we all know women age faster than men. Just yesterday my gf said sumtin that she would like to get married 2years from now that she's a gal,she's the only child of her parents,and very soon pressure will come,she said she want to know if she's wasting her time or not ,and I replied her that actually marriage is not sumtin u rush into and that I don't see my self getting married in 2yrs from now .
This are my reason 1 I'm not financially stable,2 I look it as a trap . now our relationship is already going down every seconds so I just want your opinions if I did wrong telling her the truth and I'm happy she asked me

If I were to be in her shoe,I will dump u asap due to the following reasons
1:you have concluded already that even in 2years time,you won't be financially stable.
2:you are seeing marriage as something that will tie your freedom down.
3:you don't love her enough for marriage, if you do,you won't vomit all those trash in her presence.
Once you genuinely love someone, the only thing that will occupy your mind is how to spend the rest of your life living with him/her.
There are better ways of presenting your case to her than sounding childish.

Newtonarialand:
we all know women age faster than male. Just yesterday my gf said sumtin that she would like to get married 2years from now that she's a gal,she's the only child of her parents,and very soon pressure will come,she said she want to know if she's wasting her time or not ,and I replied her that actually marriage is not sumtin u rush into and that I don't see my self getting married in 2yrs from now .
This are my reason 1 I'm not financially stable,2 I look it as a trap . now our relationship is already going down every seconds so I just want your opinions if I did wrong telling her the truth and I'm happy she asked me

NO. YOU JUST DID THE RIGHT THING AS A GENTLEMAN.NEVER ALLOW HER CAJOLE YOU INTO MARRIAGE UNTIL YOU ARE READY.

Newtonarialand:
we all know women age faster than male. Just yesterday my gf said sumtin that she would like to get married 2years from now that she's a gal,she's the only child of her parents,and very soon pressure will come,she said she want to know if she's wasting her time or not ,and I replied her that actually marriage is not sumtin u rush into and that I don't see my self getting married in 2yrs from now .
This are my reason 1 I'm not financially stable,2 I look it as a trap . now our relationship is already going down every seconds so I just want your opinions if I did wrong telling her the truth and I'm happy she asked me

Lol....

Talking to a man about marriage is equivalent to talking to a lady about sex.
Telling a man you want marriage is the same as telling a girl you want her to give you sex.
Commitment and sex are what the two genders withold sacredly and don't like to give out easily when they are not sure of what becomes of them afterwards.
To a man,marriage talk is enough to get him scared and shivering,same way asking a lady for sex will make her seem like you want to exploit her.


Cc: ubunja,sassysure

You both are not compatible because you want different things.

Period!

Well, I like honesty, good or bad. You did the right thing imo. You're not on the same page, which means, it's now up to her to decide whether she wants to continue with you or move on to someone else that wants the same things she wants. You actually did her a huge favour & if she's mad at you for telling it like it is, hopefully she's yet to see the upside of your truth.

Easybela:
If I were to be in her shoe,I will dump u asap due to the following reasons
1:you have concluded already that even in 2years time,you won't be financially stable.
2:you are seeing marriage as something that will tie your freedom down.
3:you don't love her enough for marriage, if you do,you won't vomit all those trash in her presence.
Once you genuinely love someone, the only thing that will occupy your mind is how to spend the rest of your life living with him/her.
There are better ways of presenting your case to her than sounding childish.

The young man has evaluated his present situation and decided not to get married based on his projected financial status. Do you know if he has standards that require a lot more than he can get in two years? It’s a projection. If he were a banker or civil servant (who doesn’t do runs) then his financial status won’t change drastically in two years unless he saves aggressively or gets a new high paying job this year.

OP, you told her the truth. If she cannot wait, let her go. Don’t let one girl put pressure on you cos if shit hits the fan, she will abandon you.

