For as long as she could remember, getting married and starting a family was this woman’s ultimate goal. And that’s exactly what she did. Getting married at 20 and having a baby at 21. Now, one kid in, her perspective on life and motherhood has changed.

How long have you been married?
5 glorious years now. And I’ve enjoyed every bit of it.

And what’s married life like?
Honestly, it’s like playing Russian roulette. Which sounds a lot more dire than I mean it to. But you just don’t know what you get out of each day. My husband and I are both spontaneous, so it might be that.

First child at 21, did you plan that?
Honestly, we didn’t but we also didn’t plan to stop it which seems ridiculous now. I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I was 2 months gone. I had missed my first month’s period but I’m used to my period being sporadic so I didn’t think twice about it.

Your reaction?
I was ecstatic o. Like I said we hadn’t exactly planned for it, but we hadn’t planned to stop it. But for as long as I could remember getting married and starting my own family was the ultimate goal. I had excelled in school, graduated with a first class in Economics so a lot of people didn’t expect me to get married so soon after school. I was supposed to start my career and become this big shot career woman you know.

By the end of final year I had been dating my husband for four years. We met in my first year, he was in his final year in Engineering. He got lucky and got a job straight out of Uni, so by the time I was done he was stable. There was just no reason to wait.

What did he think?
The only person who had worse baby fever than me was my husband. He’s still that way. I was still breastfeeding this one when he started talking about baby number 2. I just said Oga calm down. But he was the practical one. First couple of weeks, first several weeks, in fact, my head was still in clouds. I was picking out baby names and shopping for cute baby stuff. He was the one that sorted out prenatal class, bought the baby books arranged the doctor’s appointments etc.

Is he till hands-on?
Haha no, not like then. And I bet you knew that already. All of that was the really easy stuff. It didn’t feel like that at the time, but preparing for the baby is really nothing. It’s even fun sef.

I don’t work. Well, at least not a 9-5. I’m a full-time housewife and I run a very small scale food order service on the side. His job, on the other hand, is, of course, a full-time 9-5 and sometimes he’s required to be offshore for weeks at a time. So I’d say no he’s definitely not as hands-on. He loves his child very deeply and provides for her, but her primary care is left up to just me.

How did pregnancy go?
I was one of the really lucky ones. No morning sickness or significant weight gain. I had a lot of food cravings and my feet ballooned but apart from that it was as easy as a pregnancy could get. I hear your first child is your most difficult but I just popped mine right out. My labour time was I think 7 hours in total which is pretty great.

Continue: https://www.zikoko.com/her/what-she-said-i-had-a-baby-at-21-i-wish-i-waited/

Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

My Niece is in her 36th now......No prospective husband, Infact suitors no longer troop our house again.......Pls any man with a good heart and caring should apply.......Dm me please.

GOFRONT:
My Niece is in her 36th now......No prospective husband, Infact suitors no longer troop our house again.......Pls any man with a good heart and caring should apply.......Dm me please.

Hmmm she needs a miracle from GOD because it's going to be difficult to see a man, considering her age.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

is she fine

GOFRONT:
My Niece is in her 36th now......No prospective husband, Infact suitors no longer troop our house again.......Pls any man with a good heart and caring should apply.......Dm me please.

What should we do with this information now?

No name, no details about who is talking, no knowledge of the reason for the soliloquy, just an anonymous write up that makes no sense.

People who have babies before 21, what should they do?

ANGELMARVE:
Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

Is this how young men of our generation reason? Trying to fit everyone into their myopic thinking box. It is well.

It's an anonymous interview, and that's a dialogue, not a soliloquy.

nlPoster:
What should we do with this information now?

No name, no details about who is talking, no knowledge of the reason for the soliloquy, just an anonymous write up that makes no sense.

People who have babies before 21, what should they do?

I don't think that's the point of the interview at all.

ANGELMARVE:
Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

BigCabal:
It's an anonymous interview, and that's a dialogue, not a soliloquy.

So what are we supposed to do now?

It's an interesting interview, and I rejoice with her but I'm wondering what exactly is the write up for.

Did she mention having a safe pregnancy, uncomplicated delivery, baby in good health, mother doing well, parents able to take care of the child, etc?

ANGELMARVE:
Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

Your level of naivety is out of this world. You will be fine laslas.

Perhaps if you posted the full interview, we would get the point.

faithfull18:

Your level of naivety is out of this world. You will be fine laslas.

How old are you?

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

ANGELMARVE:
How old are you?

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

Obviously old enough to be your aunt

faithfull18:

Obviously old enough to be your aunt

You need dick in your life.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

GOFRONT:
My Niece is in her 36th now......No prospective husband, Infact suitors no longer troop our house again.......Pls any man with a good heart and caring should apply.......Dm me please.

So why did she Devine suitors that were trooping in? The way things are now, suitors don't come knocking anymore... They prefer u date and they fvck u first. Mtcheeeew... Gone are days when a parent will meet another parent to ask for their daughter's hand in marriage

ANGELMARVE:
Hmmm she needs a miracle from GOD because it's going to be difficult to see a man, considering her age.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

ANGELMARVE:
Wow This is Beautiful.

