone else cooking my food apart from her but she still make the girl cook and all my wife does is pressing phone 24/7. Whenever I complains about this issues , it doesn’t always ends up well.

Stand your ground and send her home for your own good.
Your wife is not crying because she's remorseful, it's all a game to keep the "maid"
She's a very selfish woman who does not see her own sister as a sister, but uses her as a maid.

She reminds me of one woman who took her sister from the village to live with her in the city.
Her husband does not stay in Nigeria, so she needed company apart from her children.
The woman was a very bad tempered woman, while her sister, was the exact opposite.
The woman treated and abused her sister so bad...it was horrible!
Any time she wanted to deal with her, she'd put on tights like someone who's ready for a wrestling match, she'd hit her head so hard against the wall, she'd hit her over the head with stick...
I felt really really bad every time that happened...the sister was our friend as children.

One day, in her teenage years, she tried to runaway but did not succeed.
The abuse continued, until she turned 19, then she broke loose and fought back!
Her sister could not believe it!
She rebelled! She fought! Enough was enough!
Not that she overpowered her sister, but she overcame mentally.
She finally broke free from the mental slavery she was subjected to since she was a child.
After that, she never did any chores in that house.
She demanded that she be sent home to their parents.
Until she left, she never spoke to her sister.
She became a different person all of a sudden... A stronger person.

We really missed her, but we were glad she was finally free from her wicked sister.

Infact i had to log in just to reply this your story bro. I think this is one of d instances where a slap is justified. I really dont know what i would have done if i were u in that situation but i kinda tend to lean towards ur response. However that shldnt b d end of the matter. As a man i find it embarrassing for her to leave a sick child just to get some few prolly primark clothes! Is it dat u guys r having some rough patch financially? Now i wanna suggest the following steps: 1. Get her call records for that particular day (u myt b surprised d number of calls she made whilst saying she ddnt have enof credit/data to call u);
2. Demand for the number of the UK friend and conduct your own investigation;
3. To take back your home, u myt have to return those clothes n get ur kids n wife some new clothes too;
4. Never ever allow ur SIL remain with u.
Like someone said above ur wife's cries is just a ruse n likewise ur MIL's plan to visit. They just want the girl to remain which i strongly advise u refuse. Ur wife's planted something in ur mind before a while it would germinate n temptation starts. Take charge bro and God be with you!

Homeboiy:
I had such scenario

We were arguing and she said I should shut up or she will slap me.

I shut up, and kept quiet, after her ranting

I sat her down and told her that,that day should be the first and last day she will use such words on me, to avoid a bad omen.

Till today,she never tried it again

This oga should have kept calm and address the issue later when her sister might have left.

Was d lady in question ur wife and in whose presence did she say that? What was the context of arguement? Girls can always say stupid tins sometimes but not in all situations will u just let go. What impression was d wife trying to pass to her sis if in her presence she's saying she's gonna slap n throw cold water on her husband!? Thats absolutely demeaning from a full housewife!

ireneidiva:
So she should be slapped?

I already answered this question

Belafonte:
I already answered this question

Did you? If you don't walk away or slap, pray tell me, what should be done?

Both of you are wrong.
I just feel sorry for that innocent 17 year old caught in the middle of this mess.

And yes a woman with children can leave the babies under the care of a babysitter and go get some me time. Having children should not be a prison sentence.