Easybela:
If I were to be in her shoe,I will dump u asap due to the following reasons
1:you have concluded already that even in 2years time,you won't be financially stable.
2:you are seeing marriage as something that will tie your freedom down.
3:you don't love her enough for marriage, if you do,you won't vomit all those trash in her presence.
Once you genuinely love someone, the only thing that will occupy your mind is how to spend the rest of your life living with him/her.
There are better ways of presenting your case to her than sounding childish.

listen I don't have a paying job I'm just hustling I can't promise a gal marriage when I know I'm not ready to get married now. It's not something you rush into and beside even if I have a good paying job I just won't rush into marriage I'm on my 20s this is time I work hard and invest and. Secure a better future. than just jumping into marriage with a gal whom I know if things go side way I will be the one to be blamed I need to build my ground

Newtonarialand:
we all know women age faster than men. Just yesterday my gf said sumtin that she would like to get married 2years from now that she's a gal,she's the only child of her parents,and very soon pressure will come,she said she want to know if she's wasting her time or not ,and I replied her that actually marriage is not sumtin u rush into and that I don't see my self getting married in 2yrs from now .
This are my reason 1 I'm not financially stable,2 I look it as a trap . now our relationship is already going down every seconds so I just want your opinions if I did wrong telling her the truth and I'm happy she asked me

Thank you for not wasting her time, I actually wish you had defined the relationship before you entered it.

Please, define your next relationship so it is time wasters like you that will be your gf.

Newtonarialand:
listen I don't have a paying job I'm just hustling I can't promise a gal marriage when I know I'm not ready to get married now. It's not something you rush into and beside even if I have a good paying job I just won't rush into marriage I'm on my 20s this is time I work hard and invest and. Secure a better future. than just jumping into marriage with a gal whom I know if things go side way I will be the one to be blamed I need to build my ground

YOU OWE NOBODY ANY EXPLANATION HERE.BE URSELF MR.

Romanoff:


Thank you for not wasting her time, I actually wish you had defined the relationship before you entered it.

Please, define your next relationship so it is time wasters like you that will be your gf.

HE IS A MAN FOR TELLING HER THE TRUTH.MUST EVERY RELATIONSHIP END IN MARRIAGE?DONT GUILT TRIP HIM.

Idontgiveafuck2:
NO. YOU JUST DID THE RIGHT THING AS A GENTLEMAN.NEVER ALLOW HER CAJOLE YOU INTO MARRIAGE UNTIL YOU ARE READY.

Lol guy. Men be scared of marriage like say na imprisonment lol. Better cajoling

XhosaNostra:
Well, I like honesty, good or bad. You did the right thing imo. You're not on the same page, which means, it's now up to her to decide whether she wants to continue with you or move on to someone else that wants the same things she wants. You actually did her a huge favour & if she's mad at you for telling it like it is, hopefully she's yet to see the upside of your truth.

NextD18:
You both are not compatible because you want different things.

Period!

Michellekabod2:

Lol....

Talking to a man about marriage is equivalent to talking to a lady about sex.
Telling a man you want marriage is the same as telling a girl you want her to give you sex.
Commitment and sex are what the two genders withold sacredly and don't like to give out easily when they are not sure of what becomes of them afterwards.
To a man,marriage talk is enough to get him scared and shivering,same way asking a lady for sex will make her seem like you want to exploit her.


Cc: ubunja,sassysure

Exactly!

Personally, i love your honesty. It's better to be realistic. The both of you want different things...
After, she'll come to appreciate you telling her the truth...

Michellekabod2:

Lol....

Talking to a man about marriage is equivalent to talking to a lady about sex.
Telling a man you want marriage is the same as telling a girl you want her to give you sex.
Commitment and sex are what the two genders withold sacredly and don't like to give out easily when they are not sure of what becomes of them afterwards.
To a man,marriage talk is enough to get him scared and shivering,same way asking a lady for sex will make her seem like you want to exploit her.


Cc: ubunja,sassysure

you know whats up. That's the game right there.

Michellekabod2:

Lol....

Talking to a man about marriage is equivalent to talking to a lady about sex.
Telling a man you want marriage is the same as telling a girl you want her to give you sex.
Commitment and sex are what the two genders withold sacredly and don't like to give out easily when they are not sure of what becomes of them afterwards.
To a man,marriage talk is enough to get him scared and shivering,same way asking a lady for sex will make her seem like you want to exploit her.

Cc: ubunja,sassysure

Well said

Easybela:
If I were to be in her shoe,I will dump u asap due to the following reasons
1:you have concluded already that even in 2years time,you won't be financially stable.
2:you are seeing marriage as something that will tie your freedom down.
3:you don't love her enough for marriage, if you do,you won't vomit all those trash in her presence.
Once you genuinely love someone, the only thing that will occupy your mind is how to spend the rest of your life living with him/her.
There are better ways of presenting your case to her than sounding childish.

Nothing more for me to say again.
You spoke my mind.