This is why i will always advise early marriage for Ladies.

Going into your 30s and still unmarried is a wrong and regrettable move because no reasonable young man will take you serious.

See let us not deceive ourselves, any young girl in her 20s with good and great character will always get married because guys that are ready to settle dowm will always ask their hands in marriage.

If you are above 30 and unmarried then there is a question mark on your life already.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

Stop talking nonsense.

faithfull18:

Your level of naivety is out of this world. You will be fine laslas.

you are doing him and his likes a huge favor by quoting them- you are lending them the validation and attention they seek so hard. stop quoting them, if you truly want them to be alright.

ANGELMARVE:
You need dick in your life.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

You need a brain in that blockhead of yours.

faithfull18:

You need a brain in that blockhead of yours.

I am not the reason you are sex starved. by the order of the peaky blinders.

ANGELMARVE:
I am not the reason you are sex starved. by the order of the peaky blinders.

You definitely have issues if all you think of is sex.

faithfull18:

You definitely have issues if all you think of is sex.

You should be happy that i given you what you lack for free. by the order of the peaky blinders.

the society we find ourselves rubuked early marriage, but in the real sense its the best... Growing with one's child is one of the best feeling

GboyegaD:


Is this how young men of our generation reason? Trying to fit everyone into their myopic thinking box. It is well.

except she's a moneybag or she use jazz I can't marry a půssý on 30s! And I'm sure many young guys too won't, especially when there are fresh tomatoes in their 20s everywhere

Nephilim:
except she's a moneybag or she use jazz I can't marry a půssý on 30s! And I'm sure many young guys too won't, especially when there are fresh tomatoes in their 20s everywhere

Don't speak for many as what people say when it comes to marriage differs from reality particularly, with age and experience.

BigCabal:
For as long as she could remember, getting married and starting a family was this woman’s ultimate goal. And that’s exactly what she did. Getting married at 20 and having a baby at 21. Now, one kid in, her perspective on life and motherhood has changed.

How long have you been married?
5 glorious years now. And I’ve enjoyed every bit of it.

And what’s married life like?
Honestly, it’s like playing Russian roulette. Which sounds a lot more dire than I mean it to. But you just don’t know what you get out of each day. My husband and I are both spontaneous, so it might be that.

First child at 21, did you plan that?
Honestly, we didn’t but we also didn’t plan to stop it which seems ridiculous now. I didn’t even know I was pregnant until I was 2 months gone. I had missed my first month’s period but I’m used to my period being sporadic so I didn’t think twice about it.

Your reaction?
I was ecstatic o. Like I said we hadn’t exactly planned for it, but we hadn’t planned to stop it. But for as long as I could remember getting married and starting my own family was the ultimate goal. I had excelled in school, graduated with a first class in Economics so a lot of people didn’t expect me to get married so soon after school. I was supposed to start my career and become this big shot career woman you know.

By the end of final year I had been dating my husband for four years. We met in my first year, he was in his final year in Engineering. He got lucky and got a job straight out of Uni, so by the time I was done he was stable. There was just no reason to wait.

What did he think?
The only person who had worse baby fever than me was my husband. He’s still that way. I was still breastfeeding this one when he started talking about baby number 2. I just said Oga calm down. But he was the practical one. First couple of weeks, first several weeks, in fact, my head was still in clouds. I was picking out baby names and shopping for cute baby stuff. He was the one that sorted out prenatal class, bought the baby books arranged the doctor’s appointments etc.

Is he till hands-on?
Haha no, not like then. And I bet you knew that already. All of that was the really easy stuff. It didn’t feel like that at the time, but preparing for the baby is really nothing. It’s even fun sef.

I don’t work. Well, at least not a 9-5. I’m a full-time housewife and I run a very small scale food order service on the side. His job, on the other hand, is, of course, a full-time 9-5 and sometimes he’s required to be offshore for weeks at a time. So I’d say no he’s definitely not as hands-on. He loves his child very deeply and provides for her, but her primary care is left up to just me.

How did pregnancy go?
I was one of the really lucky ones. No morning sickness or significant weight gain. I had a lot of food cravings and my feet ballooned but apart from that it was as easy as a pregnancy could get. I hear your first child is your most difficult but I just popped mine right out. My labour time was I think 7 hours in total which is pretty great.

Continue: https://www.zikoko.com/her/what-she-said-i-had-a-baby-at-21-i-wish-i-waited/

Great!
I still think what's important is to settle down/get married when ready and prepared. We all have different periods of readiness. Not all who got married early on had it all good and not all who married late had it any bad. Times and seasons happens to all.
Men I believe finds it the most difficult to marry as early as when they're in their early to mind twenties. Just being ready and prepared for it is the real deal.

There is nothing here that speaks about why she regrets marrying at 20.

ANGELMARVE:
Hmmm she needs a miracle from GOD because it's going to be difficult to see a man, considering her age.

by the order of the Peaky blinders.

say what you know. A colleague is 39 and she's getting married in two weeks time. Tell her to be open and network more. Her man is waiting